He aha kāu e ʻike ai e pili ana i nā pae o ke kaumaha

Anter

• No hea mai nā pae o ke kaumaha?
• Ke ukali mau nei ke kaumaha i ke kaʻina like o nā pae?
• Kahua 1: hōʻole
• Nā laʻana o ka pae hōʻole
  
• Kahua 2: huhū
• Nā laʻana o ka pae huhū
  
• Kahua 3: Kūʻai Manaʻo
• Nā laʻana o ka pae kūʻai
  
• Kahua 4: Kaumaha
• Nā laʻana o ke kahua kaumaha
  
• Hana 5: ʻAe
• Nā laʻana o ka pae ʻae
  
• ʻO nā pae 7 o ke kaumaha
• ʻO ka lawe lawe ʻana
• Hiki ke kūpono kēia mau kumuwaiwai:
  

Hōʻike Overview

ʻO ke kanikau ke ao holoʻokoʻa. I kekahi manawa i ke ola o kēlā me kēia, e loaʻa ana ma kahi o ka hālāwai me ke kaumaha. No ka make paha o kahi mea aloha, ka nalowale o kahi hana, ka hopena o kahi pilina, a i ʻole nā ​​hoʻololi ʻē aʻe e hoʻololi i ke ola e like me kāu e ʻike ai.

He mea pilikino loa ke kaumaha. ʻAʻole maʻemaʻe loa a laina paha. ʻAʻole ia e hāhai i kekahi manawa a i ʻole hoʻonohonoho manawa. E uē paha ʻoe, huhū, haʻalele, manaʻo ʻole. ʻAʻohe o kēia mau mea ʻano ʻē a hewa ʻole paha. Ke kaumaha nei kēlā me kēia kanaka i ka ʻokoʻa, akā aia kekahi mau mea maʻamau i nā pae a me ke kaʻina o nā manaʻo i ʻike ʻia i ka wā o ke kaumaha.

No hea mai nā pae o ke kaumaha?

I ka makahiki 1969, ua kākau kahi psychiatrist Swiss-ʻAmelika ʻo Elizabeth Kübler-Ross i loko o kāna puke "On Death and Dying" hiki ke hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ke kaumaha i ʻelima mau hanana. ʻO kāna mau mea i ʻike ʻia mai nā makahiki o ka hana ʻana me nā poʻe maʻi maʻi.

Ua ʻike ʻia kāna kumumanaʻo o ke kaumaha ma ke ʻano ʻo Kübler-Ross k modelkohu. ʻOiai ua hoʻolālā mua ʻia no nā poʻe maʻi, ua hoʻololi ʻia kēia mau pae o ke kaumaha no nā ʻike ʻē aʻe me ka nalo pū kekahi.

ʻO nā pae ʻelima o ke kaumaha ka mea i ʻike nui ʻia, akā mamao loa ia mai nā pae kaulana wale o ke kumumanaʻo kaumaha. Aia kekahi mau mea ʻē aʻe, e laʻa me nā ʻehiku pae a me nā mea ʻelua wale nō.

Ke ukali mau nei ke kaumaha i ke kaʻina like o nā pae?

ʻO nā pae ʻelima o ke kaumaha:

• hōʻole
• huhū
• hoʻolimalima
• kaumaha
• ʻae ʻia

ʻAʻole ʻike nā kānaka āpau i nā pae ʻelima āpau, a ʻaʻole paha ʻoe e hele ma waena o lākou i kēia ʻoka.

He ʻokoʻa ke kanikau no kēlā me kēia kanaka, no laila hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka i ke kūpale ʻana me ka nalo i ke kahua kūkā a ʻike iā ʻoe iho i ka huhū a i ʻole hōʻole aʻe. Noho ʻoe i mau mahina i loko o kekahi o nā pae ʻelima akā e lele holoʻokoʻa i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.

Kahua 1: hōʻole

He kaumaha nui ke kaumaha. ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau ke pane aku i nā manaʻo nui a pinepine ʻole hoʻi e ka hoʻomeamea ʻana i ka nalo a i ʻole ka loli. Hāʻawi ka hōʻole iā ʻoe i ka manawa e ʻemi hou i ka nūhou a hoʻomaka e hana. He hana pale pale maʻamau kēia a kōkua i ka helu ʻana iā ʻoe i ka ikaika o ke kūlana.

