Kahi Alakaʻi Hoʻomaka e Surrogate Partner Therapy

Anter

• He aha kēīa?
• ʻO wai ka pōmaikaʻi?
• Pehea e hana ai?
• ʻO kēia ka mea like me ka sex therapy?
• Hoʻopili paha ka wahine i nā mea hana kolohe?
• Pehea ʻoe e hoʻopili ai me kahi pani?
• Kūpono ʻia?
• Pehea e lilo ai kekahi i hoa pani hakahaka?
• Ke laina lalo

Hoʻopili mākou i nā huahana a mākou e manaʻo nei he pono no kā mākou poʻe heluhelu. Inā kūʻai ʻoe ma o nā loulou i kēia ʻaoʻao, loaʻa iā mākou kahi kōmike liʻiliʻi. Eia kā mākou hana.

ʻIke ʻoe i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe, a ua lohe paha ʻoe i ka huaʻōlelo "pani," ma ka liʻiliʻi e pili ana i nā pēpē a me nā ʻōpū. Akā inā slamming i kēlā mau ʻōlelo ʻelua like ua makemake ʻoe iā "???" ʻaʻole ʻoe wale.

ʻAʻole maopopo ka hapa nui o ka poʻe i nā mea pani wahine.

A ʻo ka hapanui e manaʻo he loaʻa iā lākou ala hewa, e like me kā Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, a me AASECT i hōʻoia i ka wahine hoʻoponopono maʻi, sexologist, a me ka laikini male a me ka ʻohana therapist no AdamEve.com.

"ʻAʻole ia ka mea moekolohe a ka poʻe e manaʻo nei."

ʻO ia ke kumu i kaomi ʻia ai e hoʻomaka i ke kāhea ʻana i ke kahamaha wahine "pani hakahaka hoa" ma kahi o, wahi a Mark Shattuck, kahi luna i hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻia a me ka noho pāpāho me ka International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA).

No ka pōʻaiapili, ua ʻike ʻia ka IPSA ma ke ʻano he alakaʻi nui i ka moekolohe a me nā mea e pili ana i ka hoʻolauna hoa mai 1973.

He aha kēīa?

ʻO ka Surrogate partner therapy, e like me ka mea i wehewehe ʻia e ka IPSA, kahi pilina therapeutic ʻekolu ala ma waena o ka mea laikini laikini, kahi mea kūʻai aku, a me kahi hoa pani.

Hoʻonohonoho ʻia e kōkua i ka mea kūʻai aku e hōʻoluʻolu me ka pilina, ka moekolohe, ka moekolohe a me ka moekolohe, a me ko lākou kino.

ʻOiai kēia pili hiki hoʻomohala me kekahi ʻano laikini laikini, 'ōlelo ʻo Shattuck he mea maʻa mau me ka wahine hoʻoponopono wahine.

Hoʻohui hou ʻo ia ʻo nā mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe e ʻoi aku ka wehe i ka hana pani ma mua o nā mea hoʻoponopono kuʻuna.

No laila, he aha ka hoa pani pani, pololei?

"He loea e hoʻohana i ka hoʻopā, ka hanu ʻana, ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, nā hana hoʻomaha, a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i ka mākau e kōkua i kahi mea kūʻai aku e hoʻokō i kā lākou mau pahuhopu therapy." Wehewehe ʻo Shattuck.

I kekahi manawa - ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i loko o kāna ʻike ma kahi o 15 a 20 paha pākēneka o ka manawa - pili pū kekahi me ka moekolohe. "Akā pili kēlā i ka pilikia a ka mea kūʻai aku e hana nei," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

ʻO ke kumu o kēia mau mea āpau? E hāʻawi i ka mea kūʻai aku i kahi manawa palekana e nānā ai a hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai i ka pilina a me ka moekolohe ma kahi ʻano i kūkulu ʻia.

Kahakaha nui: Ma ka manawa ʻole e nānā ana ka mea hoʻoponopono a hoʻopili pololei paha me nā mea e hana nei ma waena o ka hoa a me ka mea kūʻai aku.

