No ke aha e koʻikoʻi ai kou olakino noʻonoʻo ma mua a ma hope o ka pēpē

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• ʻAʻole hoʻokae ke ʻano o nā maʻi ma hope o ka hānau ʻana
• ʻAʻole kūlike ke kaumaha postpartum i ka psychosis postpartum
• Hana i kou olakino noʻonoʻo e like me kou olakino kino
• Noi i ke kōkua a ʻae iā ia ke hāʻawi ʻia
• ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi
• OK inā ʻaʻole OK
• ʻO ka lawe lawe ʻana

ʻO nā wahine e hāpai ana no ka manawa mua e hoʻolilo paha i ka hapa nui o kā lākou hāpai keiki e aʻo pehea e mālama ai i kā lākou pēpē. Akā, pehea e aʻo ai pehea e mālama ai iā lākou iho?

ʻEkolu mau huaʻōlelo aʻu e makemake ai i kamaʻilio mai kekahi iaʻu e pili ana i koʻu hāpai ʻana: ke olakino noʻonoʻo makuahine. Ua hiki i kēlā mau huaʻōlelo ʻekolu ke hana i kahi ʻokoʻa kupaianaha i koʻu ola ke lilo wau i makuahine.

Makemake wau i ʻōlelo ʻia e kekahi, "E ʻeha paha kou olakino noʻonoʻo makuahine ma mua o ka hāpai ʻana. He mea maʻamau kēia, a he mea hiki ke mālama ʻia. " ʻAʻohe mea i haʻi mai iaʻu i nā hōʻailona e nānā ai, nā mea pilikia, a i hea e hele ai no ke kōkua ʻoihana.

ʻAʻole wau i emi iki ma mua o ka mākaukau i ka wā i kuʻi ai ke kaumaha postpartum iaʻu i ka maka i ka lā ma hope o kaʻu lawe ʻana mai i kaʻu pēpē i ka home mai ka haukapila. ʻO ka loaʻa ʻole o ka ʻike i loaʻa iaʻu i ka wā hāpai hāpai ua alakaʻi wau iaʻu i kahi ʻimi scavenger e loaʻa ai ke kōkua e pono ai iaʻu e ola.

Inā wau i ʻike i ke ʻano o ke kaumaha postpartum, ehia mau wahine e pili ana, a pehea e mālama ai iā ia, inā wau e ʻike i ka hilahila ʻole. E hoʻomaka koke wau i ka lāʻau. A hiki nō wau ke noho hou me kaʻu keiki i kēlā makahiki mua.

Eia kekahi mea ʻē aʻe aʻu e makemake ai ʻike e pili ana i ke olakino noʻonoʻo ma mua a ma hope o koʻu hāpai ʻana.

ʻAʻole hoʻokae ke ʻano o nā maʻi ma hope o ka hānau ʻana

I ka piha ʻana iaʻu he ʻewalu mahina o koʻu hāpai ʻana, ua nīnau mai kahi hoa aloha iaʻu i hānau wale kāna pēpē iaʻu, "E Jen, ke hopohopo nei paha ʻoe no nā mea kaumaha postpartum depression?" Pane koke akula wau, “ʻAʻole nō. ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana. "

Ua hauʻoli wau i ka lilo ʻana i makuahine, ua male ʻia i kahi hoa maikaʻi, kūleʻa i ke ola, a ua kau ʻia nā tona o ke kōkua, no laila ua manaʻo wau aia wau i ka maopopo.

Ua aʻo koke wau i ka manaʻo kaumaha postpartum ʻaʻole e pili i kekahi o kēlā. Ua loaʻa iaʻu nā kākoʻo āpau i ka honua, a ua maʻi naʻe au.

ʻAʻole kūlike ke kaumaha postpartum i ka psychosis postpartum

ʻO kahi o ke kumu i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻole ai wau hiki ke loaʻa iaʻu ke kaumaha postpartum no ka mea ʻaʻole wau i maopopo he aha ia.

