ʻO ka Myth Virginity: E noʻonoʻo kākou i ka moekolohe e like me Disneyland

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• "A ma hope o kona hiki ʻana mai, hāʻawi wau iā ia i kahi kiʻekiʻe-ʻelima a ʻōlelo aku, i ka leo o Batman," ʻOihana maikaʻi, "" wahi a kuʻu hoaaloha, e hoʻopau ana i kāna moʻolelo o ka manawa mua i moe kolohe ʻo ia. Nui koʻu mau manaʻo, akā ʻo ka hapanui, makemake wau i koʻu ʻike e like me kēlā.
• Ke hilinaʻi nei i ka absurd (a me ka hōʻino) "nā puʻupaʻa puʻupaʻa"
• Ka poino o nā leka hui
• Ke lawe nei i kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa: Pehea vs.
• "ʻAina-ʻaʻole-puʻupaʻa": ʻO ia kahi hauʻoli loa ma ka honua?

"A ma hope o kona hiki ʻana mai, hāʻawi wau iā ia i kahi kiʻekiʻe-ʻelima a ʻōlelo aku, i ka leo o Batman," ʻOihana maikaʻi, "" wahi a kuʻu hoaaloha, e hoʻopau ana i kāna moʻolelo o ka manawa mua i moe kolohe ʻo ia. Nui koʻu mau manaʻo, akā ʻo ka hapanui, makemake wau i koʻu ʻike e like me kēlā.

Ma mua o ka maopopo mua iaʻu he aha ka moekolohe, ʻike wau aia kekahi mau mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia e hana ai nā wahine a ma mua paha o ka male ʻana. I koʻu wā kamaliʻi, ua ʻike au iā “Ace Ventura: Ke Kāhea ʻana o Kūlohelohe.” Aia kahi hiʻohiʻona kahi a ke kāne i ʻino aku ai i waho o ka hale e ʻuwā uē ʻana no kāna wahine i hoʻopau ʻia. I ka makahiki 5, ua ʻike wau ua hana ʻo ia i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole.

Ua aʻo wau e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma kahi hoʻomoana o ka hale pule, no ka mea paha maʻalahi ka hāʻawi ʻana o koʻu mau mākua i kekahi kanaka i ke kuleana o ka haʻiʻōlelo. I ka papa ʻewalu, ua haʻi ʻia kaʻu mau hoaaloha e pili ana i ke kumu e kali ai a hiki i ka male ʻana e loaʻa ka moekolohe. Ua komo nā kumuhana "Ua kali au no kekahi mea kūikawā a ua kūpono ia" a "Pehea i ʻike ai ʻo Pastor XYZ i ke aloha i ko lākou ola ma o ka noho maʻemaʻe ʻole." ʻO kēia mau manaʻo maikaʻi i hoʻohālikelike i koʻu mau manaʻo no ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

Ke hilinaʻi nei i ka absurd (a me ka hōʻino) "nā puʻupaʻa puʻupaʻa"

I ka makahiki 2013, ua kāpae ka ʻaha hoʻokolokolo kiʻekiʻe o India i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana o nā manamana ʻelua. Me he mea lā, inā hiki i ke kauka ke komo i ʻelua mau manamana i loko o kahi mea i loaʻa wale ʻia i ka pōpō, ʻo ia hoʻi ua ʻae ʻo ia i ka moekolohe. He kuʻuna ko ka ʻāina ʻo Georgia i kapa ʻia ʻo yenge, kahi e hōʻike ai ke kāne mare i kahi pepa i hoʻokahe ʻia i ke koko i kona poʻe ʻohana ma ke ʻano he hōʻoia o ka puʻupaʻa.

ʻO kēia mau hōʻoia puʻupaʻa e manaʻo wale ʻia e nā wahine. ʻOiai ʻo ka hoʻowalewale kino ʻana e nā ʻoihana lapaʻau ʻaʻole maopopo leʻa i ke Komohana, aia nō iā mākou nā manaʻo kolohe e hoʻowalewale i ko mākou noʻonoʻo. E nānā wale i ka kaʻao mele hymen.

No 20 mau makahiki o koʻu ola ua manaʻoʻiʻo wau i nā hymen he māka o ka puʻupaʻa o kekahi. ʻO ka hilinaʻi ʻana i kēia i hoʻokumu i nā mea āpau aʻu e pili ana i ka moekolohe - a hiki i koʻu ʻike ʻana iā Laci Green's "ʻAʻole Hiki iā ʻoe ke POP i kāu Cherry" wikiō ma 2012. I loko o kēia wikiō, kamaʻilio ʻo Green e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka hymen a hāʻawi i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka moekolohe ʻana ma mua. manawa

ʻO ka nānā ʻana i ke wikiō ma ke ʻano he haumāna kula nui ua noʻonoʻo wau i kekahi mau manaʻo kahiko:

1. Ke nalowale nei paha wau i kekahi mea inā ʻo ka māka o ka puʻupaʻa - kahi hymen e ālai ana i ka puka komo - ʻaʻole maoli?
2. Inā, ma ka awelika, ʻaʻohe hymen e like me ka pale, no ke aha lā wau e manaʻoʻiʻo ai he maʻamau ia no ka manawa mua e ʻeha ai?
3. No ke aha ka ʻōlelo ʻino e pili ana i ka puʻupaʻa?