Ke hele nei ʻoe i waho o ke kahua hōʻole, akā naʻe, e hoʻomaka ka piʻina o nā manaʻo āu e peʻe nei. E kūʻē ʻoe i ke kaumaha he nui āu i hōʻole ai. ʻO ia kekahi ʻāpana o ka huakaʻi o ke kaumaha, akā hiki ke paʻakikī.

Nā laʻana o ka pae hōʻole

• Hoʻokaʻawale a haʻalele paha: "Huhū wale lākou. E pau ana kēia i ka lā ʻapōpō. ”
• Nalo ka hana: “Ua kuhihewa lākou. E kāhea lākou i ka lā ʻapōpō e ʻōlelo he pono lākou iaʻu. ”
• Make o kahi mea aloha: "ʻAʻole ʻo ia i hala. E hele mai ʻo ia ma kahi o ke kekona. "
• ʻIke maʻi maʻi maʻi: "ʻAʻole kēia ka hana iaʻu. Ua hewa nā hopena. ”

Kahua 2: huhū

Ma kahi e noʻonoʻo ʻia ai ka hōʻole ʻana i kahi hana kope, ʻo ka huhū kahi hopena masking. Hūnā ka huhū i nā naʻau a me nā ʻeha āu e hāpai ai. E alakaʻi hou ʻia kēia huhū i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, e like me ke kanaka i make, kou ex, a i ʻole kou haku kahiko. Hoʻokumu paha ʻoe i kou huhū i nā mea ola ʻole.

ʻOiai ʻike kou lolo noʻonoʻo i ka mea o kou huhū ʻaʻole e hoʻopiʻi ʻia, ʻoi loa ka manaʻo o kou manaʻo i kēlā manawa e noʻonoʻo ai.

Hiki paha i ka huhū ke uhi iā ia iho i nā manaʻo e like me ka ʻawaʻawa a huhū paha. ʻAʻole paha he huhū ʻoki loa a huhū paha. ʻAʻole ʻike ka poʻe āpau i kēia pae, a lohi paha kekahi ma aneʻi. I ka maha ʻana o ka huhū, eia nō naʻe, hoʻomaka paha ʻoe e noʻonoʻo pono i nā mea e hana nei a manaʻo i nā ʻano o ke ʻano āu e hoʻokuke nei.

Nā laʻana o ka pae huhū

• Hoʻokiʻi a haʻalele paha: "Ke inaina wau iā ia! E mihi ʻo ia i ka haʻalele ʻana iaʻu! "
• Nalo ka hana: “He mau haku weliweli lākou. Lana koʻu manaʻo ʻaʻole e holo. ”
• Ka make ʻana o kahi mea i aloha ʻia: "Inā ʻo ia i mālama iā ia iho nā mea hou aku, ʻaʻole kū kēia."
• ʻIke maʻi maʻi maʻi: "Aia i hea ke Akua i kēia? Pehea ka ʻaʻa a ke Akua e waiho ai i kēia! ”

Kahua 3: Kūʻai Manaʻo

I ka wā o ke kaumaha, ʻike paha ʻoe i ka palupalu a me ka kōkua ʻole. I kēlā mau manawa o ka naʻau ikaika, ʻaʻole maʻamau ka ʻimi ʻana i nā ala e loaʻa hou ai ka kaohi a i ʻole makemake e manaʻo e like me ka hiki ke hoʻopili i ka hopena o kahi hanana. I ke kūlana kūkaʻi o ke kaumaha, ʻike paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e hana ana i ka nui o nā ʻōlelo "inā inā" a me "inā wale nō".

ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau no nā poʻe haipule e hoʻāʻo e hana i kahi kuʻikahi a i ʻole hoʻohiki paha i ke Akua a i kahi mana kiʻekiʻe aʻe paha i hoʻihoʻi no ka hoʻōla a i ʻole ke hōʻoluʻolu mai ke kaumaha a me ka ʻeha. ʻO Bargaining kahi laina pale e kūʻē i nā naʻau o ke kaumaha. Kōkua ia iā ʻoe e hoʻopaneʻe i ke kaumaha, ka huikau, a i ʻole ka ʻeha.

