Ke Sabotaging anei kou pilina i kou ʻano ola olakino?

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• ʻOi aku ka nui o nā hoa pāʻani ma mua ou
• Huhū kou hoa i kou pohō kaumaha
• Kuhi hou kāu hoa hana i ka manawa āu e lilo ai i ka sweating
• Leʻaleʻa kāu hoa hana Pokes ma kāu papaʻai
• Manaʻo kāu hoa hana ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi ma ke kaupaona ʻokoʻa
• ʻO kou hoa hana sabotages i kāu hana hoʻoikaika kino
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Me he mea lā ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o nā pili, ʻoi aku ka lōʻihi o ka papa inoa o nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hakakā. A ʻo kahi mea hina nui no nā kāne he nui i kēia mau lā ʻokoʻa nā ʻano e pili ana i ka meaʻai a me ke olakino. He vegan aloha yoga ʻo ia; hoʻohiki ʻo ia i ka papa paleo a me CrossFit. Akā ʻaʻole pono nā manaʻo like ʻole e pili ana i kou ʻano olakino. ʻOiaʻiʻo, wahi a Alisa Ruby Bash, LMFT, he loea pili ma Beverly Hills, Kaleponi, hiki iā ia ke hoʻopili iā ʻoe.

ʻOi aku ka nui o nā hoa pāʻani ma mua ou

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Ka hoʻoponopono: ʻO ka nūhou maikaʻi, e like me kā Bash, inā he mea nui ka haʻuki i kāu hoa, e ala mua ia i ka pilina ma kahi manawa e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke lawe maʻalahi a haʻalele iā ia. Inā ʻoe i noho pū no kekahi manawa, ʻōlelo paha kēia hopohopo e pili ana iā ʻoe ma mua o kāna. "Pono ʻoe e nānā i kou mau hemahema. Ua koho ʻo ia iā ʻoe! Mai hoʻopuka i kāu mau pilikia ponoʻī iā ia, "i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana inā makemake ʻo ia i kahi hoa e like me ka hoʻokūkū dodgeball e like me ia, ua pili ʻo ia. kekahi o nā kaikamahine mai kāna kime. A inā ʻoe hopohopo paha? E nīnau wale iā ia.

Huhū kou hoa i kou pohō kaumaha

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Ka hoʻoponopono: E ʻōlelo wale mākou ia: ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka maʻalahi o nā kāne ma mua o nā wahine a ʻoiaʻiʻo, pilau. Maʻalahi e hoʻolilo i nā mea i ka hoʻokūkū akā i ka hopena inā e olakino kekahi o ʻoukou a laila lanakila ʻolua. ʻO kēia ke kumu e hoʻāʻo ai ʻoe e hana i kahi hoʻoikaika hui, wahi a Bash. "He manaʻo maikaʻi ka hui pū ʻana," wahi āna. "Hiki iā ʻoe ke hana pū ma ke ʻano he kime e mālama i nā meaʻai olakino i loko o ka hale, kuke i nā meaʻai, kākoʻo kekahi i kekahi a hauʻoli pū i nā makana."

Kuhi hou kāu hoa hana i ka manawa āu e lilo ai i ka sweating

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Ka hoʻoponopono: ʻO ka hoʻolaʻa ʻana i kāu papa Zumba punahele ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole; pono kēlā me kēia mea e hana i kekahi mea na lākou iho. Hiki mai ka pilikia no ka mea he manawa palena ko mākou āpau, wehewehe ʻo Bash. Akā ʻaʻole pono ʻoe e haʻalele e mālama i kāu ʻoihana ʻē aʻe i ka moena me Netflix. "E hoʻāʻo e kono iā ia e hele pū me ʻoe," manaʻo ʻo ia. "A inā ʻaʻole hoihoi ʻo ia, e hoʻolilo iā ia i mea nui i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i ka manawa me ka hana pū ʻana i kahi mea a ʻolua e hauʻoli ai."

Leʻaleʻa kāu hoa hana Pokes ma kāu papaʻai

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Ka hoʻoponopono: Nui nā manaʻo o nā kāne e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka "pono" e ʻai ai ka wahine (mahalo nui, ʻo Carl's Jr. commercials!) Kūleʻa kekahi mau kaikamahine i nā salakeke, makemake kekahi e pīpī i ka pizza a me nā ʻeheu, ʻoiai e hoʻāhu kokoleka ana kekahi o mākou i kā mākou pahu lole komo lole e like me nā squirrels e hoʻomākaukau ana no kahi chococalypse. Maikaʻi nā mea āpau, i ʻōlelo ʻo Bash, me ka hoʻohui ʻana inā e hoʻohenehene kāu kāne iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka mea āu e ʻai ai a ʻai ʻole ai, ʻo ke ala ʻoi loa e mālama ai ʻo ia ke hoʻohenehene koke iā ia. "E hoʻohuli iā ia i ka mea hoʻomākeʻaka a mai manaʻo nui iā ʻoe iho," wehewehe ʻo ia. "Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo he hana nui ia, a laila ʻaʻole nō ia."

Manaʻo kāu hoa hana ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi ma ke kaupaona ʻokoʻa

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Ka hoʻoponopono: Ua lohe mākou āpau "makemake nā keikikāne i kahi waiwai pio hou aʻe e paʻa i ka pō" akā inā ʻoe e pili ana i ka bass a i ʻole ka treble (a i ʻole kahi symphony hauʻoli o nā mea ʻelua) ke ʻano o kou kino e pili iā ʻoe. Ua hālāwai nui ʻo Bash i kēia pilikia me kāna mea kūʻai aku, a ʻōlelo ʻo ia ʻoiai ke ʻike nei kekahi mau wahine he mea mahalo a hoʻokuʻu paha ia, makaʻu kekahi i ka makaʻu. "ʻOiaʻiʻo makemake ʻoe e ʻike ʻo ia iā ʻoe i ka nani akā i ka hope he pono ʻoe e ʻoiaʻiʻo iā ʻoe iho," wehewehe ʻo ia, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana he pono ʻoe e haʻi wale iā ia i ka manaʻo o kāna mau ʻōlelo a ʻoki paha ia.

ʻO kou hoa hana sabotages i kāu hana hoʻoikaika kino

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Ka hoʻoponopono: ʻAʻohe mea hoʻonāukiuki hou aʻe ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka lā ʻO kahi o kāu ola olakino hou, i ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i nā ʻōpala āpau mai kāu waihona, ma mua o ka huli ʻana a ʻike i kāu hoa e kū ana i laila e hoʻopaʻa ana i kahi galona o ka ʻoka mint. Inā hiki wale ia i hoʻokahi manawa, e hoʻoponopono i ka pilikia-ʻO kou pohō kaumaha e hōʻoluʻolu iā ia e pili ana i ka pilina? Ke hoʻāʻo wale nei paha ʻo ia e hana i kahi mea maikaʻi? -A ʻaelike ʻaʻole e hana hou ʻia. Akā inā lilo ia i pilikia mau, lilo ia i hōʻailona no ka hōʻino i ka naʻau, i ʻōlelo ʻo Bash. "Inā e hakakā nei kekahi e lilo i ka paona a ʻo ka mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻāʻo mau nei i ka sabotage i ia mea, ʻo ia hoʻi ke hoʻāʻo nei e hana i kēlā kanaka a hiki ke lilo i mea kōkua i ka mea ʻaʻai." "Inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e kū a hele ʻole i ke kūkā kamaʻilio pū ʻana me ʻoe, he mea haʻihaʻi ʻaelike ia."

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