Ua kākau ʻo Lena Dunham i kahi moʻolelo no ka Brutally Honest essay e pili ana i kāna hanana IVF i kūleʻa ʻole

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Ke wehe nei ʻo Lena Dunham e pili ana i kāna aʻo ʻana ʻaʻole loa ana he keiki ola nāna. Ma kahi ʻatikala makaʻala, paʻakikī i kākau ʻia no Ka Nūpepa ʻo Harper, ua wehewehe ʻo ia i kāna ʻike kūleʻa me ka in vitro fertilization (IVF) a me ke ʻano o ka hopena i kona manaʻo.

Ua hoʻomaka ʻo Dunham i ka ʻatikala ma ka haʻi ʻana i kāna hoʻoholo paʻakikī e hana i kahi hysterectomy ma 31 mau makahiki. "ʻO ka manawa i nalowale ai koʻu ulu ʻana ua hoʻomaka wau e ʻimi i kahi pēpē," i kākau ai ʻo ia. "Ma hope o ʻelua mau makahiki o ka ʻeha mau loa i hoʻokumu ʻia e ka endometriosis a me kāna mau haʻawina liʻiliʻi, ua wehe ʻia koʻu ʻōpū, koʻu ʻōpū, a me kekahi o kaʻu mau ovaries. pōkole ʻo jean, akā i nā lā ma hope o koʻu ʻoki ʻana, ua pīhoihoi wau me ia. " (E pili ana: Ua wehe ʻo Halsey e pili ana i ka hopena o nā ʻoki ʻana o Endometriosis i kona kino)

Ma hope koke iho o ka hana ʻana i kāna hysterectomy, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Dunham ua manaʻo ʻo ia i ke keiki hānai. Eia nō naʻe, i ka manawa like, ua kākau ʻo ia, ua hele pū ʻo ia me kāna addiction i benzodiazepines (kahi hui o nā lāʻau lapaʻau i hoʻohana mua ʻia e mālama i ka hopohopo) a ʻike ʻo ia e hoʻomaka mua i kona olakino ma mua o ka lawe ʻana i kahi pēpē i ke kiʻi. "A no laila ua hele hou wau i ka hana hou," i kākau ai ʻo ia, "kahi i kūpaʻa loa ai e lilo i wahine kūpono i ka waiū pēpē f * ck-you ʻoi loa i ka moʻolelo o ʻAmelika."

Ma hope o ka rehab, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Dunham ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻimi no nā hui kākoʻo kaiāulu pūnaewele no nā wahine i hiki ʻole ke hāpai kūlohelohe. ʻO ia ka manawa i ʻike ai ʻo ia i IVF.

I ka wā mua, ua ʻae ka mea hana 34 makahiki ʻaʻole ʻo ia i ʻike ʻo IVF kahi koho nona, e noʻonoʻo ana i kona kūlana olakino. "Ua ʻike ʻia ma hope o nā mea a pau aʻu i hele ai - ka menopause kemika, nā ʻokiʻoki ʻana i nā kakini, ka mālama ʻole ʻana i ka lāʻau lapaʻau - ʻo kaʻu ovary i koe e hana mau ana i nā hua," i kākau ai ʻo ia i kāna ʻatikala. "Inā ʻohi maikaʻi mākou iā lākou, hiki ke hoʻomoʻi ʻia lākou me ka sperm donor a lawe ʻia i ka manawa e kahi mea pani."

ʻO ka mea pōʻino naʻe, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Dunham ua aʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole kūpono kāna mau hua no ka fertilization. Ma kāna ʻatikala, hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ia i nā ʻōlelo pololei a kāna kauka i ka wā i hoʻopuka ai ʻo ia i ka nūhou: "'Aʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻomomona i kekahi o nā hua. E like me kāu e ʻike ai, ʻeono kā mākou. a ʻo ka hope loa... ' Ua hala ʻo ia i koʻu hoʻāʻo ʻana e kiʻi iā ia - ke keʻena ʻeleʻele, ke kīʻaha ʻālohilohi, ka sperm i hui pū me kaʻu mau hua lepo lepo me ka ikaika loa a puhi lākou. He paʻakikī ke hoʻomaopopo ua hala lākou. "

