Pehea e haʻi ai inā ʻoe (maoli) hoʻomākaukau no kahi pilina

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Manaʻo ʻoe ua mākaukau ʻoe no kahi pilina? ʻO ka manawa kēia e nānā ai me ʻoe iho a hoʻoholo inā mākaukau maoli ʻoe no ka pilina. ʻOiai hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo iā ʻoe iho ua mākaukau ʻoe a makemake ʻoe e noho me kekahi, pono ʻoe e nānā mua i kāu ʻano. ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo kāu hana-ʻaʻole ka mea āu e ʻōlelo ai-ʻo ia ka mea haʻi i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo.

ʻO kahi kau i hala aku nei me kahi mea kūʻai aku i kāna mau '20s hope loa e hōʻike pono ana i ka pahu-huki ma waena o ka mea a mākou e manaʻo ai makemake mākou me ka mea a mākou e makemake maoli ai. Noho ʻo Jake ma luna o ka moena corduroy ʻōmaʻomaʻo i loko o koʻu keʻena a pāʻani me ka zipper ma kona hoodie. Ua kamaʻilio ʻo ia e pili ana i kona ola aloha ʻino a ua hoʻopau ʻo ia i ka haʻi ʻana i kahi ʻike hou i loaʻa iā ia, ʻo kēia manawa me kahi wahine āna i hālāwai ai i ka pō Pōʻaono i hala. "Makemake loa au i kahi hoaaloha," i hoʻolaha ai ʻo ia, e nānā ana i waho o ka puka makani a hoʻokuʻu i kahi kani nui. I loko o kahi ʻōlelo wikiwiki, ua hōʻuluʻulu ʻo ia i kāna mea i manaʻo ai.

ʻO ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻokoʻa kaʻu ʻike ʻana i nā mea. ʻAʻole makemake nui ʻo Jake i kahi hoaaloha, e like me kāna hoʻāʻo e haʻi iā ia iho. Pehea wau i ʻike ai? Ma muli o kāna ʻano i haʻi mai ai iaʻu i kāna makemake maoli. Ua hoʻohana ʻo ia i ka hapa nui o nā hopena pule e paʻi i nā kaola me kāna mau hoaaloha a loaʻa nā hookups ʻaʻole i hele ma kahi ʻē. Ua hōʻike anei ka hana a Jake i ka makemake wale e hoʻopili? Ua hōʻole loa ʻo ia i kāna ʻōlelo ʻana ua makemake ʻo ia i ipo wahine? Me Jake, e like me ka hapa nui o ka poʻe, ʻaʻole ʻeleʻele a keʻokeʻo ka mea maoli. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua hakakā ʻo Jake: ʻO kahi ʻāpana o ia i makemake i ka pilina maoli me kahi ipo wahine, ʻoiai ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe i hauʻoli i nā kiʻekiʻe i hele mai me nā hookup.

I ka pōkole, hōʻike ʻo Jake hana ʻaʻole mākaukau maoli ʻo ia no ka pilina aloha maikaʻi. I mea e hiki ai i laila, pono ʻo ia e ʻike hou aʻe e pili ana i ka mea āna i pili ai; hoʻoliʻiliʻi iho me ka kiʻekiʻe o ka waiʻona a me nā hana ʻē aʻe; a hui pū i kāna hana maʻamau o ka hopena pule me nā hana like ʻole ma mua o ka hele ʻana i nā pā a me nā hui like. He aha hou aʻe, ʻaʻole hoʻokahi ʻo Jake. ʻIke wau a hana pū me nā kāne a me nā wahine he nui e makemake lākou i kahi pilina maoli ʻoiai e hōʻike maopopo ana kā lākou ʻano i kahi ʻē aʻe.

