8 Nīnau e nīnau ai ma mua o ka moekolohe ʻana me ia
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- Ua hoʻāʻo ʻia ʻoe?
- Male 'ia paha' oe?
- Makemake ʻoe i kāu hana?
- Kaa maikaʻi! ʻO ia ka mea āu e hoʻohana ai no ka ʻohi ʻana i nā moa?
- He hoaaloha anei ʻoe me kāu Ex?
- La lauoho ino, huh?
- He aha kaʻu mau mea e manaʻo ai?
- ʻAʻole wau e ʻike hou iā ia?
- Nānā no
ʻOiai nā mea ʻoniʻoni e haʻi mai iā mākou, ʻaʻohe kānāwai paʻakikī a wikiwiki e pili ana i ka wā e moe kolohe ai ʻoe me kāu kāne hou no ka manawa mua. ʻElima paha mau minuke ma hope o kou hui ʻana me ia, a ma hope paha o ka male ʻana-ʻaʻohe o ka hoʻokolokolo!
Akā no ka lōʻihi o kou kali ʻana, aia kekahi mau nīnau iā ʻoe pono e nīnau i kāu hoa a iā ʻoe iho ma mua o kou moe ʻana. ʻIke ʻia kekahi - ʻaneʻane ʻike ka poʻe a pau e nīnau e pili ana i nā STI a me ka mana hānau, a he mea kūpono ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi e hele ai ka pilina. Akā ʻaʻole pololei ka nīnau ʻē aʻe. No ka laʻana, pehea ʻoe e nīnau ai i kahi kāne āu i ʻike ai inā he haʻaheo haʻaheo ʻo ia i ka moena? Māmā: ʻAʻole ʻoe. Akā ʻaʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo me nā nīnau liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi. Ua kamaʻilio mākou i ka poʻe loea, e like me kahi luna CIA mua, e noʻonoʻo i nā pane āu e pono ai ma mua o kou pili ʻana me ia-a he aha nā nīnau kūpono e ʻike ai i nā hae ʻulaʻula.
Ua hoʻāʻo ʻia ʻoe?
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He ʻoihana koʻikoʻi nā STI, a ʻo ia hoʻi ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonani i ke kumuhana ma muli wale nō o ke kūlike ʻole o ka naʻau, i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka mea noiʻi moekolohe kanaka ʻo Nicole Prause, Ph.D. "Hōʻike ka ʻikepili i ka wā e ʻōlelo ai ka poʻe 'Maʻemaʻe wau,' ʻo kā lākou manaʻo maoli ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i nā ulu ikaika," wahi a Prause. "A i ka wā e ʻōlelo ai lākou ua 'hoʻāʻo maʻemaʻe,' ʻōlelo pinepine lākou e pili ana i ka maʻi HIV. ʻO ke ala maʻalahi e hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kēia kamaʻilio ʻana ʻo ka hoʻāʻo ʻana iā ʻoe iho. "ʻO ke kumu maʻamau o ka lawe ʻole ʻana o ka poʻe STI me kahi hoa kūpono no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i hoʻāʻo ʻia," i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., he loea pili ma ke Kulanui o Indiana a me ka mea kākau o ka puke i hoʻokuʻu hou ʻia. ʻO ka Coregasm Workout. "Maopopo iā lākou e hoʻi hou ana ka nīnau iā lākou. E hoʻāʻo iā ʻoe iho, a e ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ke kamaʻilio ʻana." (Ke noi nei e pili ana i ka mōʻaukala hōʻike kekahi o nā kamaʻilio 7 āu e pono ai no kahi ola olakino olakino.)
Male 'ia paha' oe?
