Pehea ka hiamoe ʻana i ka lole komo no hoʻokahi mahina i kōkua mai iaʻu e ʻapo me koʻu male ʻole

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• Eia ka mea, manaʻo wau e ʻike maikaʻi loa - {textend} akā maoli naʻe ua mana wau

I kekahi manawa, ʻo ʻoe ka mea e hiamoe ai.

Kikoo aku.

Inā ʻoe i noi mai iaʻu e wehewehe i koʻu lole komo ma mua o koʻu haʻalele ʻana, ʻo ia paha kaʻu e ʻōlelo ai. A i ʻole paha: hana, haʻi ʻole, kinda-like-a-groutfit.

Ua wāwahi ʻia kuʻu pahu huki panty i ʻelua mau ʻāpana (ʻaʻole "ke moe iaʻu"): ka lole komo hanu aʻu i komo ai iā CrossFit a me ka paʻa leungey aʻu i kau ai ma hope.

Mai kuhi hewa, ʻo wau nō ʻo Team-Time-Time. He waha koʻu o kahi luina libido-ed kiʻekiʻe, ʻaʻole hoʻokahi akā ʻelua pahu o nā mea pāʻani wahine ma lalo o koʻu wahi moe. Nā pahu nui.

Akā i kekahi ʻano, ʻaʻole kaʻu hana ma ke ʻano he kāne a me kahi mea kākau maikaʻi a me kaʻu mau "extracurriculars" i hāʻawi iā lākou iho i nā skivvies sophisticated a manaʻo paha.

A i loko o koʻu pili hope loa, ua kū wau i luna: 'Inā e wili ʻia lākou (maikaʻi maikaʻi, ʻoki ʻia), ʻo wai lā ka mea e noʻonoʻo i ko lākou ʻano?' ʻAʻole nui kaʻu mau ʻōlelo e pili ana i kaʻu mau koho utilitarian. ʻAʻole ʻo ia i hoʻomaikaʻi iā lākou - {textend} ʻaʻole ʻo ia i kapa iā lākou i nā panty granny (a no ka maikaʻi, ʻo lākou loa ua).

Akā auē, ma hope o ka pau ʻana o ka pilina, huli wau iā Marie Kondo no kahi hōʻoluʻolu a me ka hoʻouluulu.

Ma kahi o ka hāpai ʻana i kaʻu mau mea a nīnau aku, "Hōʻale paha kēia i ka hauʻoli?" - {textend} E nīnau wau, "Hoʻomaopopo anei kēia iaʻu i kaʻu ex?" Inā ʻae ka pane, ua kipaku wau.

Ua ʻūlū nui wau i nā waffle nui loa, nā pāpale, nā pālule Pōpeku koleke i hoʻomanaʻo mai iaʻu iā ia a hāʻawi iā lākou i nā Hale Hana, kahi pono ʻole ma New York City e hakakā nei me ka maʻi HIV a me ka home ʻole.

A laila, ua kiʻi wau i kaʻu drawer lole komo i loko.

ʻO ke kaumaha (nay, drama) ʻoiaʻiʻo ma hope o ka kokoke ʻana o 18 mau mahina o ka launa ʻana, ua ʻike kaʻu ex iaʻu ma - {textend} a hoʻopā paha iaʻu - {text} i kēlā me kēia hui.

Ke noʻonoʻo nei, malia paha he ʻūlū liʻiliʻi ia e ʻōpala i ka hōʻiliʻili holoʻokoʻa (pono e hoʻomaopopo: ʻaʻole makemake ka hapa nui o nā wahi manawaleʻa i kā mākou undies hoʻohana), akā i kēlā manawa, ua kaumaha wau i ka puʻuwai a ʻo ka mea hope loa aʻu e makemake ai i ka wā e holo ana i ka lole komo ua ʻike a pili paha kaʻu ex.

No laila ua hana wau i ka mea hou a ka puʻuwai puʻuwai, panty-drawered gal e hoʻāʻo nei e mālama i kahi ʻoihana e like me ka mea kākau. ʻO ka mea mua, ua hoʻolilo wau i kaʻu kālā hebedoma "no ka lā ua" i kekahi mau ʻāpana (ʻo H-O-T) kēlā. A laila ua leka uila wau i kekahi mau poʻe PR e ʻike inā e nahu lākou a hoʻouna mai iaʻu i nā kapa nani e hoʻāʻo.