ʻO Dunham kekahi o nā wahine 6 miliona mau ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa e hakakā nei me ka infertility, e like me ka US Office on Health Women. Mahalo i nā ʻenehana reproductive kōkua (ART) e like me IVF, hiki i kēia mau wahine ke loaʻa kahi keiki ola, akā pili ka helu kūleʻa i nā kumu he nui. Ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i nā mea e like me ka makahiki, ka ʻike infertility, ka helu o nā embryos i hoʻoneʻe ʻia, ka mōʻaukala o nā hānau mua, a me nā hānau hānai ʻole, aia ma laila ma waena o kahi 10-40 pākēneka manawa kūpono e hānau ai i kahi pēpē olakino ma hope o ka mālama ʻana i ka IVF, e like me i kahi hōʻike 2017 mai nā Centers for Disease Control (CDC). ʻAʻole pili kēlā i ka helu o nā pōʻai IVF e lawe ai no kekahi e hāpai maoli, ʻaʻole e hōʻike i ke kumukūʻai kiʻekiʻe o nā mālama infertility ma ka laulā. (Related: He aha ka makemake o Ob-Gyns i ʻike nā wahine e pili ana i ko lākou hānai ʻana)

He paʻakikī ka hana ʻana me ka infertility ma kahi pae naʻau. Ua hōʻike nā haʻawina e hiki ke alakaʻi i nā manaʻo hilahila, ka hewa, a me ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa - kahi mea i ʻike mua ʻia e Dunham. Iā ia Harper's Magazine ʻatikala, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua noʻonoʻo ʻo ia inā ʻo kāna ʻike IVF maikaʻi ʻole ʻo ia ke ʻano "loaʻa iā ia ka mea e pono ai." (ʻO Chrissy Teigen lāua ʻo Anna Victoria i ʻōlelo pololei e pili ana i nā pilikia pili i ka IVF.)

"Ua hoʻomanaʻo wau i ka hopena o kahi hoa aloha, i nā makahiki he nui i hala aku nei, i koʻu haʻi ʻana iā ia i kekahi manawa hopohopo wau he hōʻino koʻu endometriosis i manaʻo ʻia e haʻi iaʻu ʻaʻole pono wau i kahi keiki," i hoʻomau ai ʻo Dunham. "Kokoke kuha ʻo ia. ʻAʻohe mea i kūpono i keiki."

Ua aʻo nui ʻo Dunham i nā mea he nui i loko o kēia ʻike. Akā ʻo kekahi o kāna mau haʻawina nui loa, ua haʻi ʻo ia i kāna ʻatikala, pili i ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ka mana. "Nui nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻoponopono i ke ola - hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau i kahi pilina, e noʻonoʻo, e koʻikoʻi, e mihi," kākau ʻo ia. "Akā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke koi aku i ke ao holoʻokoʻa e hāʻawi iā ʻoe i pēpē a kou kino i haʻi aku ai iā ʻoe i nā manawa āpau he hiki ʻole." (Pili: He aha ka makemake o Molly Sims e ʻike ai nā wahine e pili ana i ka hoʻoholo e hoʻopaʻa i kā lākou mau hua manu)

E like me ka paʻakikī o kēlā ʻike, ke kaʻana nei ʻo Dunham i kāna moʻolelo i kēia manawa me ka hui pū ʻana me nā miliona o nā "koa IVF" ʻē aʻe i loaʻa i nā piʻi a me nā haʻahaʻa o ka ʻike. "Ua kākau wau i kēia ʻāpana no nā wahine he nui i hāʻule ʻole e ka ʻepekema lapaʻau a me kā lākou biology ponoʻī, ka poʻe i hāʻule hou ʻia e ka hiki ʻole o ke kaiāulu ke noʻonoʻo i kahi kuleana ʻē aʻe no lākou," i kākau ai ʻo Dunham i kahi pou Instagram. "Ua kākau pū wau i kēia no ka poʻe i hoʻokuʻu i ko lākou ʻeha. A kākau wau i kēia no nā malihini ma ka pūnaewele - ʻo kekahi o lākou aʻu i kamaʻilio pū ai, ʻo ka hapa nui o lākou ʻaʻole wau - nāna i hōʻike pinepine iaʻu, ua mamao wau mai hookahi."

I ka hoʻopau ʻana i kāna pou Instagram, ʻōlelo ʻo Dunham ua manaʻolana ʻo ia i kāna ʻatikala "hoʻomaka i kekahi mau kamaʻilio, nīnau i nā nīnau hou aʻe ma mua o ka pane ʻana, a hoʻomanaʻo mai iā mākou he nui nā ala e lilo ai i makuahine, a ʻoi aku ka nui o nā ala e lilo ai i wahine."

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