Pehea wau i laʻa ai me kahi makuahine me ka maʻi Bipolar nāna i hōʻole i ka mālama ʻana no 40 mau makahiki

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• ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi. ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, minoʻaka ʻo ia me ka mahalo a neʻe e pili ana i ka lā me ka stoicism kolohe.
• Ke loaʻa nei ka maopopo
• Ke loaʻa nei ka maluhia
• Ke nānā nei i mua, hui pū

ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi. ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, minoʻaka ʻo ia me ka mahalo a neʻe e pili ana i ka lā me ka stoicism kolohe.

ʻO ka maka wale nō, i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia i loko o nā makahiki o nā ʻahaʻaina lā hānau i hōʻino ʻia, nā sphere kūʻai eccentric, a me nā ʻoihana ʻoihana hou ke ʻike iā ia, mākaukau e papa me ka ʻole o ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo.

I kekahi manawa piʻi i luna ke hoʻopoina wau i ka noho mālie a me ka hoʻomaopopo. Hoʻohui ka huhū Reactionary i ka lihi o kaʻu leo. Huli kona alo. ʻO kāna waha, e like me kaʻu, e huli maoli i nā kihi, e like me ka hiʻohi ʻoi loa aku. ʻO kona mau kuʻemaka ʻeleʻele, lahilahi mai nā makahiki o ka huhuki nui ʻana, e ala aʻe e hana i nā laina lahilahi i kona lae. Hoʻomaka ka waimaka e heleleʻi i kāna papa inoa ʻana i nā kumu āpau i kūleʻa ʻole ai ʻo ia ma ka makuahine.

"E hauʻoli wale paha ʻoe inā ʻaʻole wau ma aneʻi," ʻuā ʻo ia i ka hōʻiliʻili ʻana i nā mea e pono ai no ka neʻe ʻana i waho: kahi puke mele piano, kahi puʻu pila a me nā loaʻa, lipamā.

Hoʻokipa koʻu lolo 7 makahiki i ka manaʻo o ke ola me ka ʻole o Māmā. He aha inā haʻalele wale ʻo ia ʻaʻole hoʻi i ka home, Kuhi wau. Manaʻo wau i ke ola inā ua make ʻo ia. Akā ua kolo kahi manaʻo kamaʻāina mai koʻu subconscious e like me kahi noe anu, mākū wai: hewa.

Ke uē nei wau, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke haʻi inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo ia no ka mea ua hana nā waimaka manipulative i nā manawa he nui e ʻike i ka ʻokoʻa. "He makuahine maikaʻi ʻoe," i ʻōlelo mālie wau. "Aloha au iā 'oe." ʻAʻole ʻo ia e piliwi iaʻu. Ke hoʻopaʻa nei ʻo ia i kēia manawa: kahi kiʻi aniani i hōʻiliʻili ʻia, kahi paʻa lepo o nā pōkole jean sloppily ʻoki lima i hoʻopakele ʻia no ka mahi ʻai ʻana. Pono wau e hoʻāʻo hou.

Hoʻopau pinepine kēia hanana i hoʻokahi o nā ala ʻelua: haʻalele ka makuakāne i ka hana e "lawelawe i ke kūlana," a i ʻole ua lawa ka maikaʻi o kaʻu leʻaleʻa e hoʻomaha iā ia. I kēia manawa, ua mālama ʻia koʻu makuakāne i kahi kamaʻilio kūpilikiʻi ʻole me kāna luna. I kanakolu mau minuke ma hope, e noho ana mākou ma kahi moe. Ke haka pono ʻole nei wau i kona ʻano wehewehe ʻana me ke ʻano ʻole ke kumu kūpono o kona ʻoki ʻana i ka hoa aloha o ka pule i hala i kona ola.

"E hauʻoli wale paha ʻoe inā ʻaʻole wau ma aneʻi," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. Hoʻopuni nā huaʻōlelo i loko o kuʻu poʻo, akā minoʻaka wau, kūlou, a mālama i ka ʻike maka.

