Ka hōʻeha kolohe - ka pale ʻana

ʻO ka hōʻeha kolohe kekahi ʻano o ka hana moekolohe a i ʻole ka hoʻopili ʻana i kū me kāu ʻae ʻole. Pākuʻi ʻia kēia i ka pākana (komo ʻia i loko) a me nā pā kīnā ʻole e makemake ʻia.

ʻO ka hōʻeha kolohe ka hewa mau o ka mea hana kolohe (ke kanaka e hoʻouka ana). ʻAʻole wale i nā wahine e pale i ka hōʻeha kolohe. ʻO ke pale ʻana i ka hōʻino moekolohe ke kuleana o kēlā me kēia kanaka i loko o ke kaiāulu.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā ʻanuʻu e noho palekana, ʻoiai e leʻaleʻa nei i kahi ola a me kahi ola kaiaulu. ʻO ke kī e aʻo hou e pili ana i ka pilikia a hāhai i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hiki ke pale aku iā ʻoe iho a me kou mau hoaaloha.

Wahi a nā loea olakino, he kuleana kā mākou āpau e kōkua ai i ka pale ʻana i ka hōʻeha kolohe. Pono nā kānaka āpau e hana i nā hana e kūʻē ai i ka hana kolohe i ke kaiāulu.

ʻLelo mai. Inā lohe ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻomālamalama nei i ka hana kolohe a i ʻole ke ʻae ʻana iā ia, e ʻōlelo. Inā ʻike ʻoe i kekahi e hoʻomāinoino ʻia a hōʻeha ʻia paha, e kāhea koke aku i nā mākaʻi.

Kōkua e hana i kahi hana palekana a i ʻole kahi kula. E nīnau e pili ana i nā wahi hana a i ʻole nā ​​papahana kula e pili ana i ka hoʻomāʻewaʻewa a i ʻole ka hōʻeha. E ʻike i kahi e hele ai e hōʻike i ka hoʻomāinoino a me ka hana ʻino iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole nā ​​mea ʻē aʻe.

Kākoʻo hāʻawi. Inā ʻike ʻoe i kahi hoaaloha a ʻohana paha o ka mea i loko o ka pilina hoʻomāinoino, hāʻawi i kāu kākoʻo. E hoʻopili iā lākou me nā hui kūloko i hiki ke kōkua.

E aʻo i kāu poʻe keiki. E haʻi i nā keiki e hoʻoholo lākou i ka mea hiki ke hoʻopā iā lākou a ma hea - a me nā lālā o ka ʻohana. E hoʻomaopopo iā lākou hiki iā lākou ke hele mai iā ʻoe inā pili kekahi iā lākou me ka kūpono ʻole. E aʻo i nā keiki e mahalo i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a mālama i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ke ala a lākou e makemake ai e mālama ʻia.

E aʻo i nā ʻōpio e pili ana i ka ʻae. E hoʻomaopopo pono i nā ʻōpio i ka pili o ka moekolohe a i ʻole ka hana e ʻae ʻia e nā kānaka ʻelua me ka ʻoluʻolu, me ka ʻoluʻolu, a me ka akāka. Hana i kēia ma mua o ka hoʻomaka o ka pili aloha.

KA MEA HIKI I KA HANA HOPE HOPU I KA PALAPALA HUAKI

Ke komo palekana nei ʻo Bystander intervening a hana i ka hana ke ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e makaʻu nei i ka hoʻouka kolohe. ʻO RAINN (Rape, Abuse, a me Incest National Network) kēia mau ʻanuʻu ʻehā no ka pehea e kōkua ai i kekahi e pilikia ana, ʻoiai e pale ana i kāu palekana ponoʻī.

E hana i kahi mea hoʻohoka. Maʻalahi paha kēia e like me ka hoʻōki ʻana i kahi kamaʻilio a hāʻawi ʻana i ka meaʻai a i ʻole nā ​​mea inu ma kahi pāʻina.

E nīnau pololei. E nīnau inā pilikia ke kanaka inā pilikia lākou a pono ke kōkua.

E kuhikuhi i kahi mana. Malia paha ʻoi aku ka palekana o ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kahi mea mana i hiki ke kōkua. E noi i ke kōkua mai kahi kiaʻi kiaʻi, bouncer bar, limahana, a RA paha. Inā pono, e kāhea iā 911 a i ʻole kāu helu pilikia kūloko.

