He aha ka manaʻo o ka lilo ʻana i ka wai moe kolohe?

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• He aha ka fluidity moekolohe?
• ʻO ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ka wahine ma ke ʻano he ʻano ʻike vs
• Pehea wau e ʻike ai inā he wai koʻu moe kolohe?
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ʻO ka moekolohe kekahi o kēlā mau manaʻo e ulu nei a paʻakikī paha ke hoʻopili piha i kou poʻo a puni - akā ʻaʻole paha ʻoe manaʻo ʻia i. Makemake ka ʻahahui e lepili i ka moekolohe ma ke ʻano he ʻano e ʻike ai ʻo wai kekahi e pili ana i nā mea ʻē aʻe. Akā, pehea inā i hiki i nā mea a pau ke ʻike i kā lākou moekolohe me ka ʻole e haʻi i ka lehulehu i ke ʻano o ke kanaka a lākou e komo ai?

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ua haʻi aku kekahi poʻe kaulana ʻaʻole lākou makemake e wehewehe i ko lākou moekolohe a i ʻole e wehewehe iā lākou. Ma kahi hālāwai ninaninau me Ua hiolo pohaku, mea mele a me ka mea kākau mele ʻo St. Vincent i ʻōlelo ʻo ia, nona, he wai a ʻelua ke kāne a me ka moekolohe a ʻaʻohe kumu hoʻohālikelike o ke aloha. ʻO Sarah Paulson, i kahi nīnauele me Kumukanawai haʻaheo, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia ʻaʻole ia e waiho i kāna mau ʻike me ka ʻike kāne kāne e wehewehe ai ʻo wai ʻo ia. Ua haʻi aku ʻo Cara Delevigne me kahi hoaaloha pili i ka wā o ka ninaninau me Glamor makemake ʻo ia i ka huaʻōlelo "wai" ma mua o ka hoʻopili ʻia ʻana i loko o kekahi ʻano o ka moekolohe.

Hauʻoli ke ola. ʻO ka moekolohe a me ka moekolohe a me nā mea e hoʻoulu ai i ka poʻe he pōʻino. "ʻAe ka fluidity moekolohe i ka loli mau a me ka hoʻomohala ʻana, kahi e ola ai nā moekolohe āpau," wahi a Chris Donaghue, Ph.D., L.C.S.W., a me ka mea kākau o Aloha Kipi. "ʻO ka moekolohe ka mea i ʻoi aku ma mua o ke koho wahine; pili pū kekahi i nā ʻano, nā nui, nā ʻano, nā kink, a me nā hanana."

ʻO kēia wale nō ka ʻōlelo, ʻaʻole kūpono ka moekolohe i loko o kahi pahu i hoʻonohonoho pono ʻia - a i ʻole nā ​​lepili kikoʻī loa i loko. Akā, ʻo ka moekolohe kahi mea ola, hanu, a me kahi mea paʻakikī loa. A ma laila e pāʻani ai nā huaʻōlelo "sexually fluid" a me "sexual fluidity". Eia nā mea a pau e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana pono i kēia mau huaʻōlelo.

He aha ka fluidity moekolohe?

"ʻO ka wai o ka moekolohe e pili ana i ka mana maʻamau no ka hoʻololi ʻana i ka hoʻowalewale i ka moekolohe, ka ʻano, a me ka ʻike ma luna o ke ola," wahi a Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., he hoa noiʻi ma The Kinsey Institute a me ka mea kākau o E hai mai ia'u i kou makemake. Malia paha ua noho ʻoe i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o kou ola me ka hoihoi i hoʻokahi kāne, akā e ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kāne ʻē aʻe ma hope o ke ola. Hoʻomaopopo ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ka wahine he hiki ke hoʻololi i kēia hoʻololi - hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻowalewale i nā poʻe ʻokoʻa a hiki ke ulu aʻe kou ʻike ponoʻī i ka manawa.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole e loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka kēia ʻano o ka ʻike - ʻaʻole hiki ke loli ka mea āu e hoihoi ai i kou wā e ola ana."ʻO ka mea a mākou i ʻike ai aia ka moe kolohe ma kahi kikoʻī," wahi a Katy DeJong, he mea hoʻonaʻauao wahine a me ka mea nāna i hana ʻo The Pleasure Anarchist. "ʻIke kekahi poʻe i nā mokuʻāina paʻa loa o ka hoʻokalakupua, ka lawena, a me ka ʻike, a ʻike kekahi i kā lākou mau mea hoihoi a me nā makemake e ʻoi aku ka wai i ke kūlohelohe."