Ke loaʻa nei ka maopopo

ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia koʻu makuahine me ka maʻi bipolar. Ua hele ʻo ia i kekahi mau therapist, akā ʻaʻole lāua i lōʻihi. Kuhi hewa kekahi poʻe i ka poʻe me ka maʻi bipolar ma ke ʻano he "pupule," a ʻo koʻu makuahine ʻaʻole kēlā. Pono nā kānaka me ka maʻi bipolar i nā lāʻau, a ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia i kēlā, hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻo ia. Hoʻomaopopo wale ʻo ia, hana nui, a paio i ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina a me nā papahana hou. I nā lā i hele aku ʻo ia i waho o kahi moe ma mua o ka hola 2, ua wehewehe luhi ʻo Māmā inā inā ʻo Papa ka home ʻoi aku, inā he hana hou kāna, inā e hana ʻia nā hana hou home, ʻaʻole ia e like me kēia. ʻAneʻane wau e manaʻoʻiʻo iā ia.

ʻAʻole ia ke kaumaha a me ka waimaka i nā manawa a pau. Ua hana mākou i nā mea hoʻomanaʻo nui loa. I kēlā manawa, ʻaʻole wau i maopopo ʻo kāna mau manawa o ka spontaneity, productivity, a me ka ʻakaʻaka pūpū pū kekahi me ka maʻi pū kekahi. ʻAʻole wau i maopopo i ka hoʻopiha ʻana i kahi kaʻa kalepa me nā lole hou a me ke kanakē "no ka mea" he hae ʻulaʻula ia. Ma kahi lauoho hihiu, ua hala mākou i kahi lā kula e wāwahi ana i ka paia lumi ʻaina no ka mea e pono ka hale i ka mālamalama maoli. ʻO ka mea aʻu e hoʻomanaʻo ai ʻo nā manawa maikaʻi loa ke kumu o ka hopohopo e like me nā manawa pane ʻole. He nui nā hina o ka maʻi Bipolar.

ʻO Melvin McInnis, MD, ka mea noiʻi nui a me ka luna ʻepekema o ka Heinz C. Prechter Bipolar Research Fund, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia ke kumu i hoʻolilo ai ʻo ia i nā makahiki he 25 i hala e hoʻopaʻa nei i ka maʻi.

"ʻO ka laulā a me ka hohonu o ka naʻau kanaka i hōʻike ʻia i kēia maʻi he hohonu," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia.

Ma mua o ka hōʻea ʻana i ke Kulanui o Michigan ma 2004, ua hala ʻo McInnis i nā makahiki e hoʻāʻo ana e ʻike i kahi ʻāpana e koi ai i ke kuleana. Ua alakaʻi ʻo ia i kāna hana ʻole e hoʻomaka i kahi noi lōʻihi e pili ana i ka maʻi bipolar e hoʻomohala i kahi kiʻi ʻoi aku ka maopopo a me ka laulā o ka maʻi.

No koʻu ʻohana, ʻaʻohe kiʻi mālamalama. ʻAʻole i like ka manic o koʻu makuahine me ka manic lawa e hiki ai i kahi kipa pilikia i kahi psychiatrist. ʻO kāna mau wā o ke kaumaha, āna i hōʻike pinepine ai i ke koʻikoʻi maʻamau o ke ola, ʻaʻole i ʻike ʻia ka haʻahaʻa.

ʻO ia ka mea me ka maʻi bipolar: ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o kahi papa inoa o nā hōʻailona hiki ke loaʻa ma ka pūnaewele no ka 100 pakeneka ʻike pololei. Pono ia i nā kipa he nui i kahi manawa lōʻihi e hōʻike i kahi ʻano o ka lawena. ʻAʻole mākou i hiki i kahi mamao. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i nānā a hana paha e like me nā crazed character āu e ʻike ai i nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni. No laila ʻaʻole pono e loaʻa iā ia, ʻeā?

ʻOiai nā nīnau i pane ʻole ʻia, ʻike ka noiʻi i kekahi mau mea e pili ana i ka maʻi bipolar.

• Hoʻopili ia ma kahi o 2.6 pakeneka o ka heluna U.S.
• Pono ia i kahi hōʻailona maʻi, kahi e koi ai i nā kipa nānā he nui.
• ʻO ka maʻi.
• Hoʻolālā maʻamau ia i ka wā ʻōpio a i ʻole ke ʻano makua.
• ʻAʻohe mea ola, akā nui nā koho lapaʻau i loaʻa.
• o nā mea maʻi me ka maʻi bipolar ʻike hewa ʻia.

