Pehea ka hopena o ka ADHD i kaʻu Keiki a me kaʻu kaikamahine

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• No ke aha e ʻike pinepine ʻia ai ke keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine?
• ʻO nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kaʻu mau keikikāne a me nā ʻōuli a kaʻu kaikamahine
• Fidgeting and squirming
• Ke kamaʻilio nui ʻana
• Ke hana nei me he mea lā e hoʻokele ʻia e ka motika
• Kū like kekahi mau ʻōuli, me ka nānā ʻole i ka wahine
• Nā ʻōpio a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio: ʻokoʻa nā kūpilikiʻi i ka wahine
• No laila, ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa ka ADHD no nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine?

ʻO wau ka makuahine o kahi keikikāne a me kāna kaikamahine kupaianaha - nā mea ʻelua i ʻike ʻia me ka ADHD i hui pū ʻia.

ʻOiai kekahi o nā keiki me ADHD e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ma ke ʻano he nānā mua ʻole, a ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe me he hyperactive-impulsive, ʻo kaʻu mau keiki lāua ʻelua.

ʻO koʻu kūlana kūʻokoʻa i hāʻawi iaʻu i ka manawa e ʻike pono ai i ke ana ʻana o ADHD a hōʻike ʻia i nā kaikamahine me nā keikikāne.

I ka honua o ADHD, ʻaʻole like nā mea āpau. ʻEkolu manawa ke loaʻa ʻana o kahi hōʻailona i nā keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine. A ʻaʻole pono kēia disparity no ka mea liʻiliʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o nā maʻi i nā kaikamahine. Ma kahi o, no ka mea he ʻokoʻa ka makana a ADHD i nā kaikamahine. Mālama pinepine ʻia nā ʻōuli a, no ka hopena, paʻakikī e ʻike.

No ke aha e ʻike pinepine ʻia ai ke keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine?

ʻImi ʻia a ʻike ʻia paha nā kaikamahine i ka makahiki ma hope aku no ka mea me ka ʻano nānā ʻole.

ʻIke pinepine ʻole ʻia ka noʻonoʻo ʻole e nā mākua a hiki i ka hele ʻana o nā keiki i ke kula a pilikia hoʻi i ke aʻo ʻana, wahi a Theodore Beauchaine, PhD, he polofesa no ka noʻonoʻo i ke Kulanui ʻo Ohio State.

Ke hoʻomaopopo ʻia ia, no ka mea ke moeʻuhane nei ke keiki a ʻaʻole hoʻi i hoʻoulu ʻia e hana i kāna hana. Manaʻo pinepine nā mākua a me nā kumu i ka palaualelo o kēia mau keiki, a he mau makahiki paha ka lōʻihi - inā paha - ma mua o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana e ʻimi i kahi hōʻailona.

A ma muli o ka nānā pinepine ʻole o nā kaikamahine ma mua o ka hyperactive, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kā lākou hana. ʻO kēia ka mea e noi aku ai nā kumu a me nā mākua i ka hoʻāʻo ADHD.

kuhikuhi pinepine nā kumu i nā keikikāne ma mua o nā kaikamahine no ka hoʻāʻo ʻana - ʻoiai ke ʻano like o ka pae o ka hōʻino. ʻO kēia ke kumu i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻia ma lalo o ka ʻike a me ka ʻole o ka mālama ʻana i nā kaikamahine.

ʻO kahi mea ʻokoʻa, ua ʻike ʻia ka ADHD o kaʻu kaikamahine ma mua o kaʻu keikikāne. ʻOiai ʻaʻole kēia ka maʻa maʻamau, he mea kūpono ia no ka mea ua hui like ʻia: ʻelua hyperactive-impulsive a akahele

E noʻonoʻo e like me kēia: "Inā like ka hyperactive a me ka impulsive o nā keiki 5 mau makahiki, e kū ke kaikamahine ma mua o [ke keikikāne," wahi a Kauka Beauchaine. I kēia hihia, e ʻike koke ʻia ke kaikamahine, ʻoiai e kākau ʻia ka hana a ke keikikāne ma lalo o kahi hopu-e like me "nā keikikāne."

