ʻO ke kaumaha ma hope o ka moekolohe maʻamau - Eia pehea e lawelawe ai

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• ʻO ka mea mua, ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi
• ʻO ka mea āu e ʻike nei he post-coital dysphoria paha
• He aha ke kumu?
• ʻO kāu mau hormoni
• ʻO kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka moekolohe
• ʻO kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka pilina
• Nā pilikia o ke kino
• Hoʻopilikia i hala a hoʻomāinoino paha
• Kaumaha a i ʻole ka pilikia psychological
• He aha kāu e hana ai inā kaumaha ʻoe?
• E kiʻi i kahi mea mālama ola
• He aha kāu e hana ai inā kaumaha kāu hoa?
• Ke laina lalo

ʻO ka mea mua, ʻike ʻaʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi

Manaʻo ʻia ka moekolohe e waiho iā ʻoe me ka māʻona - akā inā ʻoe i kaumaha ma hope, ʻaʻole wale ʻoe.

"Hoʻonui ka moekolohe i ka naʻau ma muli o ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana o ka dopamine a hoʻonui ka serotonin, kahi e pale ai i ke kaumaha," wahi a Lea Lis, MD, he psychiatrist i loea i ka moekolohe me kahi hana ma Southampton, New York.

Akā naʻe, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, ke kaumaha loa ma hope o ka moekolohe - ʻoiai ka consensual, ka wahine maikaʻi - kahi mea a ka poʻe he nui e manaʻo ai i kekahi manawa o ko lākou ola.

Ua loaʻa kahi noiʻi ma 2019 i ka 41 pākēneka o ka poʻe penis-loaʻa i ʻike ʻia i ko lākou ola. Ua ʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi ʻē aʻe he 46 pākēneka o nā mea nona nā mea ʻona i ʻike iā ia ma ka liʻiliʻi i hoʻokahi manawa i ko lākou ola.

ʻO ka mea āu e ʻike nei he post-coital dysphoria paha

"ʻO Postcoital dysphoria (PCD) pili i nā manaʻo mai ke kaumaha i ka hopohopo, ka hoʻonāukiuki, ka huhū - ke ʻano o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻole e manaʻo ʻia," e wehewehe ana ʻo Gail Saltz, MD, he loea pili i ka psychiatry ma ka NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill -ʻO ke Kula Kaukaʻo Cornell.

Hiki iā ia ke uē iā ʻoe.

Hiki i ka PCD ke hoʻopau ma kahi o 5 mau minuke a 2 mau hola, a hiki ke hana ʻia me ka ʻole o kahi orgasm.

ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻike ʻia aia nā hōʻailona postcoital ma hope o ka moekolohe maʻamau, a me ka hana moekolohe maʻamau a me ka masturbation.

He aha ke kumu?

"ʻO ka pane pōkole ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou ke kumu o PCD," i ʻōlelo ʻo Daniel Sher, psychologist psychologist a me ka mea hoʻoponopono wahine ma ka pūnaewele. "ʻAʻole lawa nā noiʻi paʻa paʻa i mālama ʻia."

Loaʻa i nā kānaka noiʻi kekahi mau manaʻo.

ʻO kāu mau hormoni

"Hiki ke pili i nā homoni i pili i ke aloha a me ka hoʻopili," wahi a Sher. "I ka wā o ka moekolohe, ke piʻi nei kāu hormonal, physiological, a me nā ʻano naʻau."

"Ke ʻike nei ʻoe i kahi pae hilinaʻi ʻole o ka stimulate, kino a me nā mea ʻē aʻe," hoʻomau ʻo ia. "A laila, hiki koke, kū a pau a pono i kou kino a me kou noʻonoʻo e hoʻi i ka baseline. ʻO kēia 'drop' physiological hiki ke lawe i kahi ʻano manaʻo o ka dysphoria. ”

ʻO kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka moekolohe

"ʻO kekahi kumumanaʻo ʻē aʻe e ʻike ka poʻe i ʻike i ka hewa nui e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma PC āpau i kahi hopena," wahi a Sher. "ʻOi aku paha kēia i ka poʻe i ulu aʻe i nā ʻano koʻikoʻi a i ʻole conservative, kahi i hana ʻia ai ka moekolohe e like me ka maikaʻi ʻole a lepo paha."

Pono paha ʻoe e hoʻomaha i ka moekolohe.

