Nīnau aku mākou i nā kāne: "He aha ka mea i hoʻomaka ai e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻoulu?"

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• I nā manawa he nui, hele mai nā mea ʻili e like me ke kaniʻuhū. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, mālama wale mākou.
• E hoʻomaka me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻano akahai
• Hōʻalo loa i ka hoʻokolokolo a me ka hoʻomāinoino
• E hoʻohana i ka hui hui like me kahi manawa kūpono
• Hōʻike i kou mākaukau e kūkulu i ka pilina
• Heluhelu i ka lumi: E ʻike i ka manawa e pololei a mahalo paha
• I nā hihia maʻamau, ʻike wale kekahi mau kāne i ka (a i ka manawa) e nīnau ai

Aia pololei a hewa (nā hewa) i nā ala e hoʻonāukiuki ai nā kāne.

No ke aha he mea paʻakikī e hana i nā kāne e mālama i ka ʻili?

ʻO ia paha ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole kamaʻilio nui nā kāne e pili ana iā lākou iho. ʻO Iesu, 33, hoʻopā i ka pehea e kūkākūkā ʻia ai ka mālama ʻana o ka ʻili i waena o nā kāne no Latinos.

"ʻO ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻili kekahi o ia kumuhana inā ʻoe ma kahi o nā kāne Latino ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻoe e kaʻana like i kāu mālama mālama ʻili, a e hoʻomāʻakaʻaka maoli nō lākou iā ʻoe inā ʻoe e hana. Aia wale nō inā kaʻana ka kāne alpha o ka hui i kekahi mea a laila ʻōlelo, 'E, hoʻohana wau i kēia, pono ʻoe e hoʻohana.' "

Hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻo David, 60, i nā keikikāne a me nā kāne e hoʻohenehene kekahi i kekahi e pili ana i ko lākou ʻili a kūkā ʻole e pili ana i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a i kā lākou hana pilikino. "ʻO ka mālama ʻili wale nō i waena o nā kāne inā he hoʻohenehene ia. E like me, 'Nānā aku iā ʻoe, ua ashy kou kuʻekuʻe wāwae!' ʻO ka hoʻomākeʻaka o Barbershop e like me kēlā. "

I nā manawa he nui, hele mai nā mea ʻili e like me ke kaniʻuhū. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, mālama wale mākou.

E alo iā ia: ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kāne i kou ola e mālama ai i kona ʻili hiki ke paʻakikī. Pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ko lākou ʻano ʻili a me nā pono, nā manaʻo a me ke ʻano pilikino, a me kou hilinaʻi ponoʻī.

ʻAʻole wau e poina pehea wau i hōʻalo ai i ke kōkua ʻana i kahi ipo aloha no ka makaʻu i ka luku ʻana i kona mau manaʻo. ʻAʻole ia e hoʻohana ana i ka huahana ʻumiʻumi kūpono e pale aku iā ia mai nā pahi kahiahi. Ua like kona ʻāʻī me he mea lā ua lawe ʻo ia i kahi grater cheese iā ia.

Ma kahi o ke kōkua ʻana iā ia iho, ua hilinaʻi wau i koʻu makuakāne e komo a hōʻike iā ia i kāna huahana ʻili. ʻAʻole i lawe kaʻu ex i ka ʻōlelo aʻo, akā ʻo ka hoʻomanaʻo ka mea e noʻonoʻo ai iaʻu: Aia kekahi mau ala maikaʻi - nā ala ʻē aʻe - e mālama i nā kāne e mālama i ko lākou ʻili? Pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke kiʻi i nā kāne i ko mākou ola e hoʻomaka i ka moisturizing, sunscreening, exfoliating, a mālama i ko lākou huehue?

No ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi ʻano ʻoi aku o ka ʻili a me nā ʻike - ka maikaʻi, nā mea maikaʻi ʻole, a me nā mea maikaʻi ʻole - Ua kī aku wau i kekahi o kaʻu mau hoaaloha pili loa a me nā lālā o ka ʻohana.

Eia kā lākou ʻike.

E hoʻomaka me ka hoʻohana ʻana i kahi ʻano akahai

Ke hiki mai i kona kaikunāne, ʻo Candice, 26, ʻike he maʻalahi ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. ʻAʻole makemake ʻo ia iā ia ke haʻi aku iā ia i ka mea e hana ai a e haʻi aku iā ia ke hana ʻo ia.