Hoʻohuli pū ʻia ka ʻike o ka mea i ʻike ʻia me ka wai moekolohe i ka wahine. No ke aha mai? "Noho mākou i kahi kaiāulu makuakāne i kau nui ʻia i ka maka kāne a no laila ke nānā nei mākou i ka mea a ke kāne e makemake ai e ʻike," wahi a Donaghue. "Hoʻonāukiuki nui mākou i kekahi mea i ka moekolohe ʻaʻole maʻamau a i hōʻoluʻolu ʻole paha iā mākou." ʻO ia ke kumu e paʻakikī ai ka poʻe he nui i ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻo ka poʻe me kāna mau haʻiʻōlelo hiki ke lilo i ka wahine.

Eia kekahi, he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka wai ʻole o ka moekolohe ʻaʻole like ka mea like me ka wai-wai a me ka ʻole binary; ʻO ka wai hoʻokamakama e pili ana i kou moe kolohe a i ʻole kou ʻano moe (ka mea āu e hoihoi ai), ʻoiai ʻo kou ʻano kāne a i ʻole kou ʻano e pili ana i ke kāne āu e ʻike pono ai.

ʻOiai ke ʻano o ka hoʻololi ʻia ʻana o nā huaʻōlelo "wai moekolohe" a me "fluidity moekolohe ma ka nānā mua ʻana, aia nā ʻokoʻa i ke ʻano o ka hoʻohana ʻana o ka poʻe i kēia mau huaʻōlelo.

• ʻO ke kahe o ka moekolohe hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia e wehewehe i kahi wā kuikawa ma waena o nā moe kolohe e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke resonate me nā wahi like ʻole o ke ola. ʻAʻole ia e holoi i nā pilina i hala aku nei a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea hoihoi a ʻaʻole hoʻi ke ʻano he wahaheʻe ʻoe a e hoʻāʻo nei e uhi i kou moekolohe.
• ʻO ke kahe o ka moekolohe hiki iā ia ke wehewehe i ka hiki no ka fluctuation moekolohe, a i ʻole ka loli o ka moekolohe a me ka hoʻohihi, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa.
• Pōʻai moekolohe, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hiki ke hoʻohana ʻia ma ke ʻano he ala e ʻike pilikino ai i ke ala like e ʻike ai kekahi me he bisexual a i ʻole pansexual.

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ʻO ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ka wahine ma ke ʻano he ʻano ʻike vs

E like me ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia ma luna, hiki i ka wai moekolohe ke hana ma ke ʻano he manaʻo a me kahi ʻike. Hiki ke hoʻokahi a i ʻole kekahi, a i ʻole ʻelua i ka manawa like. ʻO kahi laʻana, inā ʻike ʻoe ma ke ʻano he bisexual fluid fluid (a i ʻole ke ʻano moekolohe ʻē aʻe) kanaka, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia huaʻōlelo e hōʻike ai ke hōʻoia nei ʻoe ke loli nei ka moekolohe. Ma ke ʻano he lepili i manaʻo ʻia e wehewehe i ka ambiguity o ka sexuality spectrum, ʻo ka huaʻōlelo ponoʻī he wai i ka manaʻo. (Related: He aha ka manaʻo maoli o ka Queer?)