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ʻOiai he pilina pili wale kēia, makemake ʻoe e ʻike inā ke ʻike nei ʻo ia i nā wahine ʻē aʻe. A pono ʻoe, wahi a Herbenick, no ka mea - ʻo ka lili ma kahi ʻē - he mea nui e ʻike i ke ʻano o ke kūlana āu e komo ai iā ʻoe iho. Manaʻo ka hapanui o mākou inā pili aloha kekahi kāne ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻopalau ʻia, akā, ʻe, ua lohe mākou āpau i nā moʻolelo. ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole paha e hele pololei mai kahi kāne male a hōʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ma ka nīnau pololei ʻana iā ia, e kau ʻoe iā ia ma kahi kūpono ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke moe mālie. E nīnau i kēia nīnau ma ke ʻano hoʻohenehene, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana ia mea ma ke ʻano he paepae e ʻōlelo ai, "ʻAʻole, akā koʻikoʻi, ke ʻike nei ʻoe i nā wahine ʻē aʻe?" (ʻAʻole maopopo? Wahi a kēia Infidelity Survey, ʻo ka hoʻopunipuni ka mea maʻamau i waena o nā kāne male ma mua o ka mea āu e manaʻo ai.)
Makemake ʻoe i kāu hana?
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He aha kāu hana? Nanea paha ʻoe? He aha ke ʻano o ka lā hana maʻamau? Makemake ʻoe i kāu mau hoa hana?
Mai nīnau iā ia i kēia mau nīnau i ka manawa hoʻokahi-ʻaʻole ʻoe e nīnau hou iā ia. Akā ʻo ka nīnau ʻana i nā nīnau kikoʻī ʻehā a ʻelima paha e pili ana i hoʻokahi kumuhana he ala maʻalahi ia e ʻike ai i kahi mea wahaheʻe, e like me ka ʻōlelo a ka luna hoʻomalu huna CIA i haʻalele ʻia ʻo B.D. Foley, mea kākau o ʻO CIA Street Smarts no nā Wahine. "I ka CIA, hoʻāʻo mākou e loaʻa kahi moʻolelo uhi e ola ai ʻekolu mau nīnau," wehewehe ʻo Foley. "Ma hope o ʻekolu mau nīnau, lilo i mea paʻakikī ka mālama ʻana i ka uhi, no laila mākou e hoʻāʻo e hoʻohuli hou i ke kamaʻilio. ʻO kēia paha ka mea a ka mea wahaheʻe e hana ai." ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hopu iā ia ma kahi hana hoʻopunipuni e ʻike ai inā he wahaheʻe ʻo ia, e hoʻolohe wale inā hoʻomaka ʻo ia e pale i ka wā e hohonu loa ai ka laina o ka nīnau. A e hoʻomanaʻo: Inā he wahaheʻe ʻo ia e like me kāna ʻoihana (ʻoiai inā he mea hoʻohiwahiwa iā ʻoe), ua wahaheʻe paha ʻo ia no nā mea ʻē aʻe.
Kaa maikaʻi! ʻO ia ka mea āu e hoʻohana ai no ka ʻohi ʻana i nā moa?
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ʻO ka flattery nā mea āpau - ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe e hoʻokiʻekiʻe, wahi a Foley. Hōʻailona inā loaʻa iā ia kahi ʻeona e, me ka hao, stroking iā ia. "Kāhea ʻia kēia he 'ptery ploy,'" wahi a Foley. "ʻO kahi kanaka maʻamau, haʻahaʻa e lawe me ka ʻoluʻolu, a hilahila paha. Akā ʻo ka mea haʻaheo e hoʻohana i kāu mau huaʻōlelo e like me kahi mea lele e haʻaheo ai iā lākou iho a i kā lākou hana paha." Inā lawe ʻo ia i nā mahalo āpau āu e hāʻawi aku ai iā ia a ukali iā ia me kahi kamaʻilio he 10 mau minuke e pili ana i kona kupaianaha, ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia ke ʻano kāne āu e makemake ai e hiamoe (heluhelu: ʻano pilikino, a me ka pīhoihoi paha i ka moena).
He hoaaloha anei ʻoe me kāu Ex?