"Pono wau e hōʻoluʻolu maoli iā ia i nā mea. Ua ʻike au e loaʻa ana iā ia nā puʻupuʻu wela, no laila ua ʻōlelo au, 'ʻE, ʻike wau e haki ana kou ʻili. He aha kāu hana e mālama ai? Ke hana nei ia nāu? ’”

I kāna haʻi ʻana iā ia e hoʻohana wale ana i ke kopa, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i kahi scrub exfoliating. "Ua hoʻāʻo ʻo ia a ua like me," Yo, he [dute] kēia dope! E hoʻohana wau i kēia! '"

I ka pili ʻana i ka mālama ʻili i nā wahi heteronormative, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Jussie, 26, he pololei ʻo ia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole e piʻi aʻe ka mālama ʻili.

Hoʻohana pū ʻo Candice i kēia ala me kāna keikikāne, me ka hoʻohui ʻana, "ʻAʻole ʻike nā kāne i kekahi mea e pili ana i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe a i ʻole nā ​​moisturizers, no laila pono wau e paipai iā ia e exfoliate pū kekahi. Ke hoʻohana nei ʻo ia i ke kopa no ka hapa nui, akā i kēia manawa exfoliates ʻo ia i hoʻokahi manawa i ka pule. "

Hōʻalo loa i ka hoʻokolokolo a me ka hoʻomāinoino

ʻ alertlelo Spoiler: ʻO kēia ka maikaʻi ʻole hoʻokokoke ʻana i ke kōkua kekahi hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lākou ʻili. E ʻoluʻolu mai hana hou i kēia!

ʻAʻole i loaʻa iā Monique, 30, he mau ʻili i kona ʻohana a ua lilo i ka nalowale loa ke ʻike ʻo ia i kāna kaikaina me ka huehue.

"Hoʻowahāwahā kona mau hoaaloha iā ia. He lauoho maʻemaʻe a me ka lauoho maka. Ua neʻe ʻo ia i kekahi kūlanakauhale nui aku, a lilo kona mau hiʻohiʻona i mea nui iā ia. Manaʻo wau ua lawe mai kāna huehue i kāna swag i lalo, a he fella liʻiliʻi maikaʻi ʻo ia. A ʻaʻohe mea makemake i ka huehue. ”

"Ua haʻi wau iā ia," Pono ʻoe e holoi hou i kou maka. A hoʻololi i kāu mau ʻūlū. ’” Nīnau akula nō hoʻi ʻo ia iā ia, “Na wai i kau ko lākou mau lima lepo iā ʻoe? ʻO wai ka mea e hoʻopā aku i kou alo? ” I kona haʻi ʻana iā ia e holoi ana i kona alo, ua hiki iā ia ke ʻike i ka hilahila a me ka ukiuki.

ʻAʻole ʻo ia i noi hou iā Monique no ke kōkua me kona ʻili, a i ka nānā ʻana i hope, maopopo iā ia ke kumu.

E hoʻohana i ka hui hui like me kahi manawa kūpono

ʻO Iesū, ka mea i kūkākūkā ma mua o ka hana ʻili ʻana i ka ʻili i waena o nā kāne, ua loaʻa kahi ʻike laha ʻole o ke kūkā kamaʻilio ākea ʻana i ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻili me kahi hoa kāne kāne i ka hui hui.

"Ke hana pū nei mākou me nā haumāna, a ʻo nā kaikamahine a me nā haumāna e ʻano mau me mākou i ka wā hoʻomaha. I kekahi lā, e kau wale ana kā mākou mau haumāna wahine, e kamaʻilio ana e pili ana i nā mea hoʻoliʻiliʻi. A ʻo ia ka manawa kūpono e komo ai i ke kamaʻilio ʻana.

ʻ toldlelo mai ʻo Sean iaʻu, 'E Iesu e, ʻike wau i kou ʻili he ʻano ʻaila. E hoʻāʻo ʻoe i kēia. ʻAʻole ia he kumukūʻai a hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi iā Costco. Hilinaʻi iaʻu, e mahalo mai ʻoe iaʻu. ’”

Ua hele a papa ʻia ʻo Iesū e nā hopena a ua hoʻonui i kāna hana mālama ʻili mai ia wā.

