Ua aʻo mai iaʻu i ka hele ʻana ma Helene me nā malihini

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He kiʻekiʻe ka huakaʻi ma ka papa inoa mua no nā millennial i kēia mau lā. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua ʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi Airbnb ua ʻoi aku ka makemake o nā millennial i ka hoʻolilo kālā ʻana i nā ʻike ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka home. Ke piʻi nei ka huakaʻi solo. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi noiʻi MMGYGlobal o 2,300 mau mākua ʻAmelika he 37 ka nui o nā millennials i manaʻo e lawe i hoʻokahi huakaʻi leʻaleʻa wale nō i loko o nā mahina ʻeono e hiki mai ana.

ʻAʻole ia he mea kupanaha ke komo pū nā wahine ikaika i ka hana. "Ma mua o ka hapahā o nā huakaʻi a pau i kā mākou wā hoʻomaha hana i komo solo," wahi a Cynthia Dunbar, ka luna nui o REI Adventures. "[A ma waho] o kā mākou huakaʻi hele wale, 66 pakeneka he mau wahine."

ʻO ia ke kumu i kauoha ai ka inoa i kahi noiʻi aupuni e ʻike maoli i ka pili o nā wahine i ka honua holoholo. (A ua hoʻopuka hope nā hui i nā mea hele wāwae no nā wahine.) Ua ʻike lākou ua ʻoi aku ma mua o 85 pakeneka o nā wahine a pau i noiʻi ʻia e manaʻoʻiʻo he hopena maikaʻi ka waho i ke olakino noʻonoʻo, olakino kino, hauʻoli, a me ka maikaʻi holoʻokoʻa, a he 70 pakeneka hōʻike i waho ke hoʻokuʻu nei. (Ka helu helu aʻu i ʻae like me ka naʻau.) Ua ʻike pū lākou he 73 pakeneka o nā wahine makemake e hoʻonui i ka manawa-ʻoiai hoʻokahi hola wale nō ma waho.

ʻO wau, ʻo wau kekahi o kēlā mau wahine. Ke noho nei ma New York City, he mea paʻakikī ke haʻalele i ka ululāʻau koneki-a i ʻole ke keʻena-e lawe i ka hanu o ka ea hou i piha ʻole i ka smog a me nā mea haumia ʻē aʻe. ʻO ia kahi e ʻike ai iaʻu iho e nānā nei ma ka pūnaewele REI ma mua. I koʻu lohe ʻana ua hoʻolauna lākou ma mua o 1,000 mau hanana i hoʻolālā ʻia e kiʻi i nā wahine i waho, manaʻo wau e loaʻa iā lākou. kekahi mea iluna o ko'u alahele. A pololei wau: Ma waena o nā haneli o nā papa kula waho a me ʻekolu REI Outessa retreats-immersive, ʻekolu mau lā wahine-wale nō hoʻi-ʻike wau he nui kaʻu mau koho e koho ai.

Akā maoli, ua makemake au i kahi mea ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o kahi hoʻomaha o ʻekolu lā. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, nui nā mea "ola" e hele nei i ke ala o koʻu hauʻoli holoʻokoʻa, a makemake wau i kahi mea e hāʻawi maoli i kahi hoʻoponopono. No laila ua hele au i ka ʻaoʻao REI Adventures, e noʻonoʻo ana e kiʻi ana kekahi o kā lākou huakaʻi holoʻokoʻa holoʻokoʻa he 19 i koʻu maka. ʻOi aku ma mua o hoʻokahi, akā i ka hopena, ʻaʻole ia he huakaʻi Adventures kuʻuna i hoʻowalewale iaʻu. ʻAʻole wale wau e kaʻahele ma nā mokupuni ʻo Tinos, Naxos, a me ka Insta-perfect Santorini, ma kahi huakaʻi hele wāwae he 10 mau lā me kahi alakaʻi REI Adventures, akā e hui pū wau me nā wahine ʻē aʻe i makemake i ka hoʻoulu ʻana i ka mauna hou. ea e like me kaʻu i hana ai.

