Pehea e haʻi ai i kāu keiki ua loaʻa ʻoe i ka maʻi ʻaʻai

He mea paʻakikī ke haʻi ʻana i kāu keiki e pili ana i kāu maʻi ʻaʻai. Makemake paha ʻoe e pale i kāu keiki. E hopohopo paha ʻoe i ka hopena o kāu keiki. Akā he mea nui e makaʻala a hoʻopono e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei.

He mea paʻakikī ka maʻi ʻaʻai e hūnā ai. ʻOiai ʻo nā keiki liʻiliʻi hiki ke ʻike ke kūpono ʻole kekahi mea. Ke ʻike ʻole nā ​​keiki i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, makaʻu lākou i ka mea ʻoi loa. I ke alo o ka ʻike ʻole, noʻonoʻo paha kāu keiki i kahi moʻolelo i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka mea e hana nei. ʻO kahi laʻana, e hoʻopiʻi paha kāu keiki iā ʻoe iho no ka maʻi.

Hoʻoweliweli ʻoe i ke aʻo ʻana o kāu keiki mai kekahi mea ʻē aʻe he maʻi maʻi kou. Hoʻopilikia paha kēia i ka hilinaʻi o kāu keiki. A ke hoʻomaka ʻoe i ka mālama ʻana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hūnā i nā hopena ʻaoʻao mai kāu keiki.

E ʻike i kahi manawa mālie e kamaʻilio me kāu keiki inā ʻaʻohe mea hoʻohuli ʻē aʻe. Inā he keiki aku kāu ma mua o hoʻokahi, makemake paha ʻoe e haʻi ʻokoʻa i kēlā me kēia. E ʻae kēia iā ʻoe e ana i ka hopena o kēlā me kēia keiki, hoʻonohonoho pono i nā wehewehe ʻana i ko lākou makahiki, a pane i kā lākou nīnau i kahi pilikino. Pale ʻia paha kāu keiki mai ka nīnau ʻana i nā nīnau nui iā lākou i ke alo o kahi kaikaina.

Ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou maʻi ʻaʻai, e hoʻomaka me nā ʻoiaʻiʻo. Pākuʻi ʻia kēia mau mea:

• Ke ʻano o ka maʻi ʻaʻai āu a me kona inoa.
• He hapa aha o kou kino i loaʻa i ka maʻi ʻaʻai.
• Pehea kāu maʻi 'aʻai a lāʻau paha e hoʻopili ai i kou ʻohana a nānā i ka hopena o kāu mau keiki. ʻO kahi laʻana, e haʻi iā lākou ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻolilo i ka manawa me lākou e like me ka wā ma mua.
• E kōkua ana paha kahi ʻohana a kahu ʻē aʻe paha.

Ke kamaʻilio ʻana i kāu poʻe keiki e pili ana i kāu lāʻau, kōkua paha ia e wehewehe:

• Nā ʻano lapaʻau āu e loaʻa ai, a ʻokiʻoki paha ʻoe.
• E pili ana i ka lōʻihi e loaʻa ai iā ʻoe ka lāʻau lapaʻau (inā ʻike ʻia).
• E kōkua ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe e maikaʻi aʻe, akā e kumu paha i nā hopena paʻakikī ʻoiai ʻoe e loaʻa nei.
• E hoʻomākaukau i nā keiki ma mua o ka manawa no nā loli o ke kino, e like me ka nalo ʻana o ka lauoho, i ʻike ai ʻoe. E wehewehe e lilo paha ʻoe i ka paona, lilo i kou lauoho, a kiola nui paha. E wehewehe he hopena ʻē aʻe kēia e hele aku.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ka nui o nā kikoʻī āu e hāʻawi ai ma muli o ka makahiki o kāu keiki. ʻAʻole maopopo paha nā keiki o ka makahiki 8 a ʻoi paha i nā huaʻōlelo paʻakikī e pili ana i kou maʻi a i ʻole ka mālama ʻana, no laila e aho e mālama maʻalahi. ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻi iā lākou ua maʻi ʻoe a pono ʻoe i ka lāʻau e kōkua iā ʻoe e maikaʻi. Maopopo iki paha nā keiki o ka makahiki 8 a ʻoi. E paipai i kāu keiki e nīnau i nā nīnau a hoʻāʻo e pane iā lākou e like me ka hiki.

E hoʻomanaʻo e lohe paha kāu mau keiki e pili ana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai mai nā kumuwaiwai ʻē aʻe, e like me ke kīwī, nā kiʻi ʻoniʻoni, a i ʻole nā ​​keiki ʻē aʻe a makua paha. He mea maikaʻi ke nīnau aku i nā mea a lākou i lohe ai, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoia he ʻike kūpono kā lākou.

Aia kekahi makaʻu maʻamau i loaʻa i nā keiki he nui ke aʻo lākou e pili ana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai. ʻOiai ʻaʻole e haʻi aku kāu keiki iā ʻoe e pili ana i kēia mau makaʻu, he mea maikaʻi ke hāpai iā ʻoe iho iā lākou iho.