ʻAʻole pinepine kēia kūlana i nā manawa pinepine, akā naʻe, no ka mea ua ʻike ʻia nā kaikamahine me ka ʻano hyperactive-impulsive o ADHD ma mua o ka ʻano inattitive, wahi a Dr. Beauchaine. "No ka ʻano hyper-impulsive, aia he ʻeono a ʻehiku paha keikikāne e ʻike ʻia no kēlā me kēia kaikamahine. No ka ʻano inattitive, ka lākiō kekahi i kekahi. ”

ʻO nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kaʻu mau keikikāne a me nā ʻōuli a kaʻu kaikamahine

ʻOiai loaʻa i kaʻu keikikāne a me kaʻu kaikamahine ka ʻike like, ua ʻike wau i ka ʻokoʻa o kekahi o kā lākou ʻano. Hoʻopili kēia i ke ʻano o ka fidget, pehea e kamaʻilio ai, a me kā lākou pae o ka hyperactivity.

Fidgeting and squirming

Ke nānā aku nei wau i kaʻu mau keiki e kūlia ana i ko lākou mau noho, ʻike wau ua hoʻololi mālie kaʻu kaikamahine i kona kūlana. Ma ka papa ʻaina, ua haehae ʻia kāna kāhei i nā ʻāpana liʻiliʻi a ʻaneʻane i kēlā me kēia ahiahi, a pono iā ia e loaʻa i kahi ʻano fidget i loko o kona mau lima ma ke kula.

Koʻu keiki naʻe, ua ʻōlelo pinepine ʻia ʻaʻole e pahu i ka papa. No laila e kū ʻo ia, akā a laila e hoʻomaka ʻo ia i ka paʻi ʻana i kona mau lima a me kona mau wāwae. ʻO kāna fidgeting me he mea lā e nui aʻe ka walaʻau.

I loko o ka pule mua a kaʻu kaikamahine o ke kula ʻo 3 ia, ala ʻo ia mai ka manawa pōʻai mai, wehe i ka puka o ka lumi papa, a haʻalele. Ua maopopo iā ia ka haʻawina a ua manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻohe pono e noho a hoʻolohe i ke kumu e wehewehe ana i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa a hiki i ke koena o ka papa.

Me kaʻu keikikāne, ka huaʻōlelo maʻamau i waho o kuʻu waha i ka wā o ka ʻaina awakea ʻo "tushie i ka noho."

I kekahi manawa, kū ʻo ia ma ka ʻaoʻao o kona noho, akā lele pinepine ʻo ia ma luna o nā lako hale. Hoʻomaʻaka mākou e pili ana, akā e kiʻi iā ia e noho i lalo a ʻai - ʻoiai ʻo ka hau kalima - he mea paʻakikī ia.

"Ua uku ke kaikamahine i kahi kumukūʻai kiʻekiʻe loa no ke kāhea ʻana ma mua o nā keikikāne." - ʻO Kauka Theodore Beauchaine

Ke kamaʻilio nui ʻana

Kamaʻilio malū kaʻu kaikamahine i kāna mau hoa i ka papa. ʻAʻole mālie kuʻu keiki. Inā kū kekahi mea i loko o kona poʻo, maopopo iā ia ua nui kona leo i hiki i ka papa holoʻokoʻa ke lohe. ʻO kēia, manaʻo wau, he mea maʻamau.

He mau laʻana kekahi kaʻu mai koʻu wā liʻiliʻi. ʻO wau pū kekahi ADHD ʻano hui a hoʻomanaʻo i ka loaʻa ʻana iā C i ka hana ʻoiai ʻaʻole wau i ʻuā nui me he mea lā o nā keikikāne o kaʻu papa. E like me kaʻu kaikamahine, ua kamaʻilio malū wau i koʻu mau hoanoho.

