3 kamaʻilio e pono ai e loaʻa ma mua 'Hana wau'

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• ʻO ke kamaʻilio "Social Life".
• ʻO ka "Ma hea mākou e hoʻopau ai?" Kamailio
• Ka Kamailio "Keiki".
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Ua hiki wawe. I nehinei e wehewehe ana ʻoe i kāna mau kikokikona me kāu mau hoaaloha a me ka lawaiʻa ʻana no ke kolu o ka lā, a i kēia lā ua hui ʻolua i kahi lumi. Ua ʻike ʻolua i kahi a ʻolua e hele ai!

Akā, ma mua o kou lawe ʻia ʻana, ʻo ia ka manawa e kūkākūkā ai i kekahi mau kumuhana i manaʻo ʻia ʻaʻole kūpono ke hāpai ʻia i kou wā e pili ana. No ke aha mai? "Manaʻo paha ʻoe aia ʻoe ma ka ʻaoʻao like, a i ʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kēia mau mea ma waho o ke ala, akā ʻo kēlā manaʻo i alakaʻi ʻia ai i ka nui o nā male hauʻoli ʻole," i aʻo aku ai iā Karen Sherman, Ph.D., he kanaka psychologist pili a mea kākau o ʻO Magic Magic! E ʻimi, e mālama, a e hoʻomau.

No laila, mai hoʻopaneʻe ʻoe i kekahi lā aʻe: E hana i kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻekolu kēia manawa e hōʻoia i ka hauʻoli ma hope ma hope.

ʻO ke kamaʻilio "Social Life".

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Inā he pepeke pilikanaka ʻo ia a ʻoi aku ʻoe i ke kanaka home-a i ʻole ʻo ia e pili ana i ke kaulike hana-ola ʻoiai ʻoe he workaholic-ua loaʻa iā mākou kekahi mau lono maikaʻi ʻole: Mai manaʻo e loli kekahi o ia mea no ka mea ua paʻa ʻoe. , wahi a Sherman. "Ke kamaʻilio nei au i nā kāne he nui i manaʻo e noho kekahi a i ʻole kekahi i ka nohona, a i ʻole e hoʻoponopono i kāna mau maʻamau ma hope o ka male ʻana. Mai hopohopo-aia kahi hopena: E pili ana i ka hoʻopili ʻana.

E hoʻomanaʻo wale: "Pono mākou e kamaʻilio" ʻo ia nā huaʻōlelo ʻehā i inaina nui ʻia e nā kāne, wehewehe ʻo Sherman. No laila e lele i kahi prefaces a nīnau wale iā ia inā ʻike ʻo ia i kāna hana a i ʻole ka manawa kaiaulu e loli ke male ʻoe. Inā ʻaʻole ia e launa me ka maikaʻi āu e makemake ai, a laila malia e ʻae ʻo ia e hele i hoʻokahi wale nō pō o ka pule, a i ʻole e hoʻohiki ʻoe e haʻalele i ka hana i nā hopena pule. E mākaukau ʻolua e hāʻawi i nā haʻawina, wahi a Sherman.

ʻO ka "Ma hea mākou e hoʻopau ai?" Kamailio

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No laila ua neʻe ʻoe i ke kūlanakauhale hou no ka hana a laila ʻike ʻoe iā Mr. Wonderful. I kekahi manawa, e kū mua ʻoe i kahi hoʻoholo: Noho, haʻalele, a i ʻole poʻo i ke ʻula, wahi a Sherman. A ma mua o ka nīnau ʻana iā ia i kāna mea e ʻike ai, pono ʻoe e ʻike i ka mea oe makemake. ʻO ka mea mua, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho, "Ma hea wau e makemake ai e noho 5 a 10 mau makahiki paha mai kēia manawa aku, a pehea ka mea nui iaʻu?" Manaʻo ʻo Sherman. A inā makemake ʻoe e pili kokoke i kou ʻohana-a manaʻo paha makemake paha ʻo ia-e ʻōlelo pēlā! Ma hope o nā mea āpau, inā ʻoe e noho ana ma NūIoka-a ua ulu ʻoe ma Brooklyn i kona wā i hānai ʻia ai i Midwest-manaʻo paha ʻoe "ma ka home" ʻoiai he ʻokoʻa kāna mau manaʻo e pili ana i kahi o 30 a 40 mau makahiki paha, e ʻōlelo ana ʻo Sherman. .

Ka Kamailio "Keiki".

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Aia kekahi mau kumuhana koʻikoʻi loa i ka hulahula ʻana, wahi a Sherman. ʻO kēia kekahi o lākou. A inā ʻaʻole i ʻoi aku kāu kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i nā keiki ma mua o kahi ʻaelike e makemake ʻolua i nā keiki i kekahi lā e hiki koke mai, ʻaʻole lawa ia. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, inā ʻike ʻoe i ka nui āu e makemake ai, a makemake e hoʻomaka e hoʻāʻo ma mua o ka wā ma hope, hiki i kēlā mau kikoʻī ke kakalaioa nui i kāu male ʻōpio inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike maka i ka maka, i ʻōlelo ʻo Sherman. ʻOiai ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi-a me ka huahua-e kūkākūkā i nā kikoʻī, koʻikoʻi ʻo Sherman. Mai poina i ke kūkākūkā ʻana pehea e hānai ai ʻoe i kāu poʻe keiki-e like me nā kaila, nā kula, a me nā haipule he mea nui. Ma mua o kāu noi ʻana, e nānā i kona ʻohana a me ka hānai ʻana-hāʻawi ʻelua i kahi manaʻo maikaʻi i ka mea āna e makemake ai (a i ʻole makemake ʻole!), ʻŌlelo ʻo Sherman.

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