ʻO ka moekolohe ma hope o ka male ʻana ka mea āu e hana ai - a hiki iā ʻoe ke hana maikaʻi

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• Ua male ≠ i ka moekolohe maikaʻi ʻole
• ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka male o ka poʻe male ... a ʻoi aku o ia
• ʻOiai, aia kekahi mau kumu e luʻu ai ka nui o ka moekolohe
• No ka moekolohe, pono ʻoe e makamua i ia
• Aia kahi ebb kūlohelohe a kahe i ka libido i ka manawa
• ʻAe ʻoe i kāu ola wahine pilikino e hāʻule i ke ala
• Inā hiki ʻole ke kiʻi i ke ʻano, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei ma waho o ka lumi moe
• Ke ala maikaʻi e loaʻa ai ka moekolohe maikaʻi? E kamaʻilio
• I kekahi manawa pono ʻoe e kau iā ʻoe iho i ke ʻano
• Kūkulu paha ʻoe i ka makemake i ka lā holoʻokoʻa
• ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i kā lākou aloha i ka ʻōlelo aloha a me ka ʻōlelo makemake hiki ke kōkua
• E haʻalele i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i kou ola moekolohe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe
• E hoʻāʻo i kahi mea ʻokoʻa e ʻala i nā mea i luna
• Hana i kahi papa ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha
• E hele i kahi pāʻina moekolohe / ʻaha a i ʻole kahi hālāwai swinger
• Kūʻai no kahi mea pāʻani moe kolohe (a mea pāʻani pahas) pū
• Huli i ka porn
• E hele i ka wā hoʻomaha!
• Ke laina lalo

Hoʻopili mākou i nā huahana a mākou e manaʻo nei he pono no kā mākou poʻe heluhelu. Inā kūʻai ʻoe ma o nā loulou i kēia ʻaoʻao, loaʻa iā mākou kahi kōmike liʻiliʻi. Eia kā mākou hana.

Ua male ≠ i ka moekolohe maikaʻi ʻole

Hele mua ke aloha, a laila hele mai ka male, a laila hele mai ... moe kolohe?

ʻAʻole pēlā ka hele o ka mele, akā ʻo ia ka mea a ka hoopla āpau e pili ana i ka moekolohe ma hope o ka male e manaʻoʻiʻo ai ʻoe.

Nūhou maikaʻi: pololei kēlā. Hoopla! Huikau! Fallacy!

"He mau kaukani, haneli he mau kaukani, miliona mau kāne male i hauʻoli, olakino, a hoʻokō i ke ola moekolohe," i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻo Jess O'Reilly, PhD, host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. Phew.

ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka male o ka poʻe male ... a ʻoi aku o ia

E koho i kou ālina mai ka honua! He mea kūpono inā noʻonoʻo ʻoe e pili ana.

"Ke ʻike a hilinaʻi ʻoe i kāu pakanā, makemake ʻoe e lilo i ʻoluʻolu hou aʻe e wehe ana e pili ana i kou manaʻo, ka mea āu e makemake ai, a me nā mea āu e moemoeā ai," wahi a O'Reilly. "Hiki i kēia ke alakaʻi i ka wahine hoihoi hou a hoʻokō."

Hoʻohuli ʻae ʻole? "Hōʻike ka ʻikepili ma waho e hōʻike nei i ka male pinepine ʻana o ka poʻe male ma mua o ka poʻe hoʻokahi," hoʻohui ʻo ia.

Mai hoʻowahāwahā i ka maʻalahi o ka loaʻa ʻana o kekahi hoa makemake / makemake ʻi kekahi / aia kekahi ma kou ʻaoʻao!

ʻOiai, aia kekahi mau kumu e luʻu ai ka nui o ka moekolohe

ʻO ka hana mua i ka loaʻa hou? Ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke kumu e emi ai kāu!