ʻO ke kumu o kēia e pili ana i nā moʻomeheu i manaʻo ʻia o nā kaikamahine me nā keikikāne. "Uku nā kaikamahine i kahi kumukūʻai kiʻekiʻe loa no ke kāhea ʻana ma mua o nā keikikāne," wahi a Kauka Beauchaine.

ʻOi aku ka "subtler" o kaʻu kaikamahine. Hana mālie ʻia ka fidgeting a me ka neʻe ʻana, akā ʻike ʻia e ka maka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.

Ke hana nei me he mea lā e hoʻokele ʻia e ka motika

ʻO kēia kahi o kaʻu mau hōʻailona punahele no ka mea wehewehe ia i kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua me ka maikaʻi, akā ʻike wau ia mea i kaʻu keiki kāne.

I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻike ka poʻe āpau i kaʻu keiki.

ʻAʻole hiki iā ia ke noho mālie. Ke hoʻāʻo ʻo ia, maopopo leʻa ʻole ʻo ia. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i kēia keiki he pilikia. Ke neʻe mau nei a haʻi paha ʻo ia i nā moʻolelo lōʻihi loa.

ʻOi aku ka "subtler" o kaʻu kaikamahine. Hana mālie ʻia ka fidgeting a me ka neʻe ʻana, akā ʻike ʻia e ka maka hoʻomaʻamaʻa.

ʻOiai ua neurologist kaʻu mau keiki i ʻōlelo e pili ana i ka ʻokoʻa.

"I ko lākou ulu ʻana, nui ka makaʻala o nā kaikamahine no ka hōʻeha ponoʻī a me ka hana suicidal, ʻoiai e makaʻu nā keikikāne no ka hewa a me ka hōʻino ʻana i ka lāʻau." - ʻO Kauka Theodore Beauchaine

Kū like kekahi mau ʻōuli, me ka nānā ʻole i ka wahine

Ma kekahi ʻano, ʻaʻole ʻokoʻa loa kaʻu keiki kāne a me kaʻu kaikamahine. Aia kekahi mau hōʻailona e hōʻike ʻia i loko o lāua ʻelua.

ʻAʻole hiki i ke keiki ke pāʻani mālie, a hīmeni a hana ʻelua paha i kahi kamaʻilio kūwaho ke hoʻāʻo nei e pāʻani hoʻokahi.

E hōʻino lāua ʻelua i nā pane ma mua o ka pau ʻana o kaʻu noi ʻana i kahi nīnau, me he mea lā ua hoʻomanawanui ʻole lākou iaʻu e ʻōlelo i nā huaʻōlelo hope loa. Ke kali nei i ko lākou manawa pono i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo e hoʻomanawanui lākou.

Pilikia hoʻi kaʻu mau keiki ʻelua i ke kākoʻo ʻana i ka hana i nā hana a pāʻani hoʻi, ʻaʻole pinepine e hoʻolohe ke kamaʻilio ʻia lākou, hana hewa i kā lākou hana kula, paʻakikī i ka hana ʻana, loaʻa nā mākau hana maikaʻi ʻole, e hōʻalo i nā mea a lākou e makemake ʻole ai. hana ana, a maʻalahi hoʻi e hoʻohoka ʻia.

Hoʻohālikelike kēia mau mea like iaʻu inā he ʻokoʻa nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o nā ʻōuli a kaʻu mau keiki ma muli o ka ʻokoʻa kaiaulu.

I koʻu nīnau ʻana iā Dr.ʻO Beauchaine e pili ana i kēia, ua wehewehe ʻo ia i ka wā e nui ai kaʻu mau keiki, ke manaʻo nei ʻo ia e hoʻomaka nā ʻōuli a kaʻu kaikamahine e ʻokoʻa loa mai nā mea i ʻike pinepine ʻia i nā keikikāne.

Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole maopopo ka poʻe loea inā no ka ʻokoʻa kēia o ka ʻokoʻa kāne ma ADHD, a i ʻole no ka ʻokoʻa o ka lawena e manaʻo ʻia e nā kaikamahine a me nā keiki kāne.

Nā ʻōpio a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio: ʻokoʻa nā kūpilikiʻi i ka wahine

ʻOiai ua ʻike maka ʻia nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kaʻu mau keikikāne a me kaʻu kaikamahine, ua aʻo wau i ko lākou ulu ʻana, e lilo nā hopena o kā lākou ADHD i mau ʻano like ʻole.

Aia nō kaʻu mau keiki ma ke kula haʻahaʻa. Akā ma ke kula waena - inā haʻalele ʻole ʻia kā lākou ADHD - hiki i nā hopena ke ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa no kēlā me kēia o lākou.

"I ko lākou ulu ʻana, nui ka makaʻu o nā kaikamahine no ka hōʻeha ponoʻī a me ka hana suicidal, ʻoiai ke makaʻu nei nā keikikāne no ka hewa a me ka hōʻino ʻana i ka lāʻau," i kākau ʻia e Kauka Beauchaine.

"E hele nā ​​keikikāne i ka hakakā a hoʻomaka e kau pū me nā keikikāne ʻē aʻe i loaʻa iā ADHD. E hana lākou i nā mea e hōʻike ai no nā keiki kāne ʻē aʻe. Akā ʻaʻole maikaʻi kēlā mau hana no nā kaikamahine. "

ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi hiki ke kōkua ʻia ka hui ʻana o ka mālama a me ka nānā maikaʻi ʻana a nā mākua. Ma waho aʻe o ka lāʻau lapaʻau, pili pū ka mālama me ke aʻo ʻana iā ʻoe iho i ka kaohi iho a me nā mākau hoʻolālā lōʻihi.

Ke aʻo ʻana i ka hoʻoponopono naʻau ma o nā hoʻoponopono kūikawā e like me ka ʻike behavioral conductive therapy (CBT) a i ʻole dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) hiki ke lilo i mea kōkua.

ʻO ka hui pū ʻana, hiki i kēia mau hana a me nā mālama ke kōkua i nā keiki, ʻōpio, a me nā ʻōpio makua e aʻo e mālama a kāohi i kā lākou ADHD.

No laila, ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa ka ADHD no nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine?

Ke hana nei au e pale aku i ka wā e makemake ʻole ʻia i kēlā me kēia o kaʻu mau keiki, hoʻi wau i kaʻu nīnau kumu: He ʻokoʻa ʻo ADHD no nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine?

Mai kahi manaʻo diagnostical, ʻaʻole ka pane. Ke nānā aku kahi ʻoihana i kahi keiki no ka ʻike maʻi, aia wale nō kahi o nā pae hoʻohālikelike e pono ai ke keiki e hālāwai - me ka nānā ʻole i ka wahine.

I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole lawa ka noiʻi ʻana i nā kaikamahine e ʻike inā ʻike ʻokoʻa nā ʻōuli i nā keikikāne me nā kaikamahine, a inā aia wale nō nā ʻokoʻa ma waena o kēlā me kēia keiki.

Ma muli o ka liʻiliʻi loa o nā kaikamahine ma mua o nā keikikāne i ʻike ʻia me ADHD, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi laʻana lawa kūpono e hoʻopaʻa i nā ʻokoʻa kāne.

Akā ʻo Beauchaine a me kāna mau hoa hana e hana nui nei e hoʻololi i kēlā. "Ua ʻike nui mākou e pili ana i nā keikikāne," haʻi ʻo ia iaʻu. "ʻO ka manawa kēia e aʻo ai i nā kaikamahine."

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