Ke wāwahi ʻana i ka Pāʻani Mīkini

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• He mea like paha ia e like me ka noʻonoʻo hoʻomakeʻa?
• Pehea ke ʻano?
• Hana ʻoe i nā mea no ka poʻe ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e mahalo
• Hoʻomaʻo pinepine ʻoe e hana i nā mea he nui
• ʻO ka poʻe āu e noho manawa ai me ka hōʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe iho
• ʻIke mau ʻoe me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole i kāu hana a i ʻole pili
• He kumu kāu no ka mālama ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i nā pilina
• Nā nīnau e nīnau iā ʻoe iho
• ʻIke ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea kūpono āu e hana ai
• No ke aha he mea ʻino ia?
• Pili pili
• Burnout
• Ka nele o ka loli maikaʻi
• Hiki paha ke lanakila iā ia?
• Hana ma ke kamaʻilio
• ʻ .lelo aʻoaʻo Pro
• Kau palena
• Hana i ka manawa no ka mālama ponoʻī
• E kamaʻilio me kahi mea hoʻoponopono
• ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hana ʻana me ia i kekahi?
• E noʻonoʻo i ko lākou kumu
• Aloha
• Kau palena
• Ke laina lalo

ʻO ka mōʻaukala, he martyr kekahi mea nāna e koho e mōhai i ko lākou ola a i ʻole alo i ka ʻeha a me ka ʻeha ma kahi o ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi mea a lākou e paʻa kapu ai. ʻOiai e hoʻohana mau ʻia ka huaʻōlelo i kēia ala i kēia lā, lawe ʻia ia ma ke ʻano kiʻekiʻe ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o ka drama.

I kēia lā, hoʻohana ʻia ka huaʻōlelo i kekahi manawa e wehewehe i kahi mea e ʻeha mau ana ma kekahi ʻano a i ʻole kekahi.

Loaʻa paha iā lākou kahi moʻolelo e pili ana i kā lākou auē hou loa a i ʻole ka mōhai a lākou i hana ai no haʻi. Hoʻonui paha lākou i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole e loaʻa ai ke aloha a hana hewa paha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

Kamaʻāina paha? Ke noʻonoʻo nei paha ʻoe i kahi hoaaloha a ʻohana paha o kahi ʻohana - a iā ʻoe iho paha.

E heluhelu e aʻo hou e pili ana i ka ʻike ʻana i kēia noʻonoʻo a me nā pono hana no ka lanakila ʻana.

He mea like paha ia e like me ka noʻonoʻo hoʻomakeʻa?

ʻO kahi paʻakikī martyr e like paha me ka noʻonoʻo o ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia. ʻOi aku ka maʻamau o nā mea ʻelua i nā mea pakele o ka hoʻomāinoino a i ʻole nā ​​trauma ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia hoʻi ka poʻe i hiki ʻole ke komo i nā pono hana kū pono kūpono.

Akā he ʻano ʻokoʻa kā ka manaʻo ʻelua.

ʻO ke kanaka me ka mentally mentality ka mea i manaʻo pilikino ʻia e nā mea āpau e hewa, ʻoiai ke kuhikuhi ʻole ʻia ka pilikia, ka hana kolohe, a me ka pōʻino paha iā lākou.

ʻAʻole paha lākou e hoihoi i ka hoihoi i ka hoʻolohe ʻana i nā hāʻina hiki. Ma kahi o, hāʻawi paha lākou i ka manaʻo o ka makemake wale e ʻalalā i ka luʻuluʻu.

Hele aku kahi paʻakikī martyr ma ʻō aku o kēia. ʻO ka poʻe me ka martyr complex ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike he mea hōʻeha wale lākou. Hele paha lākou i waho i kā lākou ala e ʻike i nā hanana i kūpilikiʻi a i ʻole nā ​​ʻeha ʻē aʻe.

Wahi a Sharon Martin, LCSW, kekahi mea me ka paʻakikī martyr "mōhai i ko lākou pono iho a makemake e hana i nā mea no haʻi." Ua hoʻohui ʻo ia ʻaʻole lākou e "kōkua me ka puʻuwai hauʻoli akā hana pēlā ma muli o ke kuleana a hewa paha."

Hele ʻo ia e wehewehe i kēia hiki ke hoʻoulu i ka huhū, huhū, a me ka mana o ka mana ʻole. I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, hiki i kēia mau manaʻo ke hoʻohoka i ke kanaka, me ka ʻole o kahi koho e ʻōlelo ʻaʻole a hana i nā mea na lākou iho.