No ka moekolohe, pono ʻoe e makamua i ia

Inā he mea nui ka moekolohe iā ʻoe a paʻa ʻoe, e koho ʻoe? "Pono ʻoe e hoʻonohonoho mua ia," wahi a O'Reilly. "Hiki i kēia ke lilo i mea paʻakikī hou aʻe ma hope o kāu mau keiki, akā hiki ke hana ʻoe i ka hoʻoikaika."

ʻO kāna kihi no ka hana mua ʻana iā ia? E waiho i kāu papa kuhikuhi e like me kāu makemake i nā mea ʻē aʻe - inā he hālāwai ʻoihana ia, ʻoihana lāʻau, a i ʻole ʻohi ʻana i nā keiki mai ka hana soccer.

ʻAʻole pono ka papa alemanaka e heluhelu "Bang My Boo" (ʻoiai hiki loa ia, inā ʻo ia kāu mea). A ʻaʻole pono ke kuʻi ʻana ke kiko!

E hoʻokaʻawale wale i ka manawa e hoʻohui ai kekahi i kekahi a ʻike i nā ʻano o ka hoʻopā e hiki ai, wahi a O'Reilly.

Aia kahi ebb kūlohelohe a kahe i ka libido i ka manawa

Heʻoiaʻiʻo kēlā no nā poʻe o nā kāne āpau a me nā moekolohe.

"Hoʻopilikia ʻia ʻo Libido e nā mea e like me ka hānau hānau, nā maʻi, ʻeha mau, nā lāʻau lapaʻau, nā pilikia, a me nā hoʻohana ʻana i nā lāʻau," wahi a Holly Richmond, PhD, he mea hōʻoia i ka wahine a me ka psychologist somatic ma KY

ʻO ka luʻu ʻana i ka makemake moekolohe ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona ākea ākea i kekahi mea i ka pilina.

ʻAe ʻoe i kāu ola wahine pilikino e hāʻule i ke ala

Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i ka libido e ka pili ʻole o ka moekolohe?

Kūleʻa paha paha ia, akā ʻōlelo ʻo Richmond, “ʻo ka nui o ka moekolohe, ʻo ka nui nō ia o kou makemake. ʻO ka liʻiliʻi o kāu, ʻo ka liʻiliʻi o kāu makemake. "

Hele mai ka W-H-Y i nā homone.

"Ke moe kolohe ʻoe, aia kahi hoʻokuʻu o endorphins a me nā oxytocin e hoʻokau iā mākou i ke ʻano no ka moekolohe," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka moekolohe hou aku kekahi e alualu ai i kahi ala neural e aʻo iā ʻoe e kali i ka leʻaleʻa."

Hiki i kēlā wahine ke hana i kahi hana ʻelua a i ʻole he hana no hoʻokahi kanaka, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Ma waho aʻe o ke kōkua ʻana iā ʻoe i ke ʻano no ka moekolohe like ʻole, hiki i ka masturbating ke kūkulu i kou hilinaʻi.

Hiki iā ia ke kōkua iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pehea ʻoe e hoʻopā ai i hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo pono i kāu hoa i ka pehea e hoʻopā ai iā ʻoe ke moe kolohe ʻoe.

Hoʻohui, ʻo ka ʻānai ʻana i kahi i waho e kōkua pū i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa i kāu mau pae koʻikoʻi, kahi e kōkua ai iā ʻoe e hele i ke ʻano. # Lanakila.

Inā hiki ʻole ke kiʻi i ke ʻano, e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei ma waho o ka lumi moe

Maʻalahi ke kumu: ʻO ka mea āu e hana ai ma waho o ka lumi moe hiki ke hoʻopili i ka mea e hana nei (ʻaʻole paha) i loko o ka lumi moe.

"Inā ʻoe e hāpai ana i ka ukiuki no ka mea me ka huhū e hana i kahi mahele kūpono ʻole o ka hana o ka hale, ʻaʻole ʻoe e nānā i kēia huhū ma ka puka o ka lumi moe," wehewehe ʻo O'Reilly.

