Pehea e hoʻonui ai kaʻu ʻai pono ʻole i nā Anxieties o ka Lā Mua

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• ʻO ke koho ʻana i ka mea e ʻai ai i ka lā mua ua aneane like ʻeha e like me ka hoʻouna ʻana i ka leka mua
• ʻO ka ʻai ʻana i ka lā mua hiki ke manaʻo e ale iā ʻoe iho
• ʻO kahi kaomi i haʻi ʻole ʻia e nānā hemolele, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole i noi ʻia e lilo

"ʻAʻole au i ʻike i kāu ʻanoʻai," wahi a kahi kanaka aʻu i ʻike ai i ka nani i kona wā i hāʻule ai i kahi puʻu nunui o ka pesto pasta i hana ʻia i mua oʻu, "akā lana koʻu manaʻo ua lawa kēia."

Ua hele mai kahi mau miliona manaʻo i loko o koʻu noʻonoʻo ke kau nei wau i kahi ohe i ka nui calorie. Aole naʻe. ʻAʻole kēia ka manawa. ʻO ka Sauce e kahe ana i koʻu lole ka mea liʻiliʻi o kaʻu hopohopo. Ma kahi o ka manaʻo o ka ʻae ʻana iaʻu iho ʻai maoli -like hoʻolei i hope a mahalo leʻaleʻa i kēia hana nani - i hoʻopilikia i koʻu manaʻo. Me he mea lā ʻaʻole paha e hiki ke hana ʻia me aʻu e hāwanawana nei iā ia i nā mea huna ʻeleʻele loa a hohonu o kuʻu ʻuhane.

A ʻike wau ʻaʻole wale wau i kēia.

ʻO ke koho ʻana i ka mea e ʻai ai i ka lā mua ua aneane like ʻeha e like me ka hoʻouna ʻana i ka leka mua

No nā wahine, ka launa ʻana me kekahi mea hou e like me ka hana ʻana i kahi kilokilo kilokilo lōʻihi. ʻAe ʻae mākou i nā mea ʻike liʻiliʻi i loko o ko mākou ola, e hāʻawi ana iā lākou i nā kikoʻī e lawa pono me kā mākou personas makemake.

He paʻakikī ke hoʻowalewale i kēia hoʻopaʻapaʻa e pili ana i ka meaʻai i loko ʻole o nā wahine he nui. Me he mea lā he luna ʻole e hoʻokolokolo i kekahi e pili ana i ka mea a lākou e ʻai ai i ka lā mua, akā hiki nō. ʻOiai ma mua o ka hoʻololi ʻia ʻana o nā huaʻōlelo kūpono, he aha kā mākou e hana ai a ʻai ʻole ai hoʻi e hōʻike ai ʻo wai mākou.

I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i kahi noiʻi mai ke Kulanui ʻo Aarhus, ua hōʻike lākou i 80 mau haumāna o ke koleke i nā kiʻi o nā kānaka a noi aku e helu iā lākou ma muli o ka nani. I ka ʻāpana ʻelua o ke ana ʻana, ua nīnau ʻia lākou i ke kālā a lākou e makemake ai e hoʻolilo i ke kanakē a me nā meaʻai māmā me nā meaʻai olakino.

I ka wā i helu ai nā wahine i nā kāne i paʻi kiʻi ʻia me he mea uʻi lā, ʻoi aku paha ka lilo o ke kālā i ka meaʻai olakino. ʻO nā wahine i ʻike ʻole i ka hoihoi i ke kumuhana, a me nā kāne āpau i ka nui, ʻaʻole prone i ka hana ʻana i kēlā mau koho olakino.

ʻOiai ʻaʻole maopopo inā loaʻa kēia mau wahine i kahi maʻi ʻai, ʻo ka pilina paʻakikī o ka meaʻai, ke ʻano o ke kino, a me nā manaʻo mua i hoʻopili mau ʻia.

Ua hoʻokuʻu ʻo Dove i kahi noiʻi ākea ma 2016 e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a me ka hilinaʻi, e ninaninau ana i nā wahine he 10,500 ma nā ʻāina he 13. Ua ʻike lākou he 85 pākēneka o nā wahine a me 79 pākēneka o nā kaikamahine e hōʻalo i nā hana ke makemake ʻole lākou i ke ʻano o ko lākou ʻano. Pehea lākou i ʻike ai iā lākou iho i ka hopena i kā lākou hoʻoholo ʻana.

