ʻO ka Magic Magic Hoʻololi Ola o ka Hana ʻAʻohe Mea Postpartum

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• ʻO ka hihia no ka hana ʻole ʻana ma ke ʻano he makuahine hou
• He aha ka hana ʻole e like me ka makuahine hou?
• Pehea wau i aʻo hope ai e hana i ka postpartum

ʻAʻole ʻoe he makuahine maikaʻi ʻole inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e lawe i ka honua ma hope o kāu pēpē.

E hoʻolohe iaʻu i hoʻokahi minuke: He aha inā, i ka honua o ka holoi kaikamahine-i mua ou a me ka hustling a me #girlbossing a me ke kākoʻo ʻana i hope, ua hoʻololi loa mākou i ke ʻano o ka nānā ʻana i ka wā postpartum no nā makuahine?

He aha inā, ma kahi o ka hōʻeha ʻana i nā makuahine me nā leka o pehea e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻonohonoho a me ka hiamoe hiamoe a me ka papa ʻaina a hana i nā mea hou aʻe, ua ʻae wale mākou i nā makuahine hou e hana… ʻaʻohe mea?

ʻAe, pololei kēlā - ʻaʻole loa.

ʻO ia, hana iki ʻana i kekahi mea iki - no ka lōʻihi e hiki ai - hāʻawi ʻia nā kaohi o ke ola, ke hoʻi nei paha i ka hana manawa piha a mālama paha i nā keiki ʻōpio ʻē aʻe i kou home.

Kupanaha ia, ʻeā? E noʻonoʻo i kēlā? ʻO wau e ʻōlelo nei, he aha ka mea e hana ʻole ai nana e like me ko kēia ao no nā wahine? Hoʻohana mākou i ka multitasking a me ka loaʻa mau ʻana o kahi papa inoa noʻonoʻo o kahi miliona mau mea e hele nei i ka manawa hoʻokahi a noʻonoʻo i nā ʻanuʻu 12 i mua a me ka hoʻolālā a me ka hoʻomākaukau ʻana i kēlā hana i kahi mea ʻaneʻane ʻakaʻaka paha.

Akā manaʻoʻiʻo wau i nā makuwahine hou āpau e hoʻolālā i kahi hoʻolālā no ka hana ʻana i kahi mea ʻole ma hope o ka hānau ʻana o kahi pēpē - a eia ke kumu.

ʻO ka hihia no ka hana ʻole ʻana ma ke ʻano he makuahine hou

ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē i kēia lā e pili ana i kahi ton o ka hana hoʻomākaukau. Aia ka papa inoa pēpē a me ka ʻauʻau a me ka noiʻi a me ka hoʻolālā hānau a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana o ka nursery a me nā nīnau "nui" e like me: E loaʻa anei ʻoe i ka epidural? E hoʻopaneʻe ʻoe i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana o ke kaula? E hānai ʻoe?

A ma hope o kēlā me kēia hoʻolālā a me ka hana hoʻomākaukau a me ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana e hiki mai ana ka hānau ʻana o ka pēpē, a laila ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka home i nā sweatpants e haʻohaʻo nei i ka heck e hiki mai ana. A i ʻole ke hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻoholo pehea e hana ai nā mea āpau nā mea i loko o kekahi mau lā āu e pono ai e hoʻi i ka hana.

ʻAneʻane like ia me nā hoʻomākaukau āpau e hiki mai ana ma mua ka pēpē, ka mea ma hope e like like hana. A no laila, hoʻopiha mākou iā ia, me nā mea e like me nā hoʻolālā hoʻolālā ma hope o ka pēpē a me nā papa hana pēpē a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa hiamoe a me nā papa mele pēpē a me nā papa kuhikuhi no ʻoe e hele hou i kāu mālama ponoʻī.

No kekahi kumu, makemake nui mākou e hoʻopaʻa i kahi pēpē ma ke ʻano he wā pōkole wale i ke ola o ka wahine - e noʻonoʻo ʻo Duchess Kate e ʻakaʻaka ana ma luna o kēlā mau ʻanuʻu pōhaku i loko o kona kapa kaomi a me ka lauoho coiffed - ma kahi o ka mālama ʻana i ke ala kūpono mālama ʻia: e like me ka hele ʻana mai i kahi pilikua, screeching, ʻeha mau, kū i ke ala.

