10 mea huna mai nā ʻohana holomua o kēia wā

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• Mahalo i nā Manawa
• Pono nā hoa
• Mahalo i ka poʻe no wai lākou
• E hauʻoli i kēia manawa-ʻAʻole ka Moment ʻo Pinterest
• Me kahi wahi hana, kou poʻe Hiki E lilo i hoaloha nou
• Nani ka Kuʻuna
• Mai noʻonoʻo-hana wale
• ʻAʻohe manaʻo o nā Lepili
• E noʻonoʻo hou i ka manaʻo o ka home
• ʻO ke aloha āpau
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ʻO ka manaʻo o ka ʻohana kuʻuna, ʻohana nuklea ua hala no nā makahiki. Ma kona wahi nā ʻohana o kēia wā-ʻo nā nui, nā kala, a me nā hui makua. ʻAʻole wale lākou e lilo i mea maʻamau, akā ʻo kā lākou mea i kapa ʻia "ʻokoʻa" e hoʻoikaika nui a hauʻoli hoʻi. Ma aneʻi, ua aʻo nā ʻohana he nui he ʻumi mau "ʻohana" ʻohana - hiki i nā kānaka āpau ke noi i ko lākou ola iho.

Mahalo i nā Manawa

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ʻO Anna Whiston Donaldson, mea kākau moʻolelo ma An Inch of Grey a me ka mea kākau o ka memo e hiki mai ana Manu Manu Loa, ua ʻike i ka pōʻino i ka wā i make ai kāna keiki ʻo Jack i ʻekolu makahiki i hala. "ʻO ke kanikau kahi manawa o ka haunaele a me ka disorientation hohonu no ka mea ʻo ka honua e like me kāu e ʻike nei ua loli mau loa ia," wehewehe ʻo ia. A ʻoiai he manaʻo kōkua ʻole ka ʻike ʻana he liʻiliʻi kou mana i kou ola, aia mau kekahi mau ʻōlinolino o ka manaʻolana a me ka maikaʻi, wahi āna. No kou kūlana, e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa e mahalo ai i kēlā me kēia manawa. 'Ōleloʻo Donaldson,ʻo ka liloʻana o kekahi mea waiwai iā ia-ʻoiai ke kaumaha nui loa-e hoʻomanaʻo iā ia e pili i nā wahi mālamalama kahi e hiki ai iāʻoe.

Pono nā hoa

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I ka wā ma hope o ka pōʻino o ke keiki a Donaldson, ua ʻike ʻo ia i ke kākoʻo-liʻiliʻi a nui-mai nā hoaaloha i kōkua i kona ʻohana e noho lele. ʻO ka haʻawina: ʻAʻohe ʻohana kahi mokupuni, a ʻo ka nui o kahi pūnaewele kākoʻo i hiki ke hāʻawi i kou ʻohana i ke kahua e pono ai. A hana kēlā i nā ʻaoʻao ʻelua: ʻIke i kahi ʻohana e hele nei i kahi manawa paʻakikī? Ma kahi o ka nīnau ʻana i kāu mea e hiki ai ke hana, e haʻalele i ka ʻaina ahiahi, e hāʻawi i nā hola mālama keiki, a i ʻole e hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi palapala makana no ka mea. ʻO ka hana hou āu e hana ai i ka mālama ʻana i nā pilina (nā mea maikaʻi, ʻaʻole nā ​​mea e hoʻokahe iā ʻoe), ʻo ka pili hou āu e manaʻo ai, hoʻomanaʻo iā Joseph Mallet, kahi psychologist psychologist i laikini ʻia ma Coral Gables, FL.

Mahalo i ka poʻe no wai lākou

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"I ka ʻike ʻia ʻana o kaʻu keiki, ʻo Max, me ka maʻi lolo ma hope koke iho o kona hānau ʻana, makemake wau e hele ʻo ia a kamaʻilio ma ka laina manawa like me nā keiki ʻē aʻe," wahi a Ellen Seidman, nāna i blog e pili ana i kona ʻohana ma LoveThatMax.com. "Akā i kēia manawa, ʻo ka ʻoluʻolu i kā mākou ʻoiaʻiʻo a me kā mākou hiki-a ʻaʻole e ʻimi mau i ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana-ua hoʻopili i ko mākou ola ʻohana," wahi a Seidman. He paʻakikī paha ʻaʻole hiki i kou makuahine ke hoʻopilikia ʻia e kamaʻilio ma o ka hoʻonohonoho noho ʻana no kāu male male a i ʻole ka hoʻohui pinepine ʻana o kou makuakāne iā ʻoe me kou kaikuahine-akā ma kahi o ke kuʻi ʻana, e hoʻomanaʻo i kā lākou mau mea āpau e hoʻolilo iā lākou i kanaka kūʻokoʻa lākou.