Ma loko o hoʻokahi pule he mea liʻiliʻi iki kaʻu mea huki lalo i ke kupunawahine-aʻe-puka-hālāwai-gym-jock a ʻoi aku ka makemake o ka meaʻai.

Ua pani ʻia koʻu mau ʻāpana e nā lole pua wiwo ʻole ma luna o ka lole Savage x Fenty (yanno, ka laina a Rihanna), nā ʻōlelo pōkole kaikamahine kiʻekiʻe, nā mea e paʻa ai me ka lika e like me ka Tiga, kekahi mau hui palupalu, a me kekahi mau ʻōlelo kikoʻī hoʻoikaika mau. a me nā kāʻei.

ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo e hoʻololi i kaʻu Hanes a me Gap (GapKids BTW no ka mea kēlā lōʻihi) me kekahi mea no laila moekolohe.

Akā manaʻo wau ua hōʻike kaʻu mau kūʻai i kahi makemake e ʻike i kēlā.

ʻO Katie Fritts, ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka lawelawe lawelawe lole no ka hoʻolālā mahina, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Underclub ʻo ka breakup ke kumu nui lua e kūʻai ai nā wahine i nā lole komo (ʻo ka mea mua, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia, e komo ana i kahi pilina)

"Ke kiʻi nei nā wahine e haʻalele nei i ka pilina i nā lole hou no lākou iho. Ke hana nei lākou ia mea no ka mea he mea ia e hiki ai ke hōʻoluʻolu iā ʻoe. He ala ia e hōʻike ai iā ʻoe iho i ke aloha ma hope o kou lilo ʻana i ke aloha. ”

E haʻi aku.

Eia ka mea, manaʻo wau e ʻike maikaʻi loa - {textend} akā maoli naʻe ua mana wau

Ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi lole komo hou e like me kahi hana hoʻōla naʻau liʻiliʻi o ke aloha ponoʻī, ma hope o nā mea āpau. Akā ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo e komo ka lole komo i loko iaʻu i ka makemake e iho i lalo me kaʻu mea maikaʻi ʻole a ʻōlelo i nā pahu o nā mea pāʻani wahine.

ʻAʻole wau i manaʻo e hoʻokomo lākou iaʻu me kahi ʻano #girlpower ikehu.

Akā, a laila e heʻe wau iā lākou, e nānā i ke aniani, a ua manaʻo wau maikaʻi maikaʻi e pili ana i kuʻu nānā ʻana. A kēlā manaʻo? Mana loa.

ʻEono mahina i kēia manawa mai ka haki a me kaʻu ex. A ʻoiai ʻaʻohe boo hou e ʻike nei i kaʻu mau diddies wela, ke holo kiʻekiʻe nei wau i koʻu kapa moe. Loaʻa iaʻu he mau lole komo lole hou (mahalo i kahi kau inoa Underclub) i kēlā me kēia mahina - {textend} ʻo ia hoʻi koʻikoʻi e ʻōlelo nei i kekahi mea e pili ana i kaʻu mau makakoho ma ke ʻano he kanaka me kahi lumi lole nui Manhattan.

A inā e haʻohaʻo ana ʻoe, ke hiamoe nei nō hoʻi wau i loko o koʻu kapa komo. No ka mea kakahiaka maikaʻi, nani!

ʻO ka laina lalo: Ua kiola wau i nā oldies e hoʻolei i nā emojis wave lima lima i kaʻu ex. Akā ua hāʻawi mai ko lākou mea pani iaʻu i kekahi mana wahine koʻikoʻi koʻikoʻi. I kēia manawa, e hoʻohuli aʻe iā Bey, no ka mea makemake kēia moa manuahi ʻole e kani i loko o kona lole komo.

I kēia lā, noʻonoʻo wau i ka lace.

ʻO Gabrielle Kassel kahi mea kākau olakino ma New York a me CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. Ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka kakahiaka, ua hoʻāʻo i ka ʻaʻa a Whole30, a ʻai, inu, kāwili ʻia, kāwele ʻia, a ʻauʻau ʻia me ka lanahu - {textend} nā mea āpau ma ka inoa o ka puke pai. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke kōkua iā ia iho, benchpressing, a i ʻole ka hulahula lāʻau. E hāhai iā ia ma Instagram.