"ʻO ke kaumaha loa ma hope o ka moekolohe hiki ke hopena maʻalahi mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau i ke kino a me ke ʻano no ka moekolohe," wahi a ka mea hoʻoponopono wahine ʻo Robert Thomas. "ʻO ka lawehala a me ka naʻau ma hope loa o ka moekolohe paha he hōʻailona ia ʻaʻole lawa kou pilina me kāu hoa."

ʻO kou mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka pilina

"ʻO ka moekolohe kahi pilina pili loa, a hiki i ka pilina ke hoʻomaopopo iā mākou i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo puʻuwai ʻole, kahi e komo ai kekahi mau manaʻo kaumaha a huhū paha," wahi a Saltz.

Inā ʻoe i loko o kahi pilina pili ʻole, pili i nā manaʻo huhū i kāu hoa, a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻokuʻu ʻia e lākou, hiki i kēia mau manaʻo ke hōʻiliʻili i ka manawa a ma hope o ka moekolohe, e kaumaha ai ʻoe.

ʻO ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi ʻole ma hope o ka moekolohe hiki ke lilo i kumu.

"ʻO ka hauʻoli ʻole i ka ʻike moekolohe hiki ke kaumaha i ka naʻau, ke ʻole i hoʻokō ʻia kāu mau mea i manaʻo ai i ka wā o ka moekolohe," wahi a Thomas.

Inā he kū hoʻokahi pō a i ʻole hookup maʻamau, e kaumaha paha ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike maoli i kāu hoa. Malia paha ʻoe manaʻo mehameha a mihi paha ʻoe i ka hālāwai.

Nā pilikia o ke kino

He paʻakikī paha e poina e pili ana i nā pilikia o ke kino i loaʻa iā ʻoe.

Inā hilahila ʻoe a hilahila paha ʻoe e pili ana i kou ʻano, hiki ke hoʻomaka i nā ʻōuli o PCD, ke kaumaha, a me ke kaumaha.

Hoʻopilikia i hala a hoʻomāinoino paha

Inā ua ʻike ʻoe i ka hōʻeha kolohe a i ʻole ka hoʻomāinoino i ka wā ma mua, hiki iā ia ke hoʻoulu i ka nui o nā manaʻo palupalu, makaʻu, a me ka hewa.

"[ʻO ka poʻe] i ʻike i ka hana hoʻomāinoino kolohe [hiki] ke hoʻopili i nā hālāwai moekolohe ma hope - ʻo ia hoʻi nā mea ʻae a kūloko paha i loko o kahi pilina pili - me ka ʻeha o ka hana hoʻomāinoino," wahi a Lis.

Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i nā manaʻo hilahila, hewa, hoʻopaʻi, a nalowale paha, a hiki ke hoʻopili i kou manaʻo e pili ana i ka moekolohe - ʻoiai kahi manawa lōʻihi ma hope o ka trauma mua.

Hiki ke hoʻomaka ʻia kekahi ala o ka hoʻopā a i ʻole nā ​​kūlana, ke ʻike pū kekahi ʻoe iā PTSD.

Kaumaha a i ʻole ka pilikia psychological

Inā ʻoe e kaumaha nei, hopohopo, a hauʻoli ʻole paha i kou ola i kēlā lā i kēia lā, hāʻawi wale paha ka moekolohe i kahi hoʻohoka manawa. He paʻakikī e hoʻokū ʻiʻo maoli i kēlā mau manaʻo no ka lōʻihi.

Inā noho ʻoe me kahi maʻi pīhoihoi a kaumaha paha, ʻike paha ʻoe i nā ʻōuli o PCD.

He aha kāu e hana ai inā kaumaha ʻoe?

ʻO ka mea mua, e ʻike i kēlā me kēia mea āu e manaʻo ai, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e like me kāu e hoʻoliʻoli ai no kāu hoa a hūnā paha i kou ʻano maoli. He maikaʻi ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho e ʻike i ke kaumaha.

"I kekahi manawa ʻo ke kaomi o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻopau i ke kaumaha, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka manaʻo o ke kanaka no ka maikaʻi," wahi a Sher.

ʻO ka mea aʻe, e nānā me ʻoe a hōʻoia e ʻike ʻoe i ka palekana, ke kino a me ka noʻonoʻo.

Inā ʻoluʻolu ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo e kamaʻilio me kāu hoa e pili ana i kou ʻano. Inā ʻike ʻoe, e haʻi iā lākou i nā mea e hoʻopilikia nei iā ʻoe. I kekahi manawa, ke hāʻawi wale nei i ka leo i kou ʻano e hōʻoluʻolu iki ai iā ʻoe.

