ʻ Sciencelelo ka ʻepekema ʻo nā hoa aloha ke kī i ke olakino a me ka hauʻoli mau

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ʻO ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha ʻelua mau ʻano pilina koʻikoʻi i kou ola, ʻaʻohe kānalua. Akā i ka wā e hauʻoli ai ʻoe i ka wā lōʻihi, e kahaha paha ʻoe i ka hui ʻoi aku ka ikaika. ʻOiai he mea koʻikoʻi nā lālā o ka ʻohana, i ka wā e pili ana i ka olakino maikaʻi a me ka hauʻoli, ʻo ka hoaaloha ka mea e ʻoi aku ka nui o ka ʻokoʻa - ʻoi aku ka nui o kou ulu ʻana, e like me ka noiʻi hou. (E ʻike i nā ala he 12 e hoʻonui ai kāu hoa aloha i kou olakino.)

He ʻatikala i paʻi ʻia ma ka puke pai Nā pilina pilikino, ka mea i hōʻuluʻulu i nā ʻike o nā haʻawina pili ʻelua, ua hōʻike ʻia ʻoiai ʻo ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha e hāʻawi i ke olakino a me ka hauʻoli, ʻo ka pilina kanaka me nā hoaaloha ka hopena nui ma hope o ke ola. ʻO ka huina, ʻoi aku ma mua o 278,000 mau kānaka o nā makahiki like ʻole mai kahi kokoke i 100 mau ʻāina i nānā ʻia, e helu ana i ko lākou olakino a hauʻoli. ʻIke ʻia, i ka lua o ka hoʻopaʻa naʻau (e kia ana i nā mākua makua, kikoʻī), ua ʻike ʻia i ka wā o ke aikāne ke kumu o ka haunaele a me ke koʻikoʻi, ua hōʻike nā poʻe i nā maʻi kūlohelohe, ʻoiai ke manaʻo ʻia kekahi e kākoʻo ʻia e kā lākou aloha, ua hōʻike lākou i nā pilikia olakino he nui. a hoʻonui i ka hauʻoli. (E like me ka wā e kōkua ai lākou iā ʻoe i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa paʻakikī. ʻAe, ʻo ka hoʻoikaika ʻana me kahi hoa hiki ke hoʻonui i kou hoʻomanawanui ʻana i ka ʻeha.) He mea nui ia e hoʻomaopopo, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole i huki ka poʻe noiʻi i kahi laina ma waena o kekahi e hoʻoulu ai i kekahi-a.k.a. ʻO ka hāʻule ʻana me kāu hoaaloha ʻaʻole ia e maʻi.

No ke aha mai? Hele mai i lalo i ke koho, wahi a William Chopik, Ph.D., ka mea kākau o ka pepa a me kahi polofesa ma ke Kulanui ʻo Mokuʻāina ʻo Michigan. "Manaʻo wau e pili ana paha i ke ʻano koho o nā hoaaloha - hiki iā mākou ke mālama a puni i nā mea a mākou e makemake ai a nalowale mālie i nā mea a mākou e makemake ʻole ai," wehewehe ʻo ia. "Hoʻohana pinepine mākou i nā hana leʻaleʻa me nā hoaaloha, ʻoiai ʻo ka pilina ʻohana hiki pinepine ke kaumaha, maikaʻi ʻole, a i ʻole monotonous."

Hiki i nā hoaaloha ke hoʻopiha i nā āpau i waiho ʻia e ka ʻohana a hāʻawi i ke kākoʻo i nā ala hiki ʻole a ʻaʻole hiki i nā ʻohana, hoʻohui ʻo ia. Hiki paha i nā hoaaloha ke hoʻomaopopo iā ʻoe ma kahi pae ʻokoʻa ma mua o ka ʻohana, ma muli o nā ʻike like a me nā makemake. ʻO kēia ke kumu nui o ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina me nā hoaaloha kahiko a i ʻole e hoʻāʻo e launa hou inā ua lilo ka pili me kāu kamaliʻi kamaliʻi a kaikuaʻana paha. ʻOiai e loli ke ola a me ka mamao i hiki ke paʻakikī i kēia manawa i kekahi manawa, pono ke kōkua i nā pōmaikaʻi e kiʻi i ke kelepona a hoʻouna paha i kēlā leka uila.

"ʻO ka launa aloha kekahi o nā pilina paʻakikī e mālama ma o ka lōʻihi o ke ola," wahi a Chopik. "ʻO ka ʻāpana o ia mea e pili ana i ka hemahema o ke kuleana. Noho pū nā hoa aloha no ka mea makemake lākou e koho, ʻaʻole no ka mea pono lākou e hana."

Mahalo aia kekahi mau ala maʻalahi e mālama a hoʻonui i ka launa aloha nui. Paipai ʻo Chopik e hōʻoiaʻiʻo e lilo i ʻāpana o kāu mau hoaaloha i kēlā me kēia lā ma ke kaʻana ʻana i kā lākou kūleʻa a me ka ʻae ʻana i kā lākou hāʻule ʻole - ʻo ia hoʻi he alakaʻi hauʻoli a he poʻohiwi e hilinaʻi ai. Eia kekahi, ʻōlelo ʻo ia e kōkua pū ana ka hāʻawi ʻana a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā hana hou, e like me ka hōʻike ʻana i ka mahalo. ʻO ka haʻi aku i nā poʻe āu e aloha ai iā lākou a mahalo i ko lākou alo i kou ola he mea liʻiliʻi ia e hana ai, akā hiki iā ia ke hoʻololi i ka nohona o kēlā me kēia. No kēlā mea, pono ʻoe e mahalo i nā hoa ʻelua a ohana.

ʻAʻole kekahi o kēia e ʻōlelo he mea nui ʻole ka ʻohana, akā hāʻawi ke aloha i nā pono kūikawā, a pono ʻoe e hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hānai ai i kēia mau pilina kūikawā. ʻAe, ua hāʻawi wale mākou iā ʻoe i ka hōʻoia ʻepekema pono ʻoe i kahi pō kaikamahine, STAT.

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