• Ua hōʻike ʻo 7 o 10 mau kaikamahine me ka haʻahaʻa o ke kino i ka manaʻo ʻaʻole lākou e assertive i kā lākou mau hoʻoholo
• 9 o 10 mau wahine i hōʻike e hōʻoki lākou i ka ʻai ʻana a i ʻole hoʻoweliweli i ko lākou olakino

ʻO ka ʻai ʻana i ka lā mua hiki ke manaʻo e ale iā ʻoe iho

ʻO Amelia S., 27, o Wakinekona D.C., ka ʻaoʻao ma ka ʻaoʻao o ke kaohi loa ʻana i ka lawe ʻana o ka meaʻai, a ʻo ia ka mea i emi ai mai ka muscular a i ka kino lahilahi. No nā makahiki, hānai ʻia ka kapu i kahi papa kuhikuhi kikoʻī, kahi i ʻae ʻole i kahi no ka launa pū. ʻOiai ke kaumaha e waiho ana i lalo, palekana ʻo ia.

ʻO ia, a hiki i kona hālāwai ʻana me Quentin i ka hale ʻaina kumu ma ka hana. "Ua loaʻa kahi ʻāpana o nā keiki i ka ʻaina awakea a me ka ʻoma ʻōmaʻomaʻo, e like me kaʻu i kēlā me kēia lā. Ma hope o ke kamaʻilio ʻana a me ka ʻakaʻaka ʻana, huki wau i kaʻu ipu piha i loko o ka ʻōpala a mālama i kaʻu ʻōpelu ʻōmaʻomaʻo ma hope. ” Ua huki ʻia ka laina i ke one: makemake ʻo ia iā ia, hiki ke ʻike iā ia iho me ia, a no laila ʻaʻole hiki ke ʻike ʻia i ka ʻai ʻana.

ʻO ka manawa mua āna i moe ai i ka pō, ua aʻo ʻo ia he ʻekolu haku kāna ex a me kahi PhD. I kēia manawa, ua haʻahaʻa ʻo Amelia. Akā i kona noʻonoʻo, ua noho ʻoi aku ʻo ia ʻo "ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi" ma mua o ka ex i hoʻokahi mana: ua lahilahi ʻo ia.

I ka ulu ʻana o kā lāua pilina, ua loaʻa iā lāua "ʻaʻole loa e nīnau, mai haʻi i ka hoʻokokoke ʻana i ka meaʻai." Ma ka liʻuliʻu, ma hope o nā mahina o ka hoʻopaʻa, hilinaʻi, a me ka hāmama, ua ulu ka ʻano palekana o Amelia. ʻO nā meaʻai i pāpā ʻia ma mua, mai McDonalds a i nā meaʻai Thai, ua lilo lohi i pāʻani maikaʻi.

Akā ʻaʻole i mau. I ka pō a lāua i haki ai, holoi ʻo ia i nā pahu kalima ʻewalu i lalo i ke kahawai.

"I kona manawa i hoʻokiʻekiʻe ai a ʻaʻole wau, ua maikaʻi ʻole koʻu hopohopo no ka mea ʻaʻole wau i makemake e ʻai," kaʻana like ʻo Amelia. "Me ka ʻole o ia, hiki iaʻu ke hana i kaʻu makemake. I kēia manawa, ke ʻai nei ia i nā mea mālama mālama. ”

Akā pinepine, hoʻomohala ʻia, pili nā pilina i loko o ka hoʻomaikaʻi hōʻailona a me ka hoʻihoʻi ʻana i nā maʻi ʻai. ʻO ia ka mea i hana ʻia me Penny C., 24, o Michigan.

Ua hoʻomohala ʻo Penny C bulimia nervosa i nā mahina mua o kona pili hou me kahi kāne makua. "Na ia e mālama iaʻu - kahi" kaikamahine liʻiliʻi naʻaupō "a puni - ua manaʻo wau e emi wau." A ua hana ʻo ia, ma ka luaʻi ʻana a i ʻole ka pāpā ʻana i nā meaʻai āna i ʻai ai me ka ʻole o ia.