Hoʻololi ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi pēpē i nā mea āpau i kou ola, a ʻoiai ke nānā nei nā mea āpau i ka hānau hou, ke olakino, ka noʻonoʻo, ka manaʻo, a me ka olakino olakino ʻaʻole loaʻa ka manawa a me ka mea nui e pono ai.

Hāʻawi mākou i nā wahine i kahi manawa kūpono kūpono o 6 mau pule e hoʻi hou ai, ke lawa ʻole kēlā manawa no kāu kōpū e hoʻi i kāna nui i hala. Hoʻowahāwahā kēia i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke ala hou nei nā mea āpau i kou kino a kūleʻa paha kou ola.

No laila ke ʻōlelo nei au ua hiki i ka manawa e koi ai nā wahine i kahi loli - ma ka haʻi ʻana ma hope o ka pēpē, ʻaʻole mākou e hana i kekahi mea.

ʻAʻole mākou e hana i kekahi mea akā hoʻonohonoho mua i ka hiamoe ma mua o nā mea āpau i ko mākou ola.

ʻAʻole mākou e hana i kekahi mea no ko mākou helehelena pilikino inā ʻaʻohe o mākou ikehu e mālama ai.

ʻAʻole mākou e hana i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kahi toot lele i ke ʻano o ko mākou ʻōpū, a me ka mea a kā mākou mau ʻūhā e hana nei, a inā e hāʻule ana ko mākou lauoho i nā kolopa.

ʻAʻole mākou e hana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe ma mua o kā mākou pono hoʻomaha, ke ola ʻana, a me ke olakino, ma ka ʻaoʻao o kā mākou pēpē.

He aha ka hana ʻole e like me ka makuahine hou?

Inā palaualelo kēia iā ʻoe, a i ʻole ʻūhū i loko ou, e noʻonoʻo ana, "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēlā." ʻae iaʻu e hōʻoia iā ʻoe ʻaʻole ia, a hiki iā ʻoe, a ʻoi aku paha ka nui, pono ʻoe.

Pono ʻoe no ka hana ʻana "ʻaʻohe mea" ma ke ʻano o ka makuahine postpartum e hana maoli nei i nā mea āpau.

No ka mea e maoli kākou - pono paha ʻoe e hana. ʻO wau e ʻōlelo nei, ʻaʻole kūʻai nā diapā iā lākou iho. A ʻoiai inā laki ʻoe i ka haʻalele ʻana o ka makuahine, aia kēlā mau kuleana āpau i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma mua o kou hānau ʻana. E like me nā keiki ʻē aʻe a makua paha āu e mālama ai a i ʻole ka hoʻokele wale ʻana i ka ʻohana i kū ʻole ma muli wale nō o kou hānau ʻana i kahi pēpē.

No laila ʻaʻohe mea maoli ʻole. Akā, pehea inā ʻaʻohe mea keu. ʻAʻohe mea i luna a ma ʻō aku a ʻaʻole hou, "ʻAe, ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki iaʻu ke kōkua," a ʻaʻohe hewa hou no ka noho ʻana i ka home.

Ke hana nei i kekahi mea e like paha me ka maikaʻi me ka ʻike ʻole ʻana iā ʻoe iho, a i ʻole makemake ʻoe, a i nā mea e hiki mai ana i kēia manawa.

ʻO ka hana ʻana i kahi mea ʻole e like me ka makuahine hou paha ke ʻano ia ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka manawa kūpono e hoʻolilo ʻoe i mau hola maoli e paʻa wale ana i kāu pēpē a me binging iā Netflix a me ka hoʻāʻo ʻana ʻole i kahi mea ʻē aʻe no ka mea ke hāʻawi nei i kou kino i ka manawa e hoʻomaha ai. ʻO ka ʻae ʻana paha i kekahi mau hola keu o ka manawa kānana no kāu mau keiki ʻē aʻe a me ka ʻaina kakahiaka no ka ʻaina awakea ʻelua i hoʻokahi pule no ka mea maʻalahi ka cereal.