Pehea ke ʻano?

ʻO kekahi e ʻeha mau ana - a makemake e makemake i kēlā ala - hiki iā ia ke loaʻa kahi martyr complex, e like me ka ʻōlelo a Lynn Somerstein, PhD. ʻO kēia kumu o ka ʻeha hiki ke hopena i ka ʻeha a i ʻole ke ʻeha a me ke kaumaha.

Eia kahi nānā i kekahi mau hōʻailona ʻē aʻe i loaʻa iā ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe he martyr complex.

Hana ʻoe i nā mea no ka poʻe ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e mahalo

Ke makemake nei e kōkua i ka poʻe kokoke iā ʻoe e hōʻike iā ʻoe he ʻano lokomaikaʻi a me ke aloha. Hana paha ʻoe i kēia mau mea e kōkua wale aku, ʻaʻole no ka mea makemake ʻoe e ʻike ka poʻe aloha i kāu mau hoʻāʻo a i ʻole nā ​​mōhai āu i hana ai no lākou.

Akā i ka manawa hea e kōkua ai i ka paipai ʻana i kahi paʻakikī martyr?

ʻO nā poʻe he nui i hoʻopilikia ʻia e ka mahalo ʻole e hōʻoki wale i ke kōkua ʻana. Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā ʻano martyr, akā naʻe, hoʻomau paha ʻoe e hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo ʻoiai e hōʻike ana i kou ʻawaʻawa ma ka hoʻopiʻi ʻana, i loko a i ʻole i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, e pili ana i ka mahalo ʻole.

Hoʻomaʻo pinepine ʻoe e hana i nā mea he nui

ʻO ka lawe ʻana i kekahi mau hana keu a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i kekahi mau mea hoʻohiki he nui ʻaʻole ia he martyr. Akā e noʻonoʻo inā e ʻae mau ʻoe i nā kuleana e pono ʻole ai iā ʻoe.

Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole e hana ʻia kahi mea ke ʻole ʻoe e hana iā ʻoe iho a hōʻole i nā hāʻawi kōkua. ʻOiai ke huhū ʻoe i ka hana hou āu e hana nei, hoʻomau ʻoe e hoʻohui i kāu ukana hana ke nīnau ʻia. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi manawaleʻa me ka huhū e hana hou aku.

ʻO ka poʻe āu e noho manawa ai me ka hōʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe iho

He hoa aloha kāu (a ʻelua paha) ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻoe e ʻike ai? Makemake paha lākou iā ʻoe e hana i nā mea na lākou, e ʻōlelo hōʻino, a i ʻole e hoʻohewa iā ʻoe.

ʻOiai ke hoʻokahe ʻia ʻoe e nā pilina ʻawahia, ʻaʻole maʻalahi ka wāwahi iā lākou, keu hoʻi he lālā ʻohana a he hoa pili paha kekahi. Akā e noʻonoʻo pehea ʻoe e pane ai i ka ʻona.

Pili paha kahi pane kōkua i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i nā palena a me ka hana ʻana i kahi mamao ma waena o ʻoe a me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe.

Akā inā ʻoe e hoʻomau mau i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa me lākou, e ʻike wale ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e noʻonoʻo a kamaʻilio nui paha e pili ana i ka pōpilikia a lākou e hana ai.

ʻIke mau ʻoe me ka ʻoluʻolu ʻole i kāu hana a i ʻole pili

ʻAʻole maʻamau nā hana hoʻokō ʻole. ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau ke hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina me he mea lā ʻaʻole he wā e hiki mai ana a hāʻule paha i ka mea āu i manaʻo ai. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā ʻanuʻu e kamaʻilio i kēlā me kēia kūlana me kahi manawa a me ka ikaika.

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hana martyr, ʻike paha ʻoe i kēia ʻano o ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i nā wahi like ʻole i kou ola. E hōʻino paha ʻoe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe no kahi i pau ai ʻoe, a i ʻole manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe i kahi mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma muli o nā mōhai āu i hana ai ma ke ala.

ʻO ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ʻaʻole ʻike a mahalo ʻole paha nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i kāu mōhai ponoʻī hiki ke hāʻawi i ka huhū a me ka huhū.

He kumu kāu no ka mālama ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i nā pilina

Ke nānā nei i nā pili i hala e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i nā hana martyr.