"Me he mea lā huhū ʻoe no ka mea ua ʻōlelo aku kāu hoa i kekahi mea e hōʻino iā ʻoe i mua o nā keiki, ʻaʻole e hoʻopau koke kēlā huhū ke hele ʻoe i kahi moe."

ʻAʻole hiki ke unuhi i kēlā mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i ke aloha a i ʻole ka makemake e pono ai.

ʻO ka hopena he ʻāpana ʻelua.

ʻO ka mea mua, pono ka hoa marinating i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e kū i kā lākou hoa pili e pili ana i ka mea a lākou e manaʻo nei a no ke aha.

A laila, pane ka hoa ʻē aʻe i ke ʻano.

Inā paʻakikī ʻoe a me kāu hoa me kēia mau ʻano kamaʻilio ʻana, noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe i kahi therapist pili.

Ke ala maikaʻi e loaʻa ai ka moekolohe maikaʻi? E kamaʻilio

Inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo ʻo ʻoe a me kāu hoa ma ka ʻaoʻao like e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe āu e makemake ai a pehea ka manawa āu e makemake ai e loaʻa iā ia - a i ʻole ʻoe ʻike aia ʻoe ma nā ʻaoʻao ʻokoʻa - pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana ia!

"ʻO ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea i manaʻo ʻia ai kēlā me kēia hoa e pili ana i ka moekolohe ka mea koʻikoʻi," wahi a Richmond.

"Pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka nui o nā manawa o ka lā, ka pule, a ʻo ka mahina paha e makemake ai kekahi o ʻoe e moekolohe," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia.

Inā loaʻa ka hoʻokaʻawale i ka pinepine o ka moekolohe - a ʻo ka hapa nui o nā kāne i kekahi manawa i ka pilina - pono ʻoe:

1. E hoʻomau i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka moekolohe.
2. Prioritize i kekahi ʻano o ka pili wahine a me ka pili.
3. E ʻimi i nā ʻanoʻano o ka pili aloha.
4. E noʻonoʻo e ʻike i ka wahine hoʻoponopono wahine.

Ma mua o ka manawa hea, "pono ​​ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe a me nā manaʻo āu e makemake ai e hana ke loaʻa iā ʻoe," wahi a Richmond.

ʻO kahi laʻana, pili wale i ka leʻaleʻa a me kahi orgasm a i ʻole he mea hou aʻe e pili ana i ka pili?

Ma ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i kahi a ʻolua e kū ai hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e neʻe i kahi o ke aloha ma mua o ka pale ʻana, i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke hana i nā hopena kahi e manaʻo ʻia ai ka mana a me ka hoʻokō.

I kekahi manawa pono ʻoe e kau iā ʻoe iho i ke ʻano

ʻOiaʻiʻo leʻaleʻa: Aia kekahi ʻano ʻokoʻa o ka hoʻoulu.

Aia kekahi ʻano e paʻi iā ʻoe whamm-o-bamm-o i ka manawa koke (i kapa ʻia ka makemake kūwaho), a me ke ʻano e puka aʻe ke hoʻomaka ʻoe a me kāu pakanā e honi a hoʻopā paha (i kapa ʻia ka makemake pane).

ʻOiai he mea kūpono paha ka makemake kūpona i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai ʻoe a me kāu Helu ʻekahi e launa pū, "no ka hapa nui o nā kāne male, a me nā poʻe i pili i ka manawa lōʻihi, pono ʻoe e hana i nā mea e ala hou ai a loaʻa iā ʻoe i ke ʻano, "wahi a O'Reilly.

"Inā ʻoe e kali e makemake i ka moekolohe e loaʻa, hiki iā ʻoe ke kali no ka manawa lōʻihi," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Pehea ʻoe e hilinaʻi ai (a me kāu hoapili) i ka makemake pane e iho i lalo i ka mea e huli iā ʻolua.