Ma loko o ke kula kiʻekiʻe a me ke kula nui ua manaʻo wau i ka manawa mua o ke kaikamahine e hoʻopili i ka ʻeha a i ʻole ke koko, akā ʻoiai ʻaʻole i loaʻa nā hymen ma ke ʻano he pale kino, a laila ʻepekema, ʻaʻohe ala e haʻi aku ai i kekahi he puʻupaʻa. No laila hiki paha iā mākou ke wahaheʻe a ʻōlelo aʻe he maʻamau ka ʻeha i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana i nā wahine mākaʻi a me ko lākou mau kino?

Ka poino o nā leka hui

ʻO nā kūkākūkā e pili ana i ka puʻupaʻa ua loaʻa nā leka uila. ʻAe, aia mau kahi kālaiʻāina, haipule, moʻomeheu, a i ʻole ka ʻike ʻike, akā i loko o kēlā mau hanana, ua ʻāpono mākou i kahi leo kolohe a ʻona paha (a i ʻole ʻelua). ʻO nā huaʻōlelo e like me "deflowering" a i ʻole "popping her cherry" a i ʻole "haki i kāu hymen" e hoʻolei wale ʻia. ʻ saylelo ka poʻe "nalo" i kou puʻupaʻa e like me kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole, akā ʻaʻohe ʻaelike no ke ʻano o ka nalo ʻana.

Kuhi kekahi ma ka wā e moekolohe ai ʻoe no ka manawa mua. Hōʻike kekahi i ka ʻike mua ʻana i ka moekolohe i nā hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ke olakino wahine. Hōʻike pū kekahi hoʻi ʻo ka hoʻomaka mua ʻana (ma ka makahiki 21 a ʻoi paha) ʻo ia kekahi, i kūʻē i ka hopena mai kahi noi 2012 e ke Kulanui o Texas ma Austin. Ma hope o ka hahai ʻana ma 1,659 i nā hoahānau like ʻole mai ka wā ʻōpio a hiki i ka makua ʻana, ua ʻike nā mea noiʻi o UT Austin ʻo ka poʻe i male a moe kolohe ma hope o ka 19 mau makahiki e ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli o kā lākou pilina a me ka moekolohe.

Ke lawe nei i kahi ʻano ʻokoʻa: Pehea vs.

ʻO nā mea i manaʻo ʻia e pili ana i ka "lilo ʻana o kāu puʻupaʻa" (hoʻokumu pinepine ʻia e nā hoaaloha, hānai ʻana, a me ka hoʻolaha ʻana o ka pāpāho) hoʻopili i ka ʻike ma mua o kā mākou e manaʻo ai. Ma mua o hoʻokahi manawa, ua haʻi mai nā hoaaloha iaʻu, "ʻO ka manawa mua ke omo mau." Ma hope o ka haʻi ʻana mai o kaʻu hoaaloha iaʻu pehea ʻo ia i "lilo" i kāna puʻupaʻa puʻupaʻa (ʻo ka hana hilarious e pau ana me kahi kiʻekiʻe he ʻelima), ua lili wau. Hilinaʻi ʻo ia a nonchalant. ʻO wau kekahi, makemake e pale i ka moʻolelo "hoʻopili ʻia ma hope o ka moekolohe".

Ua haʻi pū ʻo ia ua weliweli kāna wahine wahine e ka mokuʻāina o kāna ʻōpala. Ua haehae ʻia a ʻeha no ʻelua mau pule, aʻu i manaʻo ai he maʻamau i kēlā manawa no ka mea ua manaʻo wau he pale ākea ke kino. Maliʻa paha ua haʻi aku ʻo ia i kāna hoa pili e pili ana i ka puʻupaʻa, akā ʻaʻole pili ka puʻupaʻa iā ia - inā ma ke ʻano o kona ola a i ʻole inā ua loli ke ʻano o kāna mālama ʻana iā ia (ʻo ka moekolohe ʻaʻole pono ke hele. i me kaʻae ʻole). ʻO kāna ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo naʻu: "E ʻike pono ʻoe ua ʻona ʻoe ke moe kolohe ʻoe i ka manawa mua. Kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hoʻokuʻu i luna no laila ʻaʻole ia e ʻeha. "

ʻAʻole pono ia e lilo i ʻōlelo aʻo āna i manaʻo ai e hāʻawi maikaʻi. Akā ʻo ia, mahalo i ka moʻo puʻupaʻa. ʻO nā mea āpau āna i makemake ai, ma ke ʻano he hoa aloha, e ʻike pono ʻaʻole wau i ʻike like me ia.