Ke hiki mai iā ʻoe a me kou ola aloha, kāu hana ka mea mua e hoʻomaka ai ke nīnau ʻana iā ʻoe iho inā ʻoe mākaukau maoli no kahi pilina. ʻO ke ala wale nō āu e loaʻa ai a mālama i kahi pilina aloha maikaʻi inā hoʻomaka ʻoe ma kahi kahua paʻa paʻa, ʻo ia hoʻi, pono ʻoe e hui pū i kāu (bleep).

Ke mākaukau maoli ʻoe no kahi pilina makua maikaʻi, e hōʻike ana kāu mau ʻano i kou kaulike. E nānā i kekahi o nā koi no ka mākaukau no ka pilina ma lalo nei.

1. ʻAʻole kāu halepule he pā a hale pō paha. ʻO ka hele ʻana i nā kaola a i ʻole nā ​​hale kalapu ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole a i ʻole he mea pale i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pilina maikaʻi. ʻO ka hoʻopuka hou aku e pili ana i kou manaʻo a hana inā ʻoe ma laila e hōʻike ana inā mākaukau maoli ʻoe no kahi pilina. Inā inu nui ʻoe ke hele ʻoe i waho, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i kahi pilina maikaʻi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki iā ʻoe ke hālāwai me kekahi, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia kāu mea maikaʻi loa āu e kau nei i mua, no laila e hoʻopau ʻoe i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole iā ʻoe. Inā makemake ʻoe e hele i waho akā makemake i kahi pilina, ʻaʻohe mea hewa me ia: Hoʻolauna iā ʻoe iho i ka poʻe a, ke hui ʻoe me kahi mea āu e makemake ai, e hoʻolālā e ʻike iā lākou i kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa.

2. Ua noʻonoʻo ʻoe i ke kumu o ka holo ʻole o kāu pili ma mua. ʻAʻohe manawa riper e pāʻani ai i ka "pāʻani pāʻani" ma mua o ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina. Makemake nā kānaka āpau e kuhikuhi i ka manamana lima i ka mea ʻē aʻe, akā pono ʻelua mau mea e hoʻopuehu i ka pilina. Ke mākaukau maoli ʻoe no kahi pilina ʻē aʻe, hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i hope i nā pilina i hala a ʻike i nā ʻano hana āu i hana ai me ke olakino a me ka counterproductive. He aha hou aʻe, ke nānā ʻoe i hope i kēlā mau pilina, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kali-kali no ka ʻawaʻawa. Huhū paha ʻoe i kāu ex no nā kumu maikaʻi, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻawaʻawa (kahi ʻano o ka huhū a me ka hopelessness).

3. Ua hoʻomaha ʻoe mai ka hana keaka. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo no ke aha i holo ʻole ai nā pilina i hala, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo palekana-a noʻonoʻo me ka naʻau-ua hoʻomaha ʻoe mai ka hana keaka e hele mai me nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole a mākaukau e hoʻomālie a loaʻa kahi pilina makua maoli. Ke lohe ʻoe i nā hoaaloha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā lākou hana me ka mea i kū iā lākou a i ʻole i kā lākou mau hakakā i ukali ʻia e ka make-up sex pupule, ʻū a hoʻomanaʻo ʻoe iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻohe ou wahi no kēlā hana keaka i kou ola. ʻIke ʻoe i ke akamai, ʻoi aku ka oʻo, a ʻike ʻoi aku ma mua o ka mea āu e makemake ai a pono mai kāu pakanā aʻe.

ʻO ka pahuhopu o kēlā me kēia kanaka ke hoʻohālikelike i kā lākou ʻōlelo a lākou e makemake ai me ke ʻano a lākou e komo ai, a ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o ke kani ʻana. Eia naʻe, inā e nānā pono ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo a me kāu ʻano, e hoʻokahi ʻanuʻu ʻoe e pili ana i kahi pilina maikaʻi iā ʻoe.

Nā mea hou aʻe ma eHarmony:

ʻO nā kumu nui ʻaʻole makemake nā wahine e moe kolohe

ʻO nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo palekana no ka launa pū ʻana me kēlā me kēia wahine

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