• ʻO kāu keiki ka hewa. He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo o nā keiki ʻo kekahi mea a lākou i hana ai i kumu ai i ka maʻi ʻaʻai o ka makua. E hoʻomaopopo i kāu keiki ʻaʻohe mea i loko o kou ʻohana i hana i kekahi mea e hiki ai i ka maʻi ʻaʻai.
• He maʻi lele ka maʻi ʻaʻai. Hopohopo nā keiki he nui i ka hiki ʻana o ka maʻi ʻaʻai e like me ka flu, a e hopu nā kānaka ʻē aʻe i kou ʻohana iā ia. E ʻike pono i kāu keiki ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke "hopu" i ke kanesa mai kahi mea ʻē aʻe, a ʻaʻole lākou e loaʻa i ka maʻi ʻaʻai ma ka hoʻopā ʻana a me ka honi ʻana iā ʻoe.
• Make nā kānaka āpau mai ka maʻi ʻaʻai. Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe he maʻi nui ka maʻi ʻaʻai, akā ua kōkua nā lapaʻau ʻana i kēia mau lā i nā miliona o ke ola i ka maʻi ʻaʻai. Inā ʻike kāu keiki i kekahi i make i ka maʻi ʻaʻai, e hoʻomaopopo iā lākou he nui nā ʻano maʻi ʻaʻai a ʻokoʻa ka maʻi ʻaʻai o kēlā me kēia. Ma muli wale nō o ka make ʻana o ʻAnakala Mike i kona maʻi ʻaʻai, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo no ʻoe pū kekahi.

Pono paha ʻoe e hana hou i kēia mau helu i kāu keiki i nā manawa he nui i kāu mālama ʻana.

Eia kekahi mau ala e kōkua ai i kāu poʻe keiki e kūpale ke hele ʻoe i loko o ka mālama ʻana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai.

• E hoʻāʻo e noho ma kahi papa manawa maʻamau. ʻOluʻolu nā papa kuhikuhi i nā keiki. E hoʻāʻo e mālama i nā manawa pāina like a me nā manawa moe.
• E haʻi iā lākou e aloha ʻoe a mahalo iā lākou. He mea nui loa kēia inā e mālama ana kāu mālama iā ʻoe mai ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka manawa me lākou e like me ka maʻa ma mua.
• E hoʻomau i kā lākou mau hana. He mea nui i kāu mau keiki e hoʻomau me nā haʻawina mele, nā haʻuki, a me nā hana ʻē aʻe ma hope o ke kula i kou wā maʻi. E noi i nā hoaaloha a ʻohana paha no ke kōkua me nā holo kaʻa.
• Paipai i nā keiki e noho manawa me nā hoaaloha a leʻaleʻa. He mea nui kēia no nā ʻōpio, ka mea hewa paha e pili ana i ka leʻaleʻa.
• E noi i nā mākua ʻē aʻe e komo i loko. E hoʻolōʻihi kāu wahine, nā mākua, a i ʻole ʻohana ʻē aʻe a i ʻole i mau hoaaloha me kāu mau keiki ke hiki ʻole.

Hiki i nā keiki he nui ke kū i ka maʻi o ka makua me ka ʻole o nā pilikia nui. Akā pono i kekahi mau keiki e pono ke kākoʻo hou. E hoʻomaopopo i ke kauka o kāu keiki inā loaʻa i kāu keiki kekahi o kēia ʻano.

• Kohu mea kaumaha i nā manawa āpau
• ʻAʻole hiki ke hōʻoluʻolu
• Loaʻa ka loli i nā papa
• Huhū loa a huhū paha
• Uē nui
• Loaʻa ka pilikia i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana
• Loaʻa nā loli i ka makemake
• He pilikia i ka hiamoe
• Hōʻaʻo e hōʻeha iā lākou iho
• ʻOi aku ka hoihoi i nā hana maʻamau

ʻO nā hōʻailona kēia e pono ai i kāu keiki i kahi kōkua hou aʻe, e like me ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ke kākāʻōlelo a i ʻole nā ​​loea ʻē aʻe.

Pūnaewele ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa ʻAmelika. Ke kōkua ʻana i nā keiki ke loaʻa ka maʻi maʻi i kekahi lālā o ka ʻohana: ka hana ʻana me ka lāʻau. www.cancer.org/treatment/ Children-and-cancer/when-a-family-member-has-cancer/dealing-with-treatment.html. Hoʻohou ʻia ʻApelila 27, 2015. Loaʻa iā ʻApelila 8, 2020.

Pūnaewele ASCO Cancer.Net. Ke kamaʻilio pū nei me nā keiki e pili ana i ka maʻi ʻaʻai. www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/talking-about-cancer/talking-with- Children-about-cancer. Hoʻohou ʻAukake 2019. Loaʻa iā ʻApelila 8, 2020.

Pūnaewele ʻo National Cancer Institute. Ke loaʻa i kou makua ka maʻi ʻaʻai: kahi alakaʻi no nā ʻōpio. www.cancer.gov/publications/patient-education/When-Your-Parent-Has-Cancer.pdf. Hoʻohou ʻia Pepeluali 2012. Loaʻa iā ʻApelila 8, 2020.

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