10 Nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a me ka launa pū ʻana ma ka pūnaewele no nā kāne ʻike loea

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• Mai kikokiko a hiki i kou hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi lā
• E koho i ke kelepona inā mea nui
• E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kou hoʻouna ʻana
• E kūkulu pinepine i nā leka uila
• E nānā i kāna kaila
• Mai Pāʻani i nā Pāʻani
• ʻAʻole ʻoe e koi ʻia e pane
• E hoʻohana i kēlā Emoji
• E kūkulu i kahua ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana
• Flirt!
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I ka pule i hala, ua hoʻokuʻu ʻo Match.com i kāna mele Singles ʻelima makahiki ma ʻAmelika, e hāʻawi ana iā mākou i ka ʻike hoihoi i ka pili kāne a me nā wahine. E koho 'oe? He huhū, honua ʻenehana ma aneʻi. He kanakolukumamākahi pākēneka o nā kāne a me nā wahine i hui me ko lākou lā hope loa ma ka pūnaewele (ʻokoʻa i kaʻeono pākēneka i kahi pā), 34 pākēneka o nā daters i ko lākou 20 e manaʻo i ka pane i kahi huaʻōlelo ma lalo o 10 mau minuke (!), A me nā mea hoʻohana emoji hou aku. hele i ka lā mua o ka makahiki i hala ma mua o ka poʻe i haʻalele ʻole i ka maka winky ma ka mea o kā lākou aloha kikokiko (52 pākēneka me 27 pākēneka).

Ke nīnau nei kēia mau mea a pau i ka nīnau: pehea mākou e launa maikaʻi ai i ka honua kikohoʻe? ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, ua hōʻuluʻulu mākou i kekahi mau loea pili aloha e ninini i ka pehea e lilo ai i dater tech-savvy ʻoi loa ʻoe. (Akā, mai poina i kēia mau Dos Dating Online ʻeono a me nā hana ʻole no ka palekana Internet.)

Mai kikokiko a hiki i kou hoʻonohonoho ʻana i kahi lā

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

Laurel House, mea kākau o Hoʻopiʻi i nā Rula, manaʻo e pale i ka hoʻi a hiki i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi lā maoli ma nā puke. "He mea maʻalahi loa ka lawe ʻia ʻana, loaʻa i nā kikokikona pili i ka moekolohe, a pepehi i ka pilina ma mua o kou manawa e hui ai," wahi āna. I nā pae mua o ka launa pū ʻana, e noʻonoʻo i ka leka uila wale e like me ka prelude i ka hana maoli: he halawai kanaka.

E koho i ke kelepona inā mea nui

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

Ke hana wale nei paha ʻoe no ka mea pehea ia i hoʻomaka ai (ie ma ka pūnaewele), a i ʻole makemake ʻoe e hōʻalo i ka haʻi ʻana i nā kumuhana paʻakikī me ka leo nui, "ʻaʻohe mea maikaʻi e loaʻa mai i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e kūkākūkā i nā pilikia e pili ana i ka naʻau ma o ka uila uila," wahi a ke kumu aʻo pili aloha. ʻO Neely Steinberg, ka mea kākau o ʻIli i ka Pāʻani. Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ka huikau a huhū paha (e pili ana i ka pae o kāu pilina). Inā he mea nui, e hāpai i ke kelepona! A i ʻole e paʻa a ʻike ʻoe iā ia ma hope.

E noʻonoʻo ma mua o kou hoʻouna ʻana

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

I ke kakahiaka nui, pono ʻoe e akahele. ʻAʻole maopopo ka mea āu e leka uila nei iā ʻoe a i ʻole kou ʻano hoʻomākeʻaka. No laila e heluhelu hou, e nānā ʻelua, a e makaʻala: "Ua kāʻili ʻia kāu mau kikokikona i ka leo a me nā hiʻohiʻona helehelena - ʻaʻole pili i ka nui o nā emoticon āu e hoʻokomo ai," wahi a House. "ʻO kekahi ala e hoʻāʻo ai i ka leo, ʻo ia ke noʻonoʻo e hoʻouna ana ʻo ia i ka huaʻōlelo iā ʻoe. E haʻi me ka leo nui, e hoʻoliʻiliʻi i nā leo, a hoʻoholo inā hiki ke kō e like me ka mea i manaʻo ʻia." (ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e hoʻopau e like me kekahi o kēia mau pōʻino pili pili pūnaewele e hauʻoli ai ʻoe i ka male ʻana.)

E kūkulu pinepine i nā leka uila

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

"Ma muli o ka nalowale ʻana o ka pilina kanaka, paipai au i nā kāne male e hoʻohana pinepine i ka leka uila ma mua o ko lākou makemake," wahi a Steinberg. "Ma hope o ka lā, nani ka hoʻouna ʻana i kahi memo ukali. Inā pili ʻoe i ke kaʻa, e haʻi iā ʻoe e holo lohi ana ʻoe. " Makemake wale ʻoe e hōʻalo i ka lōʻihi o ke kahakaha ʻana o ka ʻōlelo ma mua.

E nānā i kāna kaila

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

ʻ sayslelo ka hale ʻo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e leka i ke ala a lākou e makemake ai e leka uila - no laila e nānā pehea e kikokiko ai i kāna mau memo (lana ka manaʻo e hana like ʻo ia iā ʻoe.). Inā hoʻomaikaʻi ʻo ia i kou mau hiʻohiʻona, makemake paha ʻo ia i ka hoʻomaikaʻi kino. Inā hoʻopaʻa pōkole ʻo ia, ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia he kanaka leka uila. E hōʻoia wale nō i nā pae hoihoi. ʻO kahi ala maikaʻi e hana ai i kēia: e nānā i ka lōʻihi o kāna mau kikokikona me ka lōʻihi o kāu. Inā ʻoe e ʻōwili i hope a ʻike ʻoe he huaʻōlelo ʻoe a pane ʻo ia me hoʻokahi huaʻōlelo, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho: "ʻO koʻu mau pae hoihoi me kāna?" Pono lākou e.