ʻO ka hana ʻana i ka mea ʻole e like me ka makuahine ke ʻano o ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana me kāu pēpē. ʻO ka hana ʻana i ka waiū me kou kino a i ʻole ke hoʻolilo ʻana i kāu ikehu palena i ka hoʻohuihui ʻana i nā ʻōmole. ʻO ka manaʻo ia e kōkua i kāu keiki liʻiliʻi e aʻo e pili ana i ka honua a puni lākou a lilo i kikowaena o ke ao holoʻokoʻa o kekahi no kahi manawa pōkole wale nō.

No nā māmā hiki, ke kū nei i ka hana ʻana i kahi mea hiki ʻole ke kōkua iā mākou āpau e kiʻi hou i ke ʻano o ka pae postpartum: kahi manawa hoʻomaha, hoʻōla, a hoʻōla, i hiki ai iā mākou ke puka ikaika aʻe ma mua o ka wā mau loa.

Pehea wau i aʻo hope ai e hana i ka postpartum

E ʻae aku wau iā ʻoe ua lawe iaʻu he ʻelima mau keiki ma mua o koʻu ʻae ʻana iaʻu iho e hana i kekahi mea ʻole i ka pae hānau. Me kaʻu mau keiki ʻē aʻe a pau, ua hewa wau inā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻomau me kaʻu papa hana "maʻamau" o ka holoi lole a me ka hana a me ka pāʻani ʻana me nā keiki a me nā huakaʻi leʻaleʻa.

Ma kekahi ʻano, i koʻu noʻonoʻo, manaʻo wau e kiʻi wau i kekahi ʻano mākia keu no ka kū ʻana i waho a ma waho ma mua me kēlā me kēia pēpē.

Ua hana wau i nā mea e like me ka hoʻi ʻana i ke kula grad i ka wā o kaʻu pēpē mua pēpē, lawe iā lākou āpau i nā huakaʻi a me nā huakaʻi, a lele hoʻi i ka hana i mua o ka wikiwiki. A i kēlā me kēia manawa, hakakā wau i nā pilikia ma hope o ka hānau ʻana a hōʻeha pū i ka haukapila ʻelua.

Ua lōʻihi a lōʻihi koʻu hele ʻana ma aneʻi, akā hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo hope loa me kēia pēpē hope loa, ua ʻike wau i ka hana ʻole ʻana i kekahi mea i kaʻu wā hānau ma kēia manawa ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo no ka palaualelo, a me ka makuahine maikaʻi ʻole. , a i ʻole he hoa kaulike ʻole i kaʻu male ʻana; ʻo ia ke akamai.

ʻO ka hana ʻana i ka "mea ʻole" ʻaʻole i maʻalahi a kūlohelohe paha iaʻu, akā no ka manawa mua i koʻu ola, ua ʻae wau iaʻu iho e maikaʻi me ka ʻike ʻole i ka mea e hiki mai ana.

Ua kūleʻa kaʻu ʻoihana, ua kuʻi loa kaʻu waihona panakō, a ʻaʻole mālama ʻia koʻu hale i kahi kūlana maʻamau e maʻa ai kekahi, akā naʻe, ʻike wau i kahi ʻano ʻē o ka maluhia i ka ʻike ʻana ʻaʻole kekahi o kēlā mau mea. ho'ākāka hou iaʻu.

ʻAʻole pono wau e kaomi iaʻu iho e lilo i makuahine mama leʻaleʻa, a i ʻole ka makuahine e lele hou i hope, a i ʻole ka makuahine e haʻalele ʻole i ka pāleo ke loaʻa ka pēpē, a i ʻole ka makuahine nāna e mālama i kāna papa hana nui.

Hiki iaʻu ke lilo i māmā i hana ʻole i kēia manawa - a maikaʻi loa ia. Kono wau iā ʻoe e hui pū me aʻu.

ʻO Chaunie Brusie kahi kahu hānai a hānau hānau i huli i kahi mea kākau a he makuahine hou o ʻelima. Kākau ʻo ia e pili ana i nā mea āpau mai ke kālā a hiki i ke olakino pehea e ola ai i kēlā mau lā mua o ka wā makua inā ʻo nā mea āpau āu e hiki ai ke noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka hiamoe āpau āu e kiʻi ʻole nei. E hāhai iā ia ma aneʻi.