ʻIke paha ia i ka scooting kokoke i kekahi i kekahi ma ka moe, e noi ana a hāʻawi paha i kahi wāwae e ʻānai ai, honi i ka maka, ʻūlū, a i ʻole ka ʻauʻau pū ʻana.

Kūkulu paha ʻoe i ka makemake i ka lā holoʻokoʻa

ʻO kahi ala ʻē aʻe e kiʻi ai i ke ʻano? Hoʻolilo i ka lā holoʻokoʻa ke kiʻi ʻana i ke ʻano. E like me kā O'Reilly i ʻōlelo ai, "Ke hoʻomaka nei ka makemake i ke kūkulu ʻana ma mua o ka hemo ʻana o nā lole."

He aha ka manaʻo o ia ma ka hana, pololei?

ʻO Sexting, nā kelepona kelepona awakea, a i ʻole nā ​​memo saucy i waiho ʻia ma kahi e loaʻa ai i kāu hoa.

Ke waiho nei i kāu hoa e koho i kou kapa komo no ka lā, e ʻauʻau pū ana (akā ʻaʻole pā!) I ke kakahiaka, a i ʻole e haʻi maʻalahi ʻana i kāu hoa ma mua o kou haʻalele ʻana i ka hale, "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke kali e lohe i kou ʻū ʻana i kēia pō."

Hiki nō hoʻi iā ʻoe ke hoʻohana i nā ʻenehana sex Wearable i kou pono. ʻO ka We Vibe Moxie, kahi laʻana, he haʻalulu panty hiki ke mālama ʻia e kahi polokalamu ma ke kelepona o kāu hoa.

Kau, e haʻi i kāu pakanā, a laila hele i ka hale kūʻai. Leʻaleʻa!

ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i kā lākou aloha i ka ʻōlelo aloha a me ka ʻōlelo makemake hiki ke kōkua

“He mau mea ʻokoʻa ʻelua paha kēia - no laila ke iho nei i ka ʻike ʻana i kāu mau ʻōlelo ponoʻī, a laila ke hāmama, kūkā kamaʻilio e pili ana iā lākou, "wahi a Richmond.

ʻO ke kumumanaʻo o nā ʻōlelo aloha, hoʻomohala ʻia e Dr. Gary Chapman, i ʻōlelo ʻo ke ala a mākou āpau e hāʻawi ai a i ʻole e loaʻa ai ke aloha i hiki ke wāwahi ʻia i ʻelima mau papa nui:

• makana
• manawa maikaʻi
• hana o ka lawelawe
• huaʻōlelo hōʻoia
• hoʻopā kino

Hiki iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa ke aʻo i nā ʻōlelo aloha a kekahi me ka lawe ʻana i kēia quiz pūnaewele 5 mau minuke.

E aʻo kēia iā ʻoe pehea e ʻike ai i kāu ipo i ke aloha a me ka mahalo ʻia, wahi a Richmond. Inā manaʻo kāu hoa a aloha ʻia a mahalo ʻia, e lilo paha lākou i ke ʻano o ka lapuwale.

Makemake pū ʻoe e ʻike i ka "ʻōlelo makemake" a kāu hoapili, i ho'ākāka ʻia e Richmond, "ke ala a kāu hoa e makemake ai e hōʻike ʻia makemake ʻia lākou."

Makemake anei lākou e hoʻohenehene? Sext iā lākou ma mua o ka pō lā.

Hana ke aloha iā lākou? E hoʻolālā i kahi lā piha me nā ihoiho, pua, ʻauʻau, a me nā hola i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nāu wale nō (no Sans kuleana i kekahi mea ʻē aʻe).

Makemake paha lākou e pūʻiwa? E waiho i kahi pālule paʻa i loko o kā lākou ʻekeʻeke me kahi memo.

Makemake paha lākou e mahalo ʻia? Hoʻomaikaʻi iā lākou!

