He mau keiki 5 kaʻu, akā ʻaʻohe mana nui. Eia kaʻu mea huna

I ka wā i loaʻa iaʻu hoʻokahi keiki wale nō, manaʻo wau ʻo nā makuahine o nā mea he nui i ʻike i kekahi mau hana hoʻokalakupua aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai.

Ua nānā paha ʻoe i kahi māmā me nā pūʻulu keiki a noʻonoʻo, “Wow, ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea kāna hana? Ke make nei au i hoʻokahi wale nō! ”

ʻĀ, e ʻae ʻoe iaʻu e haʻi iā ʻoe i kahi wahi huna e pili ana i kēlā makuahine: Maliʻa paha ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kāna hana ma mua o ʻoe - {textend} akā ʻaʻole ia no ke kumu āu e manaʻo ai.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ma waho paha ua ʻoi aku kona ʻoluʻolu ma mua ou, no ka mea, he mau makahiki kona i ka ʻike ʻana inā hoʻolei kahi kamaliʻi i kahi waena ma waena o ka hale kūʻai a pono ʻoe e waiho i kahi kaʻa piha i nā meaʻai i ka nānā ʻana o kēlā me kēia. ʻo ʻoe (ma laila), ʻaʻole nui ka nui o ka hana like me he mea lā i kēia manawa.

Akā i loko, ua maʻalahi ʻo ia.

A he ʻoiaʻiʻo paha, e hana maoli ana kāna mau keiki a hana ʻole e like me nā ʻīlio hihiu e lele ana i nā alaloa, kūlou ʻia kahi ahi e luku i nā mea haki hiki ke hiki. Akā no ka mea paha e paʻa ka lima o ka ʻōpio i ka lima o ka muli loa a ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa ka makuahine iā lākou i mau makahiki inā lākou e hele i loko o kēia huakaʻi, loaʻa iā lākou kahi kuki.

ʻO kaʻu e ʻōlelo nei, inā ʻoe e nānā pono - {textend} inā ʻo ʻoe, maoli e nānā, i ka makuahine me nā keiki ʻekolu, ʻehā, ʻelima a ʻoi aku paha, ʻike ʻoe aia hoʻokahi maoli ʻokoʻa nui ma waena o ʻoe a me ia, a ʻo ka mea huna nui i kāna hana "ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi" ma mua o ʻoe kēia:

Ua ʻae ʻo ia ʻaʻohe makuahine maoli maoli, ʻoiaʻiʻo pū kekahi. A ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole.

E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe ʻo ka "pahuhopu" o ka makua ka makuahine i loaʻa pū ʻia ia - {textend} ka makuahine nāna i noʻonoʻo pehea e haku ai i kāna hana mālama ʻili a me kāna hana hoʻomaʻamaʻa kino, mālama ʻia e kaohi i kāna ʻai caffeine i hoʻokolokolo hoʻokahi kīʻaha kope i kēlā me kēia lā (hahahaha), hana juggle, nā keiki maʻi, nā lā hau, kona olakino noʻonoʻo, kāna mau hoaaloha, a me kāna pilina me ka maʻalahi - {textend} akā ʻaʻole au e kūʻai.

Ma ka hakahaka, manaʻo wau ʻo ka pahuhopu o ka makua e wehe ʻia i ka hāʻule mau ʻana, pinepine a pinepine, akā e hakakā mau ana e hoʻomaikaʻi.

Inā manaʻo wau e hana ana wau i nā mea āpau me ka “pololei,” ʻaʻole wau e hoʻāʻo e aʻo i nā ala e kōkua ai i kaʻu mau kaikamahine me nā pilikia a lākou e hakakā nei. ʻAʻole wau e hana i ka mea hiki e mālama pono i nā ʻōlelo olakino a hoʻokō iā lākou; ʻAʻole wau e mālama e hana i nā ʻanuʻu e hoʻāʻo ai i kahi hoʻolālā makua a i ʻole ka taktika i hiki ke kōkua i ka holo ʻana o ka ʻohana holoʻokoʻa.

ʻO koʻu manaʻo, ʻaʻole wau i manaʻo ua hānau ʻia nā mākua “maikaʻi” mai ka loaʻa ʻana o nā makahiki o ka ʻike a i ʻole ka pua o nā keiki. Manaʻo wau ua hānau ʻia nā mākua "maikaʻi" ke hoʻoholo ʻoe e lilo i mea aʻo i ke ola āpau ma o kēia mea i kapa ʻia he makua.

ʻElima kaʻu mau keiki. Ua hānau ʻia kaʻu muli loa i 4 mau mahina i hala. A inā hoʻokahi mea aʻu i aʻo ai e pili ana i ka makua, ʻo ia ka ʻike aʻo mau. Ke manaʻo wale nei ʻoe e kau nei ʻoe i ka hang o ia mea, a i ka manawa wale nō i loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hopena maikaʻi, a i ʻole ke lawelawe ʻoe i kahi pilikia o kahi keiki, piʻi aʻe kekahi. A hoʻi i ka wā he makuahine hou wau no hoʻokahi a ʻelua paha mau keiki, hoʻonāukiuki kēlā iaʻu.

Makemake wau e hala i ke kahua i kahi aʻu i manaʻo ai he pilikia nā mea āpau; Makemake wau e noho anuanu, ʻohiʻohi makuahine e holoholo nei i loko o ka hale kūʻai me kaʻu mau keiki hana pono. Makemake wau e noho ma luna o ka hana o ka hale a hele i waena o ka manawa ʻaina me ka makemake ʻole e holo i Bahamas no hoʻokahi makahiki.

Aka i keia manawa?

ʻIke wau ʻaʻole wau e hele i laila. ʻIke wau e loaʻa kekahi mau manawa ke manaʻo wau e holo mālie ana mākou a me nā manawa ʻē aʻe e uē ai wau a nīnau inā hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēia a i kekahi manawa, makemake e ʻuwī i nā ʻōwili maka e hele mai ana mai ke kanaka aʻu i ulu ai. koʻu kino ponoʻī, ka mea i pili paʻa iaʻu ʻaʻole loa ia i aʻo i ka kolo ʻana no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻokau iā ia i ka lōʻihi.

Ua lawa kaʻu mau keiki a lawa ka ʻike e ʻike ai ʻaʻohe mea e like me ka hana ʻana a ka makuahine me ka "ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi" ma mua o nā makuahine ʻē aʻe.

Ke hana wale nei mākou i ka mea hiki e hiki ai iā mākou, ke ʻōkana i ke ala o mākou, ke aʻo mau ʻana a me ka hoʻololi ʻana, no ka lōʻihi o kā mākou hana ʻana i kēia a i nā keiki paha a mākou. Ua haʻalele wale kekahi o mākou i ka hana ʻana i ka holoi lole ma mua o ka hoʻolei ʻana o nā makuahine ʻē i kēlā kāwele.

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ʻO Chaunie Brusie kahi kahu hānai a hānau hānau i huli i kahi mea kākau a he makuahine hou o ʻelima. Kākau ʻo ia e pili ana i nā mea āpau mai ke kālā a i ke olakino a pehea e ola ai i kēlā mau lā mua o ka wā makua inā ʻo nā mea āpau āu e hiki ai ke noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka hiamoe āu e loaʻa ʻole nei. E hāhai iā ia ma aneʻi.