Pehea wau i hele ai i nā ʻ withlelo me "Nalo" Kuʻu Kaikuahine i Her Soul Mate

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• ʻO ko mākou kaikuahine ... a me Dave
• Ke ʻimi nei i ka ʻae ʻia
• I kēia manawa, kā mākou (mau) Pilina Hou
• Nānā no

ʻEhiku mau makahiki i hala aku nei, akā hoʻomanaʻo mau wau e like me ia i nehinei: Ua huhū loa au i ka makaʻu i koʻu lana ʻana ma koʻu kua i lalo o ke kahawai e kali ana e hoʻopakele ʻia. He mau minuke i hala aku nei, ua kuʻe kā mākou kayak ʻelua i loko o ka Dart River ma waho pono o Queenstown, New Zealand, a ke hea mai nei koʻu kaikuahine ʻo Maria noʻu mai kahakai. Ke hāʻule ka mākaukau o kā mākou alakaʻi ʻōpio i ke kaula kaula, ʻo kekahi makua kāne Kepani wiwo ʻole, e hauʻoli ana i ka huakaʻi kayak like me kāna wahine a me kāna mau kaikamahine liʻiliʻi ʻelua, kū i ka pūhaka i ka wai a hāmama mai iaʻu i koʻu holo ʻana. Lālau ʻo ia i koʻu kāʻei o ke ola a hoʻohoka nui iaʻu i ke kahakai pebbly. ʻAʻole au i mālie a hiki i ka holo ʻana mai o Maria e apo mai iaʻu.

"Ua maikaʻi, e kuʻu kaikuahine," hāwanawana ʻo ia me ka ʻoluʻolu. "Ua maikaʻi. Aloha au iā ʻoe, aloha wau iā ʻoe." ʻOiai he 17 mahina wale nō ʻo ia ma mua oʻu, ʻo ia koʻu kaikuahine nui, koʻu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo, a me kaʻu ʻohana a pau i kēia huakaʻi ʻelua pule ma ka hapalua o ka honua mai ko mākou home NYC. ʻO ka hoʻohui ʻana i koʻu hemahema ʻo ia he ʻelua mau lā ma waho o kā mākou Kalikimaka mua mai ko mākou mau mākua. ʻAʻole kūpono ka manawa no ka wā hoʻomaha akā no ka mea ua kau wau i kahi huakaʻi huakaʻi i Nūhōlani i kēlā Kēkēmapa, ua lele wau i luna a hoʻokaʻawale i nā koina o koʻu kaikuahine i hiki iā ia ke hui pū me aʻu. (E pili ana: No ke aha ʻoe e hoʻohui ai i kahi huakaʻi makuahine-kaikamahine i kāu papa inoa ʻeke huakaʻi)

ʻO kāna ʻapo pumehana pumehana e hoʻihoʻi mai iaʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, kū i koʻu kino mai ka haʻalulu, a hoʻomālielie i koʻu mau manaʻo heihei. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa, ʻoi aku ka pili ʻana iaʻu iā ia ma mua o koʻu mau mahina.

ʻO ko mākou kaikuahine ... a me Dave

Mai kuhi hewa, pili loa māua ʻo Maria, ʻoiaʻiʻo. Ua neʻe wau i ʻelua papahele ma luna ona i loko o ko mākou keʻena hale ma Brooklyn ma kahi o ʻelua mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ma hope o ko mākou huakaʻi kaikuahine mua loa ma Argentina. ʻO kā mākou mau hebedoma ʻelua ma ʻAmelika Hema i koi iā mākou e hoʻokaʻawale i kā mākou hana nui, hana nui i ka hana a hana i ka manawa 24/7 no kekahi me kekahi, i kōkua iā mākou e pili hou i kahi ala a mākou i neʻe ʻole ai mai ka home o ko mākou mau mākua. ma hope o ke koleke, kokoke he ʻumi mau makahiki ma mua. ʻO ka holomua o ia huakaʻi ua alakaʻi iā mākou i nā huakaʻi hou aʻe, me kahi huakaʻi ma Hawaiʻi a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo New Zealand.Ke nānā pono ʻole nei a me ke aloha palena ʻole ma ke kahawai anu i kēlā ʻauinalā ka mea pono iaʻu mai kēia huakaʻi, ʻoiai ʻoiai ua manaʻo wau ua iho iho nei wau i kahi notch ma ka papa inoa mua a Maria. (Pili: Hoʻokahi Wahine i Haʻawi Pehea i Loli ai ka Lā o ka makuahine no kāna mai ka nalowale ʻana o kāna makuahine)

