Kahi Alakaʻi a kahi mea hoʻohana: E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka Reaction Sensitivity

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• Hoole aha ??
• ʻAʻole pono pēlā i kēia manawa!

Wā Quiz! E ʻōlelo mākou ua mālama pono ʻoe i ka chutzpah e hoʻopau ai i kēlā DM nāwaliwali naʻau āu e hoʻokau nei.

ʻIke koke ka mea loaʻa. ʻIke ʻoe i ka piʻi ʻana o ke ao ellipse cloud i ka wā e kikokiko ai lākou i kahi pane. Akā hiki koke…

Kū a hele a anu.

ʻAʻole i loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pane i nā hola. Paha 'oe:

• A. Ke kali hoʻomanawanui nei i kā lākou pane noʻonoʻo.
• B. Hit iā lākou me kahi GIF ukali nani ma hope o kahi lā a i ʻole he aha (hana paha lākou i kēlā mea kahi a lākou i pane wale ai i ka DM i ko lākou poʻo a poina i ka pane maoli ʻana).
• C. ʻIke lākou inaina lākou iā ʻoe, inaina mau iā ʻoe - e inaina iā ʻoe a hiki i ka make wela o ke ao holoʻokoʻa - a hoʻomaka i ke kaʻina hana ʻeha o ka hoʻolālā ʻana i kahi DM pālua. Pau kēia pili, e Sara !?

Eia naʻe, inā ua pane ʻoe iā "A" a i ʻole "B," me he mea lā ua hoʻoponopono maikaʻi ʻoe a hiki ke hoʻomau i ka heluhelu ʻana inā makemake ʻoe, akā ʻike wale wau lili a huhū wau.

Inā naʻe, like kou lolo me ka pīhoihoi-addled e like me kaʻu a ʻo ʻoe ka mea pāʻani ʻo "C" ma o a ma o, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kahi hōʻailona ADHD liʻiliʻi i ʻike ʻia ʻo rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD).

Hoole aha ??

ʻO nā clown āpau āpau, ke ʻike nei i kēia mea weliweli i kekahi manawa. A ʻo ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana iā ia ʻaʻole hiki ke nānā ʻia hiki ke loaʻa nā hopena weliweli i ke ola o kekahi.

Wahi a a, hiki ke hōʻuluʻulu ʻia ʻo RSD ma ke ʻano he "ke ʻano o ka manaʻo hopohopo, ʻike koke, a pane ikaika i ka hōʻole ʻana."

Iaʻu, ua like ia me ka superpower huliau: ʻAʻohe molehill ma muli o ka ego ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokalakupua i kuahiwi. A laila inaina mai ka mauna iaʻu a ke ʻoluʻolu wale nei iaʻu no ka mea minamina iaʻu!

Hōʻike ia i loko oʻu i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i ka poʻe hoʻāʻo paʻakikī ke makaʻu ʻole wau, a i ʻole he lāpaki pīhoihoi e mākaukau e hoʻopaʻa i nā mea e makaʻu iaʻu ke hoʻoweliweli ʻia koʻu mau palena. ʻO kēia nā ʻōuli a Kauka William Dodson e uhi ai me ke kikoʻī i loko o kahi ʻatikala no ka makasina ADDitude.

Ma kēlā a me kēia ala, ʻaʻole maikaʻi iaʻu a me ka poʻe e launa pū me aʻu.

ʻO ka psychologist psychical Andrea Bonior, i kahi ʻāpana 2019, e wehewehe i kēia ʻaʻole ia i manaʻo ʻia he maʻi nona (a ʻaʻole i helu ʻia i loko o ka Diagnostic and Statistics Manual of Disorder, ka DSM-5) akā he " constellation o nā ʻōuli e pili pinepine ʻia me nā kūlana ʻē aʻe ”e like me ADHD, neuroticism, a me ka manaʻo haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa.

ʻIke paha ʻoe me kekahi o nā ʻano e pili pū ana me RSD?

• lawe ka manaʻo o ka hōʻole i ka 'puke manaʻo'
• hilinaʻi kou manaʻo holoʻokoʻa iā ʻoe iho i ka mea a ka poʻe ʻē aʻe e manaʻo ai iā ʻoe
• hoʻonoho ʻoe i mau hae nou iho, uhhh, pali
• Ke hoʻomākaukau mau nei ʻoe no ka hopena i nā hanana i hiki ke hōʻole ʻia ʻoe - a i ʻole heʻe ʻana iā lākou
• ʻo ka hoʻāʻo ʻana a me ka hiki ʻole ke komo i nā wahi āpau kahi pilikia mau, hōʻoluʻolu kino
• hōʻino ʻoe i waho ke ʻike ʻoe i ka hōʻole a mahalo ʻole paha

"Auē," e ʻōlelo ana paha ʻoe, "ʻo ka hōʻole ʻana kekahi mea aʻu e hele ai, iaʻu iho, mai hauʻoli i ka ʻike ʻana. Loaʻa iaʻu kēia? " Maliʻa paha - ʻaʻole paha!