ʻO ka liʻiliʻi, ʻo ia nō wau manaʻolana ʻo kēia mau wahine. Akā he aha kaʻu i ʻike ai-he poʻe malihini loa kēia poʻe, a ʻo ke kau inoa ʻana me ka mea hoʻokahi, ʻo ia ka mea e haʻalele wau i ke koʻokoʻo o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoaaloha a i ʻole nā ​​​​mea ʻē aʻe e launa pū ai inā pilikia nā mea. ʻAʻole au i ʻike inā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kekahi i ka manaʻo e kahe ana i loko o ʻoe i ka wā e ʻā ana kou mau ʻiʻo a kokoke ʻoe i ka hopena o kahi piʻi paʻakikī ke hele ʻoe. ʻike aia nā manaʻo epic e kali ana ma ka piko. E huhū paha lākou iaʻu no ka makemake e hoʻokeke i loko o ka ʻeha, a i ʻole e hui pū me aʻu i ka piʻi ʻana i luna? Eia kekahi, ʻo wau maoli kahi introvert-kekahi mea makemake nui i ka manawa hoʻokahi e hoʻomaha. E hōʻeha paha koʻu sneaky ʻana mai ka hui aku no kahi manawa kūmau o ka noʻonoʻo? A i ʻole ʻae ʻia ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o ka maʻamau?

ʻO kēia mau nīnau a pau i koʻu poʻo i koʻu kau ʻana ma luna o ka pihi hoʻopaʻa inoa, akā ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi kī wikiwiki i loko o ka pants e, ʻoiaʻiʻo, kahi ʻōlelo aʻu i ʻike ai ma Instagram. Ua ʻōlelo ʻia, "I kēlā me kēia manawa, loaʻa iā mākou nā koho ʻelua: E hele i mua i ka ulu a i ʻole e hoʻi i ka palekana." Simple, ʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ua pā ka home. Ua maopopo iaʻu, i ka hopena o ka lā, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka launa pū ʻana me kēia mau wahine ma mua o ka ʻole, e hoʻopaʻa paʻa mākou i ka wā e hele ana i ke ala a me ka hoʻoluhi ʻana i ka ʻike, a e loaʻa iā mākou kahi ʻike makemake maoli mākou i mau hoaaloha ma hope o ka hala ʻana o kā mākou huakaʻi.

No laila, i ka hopena, hana wau e like me Shonda Rhimes a ʻōlelo wau "ʻae." A i koʻu heʻe ʻana ma luna o ka moku ferry ma Athens e hoʻomaka i kaʻu huakaʻi, e hanu ana i ka ea hou a me ka paʻakai o ke Kai Aegean, ʻaʻohe oʻu hopohopo no kēia mea he huakaʻi kupaianaha wale nō. I ka manawa aʻu i kau ai i koʻu mokulele e hoʻi i New York City, ua aʻo nui wau iaʻu iho, e pili ana i ka hele wāwae ma Helene, a me ka hauʻoli ʻoiai e hoʻopuni ʻia e nā malihini. ʻO kēia kaʻu mau lawe lawe nui.

He poʻe hele wāwae nā wāhine. Ma ka hoʻopaʻa REI aʻu i heluhelu ai ma mua o kaʻu huakaʻi, ua kamaʻilio nui nā wahine e pili ana i ke aloha i waho. Akā ʻo 63 ka nui o lākou i ʻae ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke noʻonoʻo i kahi hiʻohiʻona wahine waho, a ʻo 6 i loko o 10 mau wahine i ʻōlelo ʻia ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o nā kāne i nā hana waho ma mua o nā wahine. ʻOiai ʻaʻole he mea kupanaha kēlā mau ʻike, ʻike wau he poʻokela loa lākou. ʻO kekahi o nā wahine ma kaʻu huakaʻi he hōʻike ola no ka maikaʻi o nā wahine i waho-i kona kākau inoa mua ʻana no kēia huakaʻi, ua hoʻokumu ʻo ia i ka pahuhopu e lilo i 110 paona i loko o ʻeono mahina. He pahuhopu nui kēlā e kēlā me kēia maʻamau, akā ʻo ia ka mea e pono ai e hana i ke olakino maikaʻi e hana i nā kuahiwi a mākou e kokoke nei e hoʻopaʻa. A koho aha? Ua hana loa ia. I kona kuʻe ʻana i ka mauna Zeus (a i ʻole Zas, e like me ka ʻōlelo a ka poʻe Helene), kahi kokoke i 4 mile ka piʻi ʻana i ka piko kiʻekiʻe loa ma ka moku ʻo Cyclades, ʻo ia ka mea aʻu i nānā nui ai. He ʻano haʻahaʻa loa nā mauna, a ʻoiai he hana maʻalahi ka hele wāwae-hoʻokahi kapuaʻi i mua o kekahi, makemake wau e ʻōlelo-hiki iā ia ke kīki i kou hoki inā ʻae ʻoe. Ua hōʻole kēia wahine i ka ʻae ʻana i kēlā hana, a ʻo ia wale nō kekahi o nā wahine he nui e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ana ma laila he nā kumu hoʻohālike ma ka wao nahele. (Makemake hou e ʻike hou

