I ka manawa hea ka lōʻihi o ke kaʻawale ʻana o kahi keikikāne me nā kaikamahine?

E hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hana i kahi kūikawā no nā keiki, a hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi kuleana pilikino.

Aia kahi hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻole e pili ana i ka ʻae a me ka ʻole o nā kaikaina o ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe e ʻae i kahi lumi moe a, inā pēlā, pehea ka lōʻihi. Nui nā manaʻo e pili ana i kēia kumuhana e like me ka hāʻawi ʻana o kekahi poʻe iā lākou, no laila ua hoʻoholo mākou e noi i kahi loea e kōkua e hoʻomaʻemaʻe i ka huikau.

Ua ninaninau mākou iā Emily Kircher-Morris, MA, MEd, PLPC, a me kahi kākāʻōlelo loea i hoʻolako ʻia ma St. Louis e loea ana i ka hana pū ʻana me nā keiki makana a kiʻekiʻe hoʻi e ʻike, i ka mea o kona manaʻo no ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa. makemake mākou iā ia e hoʻomālamalama i kahi hanana maʻamau no nā home he nui.

Q: I ka makahiki hea ʻoe e ʻōlelo ai i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā lumi lumi o nā keikikāne a me nā kaikamahine?

A: ʻAʻohe kikoʻī makahiki i koi ʻia e hoʻokaʻawale i nā keʻena ʻokoʻa a nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Pono nā mākua e nānā ma kahi o kā lākou keiki, hoʻomōhala, a hoʻoholo i laila.

ʻO ka manawa pinepine, ke hele nā ​​keiki i ke kula, hoʻomaka lākou e hoʻomaopopo i ka pono no ke akahai a manaʻo ʻoluʻolu ʻole i ka loli ʻana i mua o kahi kaikaina kāne kāne ʻē. Eia nō naʻe, hiki i nā hale ke hana i kēia, a hiki i nā keiki ke loli i nā wahi ʻē aʻe a i nā manawa kaʻawale.

Eia nō naʻe, i ka manawa e oʻo ai nā keiki i ka wā ʻōpio, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o lākou e ʻoluʻolu e kaʻana like a me ka lumi, a e mahalo ʻia ka pono o ka pilikino a me kahi e like me ka hiki.

Q: He aha nā mea pono e nānā ai nā mākua i ka hoʻoholo ʻana inā e hoʻokaʻawale lākou i nā keiki?

A: Inā aia kekahi hopohopo e hana nei kahi keiki i kahi ʻano kolohe nui, he mea nui e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā keiki. Inā hana hoʻomāinoino ʻia kekahi o nā keiki ʻelua paha, pilikia paha lākou i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā palena maopopo e pili ana i ka pilikino.

Inā hōʻike ke keiki i kahi hopohopo e pili ana i ka pilikino, e pōmaikaʻi nā ʻohana mai ka lawe ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo hopohopo a hana pū e ʻike i kahi hopena kūpono.

Q: He aha nā hopena inā ʻaʻole hoʻokaʻawale ʻokoʻa nā keiki?

A: ʻIke paha kekahi mau ʻohana i nā keu pono he nui mai ka kaʻana ʻana o nā keiki i kahi lumi lumi o ko lākou wā ʻōpio. He paʻa paʻa paha kā nā keiki me kekahi a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi e kaʻana like i kā lākou mea. E hōʻoluʻolu paha nā kaikaina i ka hiamoe ʻana i ka lumi like me ke kaikaina a kaikuahine paha.

I ke komo ʻana o nā keiki i ka wā ʻōpio, kahi manawa kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke ʻoluʻolu me ko lākou mau kino he mea nui. ʻO nā hopohopo kiʻi o ke kino ka hopena o ke keiki i hōʻoluʻolu ʻole a kānalua ʻole paha i kona kino, [a] ke kaʻanalike ʻana i kahi lumi e hoʻonui ai i ka manaʻo hopohopo i loko o kahi keiki.

Q: Pehea e hiki ai i nā mākua ke hana i kēia kūlana inā ʻaʻole lawa ka lumi e hoʻokaʻawale ai iā lākou? (He aha kekahi mau koho ʻē aʻe?)

A: Nā ʻohana nāna e kaʻana like i nā lumi ma ke kūpono hiki ke loaʻa nā hopena no nā pilikia. Hiki ke hāʻawi ʻia i nā keiki i kā lākou wahi kikoʻī e mālama ai i nā lole a me nā mea pāʻani i loko o ka lumi moe. Ke hāʻawi nei i kahi ʻokoʻa e hoʻololi i nā lole, e like me ka lua, a i ʻole kahi manawa no ka lumi moe, hiki ke kōkua i nā keiki e aʻo i nā palena kūpono no ka pilikino ma waena o nā kāne.

Q: Pehea e wehewehe ai nā mākua i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā keiki makemake ʻole e maʻa i ka lumi like?

A: Ma ke koʻikoʻi ʻana i nā pono o ka loaʻa ʻana o kā lākou wahi iho, hiki i nā mākua ke paipai i nā keiki makemake ʻole e ʻae i ka loli o ka hoʻonohonoho moe. Ma ka lawe manawa ʻana e hana i kahi kūikawā no nā keiki, hiki i nā mākua ke kōkua i nā keiki e pīhoihoi e pili ana i ka loli a hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi kuleana ma luna o ka wahi hou.

Q: He aha inā ʻo ke keikikāne a me ke kaikamahine he kaikaina? Hoʻololi kēlā i nā mea (no nā kaikaina ʻelua i kokoke i ka makahiki a me nā mea kaʻawale loa i ka makahiki?)

A: He hopohopo kēia e pili ana i nā makahiki i lilo ai nā keiki i mau kaikaina. Inā lākou i hui pū ʻia i ka wā ʻōpio ... e like loa ke kūlana me nā kaikaina hānau. E pōmaikaʻi nā keiki makua mai ka loaʻa ʻana o kā lākou wahi iho.

Q: Pehea inā ʻike nā kaikaina i kekahi i kekahi mau manawa i kēlā me kēia makahiki? Hoʻololi paha kēia i nā mea?

A: Eia hou, pili kēia i ka makahiki o nā kaikaina a me ka wā i lilo ai lākou i mau kaikaina. Ke hiki a kahi keiki i kahi kiko e maopopo ai iā ia ka pono no ka akahai a me ka pilikino, he paʻakikī paha ke manaʻo iā lākou e kaʻana i kahi. Eia nō naʻe, inā he mau manawa wale nō ia i ka makahiki no nā wā pōkole, e hopena paha ia i nā keiki ma mua o ke kaʻana lōʻihi o ka manawa. Inā kaʻawale ke keiki i ka makahiki, kokoke paha i ka wā ʻōpio, a i ʻole e hōʻike ana kekahi i ka pono o ka pilikino ma mua o ka mea ʻokoʻa.