9 mau ala e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke momona i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i kekahi ma ka hale haʻuki

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• "Maikaʻi ʻoe!"
• "Makaʻu wau i ka hopena e like me ʻoe."
• "ʻAe, ʻaʻohe mea makemake e ʻike i kēlā! ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e ʻaʻahu i kēlā."
• "Ua ho'āʻo anei ʻoe i kēia ʻai hou?"
• "ʻAe, hoʻopau i kēlā momona / ʻūhā / ʻūhā / ʻōpū!"
• "Pono paha ʻoe e hoʻomaka me ka hele ʻana ma luna o ka wili."
• "Ua maopopo iaʻu kou manaʻo, hilahila wau."
• "Wale." "Momona." "He weliweli." "Hoʻokahe i ka hui."
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ʻIke mākou i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i ka momona ma nā wahi a pau-mai nā moʻolelo nūhou e hōʻike ana i nā kiʻi o nā "momona poʻo ʻole" i nā kauka e hoʻokae ana i nā poʻe maʻi kaumaha nui i kahi hui i kapa ʻia ʻo Overweight Haters Ltd., nāna e hāʻawi i nā kāleka hōʻino i ka poʻe a lākou i manaʻo nui ai. (ʻAe, ua hiki maoli kēlā.)

A laila aia nā ʻano liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi a ka poʻe nui aʻe: ke ʻano o ka hoʻowahāwahā, ke kāhea ʻana i ka inoa, ka nele o nā mea nani i nā ʻano nui. He lokoino, hoʻohaʻahaʻa, a ʻaʻole kōkua: Ke hōʻike nei ka noiʻi ʻana i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i ka poʻe ʻaʻole "hoʻoulu" iā lākou e lilo i ke kaumaha-a loaʻa paha ka hopena ʻē aʻe. (Hiki i ka hoʻohilahila ʻana i ka momona i kou kino.)

ʻAʻole mākou makemake i ka hoʻohilahila, ma nā ʻano like ʻole. A ʻo kahi kahi e pono ai he ʻāpana hoʻokolokolo ʻole? ʻO ka hale haʻuki. Akā naʻe he nui nā wahine e hōʻalo i ka hale haʻuki no ka mea hopohopo lākou ʻaʻole kūpono lākou i loko a hopohopo paha lākou e hoʻohenehene ʻia lākou.

No ke kōkua ʻana i ka hoʻolilo ʻana i ka hale haʻuki i wahi palekana no kēlā me kēia kino, ua noi mākou i ka poʻe heluhelu e kaʻana like i nā manaʻo i loaʻa iā lākou mai nā poʻe hele haʻuki ʻē aʻe i hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā lākou.

"Maikaʻi ʻoe!"

ʻOiai he mea hoʻomaikaʻi paha kēia ma ka ʻaoʻao-ʻo wai ka makemake ʻole e hoʻoikaika i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe? A ʻaʻole pono ka hana ʻana me ke kaumaha nui. ʻOi aku ka ʻino ke hahai ʻia kēia ʻōlelo me kahi 'kumu' e kau ana ma ke kino o ke kanaka. ʻEkolu mau laʻana ʻo Jessie Ford, 31, mai Denver, CO; ʻO Emily Erikson, 34, no Seattle, WA; a ʻo Fernanda Espinosa, 22, mai New York, NY, ua hāʻawi mai iā mākou: "No ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe mālama i ka nānā ʻana o nā mea a pau iā ʻoe" (ʻo lākou?); "no ka mea, ke hele mau nei ʻoe i kēlā me kēia lā ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe e emi ana ke kaumaha" (ʻaʻole paha ʻo ka lilo ʻana o ke kaumaha ka pahuhopu!); a i ʻole "no ka mea e hoʻomanaʻo mai ʻoe iaʻu i ke kumu e pono ai au e hana" (pani. Up. Ano.).

"Makaʻu wau i ka hopena e like me ʻoe."

ʻAʻohe mea makemake e mālama ʻia e like me ka moʻolelo mālama. Ua haʻi ʻo Nova Larson, 38, o Burnsville, MN, i ke ʻano o kahi kaikamahine ʻōpio o ke kulanui i hoʻokokoke aku ai iā ia i ka wā e hāpai ana ʻo ia i nā mea kaumaha a haʻi aku iā ia, "Ua makaʻu wau i ka nānā ʻana e like me ʻoe, ʻaʻohe hewa." ʻAe, ʻo ia ka wehewehe ʻana o ka ʻino. A maʻalahi wale.

"ʻAe, ʻaʻohe mea makemake e ʻike i kēlā! ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e ʻaʻahu i kēlā."

Hiki ke paʻakikī ke kapa komo no ke kaikamahine o kēlā me kēia nui e hoʻokele. Hōʻike nui loa i ka ʻili a hiki ke kapa ʻia ʻoe he slut; e ʻaʻahu i nā ʻaʻahu puʻupuʻu a ua palaka ʻoe. Akā ʻoi aku ka nui o nā manaʻo o nā wahine nui e hakakā. "Ua ʻōlelo ʻia iaʻu e ʻaʻahu i nā lole hoʻomaʻamaʻa liʻiliʻi no ka mea ʻoi aku ka nui o ka poʻe," wahi a Ame' Karoly, 26, mai Hattiesburg, MA. Ua hoʻohui ʻo Leah Kinney, 32, o Minneapolis, MN, ua haʻi aku kahi malihini ma ka hale haʻuki iā ia e hoʻolei i kāna capris puliki kino punahele no ka mea hiki i nā minnies ʻili ke hana spandex. "Um, paʻa ka pants gym no kekahi kumu!" Wahi a Kinney. ʻO ka laina lalo: Pono nā kānaka a pau e ʻaʻahu i nā mea a lākou e manaʻo ai e hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi i loko-me ka hopohopo ʻole e pili ana i ka ʻōlelo catty. (ʻO Psst ... E nānā i kēia mau ʻano lole haʻuki e hana pono ana i nā lole ʻoi aku ka nui.)