Kākau inoa i nā kānaka ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe a ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e hana hoʻokahi. E hele pū kekahi hoa aloha me ʻoe e nīnau i ke kanaka inā ua maikaʻi lākou. A i ʻole e noi i kekahi e komo mai inā manaʻo ʻoe hiki iā lākou ke hana me ka palekana. E hoʻokokoke aku i nā hoaaloha o ka mea ʻino e ʻike inā hiki iā lākou ke kōkua.

KA MEA HIKI I KA HANA AKU I KE KOKUA E MALAMA AI KOU LOA

ʻAʻole hiki ke pale piha i ka hōʻeha kolohe. Eia nō naʻe, he mea nui e ʻike i nā ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana e mālama iā ʻoe iho me ka palekana.

Ke hele ʻoe ma waho:

• Hilinaʻi i kou instincts. Inā maikaʻi ʻole kahi mea, e hoʻāʻo e wehe iā ʻoe iho mai ke kūlana. He maikaʻi ke wahaheʻe a hana i nā kala inā kōkua ia iā ʻoe e pakele.
• Hōʻalo i ka noho hoʻokahi ʻana me nā poʻe āu e ʻike ʻole ai hilinaʻi ʻole ai.
• E makaʻala i kou wahi a me nā mea a puni ʻoe. Ke hele ʻoe i waho, mai uhi i nā pepeiao ʻelua i nā lohe pepeiao.
• Mālama ʻia kāu kelepona paʻalima a me ʻoe pū kekahi. Inā pono, e ʻike pono he kālā āu a i ʻole nā ​​kāleka hōʻaiʻē no ka holo kaʻa kaʻa i ka home.
• Noho kaawale mai nā wahi neoneo.
• E hoʻāʻo e ʻike ikaika, kūpaʻa, ʻike, a paʻa i kou puni.

Ma nā pāʻina a i nā ʻano nohona ʻē aʻe, eia kekahi mau ʻanuʻu maʻamau e lawe.

• E hele pū me kahi hui o nā hoaaloha, inā hiki, a i ʻole e hoʻomau i ka launa ʻana me kahi mea āu e ʻike ai i ka wā pāʻina. E mālama i ka maka no kekahi i kekahi, a mai haʻalele wale i kekahi ma ka pāʻina.
• Pale i ka inu nui loa. E ʻike i kou palena a mālama i ka nui o kāu inu ʻana. E wehe i kāu mau mea inu ponoʻī. Mai ʻae i nā mea inu mai kahi mea āu e ʻike ʻole ai a mālama i kāu mea inu a mea inu paha iā ʻoe. Hiki i kekahi ke lāʻau lāʻau i kou inu, a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi aku no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke honi a ʻono paha i nā mea inu lā.
• Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua ʻona ʻoe, e haʻi i kahi hoaaloha a haʻalele i ka pāʻina a i ʻole ke kūlana a loaʻa koke ke kōkua.
• Mai hele ma kahi hoʻokahi a haʻalele i kahi pāʻina me kekahi āu e ʻike ʻole a ʻoluʻolu ʻole ai paha.
• E ʻike maikaʻi i kekahi ma mua o ka noho pū ʻana o ka manawa. Hoʻolilo i nā lā mua i nā wahi lehulehu.
• Inā ʻoe me kahi mea āu e ʻike a haʻi aku kāu instincts iā ʻoe i kahi mea hewa, hilinaʻi i kou mau manaʻo a haʻalele iā ia.

Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kūlana kahi e kaomi ʻia ai ʻoe i nā hana moekolohe āu e makemake ʻole ai, nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopili pū:

• E haʻi akāka i ka mea āu e makemake ʻole ai e hana. E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e hana i kahi mea āu e ʻoluʻolu ʻole ai.
• E makaʻala i kāu mau wahi a me pehea e pakele ai inā pono.
• E hana i kahi huaʻōlelo kikoʻī kūikawā a ʻōlelo paha e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana me kahi hoaaloha a ʻohana paha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kāhea iā lākou a ʻōlelo inā ke kaomi ʻia ʻoe i ka moekolohe makemake ʻole ʻia.
• Inā pono ʻoe, e hana i kahi kumu e pono ai ʻoe e haʻalele.

E makemake paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e lawe i kahi papa pale pilikino. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻonui i kou hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a hāʻawi i nā mākau pono a me nā hoʻolālā no nā kūlana ʻokoʻa.

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Ka hōʻeha kolohe - ka pale ʻana; Rape - pale; Lape hōʻino lā - kaohi

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