ʻO ka huakaʻi hoʻokahi ʻaʻole ia he hoʻokahi. ʻO ka huakaʻi ʻo Solo ka nui o nā pōmaikaʻi e like me ka hana ʻana i ka mea āu e makemake ai, ke makemake ʻoe, no ka poʻe hoʻomaka - akā hele i kahi huakaʻi hoʻokahi a laila hui pū me kahi hui o nā malihini ka mea like me aʻu, a me nā wahine he nui i kēia. ka huakaʻi, pono. Ma laila mākou a pau no nā kumu like ʻole, ʻo ka hana, ka pilina, a i ʻole ka pili ʻohana, a me ka hele wāwae ʻana me nā malihini i hiki iā mākou ke wehe a haʻi i kā mākou mau moʻolelo pilikino ma ke ʻano i hiki ʻole iā mākou ke hana me nā hoaaloha. a i ʻole, inā mākou e holoholo hoʻokahi. I ko mākou huakaʻi hele no 7 mau mile ma ke ala o Caldera ma Santorini, ua aneane kahi hoʻomaʻemaʻe naʻau i hana ʻia. Nui ka poʻe o mākou i luhi mai nā lā ʻekolu o ka huakaʻi i hala aku nei, e waiho ana iā mākou i kahi ʻano naʻaupō o ka noʻonoʻo i ʻeli maoli i nā kaumaha o ka naʻau a mākou e hana nei i ko mākou ola i ka home. Akā me ka noho pū ʻana me nā hoaaloha hou he mea ia e hoʻomanaʻo ai ʻaʻole pono mākou e ʻauamo i kēlā mau hakakā. I ka napoʻo ʻana o ka lā, ua hōʻea mākou ʻeono i ke komo ʻana o ke kauhale ʻo Oia (pronounced ee-yah, BTW) a nānā mālie mākou i nā kukui o nā hōkele, nā hale, a me nā hale ʻai. He manawa mālie ia o ka ʻoluʻolu, a i koʻu kū ʻana ma laila me ka hoʻoluʻu ʻana i nā mea a pau, ua ʻike au inā ʻaʻole wau i hui pū me kēia mau lede, ua nui paha koʻu poʻo e kū a mahalo i ka nani i kūpono. i mua oʻu.