"Ke hōʻike nei ka manaʻo o ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ka wahine i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole paʻa ka moekolohe kanaka," wahi a Lehmiller. "A hiki iā ia ke hoʻololi." I kēia manawa, ʻo wai ka ʻike i ka mea a me ka nui o ka ʻokoʻa mai kēlā me kēia kanaka. "ʻO nā hoʻololi a me ka loli ʻana o ka hoʻohihi moe kolohe ʻaʻole ia he mau mea āu e koho ai," wahi a DeJong. ʻAʻohe mea e koho manaʻo ke ʻano o kā lākou hana ʻana, akā hoʻoholo lākou pehea lākou e makemake ai e wehewehe i kēlā mau manaʻo.

ʻO ka mea pōmaikaʻi, ke ulu nei ka ʻōlelo e pili ana i ka moekolohe. "E hoʻomau mākou e ʻike i nā leka i hoʻohui ʻia i ka acronym LGBTQIA +," wahi a Donaghue. He nūhou maikaʻi loa kēia no ka mea ʻo nā lepili (a me nā lepili ʻole) kōkua i ka poʻe e ʻike a lohe ʻia. Hoʻopaʻa lākou i kāu mau ʻike a hoʻolauna iā ʻoe i nā kānaka ʻē aʻe i loaʻa, i kekahi manawa a i ʻole, manaʻo like. (E pili pū ana: ʻO nā huaʻōlelo LGBTQ + a pau āu e ʻike ai he hoa aloha maikaʻi)

No laila, ʻoiai he ala ko nā lepili i ka waiho ʻana i ka poʻe i loko o nā pahu a me ka pāpā ʻana iā lākou, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻohui i ka poʻe. Ke hāʻawi nei i kāu mau ʻike i ʻike ʻia i kahi inoa a me ka ʻimi ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e resonate me ʻoe e hoʻoikaika nei. He aha hou aʻe, "ʻaʻole kikoʻī ke kiko holoʻokoʻa," wahi a Donaghue. "Loaʻa i kēlā me kēia kanaka kā lākou wehewehe ponoʻī i ke ʻano o kēia mau lepili." ʻO ka moekolohe, e like me nā mea'ē aʻe, ua weheʻia.

Pehea wau e ʻike ai inā he wai koʻu moe kolohe?

"Inā ʻike kekahi e loli ana ko lākou mau makemake a me nā mea hoihoi me ka makahiki a me ka ʻike o ke ola, he hōʻailona paha ia o ka fluidity moekolohe, akā ʻaʻole mau," wahi a DeJong. He maikaʻi ʻole e kānalua a pīhoihoi e pili ana i kāu moekolohe (i kēlā me kēia manawa, no nā kumu). E kāomi a ʻimi i kēlā.

Inā makemake ʻoe e like me ka wai moekolohe (a i ʻole he wai moekolohe) kahi manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke resonate me kekahi mau pule, mahina, makahiki, a mau makahiki paha, a laila kau pū me ia no kekahi manawa. Hiki iā ʻoe ke heluhelu hou aʻe e pili ana i ka fluidity moekolohe. E hoao ʻO ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana i ka wahine: ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke aloha a me ka makemake o nā wahine na Lisa M. Diamond or ʻO ka hapa nui o ka pololei: ʻO ka pili kino i waena o nā kāne na Ritch C. Savin-Williams.

ʻO ka wai moekolohe, e like me nā moe kolohe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e hoʻolilo iā ʻoe. He ʻāpana hoʻokahi ia - ma ka hoʻohui i hoʻokahi mau ʻāpana miliona - he aha ka mea e hana ai iā ʻoe, ʻo ʻoe. Paʻa nā lepili (a me nā lepili ʻole) i ka hana ʻana i nā wahi kaiāulu a me nā wahi palekana e wehe ai iā ʻoe iho i ka ʻike.

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