Hiki i kāu hauʻoli ke kōkua iā Alleviate i ke kaumaha o kāu mau hoaaloha

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Ke hopohopo nei ʻo ke kau ʻana me kāu hoa Debby Downer e hōʻino i kou ʻano? Eia kahi noiʻi hou ma waho o ʻEnelani e hoʻopakele ai i kou aloha: ʻAʻole kūpikipiki ke kaumaha - akā ʻo ka hauʻoli, wahi a kahi aʻo hou me ka hauʻoli. ʻO nā hana o ka Royal Society B.

ʻO nā stereotypes e pili ana i ke kaumaha a me ka hōʻike ʻana i ka mana o ke aloha, ua ʻike nā kānaka noiʻi ʻaʻole kahi mamao loa o kahi hoʻōla maikaʻi loa no ka maʻi noʻonoʻo ma mua o ka papa inoa hoʻopili i kāu kelepona. (Hoʻohui, loaʻa iā ʻoe kēia mau ala 12 e hoʻonui ai kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi i kou olakino.)

No ka nānā ʻana i ke ʻano o ka naʻau o nā hoaaloha i nā mea ʻē aʻe, ua aʻo nā ʻepekema mai nā Kulanui o Manchester a me Warwick i nā haumāna kula kiʻekiʻe he 2.000 o US, e hoʻohana ana i nā mana kamepiula e nānā i ko lākou ʻano Ua ʻike nā kānaka noiʻi ʻaʻohe mea e kūlike i ka manaʻo nui, ʻaʻole hoʻolaha ʻia nā ʻano kaumaha. A no ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā ʻike hoʻokiʻekiʻe, ʻike pū lākou i nā ʻano hauʻoli maoli hana.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hōʻoluʻolu i kahi hoaaloha i lalo ʻaʻole ia he mea kupanaha, i ʻōlelo ʻia e kahi mea kākau noiʻi ʻo Thomas House, Ph.D., he loea kiʻekiʻe i ka makemakika noi mai ke Kulanui o Manchester, i kahi hoʻokuʻu nūpepa. "Uaʻike mākou i nā mea pilikanaka-e like me ka noho hoʻokahi a iʻole ka loaʻaʻana o ka hoʻomāinoino i ka wā kamaliʻi-ka hopena inā e kaumaha kekahi. Uaʻike pū mākou he mea nui ke kākoʻo kaiaulu no ka ho'ōlaʻana mai ke kaumaha, e like me ka loaʻaʻana o nā kānaka e kamaʻilio me, "i wehewehe aiʻo ia. (E aʻo hou aʻe e pili ana i kāu Brain On: Depression.)

A he mea nui ka hopena o kahi hoa aloha i kahi kaumaha o kekahi. ʻOiai ua ʻike ʻia ka noiʻi mua e kōkua wale nā ​​lāʻau lapaʻau i kahi hapakolu o nā poʻe kaumaha, ua loaʻa i kēia noiʻi kahi "lāʻau lapaʻau" o 50 pakeneka i waena o nā poʻe kaumaha me ke kākoʻo kaiaulu ikaika. Nui kēia hopena, ʻōlelo ʻo House, ʻaʻole e haʻi ʻia he pūnaewele ʻoihana ikaika kahi koho lapaʻau maikaʻi.

ʻAʻole kēia ka nūhou maikaʻi no Debbie Downers, akā no ka poʻe aloha iā lākou. ʻAʻole wale ʻoe e hopohopo no ka "hopu ʻana" i ke kaumaha mai kahi hoaaloha, akā ʻo ka hoʻolilo manawa ʻana me lākou-a i ʻole kekahi ʻano hoaaloha no ia mea-hiki ke pōmaikaʻi. oe ma ka noʻonoʻo a me ke kino pū kekahi. Ua ʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi ma 2013 e United Health Group 76 pakeneka o nā mākua o ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa e kōkua ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i hōʻike i ka hana ʻana pēlā i mea e olakino ai ke olakino, a he ʻelima pākēneka i loaʻa nā pae haʻahaʻa o ke koʻikoʻi ma mua o nā mākua e hoʻāʻo ʻole e lawelawe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. . A ʻo kahi noiʻi i paʻi ʻia e ka American Psychological Association ua ʻike ʻia ka poʻe i hele nui e kōkua i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i nā manawa āpau i ka liʻiliʻi o ka hopohopo a ola lōʻihi. (E noʻonoʻo paha no ke aha e paʻakikī ai ka hana ʻana i mau hoaaloha ma ke ʻano he mākua? He ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kā mākou e kōkua ai.)

No laila i ka manawa aʻe e ʻike ai ʻoe i kahi hoa e mele ana "He ao ʻeleʻele wale nō wau," e kiʻi iā lākou-koke ʻoe lāua ʻelua e hookani i ka leo hauoli.

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