ʻIke mau wau i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kaʻu mea punahele ma ka honua - a ʻo kahi kaikaina wale nō naʻu - me kāna hoa hana e lilo i ka paʻakikī. ʻO ka mea i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā kāna ipo hou, ʻo Dave, kahi ipo piha mai ka lā ʻekahi, ʻaʻole makemake i kahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka lilo ʻana iaʻu i kaikaina. Grrreat. ʻO kāna ʻoluʻolu a me kona ʻae piha ʻana iaʻu a me kaʻu mau ala koi ("Hiki iaʻu ke ʻoluʻolu i ka manawa kaikuahine wale nō me ka ʻole oe? Aka, LEAVE. ") Ua paʻakikī ia e makemake ʻole iā ia. ʻAʻole makemake wau. He mea nui e hauʻoli no koʻu kaikuahine, ka mea i loaʻa" ke kāne nona, "e like me kāna e ʻōlelo nei, akā naʻe, ʻaʻole wau i noʻonoʻo ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o "ka mea" ʻaʻole wau e lilo hou iā ia helu ekahi. (Pili: ʻO ke kumu hoʻokahi i kuleana nui ʻia no kou hauʻoli)

ʻIke wau me he mea lā lili wau, a he ʻoiaʻiʻo paha ia mai ka loaʻa ʻole o kaʻu ʻūlū ponoʻī i kēia manawa. Akā ʻo ka mea e kahaha loa iaʻu ʻo ka manaʻo nui o koʻu manaʻo i koʻu Maria, ʻoi aku ma mua o ka manawa. ʻO ka mea ʻokoʻa i kēia manawa ua ʻelemakule mākou a hilinaʻi nui kekahi i kekahi, ʻoiai ke ʻelemakule nei ko mākou mau mākua a ma hope e koi hou aku i kā mākou hana like e mālama iā lākou. Ma waho aʻe o kēlā, ʻo Maria kēlā pūliki mau loa e hoʻopiʻi nei i koʻu mau kaumaha no ka loli ʻana o ka hana, haʻihaʻi, hakakā me nā hoaaloha, a me nā mea hou aku. I koʻu puliki ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, me nā malihini (hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokipa maikaʻi pū kekahi!), ʻaʻohe mea e like me ka pale, ke aloha, ka ʻae, a me ka pololei e like me kāna paʻa.

A ke hoʻopaʻa nei ʻo ia iā Dave. E like me nā manawa āpau.

Ke ʻimi nei i ka ʻae ʻia

A ʻaʻohe hopena kokoke i ka maka, akā e hōʻoia hou aʻe ʻaʻole e hele ʻo Dave i kahi ʻē, i loli nā mea a pau ma waena o nā kaikuahine. ʻEā, ʻo Dave nō — a mai ka wā a lākou i hui ai me kēlā Lā Hana nui loa — ʻo ia kāna mea nui kiʻekiʻe. (Related: ʻŌlelo ʻepekema ʻo ka hoaloha ke kī i ke ola mau a me ka hauʻoli)

"He pilikia hauʻoli kēia, akā he hoʻololi paʻakikī ia e kamaʻilio ʻole ai kekahi," ʻōlelo aʻo i kuʻu hoahānau naʻaupō, ʻo Richard, i hele i loko o kahi mea like me kona kaikuaʻana ʻo Michael. ʻO ka nānā ʻana iā Michael i ka male ʻana, neʻe i kahi home ma New Jersey a loaʻa ʻekolu mau keiki maikaʻi i like ka paʻakikī iā Richard, ʻaʻole no ka mea he kaʻawale ʻo ia e like me aʻu. ʻO ia ka "hoʻololi", e like me kāna i kāhea ai, no ka lilo ʻana o ka lālā o kou ʻohana (a me ka hoa aloha) i kā lākou ʻohana ponoʻī. Mālama ka wahine i ke kuleana o ke kaikaina ma nā ʻano like ʻole, ʻo ia ka mea mālama malū, papa kani, ma loko o ka mea hoʻohenehene, ka mea aʻoaʻo a me ke kālā, ka mea ʻoki kuki, a me nā mea hou aku. A ma luna o kēlā, hāʻawi ka wahine i nā mea hiki ʻole i ke kaikunāne. No laila ʻaʻohe hoʻokūkū. ʻAʻole wau e ʻōlelo nei he hoʻokūkū (akā ʻo ia nō).