ʻAʻole pono ke kono ʻia nā kāne. No ka puni holo wāwae piha wau no ka mea, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole mālama nā mauna i ke ʻano o kou kāne. Akā ua kōkua kēia huakaʻi iaʻu e ʻike pehea ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana me nā wahine wale nō. Ma nā wahi he nui o ka huakaʻi-e like me ka wā i lawe ai mākou i kahi papa kuke Mediterranean mai kahi chef kūloko ma ka mokupuni ʻo Tinos, a i ʻole i ka wā i hele ai mākou i ka ʻaoʻao ma kahi huakaʻi 7.5-mile ma nā kauhale o ka mokupuni-he nui i loko o nā ʻakaʻaka, nā ʻōlelo paipai, a Ua hoʻolei ʻia nā manaʻo mālama ʻole i waena o ka hui. Ua ʻike ko mākou alakaʻi, ʻo Sylvia, i ka ʻokoʻa, ʻoiai ua alakaʻi ʻo ia i nā hui co-ed no nā makahiki he nui. I nā manawa he nui, pili ka kāne i ke ʻano hoʻoikaika kino o ka huakaʻi huakaʻi, ua haʻi ʻo ia iaʻu, a eia lākou e hele ai i ka piko o ke kuahiwi a ʻo ia kēlā. Hiki i nā wāhine ke like me ia - makemake wau e hoʻoikaika i koʻu mau palena kino i kēia huakaʻi-akā, uaʻoi aku ka weheʻana i ka pilina me nā mea'ē aʻe i loko o ka hui, ka launa pū me nā kama'āina, a me ka hele wale me ka holoʻana i nā mea' hele e like me ka hoʻolālā. Ua hana ia i kahi huakaʻi hoʻomaha, hāmama, a kono ʻia-a ʻo ke keiki ʻakaʻaka a me nā hoʻohenehene wahine i hele i lalo, ʻaʻole ia i ʻeha. (ʻAe, he kanaka mākou.)

Maikaʻi ka loneli iā ʻoe. Ke hele wau i kēia huakaʻi, ʻo ka mehameha ʻaʻole ia kekahi mea i hele i koʻu manaʻo. Maikaʻi wau i ka hālāwai ʻana me nā poʻe hou a kōkua i ka poʻe āpau e hōʻoluʻolu i kekahi i kekahi (a hiki iā ʻoe ke koho ʻo wau ka mea mua e ʻakaʻaka i kaʻu uku ponoʻī). No laila ua pūʻiwa wau i ka manawa, ma kahi o ka hapalua o ka huakaʻi, ua ʻike wau ua nalo maoli wau i ka home. ʻAʻohe mea pili i koʻu wahi-ʻo nā mea ʻike a mākou e ʻike nei, nā poʻe a mākou e hālāwai ai, a me nā mea a mākou e hana nei he mea kupanaha loa-akā me nā mea aʻu i haʻalele ai. E like me kaʻu i ʻōlelo ai, nui nā pilikia e hoʻi ana i ka home, a ʻike wau ʻoiai makemake nui wau i kahi e pakele ai i ka wā i hoʻopaʻa ai au i kēia huakaʻi, ua manaʻo ʻole wau i ka waiho ʻana i kēlā mau hakakā ma luna o kaʻu kāne i noho ma hope.

Akā, ua piʻi kaʻu hui i ka mauna ʻo Zas, a ʻo ke ʻano o ka mālie i holoi ʻia ma luna oʻu-ʻoiai, ʻo ka poʻe a pau ma ka piko o ka mauna, loaʻa mai ʻelua leʻaleʻa i ko lākou ala i oʻu nei, e kau mai ana ma luna o koʻu pāpale. A i ke ala i lalo, ua loaʻa i kaʻu hui kahi wahi hūnā kahi mamao iki aʻe mai ke ala-kahi kahi i lawa nui no mākou āpau. Noho mākou i lalo a, no kekahi mau minuke, noho i kahi noʻonoʻo alakaʻi alakaʻi ʻia e kekahi o nā mea huakaʻi hele i lilo i kumu aʻo yoga. ʻO ka hana ʻana i kōkua iaʻu e ʻoluʻolu me nā manaʻo hōʻoluʻolu ʻole-ka hewa a me ka hopohopo, ʻo ka mea nui-a ʻae ʻia iaʻu e nānā hou i kēia manawa. Ua kōkua nā leo, nā ʻala, a me nā manaʻo e hoʻihoʻi iaʻu i koʻu kikowaena, a ʻo ia ka manawa aʻu i ʻike ai ʻaʻohe mea hiki iaʻu ke hana no nā mea e hana nei i ka home. Aia kekahi kumu i makemake ai au i kēia huakaʻi i kēia manawa. Me ka ʻole o kēlā noʻonoʻo ʻana-a me ka ʻole o kēlā ʻeha mua o ka mehameha-ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu ua hiki wau i kēlā mau manawa o ka maluhia.

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