He aha kahi Bully Real-Life e haʻi aku ai i kāna mau keiki

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• No ke aha he mea hana kolohe
• Pehea wau e kamaʻilio ai i kaʻu mau keiki e pili ana i ka hoʻomāinoino

ʻAʻole wau haʻaheo i ka mea aʻu i hana ai, akā ke hoʻāʻo nei wau e aʻo mai kaʻu mau hewa e hoʻomaikaʻi i nā mea no kaʻu mau keiki.

E hōʻike ana wau i kahi iwi iwi nui i loko o koʻu lumi lole: ʻaʻole wau i hele ma waena o kahi pae kūpiki kūpilikiʻi i koʻu wā kamaliʻi - hele pū wau i kahi papa hana kolohe. ʻO kaʻu mana o ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa i pupuhi i ka wā ma mua o nā "keiki keiki" a maikaʻi i loko o ka lilo ʻana o # #! Lua i nā ʻuhane ʻilihuna, manaʻo ʻole ʻole no ke kumu maikaʻi ʻole.

ʻO ka poʻe aʻu i wae ai ʻo ka poʻe maikaʻi ʻole kokoke iaʻu - ʻohana a hoa aloha paha. Aia nō lākou i koʻu ola i kēia lā, inā ma ke kuleana a i ʻole kekahi hana mana liʻiliʻi. I kekahi manawa nānā lākou i hope iā ia a ʻakaʻaka me ka hoʻomaloka, no ka mea ua lilo wau i hope (a hiki i kēia lā) he poʻe ʻoluʻolu a me ka mōʻī wahine hakakā ʻole.

Akā ʻaʻole wau ʻakaʻaka '. ʻIng wau. Mālama paʻa mau wau, i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.

Ke manaʻo nei wau e pili ana i ka manawa i kāhea aku ai wau i kahi hoa aloha wā ʻōpio i mua o kahi hui no ke komo ʻana i ka lole like i kēlā me kēia lā. Hoʻomaopopo wau i ke kuhikuhi ʻana i kahi hānau hānau o kekahi e hoʻomaopopo iā ia iho e pili ana iā ia. Hoʻomaopopo wau i ka haʻi ʻana i nā moʻolelo weliweli i nā hoanoho ʻōpio e hoʻoweliweli iā lākou i ka hiamoe ʻole.

ʻO ka mea ʻoi loa ka maikaʻi ke hoʻolaha wau i nā lono e pili ana i kahi hoaaloha e lawe ana i kāna manawa i kēlā me kēia ma ke kula. ʻO wau wale nō ka mea i ʻike e kū ana, a ʻaʻole pono e hele i kahi ʻē aʻe ma mua o kēlā.

ʻO ka mea i lilo ai iaʻu i kekeke ʻoi aku wau i ka ʻaihue e pili ana i kaʻu hana nime manawa ʻole, no laila ʻaʻole wau i hopu iki. Ke loaʻa ka makani o koʻu makuahine i kēia mau moʻolelo, ua like ia me ka mortified e like me aʻu i kēia manawa no ka mea ʻaʻole ia i ʻike e holo ana. Ma koʻuʻano makuahine, hoʻomaka wau i kēlā ʻāpana.

No ke aha wau e hana ai? No ke aha wau e kū ai? A pehea wau e mālama ai i kaʻu mau keiki ponoʻī mai ka hana hoʻomāinoino - a i ʻole ke kolohe ʻia - ke ulu lākou? ʻO kēia nā nīnau aʻu e noʻonoʻo pinepine ai, a eia wau e pane iā lākou mai kahi kuanaʻike o ka bully reformed.

No ke aha he mea hana kolohe

No ke aha? Ka palekana ʻole, no hoʻokahi. Ke kāhea nei i kahi hoaaloha no ka ʻaahu ʻana i ka mea like i kēlā me kēia lā ma hope o ka lā… maikaʻi, e ka hoa. ʻO kēia e hele mai nei mai ke kaikamahine i ʻaʻa i kāna huluhulu ʻElika ʻAmelika a hiki i ke kuʻu ʻana o nā kuʻe lima a hele i waena o kahi wā kaumaha ʻole no ka mālama ʻana i nā "curls" i nā ʻāpana crispy maoli o nā lauoho gel-trapped e noi wale ana no ka holoi. ʻAʻole wau he makana.

Akā ma ʻō aku o ka maluhia ʻole, hoʻokahi ʻāpana ia e hoʻāʻo ana i nā wai kūpikipikiʻu o ka wai a me kahi ʻāpana e manaʻo nei ʻo kēia ka hana a nā kaikamahine o koʻu mau makahiki kekahi i kekahi. I kēlā, ua kūpono wau no ka mea aia kekahi poʻe ma laila e hana nei i kahi ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

Ua lilo kahi kaikamahine i alakaʻi o kā mākou hui hoaaloha no ka mea makaʻu nā poʻe ʻē iā ia. Makaʻu = mana. ʻAʻole anei pehea ka hana o kēia mea holoʻokoʻa? A ʻaʻole paha i kākau nā kaikamahine ʻo nā kaiāulu makua "LOSER" i ka ʻāpā ala hele e pili ana iaʻu ma waho o koʻu hale? ʻAʻole wau e lawe kēlā loa. Akā eia mākou, a 25 mau makahiki ma hope, e kala mai nō wau no nā mea wahaheʻe aʻu i hana ai.