"Ua ʻike au i ka loaʻa ʻana o kuʻu kaikaina i kahi koholele, a ua noi au iā ia e kahi ʻā ʻana a i ʻole ʻaʻole, ua hoʻāʻo anei ʻo ia ʻaʻole paha. A loaʻa iā ia ka huehue i kahi liʻiliʻi, a ʻike wau i kekahi mau puʻupuʻu ... a no laila ua ʻōlelo wau i kekahi mea: 'E kōkua kēia.' " - David, 60

Hōʻike i kou mākaukau e kūkulu i ka pilina

Ua loaʻa iā Iesū kekahi makuahine cosmetologist a me kahi kaikaina therapist lomilomi e huli iā ia no ke kōkua hou aku.

"Ua hiki mau iaʻu ke hele i koʻu māmā e ʻike i nā huahana ʻili e hoʻohana ai. Ua ʻike koʻu kaikaina e pili ana i nā aila no kou ʻili a me nā mea e like me kēlā, no laila ua paipai ʻo ia i kekahi aila a hiki i ka waiū koko no koʻu ʻili, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

ʻO David, ka mea i hōʻike mua i ke koʻikoʻi o ka mālama ʻili i ka hilinaʻi o nā kāne, he hoa wahine kāna nona kahi ʻoihana ʻili.

Ke ʻimi nei i nā loiloi huahana, hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ia i nā huahana e hoʻāʻo, noi i kāna pane, a ʻōlelo hoʻomākeʻaka i nā ala hou.

"Ua ʻike mau wau iā ia no ka wā mau loa, no laila makemake ʻo ia e like," E kuʻu Akua, pono ʻoe e kāpae i ka hoʻohana ʻana i kēlā Vaseline! Ua haʻi wau iā ʻoe e hooki i ka hoʻohana ʻana i kēlā Vaseline! ’A aia kekahi kūʻē ʻana, akā e ʻōlelo ʻo ia, 'Aia, holo pono ia!' E aʻo ʻo ia iaʻu."

Heluhelu i ka lumi: E ʻike i ka manawa e pololei a mahalo paha

ʻO Jussie, 26, mau kona mau makahiki i ka ʻili kīnā ʻole. Ua paipai kona mau mākua iā ia i ka ʻili e mālama i ka ʻili iā ia i ka wā ʻōpio, me ka hoʻokomo ʻana i ka mea nui o ka noho hydrated. (Hilinaʻi iā mākou, hana kupaianaha kēia no ka wehe ʻana i kēlā kukuna o loko.)

I ka pili ʻana i ka mālama ʻana i ka ʻili ma nā wahi heteronormative, ua kākau ʻo ia e pololei ʻo ia, ʻoiai ʻaʻole e piʻi aʻe ka mālama ʻili. (Ma ka ʻokoʻa, aia ʻo ia ma nā wahi LGBTQ +, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana.)

Hana ʻo ia ma ke ʻano he makua dorm. I ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāna mau haumāna kāne, 'ōlelo ʻo Jussie, "mua loa wau. [E ʻōlelo wau], 'Pono ʻoe i ka lotion. No ke aha mai? No ka mea e māwae ana kou ʻili, a ʻaʻole ia he nānā maikaʻi. '"

Makemake kāna mau haumāna ʻeleʻele e kōkua i kāna kōkua pololei a kāhea ʻia e kāhea ʻia me ka hilahila. "Pono paha kaʻu mau haumāna ʻeleʻele i mau mea hoʻomanaʻo," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "ʻAʻole au i manaʻo e kani hou me lākou ka maloʻo o ka ʻili kahi mea e pono ai lākou e makaʻala. Ua hopohopo nui lākou me ka loaʻa ʻole o nā pimples a me nā kīnā ʻole. "

“Aia nō ka ʻili iaʻu a hiki i kēia lā. I kēia manawa noi wale wau i kaʻu wahine no ke kōkua me kuʻu ʻili. ” - Kobby, 36

Pēlā nō, ʻo Erika, 54, ka mea i hakakā i ka ʻili maloʻo e hoʻopuka i kona ola a pau, he ʻano kānana kānana ʻole e hoʻonoe i kāna kāne.

"Ua ʻike au i ka helehelena o kaʻu kāne ua ʻāwīwī maoli. Ua maikaʻi ʻole ia, e like me ka moʻohe! No laila ua noi wale wau iā ia, 'He aha ka hana me kou alo? Ua hoʻohana anei ʻoe i kahi moisturizer? ’Ua hopohopo wau i ka hoʻi ʻana o kāna gout, no ka mea, ua wikiwiki loa kona ʻili. Ua hopohopo wau. ”

Me kona kua i loko o nā huahana mālama ʻili, ua hiki iā ia ke hōʻoia i kahi moisturizer, āna i ʻāpono ai.