He kūpona wau? Maliʻa paha. Akā he mea leʻaleʻa ia i hiki iaʻu ke lilo ma ke ʻano he wahine hoʻokahi me ke kuleana ʻole o kekahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o ka moi. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana e kaʻana aku iā ia e lilo ka manawa, a ʻaʻole wau ma laila. Ua kokoke wau i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana, akā makaʻu wau ʻaʻole wau e maʻa i ka lilo ʻana i lālā pili ʻole o ka ʻohana, ʻoiai ke loaʻa kaʻu hoa ponoʻī a me kaʻu mau keiki. ʻO kaʻu mea e hoʻomanaʻo ai iaʻu iho, ʻo kā kā mākou kaikaina kaikaina hohonu a mau loa, ʻaʻole pono wau e nīnau iā ia a manaʻo paha e hoʻololi ʻia wau. A ma muli o ko mākou mau makahiki he 30 a ʻaʻohe o mākou i loaʻa i ka "'ōpiopio," hiki ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻia ua ʻoi aku ka manawa ma mua o ka hapa nui e hoʻopaʻa i kā mākou pilina a kūkulu i nā hoʻomanaʻo.

I kēia manawa, kā mākou (mau) Pilina Hou

Ua male koʻu kaikaina a me Dave i ʻekolu mau makahiki ma hope o ka huakaʻi a ko mākou kaikuahine ʻo New Zealand a ua neʻe aku i Wakinekona, D.C., kahi e holo ai ʻo Maria i kahi ʻoihana keaka. Ua holomua ʻo ia a ua kūkulu ʻo ia i ola maikaʻi nona iho ma laila. ʻOiai ua hoʻomaha ʻo COVID-19 i kā mākou huakaʻi, ua hele mai ʻo Maria i NYC e ʻike i nā hōʻike no ka hana a noho pū me aʻu i koʻu hale Brooklyn i kēlā me kēia mahina. He kope kā mākou, kāhea aku i ko mākou mau mākua, e hele wāwae no mākou, e nānā i ke kīwī ... nani ia. Minamina nui wau iā ia (i kekahi manawa, ʻeha loa ia), akā ʻānō wau e hoʻāʻo e nānā i kaʻu mau makahi ponoʻī, me ka neʻe ʻana i Kaleponi me kaʻu hoa i ka wā e hele ai mākou ma kēlā ʻaoʻao o kēia maʻi maʻi.

I koʻu hoʻomākaukau ʻana no kēia neʻe keʻa keʻa, ua hoʻomanaʻo mai koʻu hoa aloha ʻoi loa ʻo Tatiana iaʻu ma ka ʻaina awakea i kekahi lā o kēia naʻau hohonu aʻu i ʻike ai me nā makahiki i hala aku nei. ʻLelo ʻo ia iaʻu hauʻoli ʻo ia i koʻu hui ʻana me kēia kāne kupaianaha a kākoʻo nui i kēia huakaʻi hou hoihoi, akā ua lili a kaumaha hoʻi ia.

"Lili?" Nīnau au, pūʻiwa i kāna koho huaʻōlelo ʻoiai ua male hauʻoli ʻo ia no 14 mau makahiki. "ʻOi aku e like me ke kanikau," hoʻoikaika ʻo ia me ka makaʻu pono ʻana iā ʻoe iho, e ʻike nei ua neʻe kaʻu mau mea nui, a paʻakikī. "Ua hauʻoli loa wau nou. ʻO kēia ka mea āu i makemake ai no ka manawa lōʻihi. Akā, i ka manawa like, manaʻo wau e nalowale ana wau iā ʻoe. ʻAʻole like nā mea āpau."

ʻAe, ʻokoʻa a maikaʻi paha, akā ʻaʻole like loa. Hāhā hohonu wau a kunou i ka wā e kaʻana like ai i kahi ʻōlelo me ia aʻu i heluhelu ai i loko o kā Lori Gottlieb puke puke maikaʻi loa, E kamaʻilio paha ʻoe me kekahi: "me kekahi hoʻololi-ʻoiai maikaʻi, hoʻololi maikaʻi - hiki mai ka poho." Hiki iaʻu ke pili, kaikuahine.

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