Hana ka poʻe loea e like me Bonior i ka hoʻokaʻawale ma waena o RSD a me nā ʻano hopohopo ʻē aʻe, e like me ka maʻi pīhoihoi kaiaulu (SAD), me i ka manawa a na wai hoʻomaka ʻia kekahi.

ʻO kekahi me SAD ka mea e manaʻo ai i kēia discomfort hoʻonāwaliwali a me ka hopohopo i ke alakaʻi ʻana i kahi hōʻole hiki ke loaʻa me ka poʻe ʻaʻole maopopo iā lākou. ʻO kahi kanaka e loaʻa ana iā RSD, akā, like paha ia me ka makaʻu i ka weliweli o ka hōʻole ʻia mai kahi mea a lākou e pili kokoke ai, nona kā lākou pane pono hiki ke koho, a e ʻike lākou i ka hopohopo nui a me ka huhū o ke kino maoli ma hope hana ʻia ka hanana.

ʻOi aku ka liʻiliʻi e pili ana i ka makaʻu o ka ʻike ʻole a me ke kaumaha loa i piha i ka hilahila ʻoiaʻiʻo pono!

ʻO nā mea āpau i ʻōlelo ʻia, nuanced kēia a makemake ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kahi ʻano ʻoihana olakino e hele i lalo o ia.

ʻAʻole pono pēlā i kēia manawa!

E ʻōlelo mākou e hana wale i kēlā a me ding-ding-ding! ʻO RSD kēia! He aha ka mea e koi ai e mālama iā ia?

• Therapy, aloha. Inā hoʻōla manaʻo kolohe, ʻano dialectical behavior therapy, a i ʻole kekahi ʻano psychotherapeutic like ʻole e pono ai, pono mākou iā ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou mau manaʻo i ka hōʻole ʻia. E haʻi iaʻu inā ʻoe, e ʻike i ka loop loop feedback: "Pehea wau e ʻōlelo ai i koʻu mau manaʻo e pili ana i ka hōʻole ʻana i kaʻu mea lapaʻau e mālama iaʻu no RSD me ka ʻole o lākou hoʻokolokolo iaʻu?!"
• Laau Lapaʻau. No mākou o ka poʻe i ʻike i ka hopena o ke kino, a ʻoi loa hoʻi no mākou o ka poʻe i loaʻa nā maʻi hopohopo pū ʻē aʻe, he kūpono paha nā lāʻau. I koʻu hihia, hana maikaʻi wau ma kahi regimen e hoʻopili pū me Wellbutrin. Ua hoʻāʻo pono hoʻi wau i nā meds ʻē aʻe a loaʻa i ka leo nui a me ke koʻikoʻi ke hana ʻole lākou. Pono ʻoe e ʻimi i kēia me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo a me ka stigma paha.
• Ke hele nei i kahi pūnaewele. ʻIke wau i kēia momona: e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka manawa āu e hoʻopukapuka nei i ka pāpili kaiaulu. Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻololi i ka ikaika o nā hoaloha a me nā mea aloha, a hiki i kēia mau pilina ke weliweli no nā poʻe me RSD.

ʻO ka hope, e hoʻokuleana ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. ʻAe ke ʻike ʻoe ua hewa ʻoe. Mai kāohi i kou mau manaʻo e hoʻāʻo ana iā lākou no ka mea makemake ʻole e hoʻihoʻi i ka ʻoluʻolu.

Holoi i kāna helu kelepona.

I kēia manawa, e hele wau e hana maoli i kekahi mea ʻaʻole DMing hou ʻo Sara e nīnau no ke aha ʻo ia i nānā ʻole ai i ka "Dragula" hou loa. ʻIke wau iā ʻoe i ka DM, SARA, HOLO I KE NOHO ANA I "KA WIRE" NO KA MANAWA ʻelima.

ʻO Reed Brice kahi mea kākau a mea hoʻohenehene i hoʻokumu ʻia ma Los Angeles. ʻO Brice kahi alum o UC Irvine's Claire Trevor School of the Arts aʻo ia ka transgender mua i kiola ʻia i kahi revue ʻoihana me The Second City. Ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻia ke kī o ka maʻi noʻonoʻo, peni ʻo Brice i kā mākou aloha a me kā mākou moekolohe, "U Up?"