5 Nā ʻano olakino olakino e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe

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• Myth: Ke nānā nei i ka wā i hala e paʻakikī
• Myth: He hua ʻole ke kanikau
• Myth: Kōkua ʻo Rebound Sex iā ʻoe e neʻe i mua
• Myth: Un-Hahai iā ia ma nā pūnaewele pūnaewele āpau e maʻalahi
• Kaʻu moʻolelo: ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea āpau āu i hana ai ma ke ʻano he kāne ʻeha e hōʻeha iki
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Ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi nui ʻole, ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio hou e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale hou e like paha me ke ala maʻalahi e waiho i kou ʻehaʻeha i ka wā i hala-akā he noi hou i paʻi ʻia i ka puke pai. ʻEpekema Social Psychological and Personality manaʻo ʻē aʻe. Inā ʻoe e hakakā nei me kahi kaʻawale a makemake ʻoe e hana i ke kaʻina hana me ka hōʻeha ʻole e like me ka hiki, e hōʻalo i kēia mau ʻano wā maikaʻi ʻelima a maikaʻi ʻoe i ka manawa. (ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke kumu e hiki ai ke kōkua! E nānā "He aha ka hewa?" Dating Dilemmas, Explained.)

Myth: Ke nānā nei i ka wā i hala e paʻakikī

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ʻO ka haʻawina ma ʻEpekema Social Psychological and Personality ʻike i ka poʻe i noʻonoʻo mau i kā lākou pili aloha ʻole i loaʻa maoli ka mālamalama a hōʻike i nā hōʻailona o ke ola ʻana o ka naʻau ma mua o ka poʻe i noʻonoʻo ʻole e pili ana. Akā ma ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i ka poʻe komo i kā lākou lilo, ua koi ia iā lākou e nānā i ke kiʻi nui-ʻoia hoʻi. ʻo wai lākou me ka ʻole o kā lākou hoa-a kōkua maoli i ka hoʻōla wikiwiki. ʻO ia hoʻi, ʻo kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi ʻana ʻo ia ka hoaaloha nāna e hoʻolohe. "Makemake nā wahine e hoʻohauʻoli, no laila ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoaaloha e pili ana i kou ex," wahi a ka mea kākau kumu ʻo Grace Larson o Northwestern University. ʻO ka ʻōlelo lawe home ma ʻaneʻi ʻaʻole ia e hoʻolulu wale iā ʻoe iho i loko o nā manaʻo a me ka ʻauʻau, wehewehe ʻo ia, akā e nānā i ke kūlana me kahi hiʻohiʻona hou.

Myth: He hua ʻole ke kanikau

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ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka nānā ʻana i ke aniani i ka hapa ʻole he kūlana maikaʻi ʻole. Akā, pono ʻoe e hāʻawi iā ʻoe iho i kekahi manawa e manaʻo ai i ka lousy ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi ʻana, wahi a Karen Sherman, Ph.D., he kanaka psychologist a me ka mea kākau o ʻO Magic Magic! E ʻimi, e mālama, a e hoʻomau. Lawe ʻia ka poʻe ma kahi o 11 mau pule ma hope o ka hemo ʻana e hoʻomaka i ka nānā ʻana i ko lākou kūlana hou i kahi kukui maikaʻi, e like me ka noiʻi ʻana i ka Ka Nūpepa o ka Psychology Positive. ʻO ke kaumaha - inā paha ʻoe e uē maikaʻi ana i kahi rom-com a i ʻole hele i ke kūlanakauhale ma Ben & Jerry me kahi hoaaloha - e kōkua i ke kaʻina hana hoʻōla, wahi a Sherman. (Hōʻalo i ka lawehala i ka wā e puaʻi ana: SHAPE Nā Hoʻolaha Blogger ʻOi Loa: 20 Mea ʻai i ke olakino olakino e hele ai mākou Mmmmm ...)