"Ua ho'āʻo anei ʻoe i kēia ʻai hou?"

He manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ʻai ʻole i noi ʻia-akā, he mea hōʻino loa ia i nā wahine nui, ʻaʻole paha e ho'āʻo ana e lilo i ke kaumaha. ʻO kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻole kāu ʻoihana ka mea a lākou e ʻai ai. "Ua loaʻa iaʻu nā hoʻolālā meaʻai i kono ʻole ʻia a me nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana i koʻu mau maka i nā manawa he nui a nalowale wau i ka helu," wahi a Karoly, me ka hoʻohui ʻana ua loaʻa ka ʻino loa i ka hele ʻana i ka hale haʻuki hiki ke hoʻoulu i kahi hoʻouka kaua.

"ʻAe, hoʻopau i kēlā momona / ʻūhā / ʻūhā / ʻōpū!"

ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i nā hemahema o kekahi iā lākou, he mea ʻino a ʻaʻole hoʻi hoʻoikaika nui. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Kris Olson, 47, mai Cleveland, OH, ua haʻi aku kekahi kumu aʻoaʻo milo iā ia ma hope o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa paʻakikī, "E ʻike iā ʻoe i ka lā ʻapōpō i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻopau i kēlā hoki momona." ʻAʻole wale ʻo ia e makemake i kāna hoki, mahalo nui iā ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole makemake nā mea a pau e like me ke kumu hoʻohālike o Victoria's Secret. A ma kahi o ka paipai ʻana i nā wahine e hoʻohana i ka hoʻoikaika kino e hoʻoponopono i kā lākou "wahi pilikia," pono mākou e hoʻohana i ke kino e hōʻike i nā mea āpau i ko lākou ikaika!

"Pono paha ʻoe e hoʻomaka me ka hele ʻana ma luna o ka wili."

ʻOiaʻiʻo, hele nā ​​wāhine nui. ʻO lākou pū kekahi kickbox, Zumba, hana CrossFit, powerlift, holo, hana yoga, a hana maikaʻi loa i nā ʻano hana ʻē aʻe āu e noʻonoʻo ai. Hōʻike ʻo Larson, he hōkū o kāna hui hoʻokūkū hoʻokūkū, ʻo kona nui he mea pono i kāna haʻuki. (E ʻike i ke kumu e ʻōlelo ai kekahi wahine, "ʻO wau he 200 Paona a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka manawa.")

"Ua maopopo iaʻu kou manaʻo, hilahila wau."

He hewa ka hilahila wiwi. Pela no ka hoohilahila ana i ka wahine no kekahi kumu mamuli o kona helehelena. "Maopopo iaʻu ke hoʻopiʻi nā hoaaloha no ka loaʻa ʻana o nā manaʻo no ka wīwī, akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka lahilahi ka mea i ʻike ʻia he nani a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke haʻalele i ka pono e hiki mai ana me ia. mai loaʻa ka inaina like a mākou e hana nei, i kēlā me kēia lā, "i wehewehe ʻo Laura Aronson, 26, mai New York, NY. He oiaio ka paio ma na aoao elua. Ma mua o ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i kāu paio ʻana me kekahi, e hoʻāʻo wale e hoʻolohe i ko lākou mau manaʻo.

"Wale." "Momona." "He weliweli." "Hoʻokahe i ka hui."

Ua weliweli mākou i ka lohe ʻana i ka nui o nā wahine i kapa ʻia i nā inoa, me kēia mau mea, ma ka hale haʻuki-i kekahi manawa i ko lākou alo, akā ʻoi aku ka pinepine ma nā ʻōlelo ʻōhumu a lohe ʻia paha nā kamaʻilio. Ua hoʻomanaʻo ʻo Toree Auguston, 32, mai Princeton, MN, i ka ʻōlelo ʻana a kekahi pūʻulu o nā ʻiole gym iā ia, "Maikaʻi ʻoe mai kahi mamao aku akā mamao loa ʻoe mai ka maikaʻi," me ka hoʻohui ʻana i ka manaʻo o ka manaʻo e uē ana. Ua hoʻomanaʻo ʻo ʻAine Quimby, 31, o Newburyport, MA, i kahi hui o nā ʻōpio e ʻuā ana iā ia, "E hoʻomau i ka holo ʻana i ka momona momona, pono e holo no hoʻokahi makahiki e hoʻopau i kēlā mau ʻūhā!" Hoʻopilikia nui ʻia kēia ʻano ʻano kaikamahine. (ʻAʻole maikaʻi nō hoʻi: ke kuhikuhi ʻana a me ka ʻakaʻaka, ka nānā ʻana, a me ka hāwanawana leo nui.)

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