"E kuhikuhi paha kekahi mau ʻano pilina i kēia pilikia," wahi a Patrick Cheatham, PsyD. "Kekahi mau pilina ʻaʻole kūpono kaulike, e like me nā mākua e mālama nei i nā keiki. A i ʻole he wā ʻoki poepoe lākou, e like me ka mālama ʻana i ka hoa maʻi nui. ”

Inā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi ʻano i ka hoʻokau iā ʻoe iho ma waena o nā pilina he nui i kou ola, hiki ke kuhikuhi i nā mea o ka martyr complex.

Nā nīnau e nīnau iā ʻoe iho

Ke nānā nei ʻoe i kāu pili pili, hōʻike ʻo Cheatham iā ʻoe iho:

• E wehewehe paha ʻoe i kāu mau pilina ma ke ʻano kaulike ʻole? Malia paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e like me nā mea āpau āu e hana ai e mālama i nā hoa e hana iki e hoʻokō i kāu mau pono.
• ʻIke paha ʻoe i kahi hemahema mau o ka hakahaka e kūkākūkā ai i kāu mau pono a makemake?
• Piliwi ʻole ʻoe i ka hālāwai ʻana me nā pono o kāu hoa e hoʻoweliweli i kou pilina?

E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka ʻaoʻao naʻau o nā mea. ʻIke paha ʻoe i kākoʻo ʻia, palekana, a aloha ʻia, ʻoiai i nā wā o ka like ʻole? A i ʻole ʻawaʻawa ʻoe, huhū ʻole, a hoʻokuʻu ʻia paha e nā hoa?

Maliʻa paha makemake ʻoe e manaʻo hewa lākou no ke kākoʻo ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe.

ʻIke ʻoe ʻaʻohe mea kūpono āu e hana ai

ʻO kekahi me nā mākaʻi martyr paha "makemake mau e kōkua, ʻaʻole kūleʻa, a manaʻo hoʻopaʻi ʻia ka hopena," wahi a Somerstein.

I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, me he mea lā ʻaʻole āu mea e hana ai, kuhi hewa ka poʻe i kāu mau hoʻāʻo ʻana e kōkua a hāʻule paha kāu mau hoʻāʻo. Maliʻa paha ua huhū lākou ma kahi o ka mahalo iā ʻoe.

E hoʻohoka maoli paha kēia iā ʻoe. Ua hoʻāʻo ʻoe i kāu mea maikaʻi loa, ma hope o nā mea āpau, no laila ʻo ka mea liʻiliʻi loa e hiki ai iā lākou ke hōʻike i kahi mahalo. Ma muli o kāu huhū, loaʻa paha iā ʻoe kahi koi e hoʻohalahala iā lākou no ka mahalo ʻole i kāu hana nui.

No ke aha he mea ʻino ia?

ʻAʻole paha he mea nui ka hana martyr, akā hiki iā lākou ke lawe i ka pili i kāu mau pilina, ke olakino, a me ka ulu pilikino.

Pili pili

Hiki i ka noho ʻana me kahi mākaʻi martyr ke paʻakikī iā ʻoe e ʻōlelo no ʻoe iho.

Wahi a Martin, paʻakikī ka poʻe me ka hana martyr e kamaʻilio paʻakikī a pololei paha, e alakaʻi ana i nā pilikia pili.

Ma kahi o ke kamaʻilio ākea ʻana e pili ana i kāu mau pono, hoʻohana paha ʻoe i ka huhū passive a i ʻole huhū huhū ke hoʻomau ʻoe i ka ale i kou inaina.

Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua hana ʻoe i nā mōhai he nui no kāu hoa a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe, e huhū paha ʻoe a ʻoluʻolu ʻole inā ʻaʻole lākou e hōʻike i ka mahalo a hāʻawi paha i kā lākou kākoʻo i ka hoʻihoʻi.

Burnout

"Ke hakakā nei ka poʻe martyrs e hoʻonoho i ka makakoho mua i kā lākou mau pono," wahi a Martin. "ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā lākou iho, no laila hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopau i ka luhi, maʻi maʻi, kaumaha, hopohopo, huhū, a hoʻokō ʻole ʻia."

Inā hāʻawi pinepine ʻoe i kou manawa e kōkua i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hana i nā mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o ka mea e pono ai ma ka hana a home paha, a mai hoʻokō ʻole paha i kāu mau pono ponoʻī ma ka laulaha, ʻike paha ʻoe i ka ninini a me ka luhi koke.

ʻOiai ʻo kou kūlana naʻau e hiki ke kōkua i ka hōʻā ʻana i ke ahi. ʻO ka huhū a me ka hōʻona ʻole i ka hapa nui o ka manawa hiki ke hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe a hoʻoluhi iā ʻoe. Mālama paha ia iā ʻoe mai kaʻae ʻana i ke kōkua.