"Hui pū kahi mea kūʻai aku me kā lākou hoa pākahi ma kahi kaʻawale," wehewehe ʻo Shattuck. Akā hāʻawi ka mea kūʻai aku i kā lākou mea hoʻoponopono a me kā lāua hoa hana e pani i ke kukui ʻōmaʻomaʻo e kamaʻilio pū kekahi me kekahi e pili ana i kā lākou holomua.

"ʻO ka mea hoʻoponopono, ka mea kūʻai aku, a me ka hoa hana e pani pono i ke kamaʻilio pū ʻana a pinepine ka mea nui i ka holomua ma hope o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoa," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

ʻO wai ka pōmaikaʻi?

ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke komo i kahi hoa pili me ka loaʻa ʻole o kahi therapist laikini, e like me Shattuck.

No laila ma ka laulā, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "ʻo kekahi e hoʻomaka e hana me kahi hoa pili ua hala mua i ka moekolohe no kekahi mau mahina a mau makahiki paha a he nui nā hana e hana ai a puni me ka ʻoluʻolu me ka moekolohe, ka pilina, ka pilina, a me ko lākou kino. . ”

ʻO nā pilikia e hoʻonāukiuki paha i ka mea kūʻai aku e ʻōlelo e hoʻohui lākou i kahi hoa i kā lākou hana hoʻōla - a i ʻole no ka mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe e ʻōlelo like i kahi mea kūʻai aku - mai ka hopohopo kaiāulu maʻamau i nā hana pilikino a i ʻole nā ​​makaʻu.

ʻO kekahi poʻe e pōmaikaʻi ai i ka mana hoʻōla o ka piko o ka hoa me:

• hoʻopakele a me nā mea ola i hōʻino ʻia
• kanaka me ka liʻiliʻi a ʻaʻohe paha moekolohe
• nā mea ʻona penisona me ka hana erectile a i ʻole ka ejaculation mua
• nā mea nona nā ʻāpiki me ka vaginismus, a i ʻole kahi maʻi pelvic papahele e hana ʻehaʻeha i ka moekolohe
• ka poʻe e hakakā nei me ka ʻae ʻana o ke kino a i ʻole ke kino dysmorpia
• ka poʻe i hopohopo a hopohopo paha e pili ana i ka moekolohe, ka pilina, a me ka hoʻopā
• kanaka me ke kino kīnā e hoʻonāukiuki ana i ka moekolohe

Minamina, no ka mea ʻaʻole uhi ka hapanui o nā kulekele ʻinikua i ka therapist partner (a i ʻole ka sex therapy, no kēlā mea), ʻo ka hapa nui o nā poʻe i hiki ke loaʻa ka pōmaikaʻi mai kēia hana hoʻōla hiki ʻole ke uku.

Kūpono ke kau ma hoʻokahi kau ma kahi o $ 200 a $ 400 mai loko mai o ka ʻeke.

Pehea e hana ai?

I ka manawa i hoʻoholo ai ʻoe a me kāu mea hoʻoponopono i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoa pilikino hiki ke hoʻopōmaikaʻi iā ʻoe, hiki i kāu mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe ke kikoo i kā lākou pūnaewele o nā hoa pani e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻike i kahi kūlike kūpono.

Hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokaʻaʻike aku i ka IPSA Referrals Coordinator no ke kōkua ʻana i ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi limahana aloha, hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi ʻia, a he hoa hana ʻoihana pani hōʻoia i kūpono i kāu mau pono.

Kāhea ʻo Shattuck i kēia mau lā he nui nā hoa pili i ka pūnaewele a me nā papaho pāʻoihana kaiapili, no laila inā ʻoe e ʻōkupe i luna o kahi hoa pili āu e manaʻo ai he kūpono paha iā ʻoe, e hāpai pū me kāu mea hoʻoponopono wahine.

Akā no ka hana maoli ʻana me kēlā hoa pili pono, e hōʻailona pū kāu mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe a me kēlā hoa pili.