Ma muli paha o kā mākou kamaʻilio iki ʻana pehea pono mākou e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma mua o ka moekolohe ʻana o ke kuhi hewa ʻole o nā wahine i kā lākou mau mea i manaʻo ai. Ua nānā kekahi ana i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka heterosexual a ʻike ʻia ua māʻona nā psychologically o kā lākou wahine i ka manawa mua i ka hewa nui ʻole. Hōʻike lākou i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi pilina moekolohe me ka mālama a me ka hilinaʻi i lawe ʻia i mea hou aʻe i ka poʻe 18 a 25 mau makahiki.

Loaʻa i kahi moʻolelo kūlike ʻole e kū ana mai nā manawa melemona a hiki i ka ʻōlelo kolohe o "ka haki ʻana" hiki ke hōʻino i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia a me ka ʻike, ka manawa mua a ʻaʻole paha.

Ua noi kekahi noi ʻē aʻe i nā haumāna laepua 331 e pili ana i ka manawa mua i moe kolohe ai lākou a me kā lākou moekolohe ʻana i kēia manawa. Ua ʻike lākou i ka poʻe i loaʻa kahi ʻike ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka kiʻekiʻe o ka ʻoluʻolu. ʻO ka manaʻo ʻoiai ʻo kou ʻike moekolohe mua he milestone ola wale ia, hiki nō ke hoʻohālikelike pehea ʻoe e hoʻokokoke ai a nānā i nā makahiki moekolohe ma lalo o ka laina.

ʻO kekahi mau manaʻo aʻu e manaʻo ai e aʻo ʻia? He aha ke ʻano o ka palekana. Hoʻomaha. Kūleʻa. ʻO ka hauʻoli no ka mea ke loaʻa nei kahi ʻike, ʻaʻole e nalo ʻana i kahi ʻike.

"ʻAina-ʻaʻole-puʻupaʻa": ʻO ia kahi hauʻoli loa ma ka honua?

I ka wā aʻu i ʻōlelo mua ai he wahine puʻupaʻa wau i ke kanaka nāna wau e lilo i mua, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "A, no laila he unicorn ʻoe." Akā ʻaʻole wau. ʻAʻole wau. No ke aha e kapa ai ka poʻe i ka wahine puʻupaʻa ma ke ʻano e makemake ai ka poʻe i makemake ʻole ʻia ma hope o ka manawa mua?

Ma ke ʻano he "unicorn," ua huikau wau no ka mea makemake ka poʻe iaʻu. ʻO kahi puʻupaʻa ma 25 i manaʻo ʻia he kū hoʻokahi a loaʻa pinepine ʻole ia, akā ʻo ka mālama pono lōʻihi loa paha. A i ka manawa aʻu i moe kolohe ai, ʻike wau (a malia paha ʻo ia pū kekahi) ʻo ka lio wale nō kēlā me kēia. No laila e hoʻopoina iā mākou i ka hoʻohālikelike unicorn no ka mea he mau kaʻao wale nō nā unicorn.

ʻIke ʻoe i ka mea maoli? Disneyland, mai 1955.

ʻO ka manawa mua ma Disneyland hiki ke manaʻo e like me nirvana a i ʻole anticlimactic loa. Aia ia i nā ʻano mea like ʻole: ka mea a ka poʻe i haʻi aku ai iā ʻoe e pili ana iā Disneyland, ka mea āu e hele pū ai, ke ala hele ma laila, ke aniau, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe i hiki ʻole iā ʻoe ke mālama.

Eia naʻe ka mea: hiki iā ʻoe ke hele hou.He mea ʻole ke ʻano o kou manawa mua, ʻaʻole ia ka hope loa. E ʻike i kahi hoaaloha ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, hoʻoponopono hou no kahi lā liʻiliʻi o ke kaumaha, a i ʻole helu wale i kāu manawa mua ma ke ʻano he ʻike aʻo no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike e holo mua ʻoe i nā mea lohi a ʻo Splash Mountain ma hope.

A ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka hoʻokalakupua o ka ʻae ʻana i kou puʻupaʻa ma ke ʻano he ʻike a ʻaʻole kahi mokuʻāina. ʻOiai ʻo ka manawa mua, ʻelua a ʻekolu paha ʻaʻole i hemolele, hiki iā ʻoe ke koho mau e hoʻāʻo hou. A i ʻole koho ʻoe ʻaʻole e hele i Disneyland. Wahi a kekahi poʻe ua ʻoi loa ia, ʻeā. ʻO kahi hauʻoli loa ma ka honua kahi e ʻoluʻolu ai ʻoe, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻohe ou makemake e hana.

ʻO Christal Yuen kahi hoʻoponopono ma Healthline.com. Ke hoʻoponopono nei ʻo ia a kākau ʻole paha, ke hoʻolilo nei ʻo ia i manawa me kāna ʻīlio pōpoki, e hele ana i nā ʻahamele, a ke haʻohaʻo nei i ke kumu o ka hoʻohana mau ʻana o kāna mau kiʻi Unsplash i nā ʻatikala e pili ana i ka menstruation.