ʻO Keiki Kehena ma ka Honua: Pehea wau e lanakila ai i kaʻu keiki kāne ma ke Keʻena Kauka

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• ʻO kaʻu kamaliʻi, ke kauka lapaʻau, a me nā tantrums
• Ke hana hou nei i ka hoʻolālā kipa a ke kauka
• Ke ʻae nei ʻaʻole ʻoe he makua maikaʻi ʻole no ka uē o kāu keiki

ʻAʻole wau ʻike e pili ana iā ʻoe, akā i koʻu lilo ʻana i makuahine, ua manaʻo wau ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hilahila hou.

ʻO wau e ʻōlelo nei, ua hele ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa i ka puka aniani me ka hānau hānau. A ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi aʻu i mālama ai, ua ʻokiʻoki ʻia aku ia e ka hānai ʻana i kaʻu pēpē mua. Ua hoʻopau loa ʻia me kaʻu lua (pono ka pēpē e ʻai i kēlā me kēia manawa a me kahi a mākou e noho ai me kona kaikunāne, ʻoiai i nā lā makani nui ke hōʻole nā ​​uhi hānai ʻaʻole e hui pū).

A laila aia kahi hoʻomaʻemaʻe pilikino. E like me kāu e ʻike ai, ke hānau keiki hou ʻoe, uhi nui ʻia ʻoe i ka pee, ka poop, kuha, a ʻike ke Akua i nā mea ʻē aʻe i kēlā mau mahina mua. He aha kēlā ʻala? ʻO wau paha.

A mai poina hoʻi i ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana o ka lehulehu i kekahi manawa ma muli o ka lohi ʻana o ka hanai ʻana a hiamoe paha.

Akā he ʻāpana kēia a pau o ka makua, ʻeā? Akau. ʻAʻohe mea e ʻike ai, e nā hoa.

ʻO kaʻu kamaliʻi, ke kauka lapaʻau, a me nā tantrums

ʻO ka mea aʻu i mākaukau ʻole ai ka weliweli hou a me ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka lawe ʻana i kaʻu pēpē i ke kauka - a i ʻole, me ka kikoʻī, e lawe ana i kaʻu kamaliʻi i ke kauka.

Ke loaʻa ʻoe he pēpē, manaʻo ʻoe iā ia e uē ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka ʻūlū ʻia, hoʻolana ʻia, a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻia. Hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka cuddled, tickled, a honi. No laila, kūlohelohe, kēia haʻalulu weliweli mai ke ʻano maʻamau e haʻalulu nei, e ʻōlelo iki.

ʻO nā mea āu e hana ai ka shush ʻoluʻolu a hōʻoluʻolu iā ia a, inā ʻoe e hānai ana i ka umauma, e hoʻopili i kahi pahu i kona waha, a ua kūpono nā mea āpau me ka honua. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e kūʻai paha ʻoe i kahi minoʻaka ʻike me ke kauka maʻi maʻi: Nā pēpē! He aha kāu e hana ai? A nānā i kona nani, ʻoiai ʻo ia ke ʻuwā nei!

ʻO ka ʻuā a kahi keiki ʻōpio, ʻaʻole ia he aloha nui.

ʻAʻole, ma kahi o kahi pēpē momona, ʻoluʻolu maʻalahi, loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi pōloli o ke ahi, feisty, manaʻo, keiki flailing ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā ia nā huaʻōlelo e hōʻike pono iā ia iho akā ka mea nona ka manaʻo nui. Auē, a ua ʻōlelo wau e kīkī paha nā kamaliʻi - paʻakikī?

ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hana ai i kēia hanana inā he māhoe kāu. ʻĀ, hiki nō iaʻu, a manaʻo wau pono i nā māhoe o nā māhoe nā mekala maoli no ka mea like ia me kekahi pae ʻeiwa o ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i gehena ma laila.

Akā hoʻi iaʻu a me kaʻu keiki hana ʻino hoʻokahi. Ma ke ʻano he mākua, ʻike mākou ʻaʻole hiki i nā kamaliʻi liʻiliʻi ke kāohi iā lākou iho, he id lākou (makemake), aia nō lākou i ko lākou mau makahiki formative a ke aʻo wale nei lākou i ka hana i ka honua.

Akā no ke aha lākou e hana ai i kēia ?! E ʻike paha lākou i ka ʻoi aku! He mau mākua maikaʻi mākou, a ua aʻo maikaʻi aku mākou iā lākou.

A ʻo wau wale nō, a i ʻole he hoʻokolokolo loa paha kēlā kauka maikaʻi? Malia paha ʻaʻole paha, akā manaʻo ʻoe e like me ia ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e noho i kāu kamaliʻi e noho mālie a HAKU ANA I KA SCREAMING. He aha kāu keiki e manaʻo ai e hana ana ke kauka, hōʻeha iā ia a hou iā ia me kahi mea ʻoi?