Mai laila mai, "e hui ka mea kūʻai aku a me ka hoa pani e hoʻoholo inā paha he kūpono maikaʻi paha ia," wahi a Shattuck.

Hana ʻia ka hālāwai mua ma ke keʻena o ka mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe, akā ʻo nā hālāwai āpau ma hope ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe - maʻamau i ke keʻena pani, a i ʻole ka home o ka mea kūʻai aku.

ʻAʻole hoʻoholo ʻia kahi "kūpono" maikaʻi e nā mea e like me kou ʻume ʻana i ka mea pani, akā ma ka manaʻo e like me ʻoe hiki (a i ʻole ma hope hiki) ke hilinaʻi iā lākou.

ʻO ka maʻamau, hana pū ka pākī a me ka therapist wahine e hana i kahi papa hana e pili ana i kāu mau pahuhopu. Ma hope o kēlā, e hana pū ʻoe a me kāu pakani pani i kēlā pahuhopu.

Nā mea i hoʻohui ʻia i kahi hoʻolālā lapaʻau:

• ke nānā maka ʻana
• noʻonoʻo
• pulakaumaka sensate
• hoʻoikaika kino hanu
• palapala kino
• ala hoʻokahi a ʻōlohelohe paha
• hoʻopā hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha ala (ma luna a ma lalo o nā lole)
• moekolohe (alakaʻi ʻia e nā hana moekolohe palekana)

"ʻAʻole mau, a i ʻole maʻamau, ka moekolohe ma waena o kahi hoa pili a me ka mea kūʻai aku, akā ke loaʻa, ke nānā nei mākou i ke kūkulu ʻana i kahua hoʻokumu mua, "wahi a Shattuck.

ʻAʻole kahi mea hoʻokahi a me nā hana a ka Surrogate partner therapy.

"Hana pū mākou i hoʻokahi manawa i ka hebedoma a i ʻole a hiki i ka mea kūʻai aku i kā lākou mau pahuhopu. ʻO kekahi manawa he mau mahina ka lōʻihi, a he mau makahiki ka lōʻihi, ”i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

"I ka manawa i hōʻea ai kahi mea kūʻai aku i kā lākou mau pahuhopu, loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mau kau pani a laila hoʻouna aku iā lākou i ka honua maoli."

ʻO kēia ka mea like me ka sex therapy?

Ma laila Mei i kekahi overlap, akā, supogate hoa therapy ʻaʻole ka sex therapy.

"He mau ʻano radically ʻokoʻa lākou," wahi a Skyler.

"ʻO ka therapy sex kahi ʻano therapy e kōkua ai i kahi kanaka a i ʻole kāne paha e kuhi hewa i nā leka a me nā ʻike i mea e kōkua ai iā lākou e kūkulu i ke olakino maikaʻi a me ka pilina maikaʻi," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

ʻOiai he mau hana lima lima kā kā nā mea kūʻai aku - no ka laʻana, masturbating, kiaʻi ʻana i ka porn, a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i kahi ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha ka papa inoa - ʻo ka sex therapy kahi kamaʻilio kamaʻilio.

"ʻAʻohe hana lima lima ma waena o ka mea hoʻoponopono moekolohe a me ka mea kūʻai aku," wahi a Skyler.

Ke kāhea aku nei ʻo Surrogate partner therapy i kahi mea loea ʻē aʻe - kahi therapist hoa pani ʻia i hōʻoia ʻia - e pili kino, moekolohe, a pili aloha paha me kā lākou mea kūʻai aku. mawaho o nā kau kauā wahine.

Hoʻopili paha ka wahine i nā mea hana kolohe?

"ʻOiai ke kākoʻo nei mākou i nā mea hana moekolohe, ʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo iā mākou iho he poʻe hana moekolohe," wahi a Shattuck. "Manaʻo mākou iā mākou iho he mau therapist hoʻoponopono a me nā mea hoʻōla."

I kekahi manawa aia nā mea moekolohe a moekolohe i pili i ka moekolohe, akā ʻo ka pahuhopu ka hoʻōla - ʻaʻole pono ka hoʻokuʻu kolohe a i ʻole ka leʻaleʻa.

