Hoʻopuka ʻo Gmail i ka leka leo i ka wā e pili ana i ke aloha

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Makemake ʻoe e hōʻike i kou aloha i kāu S.O.? E nīnau i kahi hoihoi aloha no ka manawa mua? Mai ʻohi i ke kelepona - ʻoiai inā ʻike ʻoe e haʻalele ʻoe i kahi leka uila; e wehe iā Gmail.

Ma kahi pepa hou i kapa ʻia ʻo "To Email or Not to Email," ua hoʻoholo ka poʻe noiʻi - ʻoiai ka manaʻo o ka leka uila he mea anuanu, ʻoihana like ʻole i kūpono no ka hōʻike ʻana i nā manaʻo-ʻoe. pono ʻoiaʻiʻo leka uila! Ua hōʻike ʻia kā lākou noiʻi ʻana i ka kākau ʻana i ka leka uila hou aku ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka haʻi ʻana i nā manaʻo aloha ma mua o ka waiho ʻana i kahi leo leo, e like me ka pepa, i ʻae ʻia no ka paʻi ʻana ma ka puke pai. Kamepiula ma ke ano kanaka.

Ma ke aʻo ʻana, ua noi ʻia nā haumāna haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa he 72 e haku i leka uila aloha a waiho i kahi leka leo aloha no kā lākou hoa kāne, hoaaloha, a i ʻole hoa kāne. (Inā ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā lākou kekahi, ua noi ʻia lākou e kākau i kahi leka e nīnau ana i kahi mea makemake lākou i kahi lā.) A laila hoʻāʻo nā mea noiʻi pehea lākou i hana ai i ka physiologically-pehea i ʻike ai ko lākou kino i ka manaʻo-ma ke kau ʻana i nā ʻili ʻili ma ko lākou he mau maka e ana i ka neʻe ʻana o ka ʻiʻo e pili ana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole, a ma ko lākou mau wāwae e ana i ka nui o ka hoʻoulu ʻana o nā mea komo (he hōʻailona o ka hoʻāla ʻana). Ua hoʻohana pū lākou i kahi lako polokalamu no ka nānā ʻana i ke ʻano o ka hoʻoulu ʻana i nā ʻōlelo maoli a ka poʻe hoʻouna i hoʻohana ai i kā lākou mau leka.

Ua ʻike nā mea noiʻi i ka wā i haʻalele ai nā mea komo i kahi leka uila a i hoʻouna ʻia i kahi leka uila, ʻaʻohe ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. Eia naʻe, i ka wā e hoʻāla ai, ua ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ka poʻe i ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā leka uila ma mua o ka haʻalele ʻana i nā leo leo. A ma ke ʻano o ka ʻike maoli o nā leka aloha, ʻo ka hoʻouna ʻana i kahi leka uila i alakaʻi i ka ʻōlelo ikaika a me ka noʻonoʻo ma mua o ka waiho ʻana i kahi leka uila. (A ʻo ka mea kupanaha, ʻaʻohe ʻokoʻa o ka hoʻāla ʻana ma waena o ka poʻe i pili i ka pilina a me ka poʻe e noi ana i kekahi no ka manawa mua.) ʻO ka mea mahalo, ua ʻike nā mea noiʻi ʻoiai i ka wā i noi ai lākou i nā haumāna haʻahaʻa e kākau i kahi leka hoʻohana ʻoi aku ka hana. -no ka laʻana, e pili ana i nā māka a i ʻole ke keʻena - ʻoi aku ka nui o nā manaʻo i loko o nā leka uila a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka leka uila.

"ʻAʻole kēia ka mea a mākou i manaʻo ai. Ua manaʻo mākou ʻo ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka leka uila e emi ke aloha ma mua o ka leo leo, akā ua ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o ke kino i ka hoʻouna ʻana i nā leka uila me ka haʻalele ʻana i nā leo leo, "wahi a ka mea kākau noiʻi ʻo Alan Dennis, Ph.D., professor. ma ke kula ʻo Kelley ʻoihana ʻo Indiana University.