Lawe kēlā iaʻu i ka wā a no ke aha wau i kū ai: kahi hui o ke ʻano makua a me ka ʻike. Me ke kahaha ʻole i kekahi, ua kaumaha wau i ka wā i pale aku ai nā kaikamahine nui aʻu i manaʻo ai he mau hoaaloha naʻu. A kū ka poʻe i ka makemake e launa pū me ko mākou alakaʻi hoa aloha wiwo ʻole i luna o ka manawa - me aʻu pū kekahi.

Ua ʻike au naʻu iho ʻaʻole, ʻaʻole ia pehea "pehea wale e mālama ai nā kaikamahine o koʻu mau makahiki i kekahi." ʻAʻole inā lākou i manaʻo e mālama iā lākou i mau hoaaloha, eia nō naʻe. ʻO ka preteen kahi ʻano paʻakikī ... pono mākou i nā kua o kēlā me kēia kaikamahine.

Haʻalele kēlā iā mākou i ka nīnau hope loa: Pehea wau e mālama ai i kaʻu mau keiki ponoʻī mai ka hana hoʻomāinoino - a i ʻole ke kolohe ʻia - ke ulu lākou?

Pehea wau e kamaʻilio ai i kaʻu mau keiki e pili ana i ka hoʻomāinoino

A, ʻĀnō ua paʻakikī kēia ʻāpana. Hoʻāʻo wau e alakaʻi me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. ʻAʻole i laila kaʻu muli loa, akā ua ʻelemakule kaʻu ʻōpio e hoʻomaopopo. ʻOi aku ma mua o kēlā, ua loaʻa iā ia kahi papa kuhikuhi, mahalo i kahi hanana ganging i ka hoʻomoana kauwela. He mea ʻole ka wā a ke kumu paha ia e hana ai, hana ʻia ia, a naʻu ia hana e hoʻomākaukau iā ia no ia mea. ʻO ia ke kumu e mālama ai mākou i kahi kūkā kamaʻilio hāmama.

ʻLelo wau iā ia ʻaʻole maikaʻi wau i nā manawa a pau ( * batukā uha * hoʻohaʻahaʻa o ka makahiki) a e hālāwai ʻo ia me nā keiki e hōʻeha i kekahi poʻe i kekahi manawa e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou iho. ʻ telllelo aku wau iā lākou he maʻalahi ke kūʻai ʻana i loko o kekahi mau ʻano inā manaʻo ʻoe he mea hoʻoalili ia iā ʻoe a i ʻole hana i kekahi mau lehulehu e like me ʻoe.

Akā ʻo nā mea āpau a mākou e mālama ai i kekahi i kekahi, a ʻo ʻoe mau kāu mau hana ponoʻī. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i ke kani no kāu makemake a hana ʻole. No ka mea āu e makemake ai a ʻaʻole e ʻae.

ʻAʻole pono wau e haʻi aku iā ʻoe ke ola nei ka manaʻo anti-bullying - a kūpono nō ia. Aia kekahi mau hanana koʻikoʻi loa i ka nūhou o ka poʻe e hōʻoiaʻiʻo nei i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe he waiwai ʻole lākou a ʻaʻole pono e ola. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo i ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana a i ka noho ʻana paha me kēlā mea weliweli, mai ka ʻaoʻao o kekahi.

A e maoli kākou. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokuʻu iā ia i kēlā pae e kiʻi iā mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana a e ʻākoakoa kūʻē iā ia. No ka mea ʻaʻole kū wale ka hoʻomāinoino ma ke kahua pāʻani a i nā keʻena o kekahi kula kiʻekiʻe ma kahi. Hana ʻia ma kahi hana. Ma waena o nā hui hoaaloha. I nā ʻohana. Pūnaewele. Ma nā wahi āpau. A me ka nānā ʻole i ka hui hoaaloha, ka makahiki, ka wahine, ka lāhui, ka haipule, a i ʻole ʻokoʻa i nā loli ʻē aʻe, aia pū mākou i kēia mea.

He poʻe mākou a he mau mākua e hana nei i ka mea maikaʻi loa, a ʻaʻole makemake mākou i kā mākou keiki i kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao o kahi hanana kolohe. ʻO ka nui o ka ʻike a mākou e lawe mai ai - a ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi hoʻi a mākou e ʻae like e lawe - ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā mākou.

He mea kākau kākau ʻo Kate Brierley, freelancer, a makuahine makuahine keiki na Henry a me Ollie. ʻO ka mea lanakila ma ka Rhode Island Press Association Editorial Award, ua loaʻa iā ia kahi kekelē laepua i ka journalism a me kahi haku ma ka waihona puke a me nā ʻike ʻike mai ke Kulanui o Rhode Island. Makemake ʻo ia i nā holoholona hoʻopakele, nā lā kahakai ʻohana, a me nā memo kākau lima.