Hiki i nā hoa, nā hoaaloha, a me ka ʻohana ke hāʻawi maʻamau i ke aloha, kōkua me nā pilikia, a i ʻole hāʻawi i nā manaʻo a me nā ʻōlelo aʻo. Akā inā huhū ʻoe a huhū hoʻi i ka poʻe āu e kokoke loa ai, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e ʻae i kā lākou kōkua.

Hoʻohui, inā hoʻomau ʻoe e hōʻole i kā lākou kākoʻo, e hoʻopau paha lākou i ka hāʻawi ʻana.

Ka nele o ka loli maikaʻi

ʻO kahi ʻano laulā o ka hōʻoluʻolu pinepine pū me kahi martyr complex.

ʻO kahi laʻana, manaʻo paha ʻoe ua paʻa a paʻa paha i kāu hana, ka pilina, a me kou ola home. E loli paha kekahi o kēia mau mea i ka hala ʻana o nā makahiki, akā e hopena paha ʻoe i nā hanana hoʻonāukiuki a hoʻomaikaʻi ʻole paha i kekahi manawa.

Aloha ʻino ʻoe, akā ma kahi o ka hana ʻana i nā hana e hana ai i nā loli no ʻoe iho, e hoʻopiʻi paha ʻoe, e mihi i ke kūlana, a e hōʻino paha i nā poʻe a i ʻole nā ​​hanana ʻē aʻe. Ke hele ʻoe i waho o kahi kūlana maikaʻi ʻole, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi hou ma mua o ka lōʻihi.

I kēia ala, hiki i nā martyr tendencies ke kāohi iā ʻoe mai ka loaʻa ʻana o ka kūleʻa a i ʻole ke kiʻi ʻana i nā pahuhopu pilikino.

Hiki paha ke lanakila iā ia?

Hiki i kahi mākaʻi martyr ke lawe i kahi hopena nui i kou ʻano o ke ola, akā aia kekahi mau ala e lanakila ai.

Hana ma ke kamaʻilio

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā ʻano martyr, aia kahi manawa kūpono e ʻike ai ʻoe he mea paʻakikī ia e hōʻike ai i kou mau manaʻo a me nā pono. Ke hoʻomohala nei i nā mākau kamaʻilio ikaika aku hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e lilo i mea maikaʻi ma kēia.

ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i nā ala hou aʻe o ke kamaʻilio hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe:

• hōʻalo i ka hana passive-agresive
• hōʻike i nā manaʻo, keu hoʻi o ka huhū a me ka huhū
• mālama i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole mai ke kūkulu ʻana

ʻ .lelo aʻoaʻo Pro

I ka manawa hou āu e manaʻo ai ʻaʻole i lohe ʻia a kuhi hewa ʻia paha, e hoʻāʻo e hōʻike iā ʻoe iho me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻōlelo "I" e hōʻoia ai iā ʻoe iho me ka ʻole o ka pale ʻana i ka mea ʻē aʻe.

ʻLelo aku he hoaaloha kāu nāna e kono iā ʻoe no ka ʻaina awakea, akā hilinaʻi mau lākou iā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi meaʻai a hana i nā kūʻai āpau.

Ma kahi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana "Hoʻoholoholo ʻoe iaʻu i nā hana paʻakikī āpau, no laila ʻaʻole leʻaleʻa iaʻu," hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo "Manaʻo wau ua pau wau i ka hana i nā hana namunamu, a ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo he maikaʻi."

Kau palena

ʻO ka kōkua ʻana i nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha he mea nui iā ʻoe. Akā inā ua hōʻea ʻoe i kāu palena (a i ʻole ua lawe mua ʻoe i nā mea hou aʻe ma mua o kou hiki ke maʻalahi), maikaʻi ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia.

ʻO ka puhi ʻana iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻole ia e kōkua i kāu hana kaumaha i kēia manawa, a hiki ke hoʻonui i nā manaʻo huhū ma hope. E hoʻāʻo i kahi hōʻole mahalo.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke palupalu me kahi wehewehe, ke kaukaʻi ʻia i kou pilina me ka mea e nīnau mai ana. E hoʻomanaʻo wale ʻaʻohe mea hewa me ka mālama mua ʻana i kāu pono ponoʻī.

"He mea nui e hoʻomaka i ka ʻōlelo ʻana ʻaʻole i nā mea e hoʻopilikia ai i kāu pono pilikino a i ʻole kūlike ʻole me kāu waiwai a i ʻole nā ​​pahuhopu," wahi a Martin.