No ke aha paha kēia? Manaʻo ka poʻe noiʻi no ka mea ʻike mākou ʻaʻole i hōʻike ʻia ka leka uila a ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke haʻi i nā nuances ma o kā mākou leo ​​leo, hoʻopaʻi mākou-ma ka noʻonoʻo a i ʻole subconsciously-ma ka hoʻohui ʻana i nā ʻike maikaʻi a me ka ʻoi aku ka maopopo, wehewehe ʻo Dennis.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, aia kekahi mau kumu ʻē aʻe e pāʻani ana paha. Ke kākau ʻana i leka uila, maʻalahi ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kāu mea e ʻōlelo ai, e ʻae iā ʻoe e hana i ka memo pololei āu e makemake ai, ʻaʻole like me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka pololei ma ka hoʻāʻo mua ʻana ma ka leo leo (no ka mea, ʻo wai ka mea makemake e hoʻopaʻa hou?!). ʻAʻole e hōʻike ʻia, he ʻelemakule nā ​​haumāna i hoʻopaʻa ʻia, i ulu a makua i kahi ʻano uila, a ʻoluʻolu paha me ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka leka uila a me ka leka uila e hōʻike ai i ka naʻau. No laila, ʻoiai e noʻonoʻo ʻia ka leo leo ma ke ʻano he 'kūlohelohe' ʻano o ka media mai kahi ʻano biology (no ka mea ua kokoke loa ia i ke kamaʻilio maka-a-maka), ʻaʻole paha ia e like me ke ʻano maoli no nā millennials e like me kekahi o ka hanauna kahiko- Hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia ma ka nānā ʻana i ka nui o nā leo leo i kāu kelepona mai kou makuahine. (Aloha ʻoe, e ka makuahine!)

Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo e pili ana i ka hopena ma ka mea loaʻa o nā leka i ʻōlelo ʻia, pono ʻoe e kali no kahi hoʻopaʻa ʻokoʻa, akā e paʻi ʻia, akā he mea kūpono ke kuhi i nā leka kikoʻī e hoʻonāukiuki nui nei i ka mea hoʻouna i mea maikaʻi ma ka hopena ʻē aʻe. -a ʻoi loa inā he kāne ma kēlā ʻaoʻao, kuhikuhi ʻo Dennis.

"Aia kekahi noiʻi ʻē aʻe e hōʻike ana i nā kāne ʻaʻole e ʻohi i nā leo leo e like me nā wahine; e nānā nui lākou i ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia. e 'loaʻa' ma o ka leka uila, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. ʻAe, kākoʻo mākou i kēlā!

ʻO ka nīnau maopopo aʻe: Pehea e pili ana i ka leka uila? ʻOiai ʻaʻole i aʻo pono ka poʻe noiʻi ma aneʻi, he "hopena kūpono" e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma luna o ka leo leo, wahi a Dennis, no ka mea e hiki ai i nā pono like me ka leka uila. (Ma kēlā memo, e ʻike i kēia 10 Texting and Online Dating Tips no Tech-Savvy Singles.)

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole kēia mau mea āpau e hoʻowahāwahā i kahi kamaʻilio maka-a-alo a kamaʻilio paha ma ke kelepona, akā he hoʻomanaʻo kōkua ia e hoʻololi maoli ka mea a mākou e koho ai i ka mea a mākou e ʻōlelo ai. Lana ka manaʻolana, e kōkua kēia noiʻi iā mākou e hoʻi i hope a noʻonoʻo hou i nā 'leka leka uila' maʻamau i aʻo ʻia iā mākou, a, me kekahi laki (e like me kā mākou hopohopo ma ka liʻiliʻi loa!), E kau i ka nail hope loa. i ka pahu kupapaʻu no ka leo leo weliweli.

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