Manaʻo pinepine wau i ke kaumaha postpartum i nā makuahine āu e ʻike ai ma ka nūhou nāna i hōʻeha i kā lākou pēpē, a i kekahi manawa, iā lākou iho. ʻO ka hapa nui o kēlā mau makuahine he psychosis postpartum, ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa loa. ʻO Psychosis ka maʻi maʻi maʻamau liʻiliʻi loa, e pili ana i 1 wale nō a 2 o nā wahine he 1,000 e hānau.

Hana i kou olakino noʻonoʻo e like me kou olakino kino

Inā loaʻa ʻoe i ke kuni kiʻekiʻe a me ka puʻu, ʻike paha ʻoe i kāu kauka me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole. E hāhai ʻoe i nā ʻōkuhi a kāu kauka me ka nīnau ʻole. Akā i ka wā e hakakā ai kahi makuahine hou me kona olakino noʻonoʻo, ʻike pinepine ʻo ia i ka hilahila a ʻeha hoʻi i ka hāmau.

ʻO nā maʻi o ka postpartum mood, e like me ke kaumaha hope o ka postpartum a me ka hopohopo postpartum, he mau maʻi maoli ia e pono ai ka lapaʻau ʻoihana.

Koi pinepine lākou i ka lāʻau e like me nā maʻi o ke kino. Akā ʻike ka hapa nui o nā makuahine i ka pono o ka lawe ʻana i ka lāʻau e like me ka nāwaliwali a me ka ʻōlelo i hōʻike ua kūleʻa lākou i ka wā makuahine.

Ala au i kēlā me kēia kakahiaka a lawe i kahi hui o nā antidepressants ʻelua me ka hilahila ʻole. ʻO ka hakakā no koʻu olakino noʻonoʻo e hoʻoikaika ai iaʻu. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa ia iaʻu e mālama i kaʻu keiki.

Noi i ke kōkua a ʻae iā ia ke hāʻawi ʻia

ʻAʻole pono ka hana makuahine ma kahi kaʻawale. ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e alo wale iā ia a ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e lawehala no ka noi ʻana i kāu mea e pono ai.

Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi maʻi ʻōiwi postpartum, ʻo ʻoe hiki ʻole e hoʻomaikaʻi ʻoe iā ʻoe iho. Ua hoʻomaka wau e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ka minuke ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi mea lapaʻau nāna i loea i nā maʻi ʻano postpartum, akā pono wau e ʻōlelo a noi no ke kōkua.

Eia kekahi, e aʻo pehea e ʻae ai. Inā hāʻawi kāu hoa e ʻauʻau a hoʻoluliluli ka pēpē i hiki iā ʻoe ke hiamoe, ʻae ʻae. Inā hāʻawi kou kaikuahine e hele mai e kōkua i ka holoi lole a me nā pā, e hoʻokuʻu iā ia. Inā hāʻawi kahi hoa e hoʻonohonoho i kahi kaʻaahi, e ʻae. A inā makemake kou mau mākua e uku no kahi kahu pēpē, postula postula, a i kekahi mau hola o ke pēpē ʻana, e ʻae i kā lākou hāʻawi.

ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi

I nā makahiki he ʻelima i hala aku nei, i koʻu wā e pili ana i ke kaumaha postpartum, ua manaʻo maoli wau ʻo wau wale nō ia. ʻAʻole wau i ʻike i kekahi mea i loaʻa i ke kaumaha postpartum. ʻAʻole wau i ʻike i haʻi ʻia ma ka pāpili kaiaulu.

ʻO kaʻu kauka (OB) ʻaʻole i lawe aʻe iā ia i luna. Ua manaʻo wau e hāʻule ʻole wau i ka makuahine, kahi mea aʻu i manaʻoʻiʻo ai kūlohelohe i kēlā me kēia wahine ma ka honua.