Nā laʻana o ka pae kūʻai

• Hoʻokaʻawale a haʻalele paha: "Inā wau e hoʻonui i ka manawa me ia, inā ua noho ʻo ia."
• Nalo ka hana: "Inā wau e hana i nā hopena pule hou aku, ʻike lākou i koʻu waiwai."
• Ka make ʻana o kahi mea aloha: "Inā wau i kāhea iā ia i kēlā pō, ʻaʻole ia e hele."
• ʻIke maʻi maʻi maʻi: "Inā mākou i hele i ke kauka ma mua, hiki iā mākou ke kū i kēia."

Kahua 4: Kaumaha

ʻOiai ʻo ka huhū a me ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana hiki ke ʻike he "ʻeleu," ke ʻano kaumaha ke ʻano he "noho malie" o ke kaumaha.

I nā wā mua o ka nalo, holo paha ʻoe mai nā manaʻo, e hoʻāʻo nei e noho i kahi ʻanuʻu i mua o lākou. Akā i kēia kuhi, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke ʻapo a hana ma o lākou lā i kahi ʻano olakino hou aku. Hiki iā ʻoe ke koho e hoʻokaʻawale iā ʻoe iho mai nā mea ʻē aʻe i mea e kū piha ai i ka pohō.

ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo, akā maʻalahi akā maʻalahi a wehewehe maikaʻi ʻia paha ke kaumaha. E like me nā pae ʻē aʻe o ke kaumaha, hiki i ke kaumaha ke lilo i paʻakikī a me ka maikaʻi ʻole. Hiki iā ia ke manaʻo kaumaha. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke huhū, kaumaha, a huikau.

Pilikia paha ke kaumaha i ke kiko pae pae ʻike ʻole o kekahi pohō. Eia nō naʻe, inā pili ʻoe ma aneʻi a ʻaʻole hiki ke neʻe i mua o kēia wā o ke kaumaha, e kamaʻilio me kahi loea olakino noʻonoʻo. Hiki i kahi mea hoʻoponopono ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hana ma o kēia wā kuʻi.

Nā laʻana o ke kahua kaumaha

• Hoʻokiʻi a haʻalele paha: "No ke aha e hele ai a pau?"
• Nalo ka hana: "ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ke hele i mua."
• Ka make ʻana o kahi mea aloha: “He aha kaʻu me ka ʻole o ia?”
• Ka maʻi maʻi maʻi maʻi: "ʻO koʻu ola āpau ke hiki i kēia hopena weliweli."

Hana 5: ʻAe

ʻAʻole pono ka ʻae ʻana i kahi pae hauʻoli a hāpai hoʻi o ke kaumaha. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ua neʻe ʻoe ma mua o ke kaumaha a me ka nalo. Eia naʻe, manaʻo ia ua ʻae ʻoe iā ia a ua ʻike ʻoe i ke ʻano o kou ola i kēia manawa.

Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻokoʻa ʻokoʻa i kēia pae. ʻO ka mea i manaʻo nui ʻia. Ua loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hoʻololi nui i kou ola, a hoʻonui i ke ʻano o kou manaʻo e pili ana i nā mea he nui. E nānā i ka ʻae ʻia ma ke ʻano he ala e ʻike ai aia paha he mau lā maikaʻi aʻe ma mua o ka maikaʻi ʻole, akā aia nō paha ka maikaʻi ʻole - a ua maikaʻi kēlā.

Nā laʻana o ka pae ʻae

• Hoʻokiʻi a haʻalele paha: "ʻO ka mea hope loa, he koho olakino kēia naʻu."
• Nalo ka hana: "E hiki iaʻu ke ʻimi i kahi ala i mua mai a hiki ke hoʻomaka i kahi ala hou."
• Ka make ʻana o kahi mea aloha: "Pōmaikaʻi wau i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā makahiki kupaianaha me ia, a e hoʻomanaʻo mau ʻo ia i koʻu mau hoʻomanaʻo."
• ʻO ka maʻi maʻi maʻi maʻi: "He manawa kūpono kaʻu e nakinaki i nā mea a maopopo leʻa e hana wau i ka mea aʻu e makemake ai i kēia mau pule hope a me nā mahina."

