Nā Haʻawina 5 i aʻo ʻia mai ka JLaw ma ka pili kāne kāne kahiko

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I ka wā i hoʻolaha ʻia ai kēlā lanakila Oscar ʻO Jennifer Lawrence Ua kāhea aku ʻo ia iā Coldplay frontman ʻO Chris Martin, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo ua pihoihoi loa mākou. ʻO ka Pāʻani Pōloli ʻo ka hōkū, 24, e pili ana i ka mea hoʻokani pila 37 makahiki mai Iune, ma hope koke iho o kāna "uncoupling noʻonoʻo" mai Gwyneth Paltrow, kana wahine mua o 10 makahiki, i ka hopena o Malaki.

Ua haʻi ʻia kahi insider US Weekly ʻo ke kumu o ka hoʻokaʻawale ma muli o kā lākou papa hana "pupule", a ua "pōhaku" ka pilina. A ʻoiai mākou e ʻae nei ʻaʻole like ka mea like ʻole mai ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ua loaʻa iā mākou ka manaʻolana kiʻekiʻe no ka mea keaka maikaʻi a me kāna wahine hou.

Akā i kēia manawa ua kapu ka kāne, pono mākou e nīnau i ka naʻauao o Lawrence ʻaʻole wale i ke koho ʻana i kahi hoa 13 mau makahiki o kou ʻelemakule, akā he kāne hoʻi i puka mai i kahi male lōʻihi (me nā keiki). Ua kamaʻilio mākou i ʻelua mau loea pili pili i ka mea a mākou e noʻonoʻo pono ai inā pili ʻoe i ka ʻelemakule, a me / a i ʻole hemo ʻē, nā kāne.

1. Hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole paha ʻo ia pū kekahi. ʻOiaʻiʻo, he mea hoʻowalewale ke noʻonoʻo ʻana ʻo ka pili ʻana i kahi kāne ʻelemakule ke ʻano o ka ʻoi aʻe o ke oʻo a me ke kūpaʻa ma ke ʻano maʻamau, akā pono paha ʻoe e hoʻonohonoho hou i kāu mau manaʻo-he helu wale nō ka makahiki, ma hope o nā mea a pau. "Mai manaʻo ʻoi aku kona mākua a i ʻole nā ​​pane āpau no ka mea ua ʻelemakule ʻo ia," i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo April Beyer, kahi loea pili a me ka loea pili pili.

2. Loaʻa i kou ola ponoʻī. "Ua ʻike au i nā wahine he nui i komo i loko o ka moemoeā o ka mālama ʻia ʻana, e hoʻopaneʻe wale i ko lākou ala ponoʻī e lawe ai i ka hilinaʻi a me ke kūpaʻa," wahi a Beyer. E ʻike pono aia ʻoe ma ka lepo paʻa ma kāu iho, ma ka naʻau a me ke kālā, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke kū ma kou mau wāwae ʻelua inā hemo ka pili.

3. He mea maoli ke kipi ʻana. "Inā haʻalele koke kekahi kanaka a hoʻokaʻawale ʻia paha mai kahi hui lōʻihi, e lōʻihi ka manawa e hoʻoponopono ai i ka pohō," wehewehe ʻo Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., he kumu aʻoaʻo no ka psychology ma California State University, San Bernadino. Inā hele wikiwiki lākou, ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa ka naʻau no ka hoa hou. Hoʻokahi hōʻailona hōʻailona: hōʻole ʻole e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kāna ex-a i ʻole e loaʻa i ka manaʻo nui e pili ana iā ia-hiki ke lilo i hae ʻulaʻula ʻaʻole ia i hoʻoponopono i ka hopena o kēlā hui. ʻO ka mea āu e makemake ai e ʻimi he leo kūʻokoʻa a pololei ke kamaʻilio ʻo ia no ia mea, e hōʻike ana ua maluhia ʻo ia.

4. Hele pū kāna mau keiki me ia. "Pono ʻoe e ʻike i kāna mau keiki-a me ex-e lilo i ʻāpana o kou ola inā pau ʻoe me ia," wahi a Campbell. A inā aia ʻoe i kou 20, pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo i ke ʻano o kēia e lilo i makua makua. ʻOiai ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kēlā mau makahiki e ʻike ai ʻo wai ʻoe he mākua, e lawe mai ana i nā keiki i loko o ka huikau ma mua o kou mākaukau ʻana e kākau i ka pilikia.

5. Ke ʻimi nei i kahi fling? E hele no ia. Ua hiki i kahi kanaka hoʻokahi ke hoʻolako i nā leʻaleʻa he nui no kahi manawa pōkole, wahi a Campbell. Hoʻohui, inā ʻkoe "pili" hou ʻoe iā ʻoe iho (e like me Lawrence, ka mea i kaʻawale mai kāna ipo kāne o ʻekolu mau makahiki), hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu kāne hou ke hoʻomaopopo pū e pili ana i nā naʻau āu e ʻike nei, hoʻohui ʻo ia. ʻOi aku ka hauʻoli o nā hoa i loaʻa nā mea like, no laila, ʻo kēia ka mea like.

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