I kekahi mau makahiki a hoʻokahi therapist ma hope, ua aʻo wau i ka likelika o ka maʻi bipolar a koʻu makuahine. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole hiki i kaʻu mea lapaʻau ke ʻōlelo kūpaʻa me ka hālāwai ʻole me ia, akā ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ka "hiki paha." He kōkua ia i ka manawa like a me kahi ukana ʻē aʻe. He mau pane kaʻu, akā ua lohi lākou i ka mea nui. Pehea ka ʻokoʻa o ko mākou ola ke loaʻa kēia hōʻailona - ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻeia - hele koke mai?

Ke loaʻa nei ka maluhia

Ua huhū wau i koʻu makuahine no nā makahiki he nui. Ua manaʻo wau ua inaina wau iā ia no ka ulu koke ʻana iaʻu. ʻAʻole wau i mākaukau i ka naʻau e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia i ka wā i nalowale ai kahi aloha ʻē aʻe, hōʻoia iā ia he nani a kūpono i ke aloha, a aʻo paha iaʻu pehea e hoʻonā ai i kahi hana quadratic.

ʻO wau ka muli loa o nā kaikaina ʻelima. ʻO ka hapanui o koʻu ola, he ʻekolu wale nō mau kaikunāne me aʻu. Kūleʻa mākou i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa. Ua hāpai au i ka nui o ka hewa. Ua haʻi mai kahi mea lapaʻau iaʻu no ka mea ʻo wau wale nō ka wahine ʻē aʻe i loko o ka hale - pono e hoʻopili pū nā wahine a me nā mea āpau. Ua hele wau i waena o ka manaʻo e pono ke lilo i keiki gula nāna i hana hewa ʻole ka lilo ʻana i kaikamahine e makemake wale ana e lilo i keiki kao a hopohopo ʻole i ke kuleana. Ma 18, ua neʻe wau me kuʻu ipo aloha a hoʻohiki ʻaʻole e nānā i hope.

Noho koʻu makuahine i kēia manawa i kahi mokuʻāina ʻē aʻe me kāna kāne hou. Ua pili hou mākou. Ua kaupalena ʻia kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana i nā ʻōlelo mahalo a Facebook a i ʻole ka hoʻololi ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo maikaʻi e pili ana i nā lā nui.

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo McInnis ʻo nā poʻe e like me koʻu makuahine, kūpaʻa ʻole e ʻike i nā pilikia ma mua o ka loli o ka naʻau, no ka stigma e pili ana i kēia maʻi. "ʻO ka kuhi hewa nui loa me ka maʻi bipolar ʻo ia ka poʻe me kēia maʻi e hana ʻole i ka kaiāulu. Ke hoʻololi wikiwiki nei lākou ma waena o ke kaumaha a me ka manic. Hū pinepine kēia maʻi ma lalo o ka ʻili, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Ma ke ʻano he keiki a ka makua me ka maʻi bipolar, ʻike ʻoe i nā ʻano ʻano like ʻole: ka huhū, ka piʻoloke, ka huhū, ka hewa. ʻAʻole maʻalahi kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻoiai me ka manawa. Akā ke nānā nei i hope, ʻike wau i ka nui o kēlā mau manaʻo e kū mai ka hiki ʻole ke kōkua iā ia. Aia ma laila ke ʻike ʻo ia hoʻokahi, huikau, makaʻu, a me ka ʻole o ka kaohi. ʻO ke kaupaona ʻaʻohe o mākou i mākaukau e hāpai.

Ke nānā nei i mua, hui pū

ʻOiai ʻaʻole mākou i hāʻawi ʻia i kahi hōʻailona kūhelu, ke ʻike nei i ka mea aʻu e ʻike nei i kēia manawa e ʻae iaʻu e nānā i hope me kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa. ʻAe iaʻu e hoʻomanawanui hou aʻe ke kāhea ʻo ia i ka wā o ke kaumaha. Hāʻawi iaʻu i ka mana e hoʻomanaʻo iā ia me ka mālie e hana i kahi kau lāʻau ʻē aʻe a hōʻole i ka haʻalele hou ʻana i kāna pā hale. ʻO koʻu manaʻolana e loaʻa iā ia ka lapaʻau e ʻae iā ia ʻaʻole e hakakā ikaika i kēlā me kēia lā. Na ia e hoʻopakele iā ia i nā pilikia e piʻi ana i lalo.

ʻO kaʻu huakaʻi hoʻōla i hala i mau makahiki. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke manaʻo e hana ʻia kāna i ka pō. Akā i kēia manawa, ʻaʻole ia e kaʻawale.

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