ʻO nā pae 7 o ke kaumaha

ʻO nā papa ʻehiku o ke kaumaha kekahi ʻano hoʻohālikelike ʻē aʻe no ka wehewehe ʻana i nā ʻike paʻakikī o ka nalo ʻana. ʻO kēia mau pae ʻehiku i loko:

• Pāhaʻi a hōʻole. ʻO kēia kahi kūlana o ka hoʻomaloka a me nā manaʻo numbed.
• ʻEha a me ka hewa. Manaʻo paha ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomanawanui i ka nalo a ke hana nei ʻoe i mea paʻakikī i ke ola o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma muli o kou mau manaʻo a me kāu mau pono.
• H huhū a me ke kūʻai aku ʻana. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lash, e haʻi ana i ke Akua a i kahi mana kiʻekiʻe paha e hana ʻoe i kekahi mea a lākou e noi ai inā e hāʻawi wale lākou iā ʻoe i ka hōʻoluʻolu mai kēia mau manaʻo.
• Kaumaha. He wā hoʻokaʻawale paha kēia a me kahi mehameha e hana ai ʻoe a noʻonoʻo i ka nalo.
• ʻO ka huli i luna. I kēia manawa, ua make nā pae o ke kanikau e like me ka huhū a me ka ʻeha, a waiho ʻia ʻoe i kahi ʻano mālie a hoʻomaha hoʻi.
• Hana hou a hana ʻana ma o. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka e kau i nā ʻāpana o kou ola a lawe i mua.
• ʻAe a me ka manaʻolana. ʻO kēia kahi ʻae lohi loa o ke ala hou o ke ola a me ka manaʻo o ka hiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana.

ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻo kēia paha ka hōʻike ʻana o nā pae mai ka wāwahi a haʻalele paha.

• Kahaha a hōʻole: "ʻAʻole loa ia e hana i kēia iaʻu. E ʻike ʻo ia ua hewa ʻo ia a hoʻi hou i ʻaneʻi i ka lā ʻapōpō. "
• ʻEha a me ka hewa: "Pehea ʻo ia e hana ai i kēia iaʻu? Pehea ʻo ia iho? Pehea wau i hana hewa ai i kēia? ”
• ʻO ka huhū a me ke kālepa ʻana: "Inā e hāʻawi ʻo ia iaʻu i kahi manawa hou, e lilo wau i keikikāne maikaʻi. E hāʻawi wau iā ia a hāʻawi aku iā ia i nā mea āpau āna e noi mai ai. "
• Kaumaha: "ʻAʻole loa wau e pili i kahi pilina ʻē aʻe. Makemake au e hoka i nā mea āpau. "
• ʻO ka huli i luna: "He paʻakikī ka hopena, akā hiki i kahi wahi i ka wā e hiki mai ana kahi e hiki ai iaʻu ke ʻike iaʻu iho i kahi pilina ʻē aʻe."
• Kūkulu hou a me ka hana ʻana ma o: "Pono wau e loiloi i kēlā pilina a aʻo mai kaʻu mau hewa."
• ʻAe a me ka manaʻolana: "He nui kaʻu e hāʻawi aku ai i kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe. Pono wau e launa me lākou. ”

ʻO ka lawe lawe ʻana

ʻO ke kī i ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ke kaumaha e hoʻomaopopo nei ʻaʻole i ʻike ʻia kekahi i ka mea like. He pilikino loa ke kaumaha, a manaʻo paha ʻoe i kahi mea ʻokoʻa i kēlā me kēia manawa. Pono paha ʻoe i mau hebedoma, a i ʻole he kaumaha paha mau makahiki.

Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e pono ʻoe i ke kōkua i ke kū ʻana i nā manaʻo a me nā loli, he loea maikaʻi kahi loea noʻonoʻo no ka hoʻopili ʻana i kou mau manaʻo a loaʻa i kahi ʻano hōʻoia i loko o kēia mau manaʻo kaumaha a kaumaha loa hoʻi.

Hiki ke kūpono kēia mau kumuwaiwai:

• ʻO Hotline kaumaha
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• ʻOihana Hospice National a me Palliative Care Organization