Myth: Kōkua ʻo Rebound Sex iā ʻoe e neʻe i mua

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"ʻO ka moe kolohe ke ʻano o ka Band-Aid ma mua o kahi lāʻau," wahi a Sherman. ʻAʻole paha ia e hōʻeha i kou ola hou ʻana, akā ʻaʻole kōkua nui. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ka poʻe i alualu i nā hoa kolohe hou ma hope o ka haki ʻana i kahi noi ʻana mai ke Kulanui o Missouri ʻaʻole hōʻike iki i ka pīhoihoi, ka liʻiliʻi o ka huhū, a i ʻole ka manaʻo kiʻekiʻe kiʻekiʻe ma hope. ʻO ka mea i ʻōlelo ʻia, hōʻike ʻia nā noiʻi ʻē aʻe i hiki i nā pilina rebound ke kōkua i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i ke ahi ma hope o ka wāwahi ʻana. "ʻOi aku ka ikaika o ka launa aloha ʻana ma mua o ka moekolohe a ʻoi aku paha ke kōkua ma muli o ka hana ʻana ma ke ʻano he mea hoʻoliʻiliʻi maʻalahi," wahi a Sherman. ʻAʻole pono e koʻikoʻi nā pilina rebound, no ka mea pono ʻoe i ka manawa e hoʻoponopono ai i kou mau manaʻo. Akā hiki i ka hui ʻana i ka poʻe hou ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo he nui aku nā mea i waho e nānā i mua, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Myth: Un-Hahai iā ia ma nā pūnaewele pūnaewele āpau e maʻalahi

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ʻO ka poʻe e noho mau ana i nā hoaaloha Facebook me kā lākou ex ma hope o ka haʻihaʻi ʻana i kēia manawa, ʻike maoli lākou i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, a me ka liʻiliʻi o ka makemake a me ka makemake i kā lākou ex, e like me kahi noiʻi Pelekane. Eia nō naʻe, ʻo ka hoʻohana ʻana i kēlā ʻike e hoʻopaʻa i kāna mau hana i hōʻole i kēia mau hopena maikaʻi-a ua hoʻonui i ka pilikia ma luna o ka haʻihaʻi. (ʻAʻole wale ia e ʻoki kino nei i mea olakino ʻole: Pehea ka maikaʻi ʻole o Facebook, Twitter, a me Instagram no ke olakino noʻonoʻo?) "Pau ia i kāu makemake," wahi a Sherman. ʻO ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kahi lapalapa hou e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo hou iā lākou no ka mea ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i nā mea e hana nei i ko lākou ola. ʻO ka nānā ʻana i kāu ʻano no ka pule mua a i ʻole ʻelua ʻo ke ala maikaʻi loa e ʻike ai i ke ala ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi no ʻoe, hoʻohui ʻo ia.

Kaʻu moʻolelo: ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea āpau āu i hana ai ma ke ʻano he kāne ʻeha e hōʻeha iki

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ʻO ka hemo ʻana o kā lākou waiwai ponoʻī he mea pono ia, wahi a Sherman. Akā hoʻopau maoli i nā mea āpau e hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iā ia-ʻo ia hoʻi. kekahi ʻano mele a i ʻole kekahi ʻano meaʻai-ʻaʻole kūpono. Ma mua o ka hele ʻole ʻana i ka karaoke no ka mea ʻo ia kāu punahele punahele i ka pō, hele wale me nā poʻe hou e hana i nā hoa pili maikaʻi me kēlā hana. ʻO nā hui hou a ʻokoʻa paha e lilo i mea ikaika loa i kā mākou mau hoʻomanaʻo, e like me kahi noiʻi mai City University London, no laila ke holo nei ka manawa e hoʻololi nā hoʻomanaʻo hou i ka mea kahiko, wehewehe ʻo Sherman. (He mea maikaʻi paha nā hoʻomanaʻo: E hoʻāʻo i kekahi o ka Top 5 Get-Healthy Girlfriend Getaways.)

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