ʻO kēia ʻōlelo hoʻohālikelike, ma ka ʻoluʻolu a ka hoa pili iā Cheryl Cohen Greene, kōkua paha:

ʻO ka hele ʻana i kahi mea hana moekolohe e like me ka hele ʻana i kahi hale ʻaina nani. Koho ʻoe i ka mea āu e makemake ai e ʻai mai ka papa kuhikuhi, a inā makemake ʻoe i ka mea āu i ʻai ai, e hoʻi hou ʻoe.

ʻO ka hana ʻana me kahi hoa pani e like me ka lawe ʻana i ka papa kuke. Hele ʻoe, aʻo ʻoe, a laila lawe ʻoe i ka mea āu i aʻo ai a hoʻi ʻoe i ka hale a kuke i kahi meaʻai na haʻi ʻē aʻe ...

Pehea ʻoe e hoʻopili ai me kahi pani?

ʻO ka maʻamau, ʻo kāu mea hoʻoponopono wahine e hoʻolauna. Akā hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i kēia IPSA Surrogate Locator e ʻike i kahi hoa pili ma kou wahi.

Kūpono ʻia?

Nīnau maikaʻi. I ka hapa nui o ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa, he kū ʻole i ke kānāwai ka uku ʻana i ka moekolohe. Akā ʻaʻole pili ka hakahaka o ka hoa - a i ʻole mau synonymous - me ka uku ʻana no ka moekolohe.

"ʻAʻohe kānāwai e kūʻē i ka hana ʻana i kēia," wahi a Shattuck. "Akā ʻaʻohe kānāwai e kuhikuhi i ka maikaʻi o kēia."

I nā huaʻōlelo ʻē aʻe, hāʻule ka hakahaka hoa ma kahi ʻāpana hina.

Akā, e like me Shattuck, aia ka IPSA ma kahi o 45 mau makahiki a ʻaʻole i hoʻopiʻi ʻia.

Pehea e lilo ai kekahi i hoa pani hakahaka?

"He kuleana koʻikoʻi ka mea pani wahine no ka mea kūʻai aku e pono ai iā lākou, akā ʻaʻole pono lākou i ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa kula a i ʻole ka lāʻau lapaʻau i ka psychology," i ʻōlelo ʻo Skylar.

ʻO ia ka manaʻo i lilo kekahi i hoa hānai? ʻAʻole.

"ʻO ka poʻe e hana ana i ka hakahaka pono e hele ma waena o kahi papahana kūpono a me ke kino hōʻoia, e like me IPSA," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Wahi a Shattuck (ʻo ia ka mea e hōʻike hou ai, ua hōʻoia ʻia ʻo IPSA), ʻo ke lilo ʻana i hoa hānai kahi hana i hana ʻia.

"Aia kahi kaʻina hoʻomaʻamaʻa he nui no ka pule, a laila aia kahi hana internship kahi e hana ai ma lalo o kahi hoa pani pani ʻia, a laila inā / ke ʻike ʻia ʻoe e mākaukau e hele ma ke ʻano ponoʻī ma ke ʻano he hoa hōʻoia i pani ʻia iā ʻoe iho, hana ʻoe."

Kāhea aku ka IPSA i kēlā hōʻoluʻolu me ke kino ponoʻī a me ka moekolohe, ka mahanahana, ke aloha, ke aloha, ka naʻau, a me nā ʻano nonjudgmental e pili ana i ke koho ʻana o ka nohona i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, nā hana moekolohe consensual, a me ka orientation sex nā mea āpau no ka lilo ʻana i hoa pili.

Ke laina lalo

No nā poʻe nona ka pilina, ka moekolohe, ko lākou kino, a me ka pā ʻana ke kumu o ka hopohopo, makaʻu, kaumaha, a hopohopo paha, e hana ana i kahi kime me kahi therapist (sex) a me kahi hoa pili e hiki ke hoʻōla nui loa.

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