'Ōlelo Aʻo Pili Ola: E hoʻokokoke

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• Kinohi kaʻana like ʻehā mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pili manuahi e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokokoke - a noho kokoke - i kāu kāne.
• 'Lelo Aʻo Pili Pili Hou: E kiʻi kokoke
• E ʻike i ʻekolu mau ala hou aʻe e kūkulu ai a mālama i kahi pilina olakino me kāu hoa.
• Kinohi Loaʻa iā ia ka ʻōlelo aʻo pili pili manuahi e hoʻoikaika ai i kou pilina.
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Kinohi kaʻana like ʻehā mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo pili pili manuahi e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokokoke - a noho kokoke - i kāu kāne.

1. E ʻimi i nā ala ʻōlelo ʻole e launa pū me kāu hoa ma hope o ka hakakā ʻana.

Lawe iā ia i kahi mea inu anuanu, e laʻa, a i ʻole hāʻawi iā ia i kahi ʻapo. Wahi a Patricia Love, Ed.D., a me Steven Stosny, Ph.D., nā mea kākau o Pehea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kāu male me ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻana e pili ana, ʻO nā manaʻo o ka makaʻu a me ka hilahila e hoʻokahe i ke koko mai ka ʻāpana o ka lolo e hoʻoponopono ai i ka ʻōlelo, me ka liʻiliʻi o kou wehewehe pono ʻana i kou manaʻo.

2. E hana i kahi mea maikaʻi no kou ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha.

Hiki paha iā ʻoe, no ka laʻana, kōkua i kona kaikuahine e ʻike i kahi komo ʻana a i ʻole e kono i kona mau mākua no ka ʻaina awakea. He hana hoʻopaʻa paʻa ikaika kēia no ka mea e hōʻike ana i kāu kāne e mālama nui ana ʻoe i ka poʻe nui iā ia, wahi a Daniel G. Amin, MD, mea kākau o Ka moekolohe ma ka lolo.

3. Noho i kēia manawa.

ʻO ka nānā ʻana i ka mea e hiki ke hana inā lawe ʻoe i kou pilina i ka pae aʻe hiki ke ʻaihue iā ʻoe i ka hauʻoli, wahi a Elina Furman, ka mea kākau o Honi a Holo. Akā, e nīnau iāʻoe iho, "Ke loaʻa nei iaʻu kaʻu mea e makemake ai mai ka pilina i kēia manawa?" Inā he ʻae ka pane, ʻaʻole pilikia paha ka neʻe ʻana i mua e like me kou manaʻo.

4. E lawe 10.

"E pani i ka puka ma nā kaomi o ke ao-e noho i lalo a heluhelu i kahi mokuna o kahi puke, e inu i kahi waina, a i ʻole e kamaʻilio pū me kāu hoa," wahi a Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D. . "Loaʻa iā ʻoe ka hiki ke hoʻololi e like me kēia-e ʻōlelo, inā he kakahiaka chaotic ʻoe ma ka hana a pono ʻoe e haku iā ʻoe iho ma mua o kahi hālāwai koʻikoʻi-pono ʻoe e hoʻopili i ka hoʻolālā like i kāu mau pilina."

E heluhelu e pili ana i nā ala hou aʻe e hana a mālama i kahi pilina olakino me kāu kāne.

'Lelo Aʻo Pili Pili Hou: E kiʻi kokoke

E ʻike i ʻekolu mau ala hou aʻe e kūkulu ai a mālama i kahi pilina olakino me kāu hoa.

5. Pau ka mālama ʻana i ke aloha no ka mea hope loa.

"ʻO kekahi o nā kumu i ʻōlelo ai ka nui o nā wahine, 'ʻAʻole i kēia pō, e ke aloha,' no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke komo i ke ʻano ma hope o ka lā lōʻihi o ka holo ʻana," wahi a Hilda Hutcherson, MD "E hoʻāʻo e moe i ka mea mua i ke kakahiaka. ʻO ka manawa maikaʻi loa ia o ka lā no nā kāne no ka mea ʻo ka pae kiʻekiʻe o kā lākou testosterone, a e hoʻomaha maikaʻi ʻoe a hoʻomaha." Paipai pū ʻo ia i ka hoʻolālā ʻana i kāu pū waikaua no 15 mau minuke ma mua. "He mea kupanaha ia nona a hoʻonoho i ke kani no kou lā."

6. E hana.

"Hoʻohaʻahaʻa ka hoʻolālā i kāu kiʻekiʻe o ka stress hormone cortisol, kekahi o nā mea luku libido maikaʻi loa no nā wahine," wahi a Laura Berman, Ph.D., ka mea kākau o Moe maoli no na wahine maoli. "ʻO ka nui o ka cortisol ka mea e mālama ai ʻoe i ka momona a puni kou waena." ʻO nā haʻuki liʻiliʻi, e like me ka hele ʻana i kāu ʻīlio a i ʻole ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i kou keʻena, hiki ke hoʻomālamalama i kou ʻuhane a hoʻomaikaʻi iā ʻoe.

7. Mai haʻalele i ka pilina.

"Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kēlā ʻano lā, ʻo ka ʻae wale ʻana i kāu hoa e lomilomi i kou mau poʻohiwi a i ʻole e hahau i kou lima hiki ke hoʻomaha iā ʻoe," wahi a Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. "ʻAʻole pono e alakaʻi i ka moekolohe-akā e ʻike pinepine ʻoe, no ka mea hiki i ka paʻi ke hōʻoluʻolu, hōʻoluʻolu.

Kinohi Loaʻa iā ia ka ʻōlelo aʻo pili pili manuahi e hoʻoikaika ai i kou pilina.

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