I koʻu poʻo, aia kekahi mea hewa iaʻu. ʻAʻole wau i makemake e pili kekahi mea me kaʻu keiki, ʻaʻole makemake wau e lilo i makuahine, a hiki ʻole ke hele i waho o kahi moe a haʻalele paha i ka hale koe wale no nā koho o ka pule hebedoma.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ka 1 o 7 mau makuahine hou e hoʻopili ʻia e nā pilikia olakino makuahine i kēlā me kēia makahiki. Ua ʻike wau he ʻohana wau o nā ʻohana he mau kaukani mau māmā e pili pū ana me aʻu. Ua hana kēlā i kahi ʻokoʻa nui loa i ka waiho ʻana i ka hilahila aʻu i manaʻo ai.

OK inā ʻaʻole OK

E hoʻāʻo ka makuahine iā ʻoe i nā ala ʻaʻohe mea ʻē aʻe.

ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e hakakā. ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e heleleʻi. ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e manaʻo e haʻalele. ʻAe ʻia ʻoe e manaʻo ʻole i kou maikaʻi, a e ʻae i kēlā.

Mai mālama i nā ʻino a me nā ʻāpana maikaʻi ʻole o ka makuahine iā ʻoe iho no ka mea iā ia kēlā me kēia o mākou. ʻAʻole lākou e hoʻolilo iā mākou i mau māmā maikaʻi ʻole.

E akahai me ʻoe. E ʻike i kāu poʻe - nā mea e mālama mau i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ʻaʻole hoʻokolokolo. ʻO lākou ka mea e kākoʻo a ʻae iā ʻoe no ka mea.

ʻO ka lawe lawe ʻana

He ʻoiaʻiʻo nā klika. Pono ʻoe e hoʻopaʻa i kāu mask oxygen ponoʻī ma mua o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i kāu keiki. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ninini mai kahi kīʻaha ʻole. Inā iho ka makuahine, iho ka moku holoʻokoʻa.

Kuhi wale kēia mau mea āpau no: ʻO kāu mea olakino makuahine. Ua aʻo wau e mālama i koʻu olakino noʻonoʻo i ke ala paʻakikī, kahi haʻawina i koi ʻia mai iaʻu e kahi maʻi aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai. ʻAʻole pono ia pēlā.

E kaʻana like i kā mākou mau moʻolelo a hoʻomau i ka hoʻonui i ka ʻike. ʻO ka prioritizing i ko mākou olakino noʻonoʻo makua ma mua a ma hope o ka pono o ka pēpē e lilo i maʻamau - ʻaʻole ʻokoʻa.

ʻO Jen Schwartz ka mea nāna i hana ʻO The Medicated Mommy Blog a me ka mea hoʻokumu o MOTHERHOOD | UNDERSTOOD, kahi papaho pāʻoihana kaiaulu e kamaʻilio kūkākūkā me nā makuahine i hoʻopilikia ʻia e nā pilikia olakino makuahine - nā mea weliweli e like me ke kaumaha postpartum, ka hopohopo postpartum, a me kahi toniona o nā pilikia kemika lolo e kāohi i nā wahine mai ka manaʻo e like me nā makuahine kūleʻa ʻO Jen kahi mea kākau, haʻi ʻōlelo, alakaʻi alakaʻi, a mea hāʻawi i ka TODAY Parenting Team, PopSugar Moms, Motherlucker, The Mighty, Thrive Global, Suburban Misfit Mom, a me Mogul. ʻO kāna kākau ʻana a me kāna ʻōlelo hoʻopuka i hōʻike ʻia ma nā wahi a pau o ka blog blog makuahine ma nā pūnaewele ʻoi loa e like me Scary Mommy, CafeMom, HuffPost Makua, Aloha Giggles, a me nā mea hou aku. ʻO New Yorker ka mea maʻa mau, noho ʻo ia ma Charlotte, NC, me kāna kāne ʻo Jason, kahi kanaka liʻiliʻi ʻo Mason, a me ka ʻīlio Harry Potter. No nā mea hou aʻe mai Jen a me MOTHERHOOD-UNDERSTOOD, e hoʻopili me ia ma Instagram.