ʻ,, kali. ʻAe, ʻo ia nō ka mea e hiki mai ana, a hoʻomanaʻo nā kamaliʻi. He ʻano koʻikoʻi ko nā keiki i ka mālama ʻana iā ia iho, i mea maikaʻi loa ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe iā ia. ʻAʻole ia e hōʻemi iki i ka mortification i kēia manawa. Akā kōkua ia e hoʻomanaʻo i kēia factoid ma hope, ke wili ʻia ʻoe ma luna o ka moena i ke kūlana fetal, e nānā ana i ka binge "ʻO mākou kēia" a e luʻu i kou mau ʻeha ma Cheetos.

Ke hana hou nei i ka hoʻolālā kipa a ke kauka

Ma hope o kahi ʻāpana minamina ponoʻī, ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi epiphany: No ke aha e huakaʻi ʻole ai i kahi huakaʻi i ke keʻena o ke kauka? ʻAe, hauʻoli. Inā hiki iaʻu ke demystify i ka ʻike a hāʻawi i ka mana i nā lima o kaʻu keiki, hiki ke hoʻohuli i nā mea.

No laila, i ka lā aʻe, ua mālama au i nā puke e pili ana i nā kipa a ke kauka. Nani ka nui o kēlā me kēia moʻo kaulana (e noʻonoʻo: "Sesame Street," "ʻO Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood," a me "The Berenstain Bears"). Inā hiki i kaʻu kamaliʻi ke ʻike ua hele kāna mau punahele punahele i ke kauka a ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi i kū aʻe, malia paha ʻaʻole ʻo ia e makaʻu loa.

ʻAʻole lawa nō naʻe. Ua makemake ʻo ia i kahi mea maʻalahi hou aʻe. No laila, ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi pahu kauka mea pāʻani a mākou i hoʻomaka ai e pāʻani me nā manawa āpau. Ua kuapo mākou i ke kūlana kauka / hoʻomanawanui, a loaʻa iā mākou kahi lumi kali holoʻokoʻa i hoʻopiha ʻia me nā mea maʻi holoholona i hoʻopihapiha ʻia e hoʻopiʻi loa iā mākou no ka hana pono ʻole inā he poʻe maoli lākou. Ua aloha ʻo ia iā ia, a ʻo wau pū kekahi, ʻoiai inā hoihoi iki ʻo ia i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i kaʻu reflexes (auch).

Ua hilinaʻi nui wau akā ua ʻano hopohopo nō naʻe i ka manawa o ka huli ʻana o kāna hōʻoia aʻe. A i ka minuke hope loa, kau wau i ka pahu i lalo o ka stroller a lawe pū me mākou. ʻO ia ke kī maoli.

Iā ia e pāʻani ana i ke kauka me ka kauka maoli, ua hala kāna mau hopohopo. ʻOiai ua nānā ke kauka iā ia, ua hoʻolohe kaʻu keiki i ka puʻuwai puʻuwai o ke kauka me kāna stethoscope ponoʻī. A laila nānā ʻo ia i loko o nā pepeiao o ke kauka, hoʻohālikelike e hāʻawi iā ia i kahi kī, kau i kahi kaula iā ia, a pēlā aku. He mea nani ia, akā ʻoi aku i kēia, ua hoʻoliʻiliʻi loa iā ia mai ka hana maoli a ke kauka.

He ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua uē iki ʻo ia i ka wā i loaʻa ai kāna mau kī, akā ʻaʻohe mea e hoʻohālikelike ʻia me nā uē hoʻomāinoino o nā koho a ke kauka o mua. Hoʻohui, kū wikiwiki ka uē ʻana i ka wā i hoʻohoka hou ʻia ʻo ia e ke kauka pāʻani. Holomua!

Ke ʻae nei ʻaʻole ʻoe he makua maikaʻi ʻole no ka uē o kāu keiki

Ma hope o kēlā, ua hiki iaʻu ke hāpai hou i kuʻu poʻo i ke kiʻekiʻe ke hele au i ke keʻena pediatrician. ʻAʻole wau i holomua ma ke ʻano he makua, a hiki i ke kauka ke ʻike hope loa i kēlā. ʻAe, ʻo wau!

Ua maopopo iaʻu he mea lapuwale kēia e hoʻohilahila ʻia ai. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, he a kēia kamaliʻi e kamaʻilio ana mākou e pili ana. Ua hoʻohiki wau ʻaʻole wau e hoʻohilahila hou e pili ana i kahi pilikia makua.

ʻAe, ʻae, ua hele i waho ka hoʻohiki ma ka puka aniani me ka wikiwiki ... i ka manawa i hoʻomaka ai kaʻu keiki e ʻōlelo akāka me ka piha ʻole, kānana ʻole, kūpono ʻole, hoʻopaʻi ʻōlelo. Akā maikaʻi ia ʻoiai e mau ana!

He paʻakikī paha kāu keiki hele i ke kauka? Pehea ʻoe e lawelawe ai? E kaʻana like i kāu ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me nā hana hoʻopunipuni iaʻu i nā manaʻo!

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