Inā makemake ʻoe e kaʻawale, maikaʻi nō hoʻi.

Eia kekahi mau nīnau maikaʻi e nīnau iā ʻoe iho:

• Aia kekahi mea kikoʻī a kaʻu hoa i hana ai e hoʻonāukiuki i koʻu mau manaʻo kaumaha?
• He aha kaʻu e kaumaha ai?
• Ua hoʻomanaʻo hou wau i kahi hanana hōʻino a hōʻeha paha?
• Hana pinepine paha kēia?

"Inā kū kēia i kekahi manawa, mai hopohopo e pili ana, akā e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka mea e hana nei a lawe ʻia mai nei paha me ka naʻau. Hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe, "wahi a Saltz.

E kiʻi i kahi mea mālama ola

ʻOiai ʻaʻole maʻa pinepine ke kaumaha ma hope o ka moekolohe, he mea maʻamau ʻole ke kaumaha loa ma hope o ka moekolohe maʻamau.

Ua loaʻa kahi noiʻi ma 2019 i ka 3 a i ka 4 pākēneka o ka poʻe penis-i kaumaha i ka manawa mau. I loko o kahi noi ʻē aʻe, ua hōʻike ka 5.1 pākēneka o nā poʻe i loaʻa i ka vulva i kekahi manawa i loko o nā pule he 4 i hala.

Wahi a Lis, "inā pinepine pinepine ia, ʻaʻole pono e nānā ʻia."

He ʻoiaʻiʻo loa kēia inā e hoʻopilikia ʻia kāu kaumaha ma hope o ka moekolohe ma waena o kāu pilina, e makaʻu ai a pale paha i ka pili aloha, a i ʻole inā he moʻolelo kou no ka hoʻomāinoino i hala.

Hiki i kahi mea hoʻoponopono, psychiatrist, a i ʻole kekahi ʻoihana olakino noʻonoʻo ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā mea e hana nei a e ʻimi ai i nā koho lapaʻau me ʻoe.

He aha kāu e hana ai inā kaumaha kāu hoa?

Inā ʻoe e ʻike i ke kaumaha o kāu hoa ma hope o ka moekolohe ʻana, ʻo ka mea mua loa - a ʻoi loa - ʻo ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i kā lākou mau pono.

E nīnau iā lākou inā makemake lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana. Inā lākou e hana, hoʻolohe. E hoʻāʻo e hoʻokolokolo ʻole.

E nīnau inā aia kekahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou. Makemake kekahi poʻe e mālama ʻia ke kaumaha lākou. Makemake wale kekahi poʻe i kahi kokoke.

Inā makemake ʻole lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana, e hoʻāʻo e ʻaʻole e huhū. ʻAʻole mākaukau paha lākou e wehe e pili ana i nā mea e hoʻopilikia nei iā lākou.

Inā lākou e noi no kahi ākea, hāʻawi iā lākou - a hou, e hoʻāʻo ʻaʻole e hōʻeha ʻaʻole makemake lākou iā ʻoe ma laila.

Inā lākou e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole makemake lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ia mea a noi paha i kahi ākea, maikaʻi e ukali pū me lākou ma hope o kēlā lā a i loko paha o kekahi mau lā. He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou aia ʻoe ma laila no lākou ke mākaukau.

Inā kū pinepine kēia, maikaʻi e nīnau iā lākou inā ua noʻonoʻo lākou e kamaʻilio me ka mea hoʻoponopono a i ʻole ka ʻoihana ola olakino ʻē aʻe. E akahai ke nīnau ʻoe, a hoʻāʻo e mai huhū inā hōʻole lākou i ka manaʻo. ʻAʻole makemake ʻoe e hoʻohālikelike iā lākou e like me kāu e ʻōlelo nei ua haki a hōʻoia ʻole paha i ko lākou mau manaʻo.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau mau iā lākou e pili ana i ka loaʻa hou ʻana o ke kōkua ma hope inā pili ʻoe.

ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hana ma ke ʻano he hoa kākoʻo e noho ma laila no lākou ma ke ʻano āpau a lākou e pono ai.

Ke laina lalo

ʻO ke kaumaha loa ma hope o ka moekolohe maʻamau. Akā inā ke hana mau nei ia, keakea i kou pilina, a i ʻole ke alakaʻi ʻana iā ʻoe e hōʻalo i ka moekolohe a me ka pilina, e noʻonoʻo e kiʻi i kahi mea hoʻoponopono.

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