Loaʻa i kahi Orgasm Kupaianaha: Kāohi i ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e haʻalele

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Lōʻihi loa paha wau? He aha inā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokalakupua i kēia manawa? Ke luhi nei paha ʻo ia? E hoʻopunipuni paha wau iā ia? Ua loaʻa paha i ka hapa nui o mākou kēia mau manaʻo, a i ʻole kekahi mana o lākou, i kekahi manawa a i ʻole. ʻO ka pilikia, ʻo kēia ʻano nānā pono pilikino e hoʻonāukiuki i ka hopohopo. A ʻaʻohe ala surer e pani i kāu kahakaha kāne ma mua o ke koʻikoʻi, i ʻōlelo ʻia e ka mea aʻo wahine ʻo Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., ka mea kākau o ka Maikaʻi i ke alakaʻi moe i nā wahine wahine.

ʻO ia ke kumu i manaʻo ai ʻo ia e moe me ka ʻole o ka orgasm i kāu pahuhopu hope loa. Hoʻonani ia i kekahi o kēlā libido-crushing hana i ka hopohopo, e waiho ana iā ʻoe me ka ʻoliʻoli maoli i ka moekolohe.

A hana kekahi mea hoʻomākeʻaka ke lawe ʻoe i kāu punahele mai ka papaʻaina, hoʻohui ʻo Nagoski. "Penei ke ʻano o kēia: ʻO nā mea āu e hana ai, mai noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka bea e komo ana i ka tutu ʻākala. He aha ka hana?" Kiʻi ʻoe i kekahi mea e like me kēia, ʻeā? "ʻO ka ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o kou hoʻāʻo ʻole e hana i kekahi mea, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka nānā ʻana i kou lolo e ʻike inā e holomua ana ʻoe, a laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāla hou." (8 mau ala e nānā hewa ai e like me kahi Pro i kahi moe.)

Akā he mea paʻakikī ke hoʻomaopopo i kekahi mau kāne ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e haʻalele i kēia manawa: ʻAʻole manaʻo pinepine lākou ua hana ʻia ka moekolohe a hiki i ka hopena, a manaʻo lākou he ʻoiaʻiʻo ia no nā wahine. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻike kekahi mau kāne i ko lākou hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i kahi orgasm ma ke ʻano he ana o ko lākou kāne ponoʻī. (8 Nā mea e makemake ai nā kāne e ʻike nā wahine e pili ana i ka moekolohe.)

No laila, i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai i ke kumuhana, e hoʻāʻo e hoʻokomo i nā huaʻōlelo relatable. "E haʻi aku iā ia i kou makemake e moe me ia, akā e hōʻike iā ia ua manaʻo nui ʻoe e hele mai, a ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hana ʻana iā ʻoe," wahi a Nagoski. "Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i kekahi mea e like me, 'Inā wau e hoʻomālamalama i kahi kukui i kāu peni a koi aku iā ʻoe e kūkulu i kūkulu i kēia manawa, paʻakikī paha iā ʻoe. ʻO ia ke ʻano o koʻu ʻano." "A laila ʻōlelo ʻoe makemake ʻoe ka moekolohe me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole e pili ana i ka orgasming i hiki iā ʻoe ke hauʻoli maoli iā ʻoe iho.

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