E hauʻoli i kēia manawa-ʻAʻole ka Moment ʻo Pinterest

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"I kekahi manawa, ua hoʻolimalima mākou i nā kaʻa kaʻa i loko o ka paka me kahi kāʻei keiki no Max, akā i ko mākou holo maoli ʻana iā lākou, ʻike kaʻu kāne ua kaumaha loa ʻo Max no ka huki ʻana ma mua o kekahi mau minuke," wahi a Seidman. "Akā ʻaʻole ia he mea nui. ʻO ka mea nui he manawa nui kā mākou e hana nei." E hoʻāʻo i kēia luʻi: E hoʻolilo i kahi lā me nā poʻe āu e aloha ai mawaho ʻO ka Instagramming, ka tweeting ʻana, a i ʻole ka hana ʻana i nā mea e like me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana o ka pāpili kaila, manaʻo iā Mallet. ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā loaʻa iā ʻoe kekahi mau kiʻi maikaʻi, e kaʻana iā lākou i hoʻokahi lā a ʻelua paha ma hope, akā e mālama wale i ka nānā ʻana i kou wahi. kēia manawa e hōʻoluʻolu paha iā ʻoe i kēia manawa.

Me kahi wahi hana, kou poʻe Hiki E lilo i hoaloha nou

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ʻO Jessica Bruno, ka mea e blog ana ma fourgenerationsoneroof.com, e noho nei me kāna kāne, keiki, makua, a me nā kūpuna. A ʻoiai aia kekahi manawa kūʻē, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka noho ʻana me ka ʻohana he nui ma mua o nā drawbacks. "ʻIke ʻoe e ʻike i kou mau mākua, keu hoʻi, me nā maka ʻokoʻa ke ʻano makua a makuahine ʻoe ma mua o kou wā kamaliʻi. I kēia manawa, ʻike wau iā lākou he mau hoaaloha!" ʻIke loa, loaʻa nā pilina like ʻole o kēlā me kēia me ko lākou poʻe ponoʻī, a i kekahi manawa, ʻo ia paha ka mea maikaʻi loa, no ka noʻonoʻo pono, no ʻoe e mālama iā lākou ma kahi mamao, hoʻomanaʻo ʻo Mallet. "ʻO ke aʻo ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me kou mau mākua i ka wā makua he mākaukau." ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana iā lākou (me ka mālie) i ke ʻano o kā lākou hana e manaʻo ai iā ʻoe-ʻo ia hoʻi, e wehewehe ana e mahalo ana ʻoe i kā lākou ʻōlelo aʻo, akā i kekahi manawa ʻo ka loaʻa ʻole ʻana e like me ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana iā ʻoe-hiki ke lilo i mea nui i ka kamaʻilio ʻana e like me nā mākua.

Nani ka Kuʻuna

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I kēlā me kēia pō Pōʻaono, noho ka ʻohana Bruno a ʻai pū. ʻAʻole wale kēlā, akā ua ʻike ʻo Bruno ʻo ka hoʻomākaukau mua o ka ʻaina awakea kahi manawa maikaʻi loa na lāua a me kona makuahine e hoʻopaʻa i nā meaʻai. "Māhele māua ʻo koʻu makuahine i nā manawa he nui o ke kuke ʻana i hiki ʻole ke hana inā noho kaʻawale mākou," wehewehe ʻo Bruno. E hoʻoikaika iā ʻoe: E kono i nā poʻe a pau e hele i nā pāʻani papa ʻaina ahiahi Pōʻaono a i ʻole e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hoʻouna ʻana i kahi leka i kāu moʻopuna mamao i kēlā me kēia Pōʻalima. No ka mea liʻiliʻi, hiki i nā kuʻuna ke kōkua i ka hoʻohui pū ʻana i nā ʻohana - ʻoiai inā mamao loa ʻoe.

