U Up? Pehea e lawe ai i kāu kink i kāu hoa

U Up? ʻO ke kolamu aʻoaʻo hou a Healthline, i kōkua i ka poʻe heluhelu e ʻimi i ka moekolohe a me ka moekolohe.

Ke hoʻomau nei wau i ka noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka manawa mua aʻu i hoʻāʻo ai e lawe i kaʻu moemoeā moekolohe i kahi kāne, hoʻi i koʻu mau makahiki iwakālua. ʻAʻole ia ʻo freak. Ua hoihoi wau e pili ana i ka nakinaki ʻia me kekahi mea e like me ka ʻāʻī - {textend} kahi moekolohe a me ke kaona lua o ke Kulanui ma WORST.

I ka manawa i loaʻa ai iaʻu ka koa e nīnau iā ia e pili ana i ia mea, he haʻalulu kūpikipikiʻu wau, stammering a sweating āpau i kēia kāne ʻilihune ma mua o kona ʻike ʻana e noi wale nei wau no kahi kauā māmā (a koi ʻo ia e like me kahi champ).

No ke aha wau i hoʻohilahila loa ai? No ke aha he mea paʻakikī e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kaʻu makemake? Pololei loa wau i ka hana! Hoʻomaʻo wau e ʻokiʻoki iaʻu iho i kahi palaualelo. Ma hope o nā mea āpau, aia kēia ma mua o ka hana ʻana o ka poʻe i miliona miliona e kākau e pili ana i nā ʻaelike BDSM a me nā "lumi ʻulaʻula," ma mua o ke aʻo ʻana a Rihanna iā mākou e pili ana i ke kumuhana o nā kaulahao a me nā huipa i loko o kāna mele S&M.

ʻO ka mea nui loa, ma mua o ka lawe ʻana o ka app hookup-kikoʻī i ke kaiāulu e like me Scruff a i ʻole Feeld i ka wānana mai ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hoa i ka ʻaoʻao like, kink-wisdom. Ma kēia mau mea, e nānā pinepine ʻana i nā ʻikepili e papa inoa nei i ka mea a kekahi ma mua ou a ʻo ka leka e hōʻemi ai i ka makaʻu o ka hilahila. Hiki iā ʻoe ke wehewehe i kāu mea e makemake ai ma mua o ka ʻike ʻana o kekahi i kou alo (a i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole lākou e ʻike i ko lākou ʻano IS ka fetish - {textend} pehea ka maʻalahi.

Akā pehea e pili ana i ka poʻe e launa me nā poʻe ma waho pūnaewele, ka poʻe i pili i ka pilina pili pono kahi i piʻi ʻole ai ke kumuhana, a i ʻole ka poʻe hiki ʻole ke kamaʻilio kūkākūkā e pili ana i nā moekolohe me kā lākou boo no kekahi kumu ʻē aʻe?

ʻOiai me ka holomua a pau a mākou i hana ai me ka maikaʻi o ka wahine a me ka moekolohe ʻana, hiki ke paʻakikī i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ke kūkā.

Hoʻomaka ke kamaʻilio ʻana

No laila he aha ke ala kūpono e hoʻomaka ai? Ua hoʻoholo wau e hele i kaʻu hoa aloha ʻo Lux Alptraum, ka loea pili wahine a me ka mea kākau o "Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex - {textend} And the Truths They Reveal" no ka ʻōlelo aʻo.

"E manaʻo paha ka mea ʻē aʻe he ʻano ʻē ʻoe a i ʻole he nui paha ia [ke kink]," wahi a Alptraum. He kūpono maoli nō kēia a he mea hōʻeha paha ia, akā aia kekahi mau ala no nā hoa ʻelua e hoʻokokoke i ke kamaʻilio me ke aloha a me ka mahalo.

"He mea maʻalahi paha ke hāmama a ʻōlelo," Aloha, makemake wau e mākaʻikaʻi i kēia mea, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia no ka makaʻu e hoʻomaka i kēia kamaʻilio ʻana, ma mua o ka hoʻomanaʻo ʻana iaʻu hiki nō hoʻi ke hoʻoweliweli i ka hopena. o kahi hoʻolaha kink, ʻoiai inā pau ka wela iā ʻoe. Hiki iā ia ke makaʻu iki no ka mea aia paha ke ʻano o ke kaomi a i ʻole “inā hana maikaʻi ʻole wau a ʻike ʻole paha i ka mea e hana ai?”