"Ma ke kū ʻana ma kona ʻaoʻao, ua pākī wau a inartulitate hoʻi, akā lahilahi i lilo i hoa nāna. Ua ʻae au iaʻu iho e ʻai i nā meaʻai a mākou i hui pū ai: pizza, pasta, nā meaʻai āpau i ʻae ʻole ʻia i koʻu ola maʻamau. He leʻaleʻa ka mālama ʻole ʻana i kēlā me kēia calorie. Me ia, ʻaʻole wau i lawehala. A lohi, i ka hui ʻana o ko mākou ola a neʻe pū mākou a lilo i hoa, ua kū ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe. "

Ma ka hopena, ua haʻi ʻo Penny i kāna hoa pili e pili ana i kāna bulimia, e hoʻopau ana i ka palena hope loa ma waena o lākou. "I ka manawa aʻu i haʻi hope aku ai iā ia, ua ʻae wau iā ia e ʻike ʻoiaʻiʻo iaʻu no ka manawa mua. Loaʻa iā ia ke kiʻi piha. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i haʻalele iaʻu. "

ʻO kahi kaomi i haʻi ʻole ʻia e nānā hemolele, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole i noi ʻia e lilo

ʻO Megan K., 26, o Indianapolis, ʻaʻole noʻonoʻo nui e pili ana i ka meaʻai i ka lā a ʻaʻole i loaʻa mua kahi maʻi ʻai. "Ua manaʻo mau wau inā ʻaʻole hiki i kaʻu hoa ke mahalo i ka iho ʻana i kahi burger nui me aʻu, a laila ʻoi aku koʻu maikaʻi i ka hoʻopulapula ʻana iaʻu iho," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "ʻAʻole paha wau e kauoha i kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole ma nā lā mua, akā ʻē aʻe ma mua o kēlā, ʻaʻohe ala."

No Megan, aia ka pale i kahi mea i hana ʻia i kona ʻohana. I ka piha ʻana iā 16 o kona mau makahiki, ua make kona makuahine i ka pepehi kanaka ʻana. "ʻAʻole wau e hānai i koʻu makuahine a pehea i make ai," ʻae ʻo Megan. "ʻO ka poʻe i aʻo ʻole ʻaʻole pono e ʻike. ʻAʻole loa lākou e ʻike iaʻu. ”

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo ia ka mea e ʻai ai me ka lā hou, ʻaʻole anei? He ʻano ninaninau, he "honi ʻana." ʻO ka meaʻai ka mea hoʻoulu no ke kamaʻilio ʻana, kahi ʻāpana chess i ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi. Hiki iā mākou ke hūnā ma hope o nā nahu, e ale i nā huaʻōlelo a mākou e makemake ai e ʻōlelo hope - ma hope o kā mākou hoʻoholo inā pono ke lohe i ka mea e noho ana mai o mākou.

Ma luna o nā ʻakaʻaka a me nā ʻakaʻaka, ma waena o nā nahu liʻiliʻi o ka pasta pasta, hoʻonui wau i kaʻu mea hou e nānā nei, e kiaʻi ana i ka ʻōlelo a me ka ʻūlū no nā hōʻailona o nā hae ʻulaʻula, no nā mea hewa. Ke nānā nei, ke kali nei, no ka mea e loaʻa iā ia kahi kumu e makemake ʻole ai iaʻu i hope.

Ke hoʻololi ʻole ka makaʻu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, lawe wau i kahi nahu hou.

A laila kekahi.

Ma muli o ka poʻe a mākou e launa pū ai ke pili ka poʻe paha a mākou e koho ai e hui pū me lākou i ke ola. ʻO lākou paha kekahi o nā kumu a mākou e hoʻokuʻu ai iā mākou iho a loaʻa ka maluhia. Hiki ke hoʻomaka hewa ʻole kēia mau aloha a pau a me ka ʻai ʻana a me ke ola, akā hiki nō ke hoʻopau ʻoiaʻiʻo me ka ʻole.

Hiki paha i kekahi ke ʻai i ka pasta peso a nānā i nā aniani i nā hola ma hope me ka mihi ʻole? ʻO ka pane paha. Loaʻa iā mākou āpau i loko o mākou e hoʻāʻo.

ʻO nā maʻi ʻai ka maʻi nui i hiki ke alakaʻi i nā pilikia hoʻoweliweli ma muli o ke olakino a me ka hemahema o ka momona. Nā ʻōuli o an maʻi ʻaʻai komo pū paha me ka nele o ka menstruation i nā wahine, nāwaliwali o nā mākala, ka lauoho palupalu a me nā kui, a me nā mea hou aʻe. No ke kākoʻo, e kāhea aku i ka National Eating Disorder Association's Helpline ma 1-800-931-2237. No kahi kākoʻo 24 hola, e kikokiko i ka "NEDA" a i ka 741741.

ʻO Allison Krupp kahi mea kākau ʻAmelika, hoʻoponopono, a me kahi mea kākau moʻolelo ʻumana. Ma waena o nā hanana hihiu a me nā ʻāina nui, noho ʻo ia ma Berlin, Kelemānia. E nānā i kāna pūnaewele ma aneʻi.