Mai noʻonoʻo-hana wale

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Māmā hana ʻO Tina Fey Me he mea lā he superwoman-akā ua hoʻomaopopo ʻo ia he mea ʻole ʻo ia. Akā, luʻu ʻo ia i kēlā me kēia lā a hele no ia. Wahi a Fey, "Manaʻo wau like ka manaʻo o kēlā me kēia māmā hana: hele ʻoe ma waena o nā wahi nui o ka manawa kahi āu e manaʻo nei he hiki ʻole kēia ... a laila e hoʻomau ʻoe i ka hele a hele, a hana ʻoe i ka mea hiki ʻole." ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e hoʻokau ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka luhi, akā inā makemake ʻoe e hele no kekahi mea, hana!

ʻAʻohe manaʻo o nā Lepili

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I ʻelua mau makahiki i hala aku nei, ua ʻike ka haumāna o Iowa ʻo Zach Wahls i ka makaʻāinana i ka wā i kamaʻilio ʻia ai kahi kōkō o kāna kamaʻilio ʻana me ke Kōmike Hoʻokolokolo o Iowa House e pili ana i ka pāpā no ka pāpā male kāne ʻole. E like me kāna i wehewehe ai: "ʻAʻole i hoʻokahi manawa aʻu i hoʻohālikelike ai i kahi kanaka i ʻike kūʻokoʻa ua hānai ʻia au e kahi kāne male kāne. A ʻike ʻoe i ke kumu? " ʻO ka haʻawina: E lohe ana ʻoe i nā stereotypes no kēlā me kēia ʻano ʻohana, akā ʻo ia wale nō-stereotypes-a ʻaʻole kekahi ʻano alakaʻi no ke ʻano o kou ʻohana "pono" a "ʻaʻole pono" paha. A i ka hopena o ka lā, ʻaʻole pili i kou manaʻo e pili ana i kou ʻohana, ʻo ʻoe ka mea nana e lawe i ke kuleana no kou ola ponoi.

E noʻonoʻo hou i ka manaʻo o ka home

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ʻO ka Jolie-Pitts' He mau hōkū megawatt paha, akā manaʻo lākou he mea pono e ʻike kā lākou poʻe keiki he wahi liʻiliʻi lākou o ke ao holoʻokoʻa. "Manaʻo wau [kā mākou mau keiki] ʻike i ka honua i ko lākou home," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Angie i ka wā ma mua. "Ua ʻike au iā Maddox e holo ana ma nā mākeke o Addis Ababa [ma ʻAitiopa] a ʻaʻole ʻike wau he ʻilihune loa ia, a i ʻole he poʻe ʻApelika a i ʻole he ʻAsia ʻo ia. ʻAʻole pili iā ia. " ʻAʻole mākou e ʻōlelo e pono ʻoe e hoʻohālike i ke ʻano o kēia ʻano glam fam, akā ʻo ka mahalo i ke ʻano like o mākou a pau i ka hopena o ka lā, he haʻawina maikaʻi ia no ka kekahi ohana.

ʻO ke aloha āpau

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I ka hopena o ka lā, ʻaʻohe mea ʻoi i kou ʻohana, ʻo ka mea nui ka manaʻo o lākou e pili ana iā lākou. Wehewehe i ka mea hana keaka Maria Bello, i loko ona Nu Ioka Manawa ʻO ke kolamu Love Modern, "Ka poʻe aʻu e aloha ai, eia naʻe aloha wau iā lākou, ke hiamoe paha lākou i loko o koʻu wahi moe a ʻaʻole paha, a i ʻole me ka hana ʻana i nā haʻawina home me lākou a kaʻana like paha i kahi keiki me lākou, ʻo ke aloha ke aloha ... malia paha, i ka hopena, he" modern ʻo ka ʻohana he ʻohana ʻoi aku ka pololei. " He wahi mau ka pili koko a me nā lāʻau ʻohana, akā aia kekahi mea e ʻōlelo ʻia no ka wehewehe ʻana i ka ʻohana kou nā huaʻōlelo me ka mea āu e manaʻo ai he kūpono ke hāʻule ma lalo o kēlā poʻo inoa.

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