Mai Pāʻani i nā Pāʻani

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

Inā kānalua, e hoʻohana i ka ratio 1: 1-pono ia e hoʻomaka i ka hapalua o ka manawa, a pēlā ʻoe. ʻLelo kēlā, inā he mea kāu e ʻōlelo a pane ai paha, mai pāʻani me ia. "Ua manaʻo ʻia ke ʻano o ke kamaʻilio koke ʻana, no laila, mai kali ʻelua lā ma mua o kou pane ʻana," wahi a House. "ʻO ia ka hoʻouna ʻana i ka hōʻailona ʻaʻole ʻoe hoihoi maoli, a he mea pāʻani pāʻani ʻoe." (A heluhelu i nā kikokikona 6 ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻouna iā ia.)

ʻAʻole ʻoe e koi ʻia e pane

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Steinberg ua ʻike ʻo ia i kekahi koi i kēia mau lā e pane koke i nā kikokikona a me nā leka uila. A inā manuahi ʻoe, e hele no ia! ʻO kēlā ʻōlelo, mai manaʻo ʻoe he pane ʻoe ma lalo o 10 mau minuke e like me ka ʻikepili e manaʻoʻiʻo nei he nui. "He ola piha kou a ʻaʻole ma ka Beck a kēia kanaka hou a kāhea aku," wahi a Steinberg. "I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, kūkulu ia i ke kakali inā lawe ʻoe i kou manawa e pane ai." ʻO ka laina lalo: e ola i kou ola. Pono e kikokiko ke kākau leka inā kūpono, kūpono a / a leʻaleʻa paha.

E hoʻohana i kēlā Emoji

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

ʻO nā stats Match.com e ʻōlelo no lākou iho: ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea hoʻohana emoji aloha e puka i waho i nā lā maoli. Kōkua ka minoʻaka a i ʻole ka ʻimo ʻana i ka mea heluhelu e hōʻike ana he mālamalama kou naʻau a palupalu paha, nā ʻenehana kikokiko maikaʻi ʻelua a alahele ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o kahi "haha" a i ʻole "lol," a Steinberg i ʻōlelo ai hiki ke lilo i huli pau no kekahi. "E makaʻala wale i ka nui o nā emoticon hiki ke lilo i mea hoʻohuli," wahi āna. "ʻAʻole pono e hoʻohana i nā mea ʻoi aku ma mua o hoʻokahi i ka kikokikona hoʻokahi. He kōkua pū kekahi wahi hoʻopuka maikaʻi." Akā, e hoʻohana hou i ka "rule of one" ma mua no kēlā. "'E kakali ana e ike ia oe!' ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe' a i ʻole ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe!!!'" wahi a Steinberg.

E kūkulu i kahua ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo House, he nui ka poʻe e paʻa inā hoʻomāinoino ʻoe i ka leka uila ma mua. ʻO ia ka manaʻo no ka nānā mau ʻana e nānā i kahi kāne hou a ʻaʻohe ʻimi iā ia e hoʻokipa iā ʻoe ke luhi ʻoe. "ʻO ia ka ʻōlelo, ke hoʻokumu hou ʻia ka pilina, ka poʻe, 'Hey uʻi ... e noʻonoʻo ana iā ʻoe,' 'Ke ala nei i luna ou i koʻu manaʻo e kau ana ka minoʻaka i koʻu mau maka,' a i ʻole 'Nā moeʻuhane momona, ipo,' ʻoluʻolu nui, hōʻoluʻolu, a mahalo ʻia, no ka mea, he kahua kāu a mālama maoli nō kekahi i kekahi, "wahi a ka hale. (Eia nō hoʻi, e nānā i kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻē 8 e hele ai mai Kasual a i nā kāne.)

Flirt!

Nā Kiʻi Corbis

"Pono ʻoe e pāʻani ma nā kikokikona. ʻOiaʻiʻo, maikaʻi loa!" wahi a ka Hale. Akā ʻaʻole e hana ʻia kahi huaʻōlelo leʻaleʻa iki. Eia kahi laʻana o kahi huaʻōlelo maikaʻi, no ka Hale: "Ma hope o kahi hālāwai hoihoi loa me kuʻu haku e pili ana i kaʻu kuleana hou (a!), Ua hele au e holo e hoʻomaha i koʻu kino a me koʻu noʻonoʻo. Makemake ʻoe e hoʻomaha ana ʻoe me kahi kīʻaha o waina me aʻu. Pehea kāu hui ʻana i kēia lā? Manaʻo wau ua paʻa ʻoe!"

No ke aha e hana ai: ʻaʻole palaka a i ʻole paha. Ke komo nei, a aia kahi ʻike hohonu e pili ana i ka mea i hōʻike ʻia, hiki ke hōʻaiʻē i ke kamaʻilio lōʻihi lōʻihi a i ʻole kanaka ma hope, ua wehewehe ʻo ia. "Aia hoʻi, aia ka hoʻokalakupua a me ka hoihoi me nā huaʻōlelo puana." ʻO kahi haʻilula maikaʻi: ʻo ka mua, e kaʻana like i kahi mea āu i hana ai e hana ai paha e piko i kona hoihoi, a laila e nīnau i kahi nīnau. ʻĀnō, e hele a pēhi i ka send, e nā wāhine.

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