E haʻalele i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i kou ola moekolohe i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe

ʻIke ʻoe i kā lākou e ʻōlelo nei: ʻO ka hoʻohālikelike ka ʻaihue o ka ʻoliʻoli. Pili kēlā i loko o ka lumi moe!

"Pono ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻoholo i ka nui a me ke ʻano o ka moekolohe āu e makemake ai e hoʻokumu i nā mea e pono ai nāu, ʻaʻole i kau ʻia ma ka mea āu i manaʻo ai he pono kāu e hana nei," wahi a Richmond.

E hoʻāʻo i kahi mea ʻokoʻa e ʻala i nā mea i luna

"Hiki i kahi lilo maoli o ka hoihoi i ka moekolohe ma mua o ka manawa ke pau ka mea hou a me ka pīhoihoi," wahi a O'Reilly.

Mai hopohopo, hiki ke hoʻihoʻi i ka wela.

Hana i kahi papa ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha

Inā lōʻihi ʻoe me kāu hoa, manaʻo paha ʻoe ua ʻike ʻoe i nā mea āpau e pili ana i kā lākou makemake moekolohe. Akā kahaha paha ʻoe e ka mea hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau mea a lākou e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo.

A ʻo ia ke kumu e hoʻopihapiha ai ʻoe a me kāu hoa i kahi papa ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha (e laʻa me kēia a me kēia).

E like paha kēlā me kēlā me kēia o ʻoukou e hoʻopiha nei i kāu papa inoa iho, a laila e hui pū ana e kūkākūkā i nā mea āu e makemake ai e hoʻāʻo pū.

A i ʻole, manaʻo paha ia e hana i kahi lā lā i ka hoʻopiha ʻole ʻana i hoʻokahi.

E hele i kahi pāʻina moekolohe / ʻaha a i ʻole kahi hālāwai swinger

"Hana nui nā kāne i nā mea lawelawe o ka pāʻina moekolohe," wahi a Melissa Vitale, ka luna kamaʻilio o NSFW, he hui e hoʻokipa ana i nā hanana maikaʻi a me nā papa hana maikaʻi.

"ʻO ka ʻimi ʻana i ka moekolohe a me ka moekolohe ʻana i loko o kahi pāʻina moekolohe hiki ke kōkua i kahi duo e kūkulu i ka pilina, ka hilinaʻi, a me ke aloha - inā paha lākou e lawe mai i kahi kanaka ʻelua, ʻekolu, a i ʻole ʻehā, a i ʻole he moekolohe me lākou iho i kēlā wahi."

Maliʻa paha ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea e hana ʻia a huli ʻelua ʻia a hoihoi i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana ke hoʻi ʻoe i ka home, hoʻohui ʻo ia.

Kūʻai no kahi mea pāʻani moe kolohe (a mea pāʻani pahas) pū

ʻO ke kūpono, makemake ʻoe e hana i kēia ma kahi hale kūʻai, kahi e loaʻa ai nā mea aʻo moekolohe ma ka papahele i hiki ke pane i kekahi Q e piʻi aʻe.

E hoʻāʻo paha ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale no 15 mau minuke, a hoʻi hou mai e ʻike i nā huahana leʻaleʻa āu i hoʻohui ai i ke kaʻa.

A i ʻole, kūleʻa paha ʻoe i loko o ka hale kūʻai, huli a hoʻonui i nā sexcessories i ke kaʻa.

Paipai ʻo Richmond e waiho me kahi mea pāʻani āu e makemake ai e hoʻohana pū, a me kahi mea pāʻani hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo i kēlā me kēia manawa ou.

"Paipai wau i kaʻu mau mea kūʻai aku e loaʻa i kahi mea haʻalulu e hana no lākou wale nō. A laila e lawe iā ia i loko o ka lumi moe me kā lākou hoa - he manawa nui kēia i ka manawa no ka hoa. "

Huli i ka porn

ʻOiai ʻo ka mea āu e lohe ai, hiki i ka porn ke kōkua pono i kahi pilina.