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ʻO ke ʻano o kāna kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā pilina i hala e hiki ke hōʻike ʻia, wahi a New York-based psychologist Ben Michaelis, Ph.D., mea kākau o ʻO kāu mea nui aʻe: ʻumi mau ʻanuʻu liʻiliʻi e neʻe ai a hauʻoli. "Inā mahalo ʻo ia ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi ipo aloha, he hōʻailona maikaʻi kēlā e mahalo ʻo ia iā ʻoe," wehewehe ʻo ia. He mea ʻino paha ka noi ʻana i kahi kāne e hōʻike i kāna mōʻaukala pili, no laila e alakaʻi i ka nīnau me kekahi ʻike (inoffensive) e pili ana. kou nā pili i hala. "Ma ka CIA, kapa mākou i kēia 'hāʻawi e loaʻa,'" wahi a Foley. "Ke hāʻawi ʻoe i kekahi ʻike e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, e manaʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe e koi i ka ʻoluʻolu." (A laila hou, Eia ke kumu o ʻoe ʻAʻole pono E hoa aloha me kou Ex.)
La lauoho ino, huh?
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He mea koʻikoʻi ka palekana, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi inā pili ʻoe me kahi hoa hou. Akā inā ua hui wale ʻoe me ia, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe i loaʻa ka manawa e ʻike ai i kāna kala ʻokoʻa. ʻO ka mea nui loa e hoʻokuʻu aku i ka huhū a i ʻole nā pilikia kaohi, hiki ke pilikia ia mau mea ʻelua inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻolālā e ʻike hou iā ia. No ka hoʻoholo inā he kāne maʻamau a i ʻole he mea pepehi serial paha ia, manaʻo ʻo Foley e hoʻohana i kahi hana "hoʻonāukiuki haʻahaʻa". Eia pehea e hana ai: Hoʻolālā iā ia me ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa ʻana iā ia e pili ana i kahi mea āna e haʻaheo nei, e like me kāna kaʻa hou a i ʻole kāna ʻumiʻumi lauoho maikaʻi. "ʻAʻole hiki i ka poʻe me nā ʻano kolohe ke pale aku i ka poke e like me kēia," wahi a Foley. "E huhū a huhū paha lākou. ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻike ʻana i ka puka ʻana o kēia ʻano i loko o kahi pā, ke hoʻopuni ʻia ʻoe e nā kānaka, ma mua o ka lumi moe." E hoʻomanaʻo wale nō e hoʻomālamalama. ʻAʻole ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e hōʻeha iā ia (a ʻo kekahi poʻe maoli paʻakikī e pili ana i ko lākou lauoho!).
He aha kaʻu mau mea e manaʻo ai?
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Ma mua o kou hiamoe ʻana me ia, he mea nui e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i kāu mea e makemake ai i ka moe kolohe a me ka pilina. Hiki pinepine nā manaʻo ikaika i ka wā e uhai ʻia ai kāu mau manaʻo, e like me ka wā i lanakila ʻole ai ʻoe i kahi makana a hauʻoli, a i ʻole ke kaumaha nui i ka make hikiwawe, wahi a Prause.No ka mea, makemake ʻoe e hoʻokalakupua i ka moekolohe ma mua o ka hiki ʻana mai, kiʻekiʻe kou mau manaʻo. He pilikia paha kēlā inā ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e hana i ka hāʻule. ʻAʻole ia he mea nui inā ʻoe e ʻimi nei i kahi kū hoʻokahi pō a i ʻole kahi pilina lōʻihi (a i ʻole kekahi mea ma waena), e ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e pili ana i ka mea āu e manaʻo ai e hana i ke kakahiaka ma hope (a he aha kāu ʻano. maikaʻi), wahi āna.
ʻAʻole wau e ʻike hou iā ia?
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I kekahi manawa paʻakikī ka hoʻopono iā ʻoe iho e pili ana inā hiki iā ʻoe ke lawelawe i kahi pilina maʻamau, no laila ke ʻōlelo nei ʻo Herbenick e noʻonoʻo ana i ka hanana ʻoi loa o ka hihia. "Inā ʻae kāu pane, a laila e hele no ia," wahi a Herbenick. "Akā inā ʻaʻole, makemake nō ʻoe e kali a hiki ʻo ia ʻAe, a i ʻole a mākaukau ʻolua no kahi pilina koʻikoʻi." (I kēia manawa, ʻaʻole ʻo ia wale nō ka mea me kekahi mau haʻawina home ed sex! Brush up on the 8 Things Men Wish Women Knew About Sex.)