Paipai ʻo David i ka mālama ʻili i nā ʻōpio a me nā ʻelemākule ma ke ʻano he māka o ka ʻoihana a me ka haʻaheo iā ʻoe iho.

"Makemake ʻoe e lilo i mea maʻalahi, ʻike ʻoe ... he aha kāu e hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻolālā? Koʻu kaikaina i ke kula kiʻekiʻe, no laila like ia, 'Tighten it. ʻIke wau iā ʻoe kou ʻano [hip-hop], akā makemake mau nā kaikamahine i ka presentable. Makemake ʻoe i kahi hana, pono ʻoe e lilo i mea maʻalahi. ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e nānā e like me ka rhinoceros! '"

"Ua haʻi wale mai kaʻu [wahine] iaʻu e hoʻomaka e hoʻohana i ka moisturizer a me nā mea e like me kēlā. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i koʻikoʻi a i ʻole kekahi mea. Makemake wale ʻo ia e kōkua iaʻu. ” - Orville, 60

Ua ʻōlelo pū ʻo Dāvida i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi ʻili e like me ke ala e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia. Ua kōkua like ʻo ia i kona kupuna kāne e ʻike i nā huahana ʻumi i kūpono no ka ʻili lahilahi ma muli o ka ʻelemakule.

"Ua ʻike au i ka loaʻa ʻana o kuʻu kaikaina i kahi koholele, a ua noi au iā ia e kahi ʻā ʻana a i ʻole ʻaʻole, ua hoʻāʻo anei ʻo ia ʻaʻole paha. A loaʻa iā ia ka huehue i kahi liʻiliʻi, a ʻike wau i kekahi mau puʻupuʻu ... a no laila ua ʻōlelo wau i kekahi mea: 'E kōkua kēia.' "

Ua ʻoluʻolu nā kāne ʻelua i kēia ʻano hoʻokokoke a hoʻāʻo i kāna mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo.

I nā hihia maʻamau, ʻike wale kekahi mau kāne i ka (a i ka manawa) e nīnau ai

ʻO Okonkwo, 28, he mea hoʻolaha iā ia iho "ke kāne kāne" a hilinaʻi loa a me kaila. Ua hakakā ʻo ia i ka huehue i kona wā ʻōpio a ua hele aku i kahi dermatologist.

ʻAʻole ʻo ia i kamaʻilio pū me kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe no ke kōkua me kona ʻili a hilinaʻi hoʻi i kāna mau hoa wahine a mau ipo wahine paha. Manaʻo ʻo ia "ʻike lākou i ke ala e pili ana iā ia ma mua o nā kāne." (Mai kaʻu mau kamaʻilio me nā kāne ʻē aʻe e pili ana i ka mālama ʻili, pololei ʻo ia.)

Ua hakakā ʻo Kobby, 36, me ka huehue i kou wā ʻōpio a hōʻoia i ka noi ʻana i nā kāne ʻē aʻe no ke kōkua me kona ʻili ʻaʻole ia ke ala maikaʻi loa.

"Ke pāʻani nei wau i ka soccer, a ua ʻike kuʻu hoa kime i kahi zit nui ma kuʻu ihu. ʻLelo ʻo ia iaʻu e kaomi a hiki i ka puka ʻana o ka pā a me ke koko, a laila e hoʻohana i kahi pad. No laila ua hoʻi au i ka hale a hana i kēlā. ”

ʻO kēia hoʻokokoke ʻana, ua haʻalele naʻe iā ia. ʻIliahi. “Aia nō ka ʻili iaʻu a hiki i kēia lā. I kēia manawa noi wale wau i kaʻu wahine no ke kōkua me kuʻu ʻili. ”

I ka wā i ʻike ai ʻo Orville, 60, i nā haʻalulu hou loa ma muli o kāna papaʻai vegan, ua noi ʻo ia i kāna wahine no ke kōkua a mahalo iā ia i ke ʻano nonjudgmental. "Ua haʻi wale mai ʻo ia iaʻu e hoʻomaka i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka moisturizer a me nā mea like me kēlā. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i koʻikoʻi a i ʻole kekahi mea. Makemake wale ʻo ia e kōkua iaʻu. ”

A ʻo ia ka kumu nui o nā mea āpau. Ke hoʻopau ʻia nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo mālama ʻili - i nā kāne a me nā wahine - he hana mālama ia, no ke aloha ʻole.

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