"ʻO ia kahi ala e hiki ai i nā kāne a me ke kāne ke komo pū i loko o ka honua moemoeā," wahi a Richmond. "Ma ka nīnau ʻana i kekahi i kekahi i ka mea a lākou e makemake ai e nānā, loaʻa iā ʻoe nā hōʻailona e pili ana i kā kekahi o kā lākou kikoʻī.

"Me ka porn, pono ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo he hoʻomaʻamaʻa wale kēia, ʻaʻole no ka aʻo ʻana," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

"Ma mua o ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka porn e hoʻokau i nā mea e pili ana i kā mākou a me kā mākou mau hoa e like ai a pehea e hana ai, e pili ana i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka moemoeā a me kahi leʻaleʻa e hohonu hohonu ai i ka leʻaleʻa."

Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike kahi e hoʻomaka ai, e nānā i nā pūnaewele porn wahine e like me CrashPadSeries, Bellesa, a me Lust Cinema.

E hele i ka wā hoʻomaha!

ʻIke ʻoe i kā lākou e ʻōlelo ai: ʻO ka moe kolohe ka wahine ʻoi loa.

ʻOiai ke aʻo nei ka poʻe loea i ka hoʻokau nui ʻana iā ʻoe a me kāu boo e ʻāwīwī e like me nā lāpaki i kēlā me kēia manawa ke hele aku ʻoe, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Richmond, "ʻo ka moʻo huakaʻi he ala maikaʻi loa ia e hoʻoponopono hou ai i ke ola moekolohe a hoʻoulu hou iā ia."

ʻAʻole ia nā pale o ka hōkele a i ʻole ka lawelawe lumi e hoʻomaikaʻi maikaʻi ai i ka moekolohe wā hoʻomaha.

"E pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo aia ʻoe i kahi wahi e ʻae iā ʻoe e haʻalele i kāu kuleana i kēlā me kēia lā, i kēlā me kēia minuke," wahi a Richmond. "Wehe ʻia kēia i kahi no ʻoe a me kāu hoa e mahi ai i ka eroticism, a hele wāwae i ka moemoeā a me ka leʻaleʻa."

E akāka loa: ʻO kēia ka manaʻo ʻaʻole ke nānā nei iā Slack, leka uila, a i ʻole nā ​​leka hoʻomaopopo ʻē aʻe, inā hiki.

ʻO kekahi mau huahana leʻaleʻa huakaʻi e hoʻopaʻa:

• Le Wand Point Vibrator, nona ka laka huakaʻi
• Unbound Tether, ʻo ia ka kink i ʻae ʻia e TSA a me nā kapa BDSM
• 2 Ounce Sliquid Sassy, ​​hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe pololei i kāu halihali

Ke laina lalo

Mai hoʻokuʻu i ka trope hōʻoluʻolu e kau ana i ke apo ma luna ona e hōʻino ai i kou ola moekolohe - ʻo ʻoe a me kāu hoa e hoʻoholo i ke ʻano o ka moekolohe ma mua ou.

Nui nā kumu - pili, hilinaʻi, aloha, a kamaʻāina, e inoa i kekahi mau mea. - hiki i ka wahine male ke hoʻokō ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka moekolohe hoʻokahi, a me nā ala he nui e hoʻoulu hou ai i kou ola wahine inā hoʻomaka ia e hōʻoluʻolu iki.

ʻO Gabrielle Kassel kahi mea kākau wahine a me ke olakino ma New York – a ʻo CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. Ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka kakahiaka, ua hoʻāʻo ma luna o 200 mau haʻalulu, a ʻai ʻia, ʻona, a palaki ʻia me ka lanahu - nā mea āpau ma ka inoa o ka puke pai. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke kōkua nona iho a me nā puke aloha, kaomi ʻana i ke keʻena, a me ka hulahula lāʻau paha. E hāhai iā ia ma Instagram.