Ma ke ʻano he mea hōʻoki hau no nā mea hoʻomaka kinky, paipai nui mākou i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana i nā memo - {textend} maoli! "ʻAe / ʻAʻole / Malia paha" e nānā ana nā ana i nā hana moekolohe ʻokoʻa a me nā fetish no laila ke hoʻopihapiha ʻoe, hiki iā ia ke hana ma ke ʻano he snapshot o kā ʻolua ʻelua.

Paipai ʻo Lux i ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka polokalamu PlsPlsMe, e hāʻawi iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa i kahi quiz a laila e hōʻike wale i nā mea ʻolua e hoʻāʻo ai. Eia nō naʻe, no ka poʻe i pili i nā pilina paʻa, manaʻo ʻo ia he papa inoa kākau lima paha ke ala e hele ai.

“He wahi koa iki aʻe e hōʻike aku i kekahi i kāu mau mea āpau a e hāmama i ka hiki ʻole iā lākou ke makemake. Ke kūkulu nei ka nui o nā kink i ka hilinaʻi a me ke kūkulu ʻana i ka pilina. ”

ʻImi = / = kahi loiloi o kāu mākau

He mea ʻole pehea e hoʻomaka ai ke kamaʻilio ʻana, e ʻōlelo ʻo Lux, e hoʻokumu i ka wanaʻao he mākaʻikaʻi kēia a ʻaʻole he loiloi.

Inā kānalua ka mea ʻē aʻe no ka mea makaʻu lākou ʻaʻole lākou e hana pololei a pono paha i kahi alakaʻi, hana e hana i kahi ʻano kākoʻo. Manaʻo ʻo ia e hoʻokokoke ana me ke ʻano, "ʻE, e ʻimi wale mākou i kēia a ke hoʻāʻo nei ʻoe i nā mea he nui iaʻu," hana kupaianaha. ʻO ia hoʻi ka ʻae ʻana i ka pane, a ʻike paha i nā ala e hoʻopili ai no laila ʻoluʻolu ʻolua a huli ʻia.

"I kekahi manawa pono ʻoe e koa, e lawe i kahi makaʻu, a ʻike e ʻeha paha ʻoe. E ʻike paha ʻoe i ka hōʻole ʻana o ke kanaka iā ʻoe, a he ʻāpana wale nō ia o ka moekolohe a me ka pili aloha. E hana i kahi lewa haʻahaʻa, e wehe a pau a e makaʻala i nā manaʻo āu e loaʻa ai. "

ʻ advicelelo aʻoaʻo maikaʻi loa - {textend} a eia kaʻu ponoʻī ma ke ʻano he māhele hoʻokaʻawale, kō: kū ʻole i ka noʻonoʻo iā ʻoe iho he "ʻano ʻē" inā ʻoe e hele i kahi mea liʻiliʻi liʻiliʻi. Inā ʻo GGG ka poʻe āpau (ʻo ia ka "maikaʻi, ka hāʻawi ʻana, a me ka pāʻani") a ʻaʻole ʻoe e uhaʻi i ka ʻae a kekahi, pono ʻoe e ʻimi i nā mea e hauʻoli a māʻona ai hoʻi.

ʻO ka ʻimi hoihoi olakino kahi ʻāpana o ka moekolohe olakino, no laila e hele i waho o kēlā mau kūpeʻe lima, e kiʻi i kahi ʻōlelo palekana maikaʻi, a hele i waho.

ʻO Reed Brice kahi mea kākau a mea hoʻohenehene i hoʻokumu ʻia ma Los Angeles. ʻO Brice kahi alum o UC Irvine's Claire Trevor School of the Arts aʻo ia ka transgender mua i kiola ʻia i kahi revue ʻoihana me The Second City. Ke kamaʻilio ʻole ʻia ke kī o ka maʻi noʻonoʻo, peni ʻo Brice i kā mākou aloha a me kā mākou moekolohe, "U Up?"