Hana i ka manawa no ka mālama ponoʻī

Hiki i ka mālama pilikino ke hoʻopili i:

• nā koho olakino kūpono, e like me ka lawa ʻana o ka hiamoe, ka ʻai ʻana i nā meaʻai momona, a me ka mālama ʻana i nā hopohopo olakino kino
• ke hana nei i ka manawa no ka leʻaleʻa a me ka hoʻomaha
• ke nānā nei i kou noho naʻau a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana i nā pilikia e kū mai

E kamaʻilio me kahi mea hoʻoponopono

ʻO ka hana ʻana ma o ka hana martyr ma kāu iho hiki ke paʻakikī. Hiki i ke kākoʻo ʻoihana ke loaʻa ka nui o ke keu pono, keu hoʻi inā makemake ʻoe e aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i nā kumu kumu e hāʻawi i nā hiʻohiʻona o ka lawena ponoʻī.

Ua wehewehe ʻo Cheatham i ka therapy, hiki iā ʻoe ke:

• e ʻimi i kāu ʻōnaehana pili
• e ulu a ʻike i nā lauana e pili ana i ka mōhai ponoʻī
• kahi highlightuli a ʻaʻa i kekahi mau manaʻo a puni kou waiwai a me ke ʻano o ka pilina
• e hoʻāʻo i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe

ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hana ʻana me ia i kekahi?

Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e hana e like me ka martyr, manaʻo paha ʻoe ma ka liʻiliʻi i ka huhū i kā lākou ʻano. Maliʻa paha ua hoʻāʻo ʻoe e hāʻawi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo, akā pale lākou i kāu mau hana e kōkua ai. Me he mea lā makemake lākou e ʻōhumu.

ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻololi i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo i ke kanaka ʻē aʻe, akā hiki iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomohala i kahi kuanaʻike iā lākou ʻaʻole ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe.

E noʻonoʻo i ko lākou kumu

Hiki iā ia ke kōkua e hoʻomanaʻo i ka nui o nā mea paʻakikī hiki ke pāʻani i kēia noʻonoʻo.

ʻOiai hiki i ke kanaka ke aʻo e kamaʻilio i nā lawena e hana pinepine ʻia ma ke ʻano he hopena o ka make martyring, ʻaʻole pinepine ka mana o lākou i ka hoʻomohala ʻia ʻana o kēia mau ʻano ma mua.

I kekahi mau hihia, hiki i nā mea moʻomeheu ke kōkua i nā hana martyr. I nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, hiki i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka ʻohana a i ʻole nā ​​ʻike kamaliʻi ke hoʻokau i kahi kuleana.

Aloha

ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e maopopo i nā kumu ma hope o kā lākou hana e noho ai ma laila no kahi mea aloha. Ua lawa pinepine ia e hāʻawi wale i ke aloha a me ke kākoʻo.

"E lokomaikaʻi mau," paipai ʻo Somerstein.

Kau palena

ʻLelo ʻia, ʻaʻole pili ke aloha i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i nā tona o ka manawa me ke kanaka.

Inā hoʻolilo ka manawa me kekahi i kahe iā ʻoe, ʻo ka kaupalena ʻana i ka manawa āu e noho pū ai he koho olakino paha ia. ʻO ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kekahi ʻano palena hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hāʻawi i ka lokomaikaʻi a me ke aloha i kou wā hana kaʻana hakahaka me kēlā kanaka.

Ke laina lalo

Hiki i ke ola hoʻomanawanui lōʻihi ke hoʻokau iā ʻoe, i kou pili, a me kou olakino. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e maopopo piha i nā aʻa o kāu martyr tendencies, hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā ʻanuʻu e hoʻololi i kēia noʻonoʻo a mālama iā ia mai ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole i kou ola.

Inā he paʻakikī paha ʻoe e ʻike i kahi e hoʻomaka ai iā ʻoe iho, e noʻonoʻo e kamaʻilio me kahi loea olakino noʻonoʻo i hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻimi hohonu i kēia mau hiʻohiʻona.

Ua hana mua ʻo Crystal Raypole ma ke ʻano he mea kākau a hoʻoponopono no GoodTherapy. ʻO kāna mau māla hoihoi e pili ana i nā ʻōlelo a me nā palapala a ʻAsia, ka unuhi Kepani, ke kuke ʻana, nā ʻepekema kūlohelohe, ka maikaʻi o ka wahine, a me ke olakino noʻonoʻo. Eia kekahi, ua kūpaʻa ʻo ia e kōkua i ka hōʻemi ʻana i ka stigma e pili ana i nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo.