Ua Pahu Kekahi Nā Kino kīnā Loa i ka 'Queer Eye.' Akā me ka ʻole o ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka heihei, nalowale ia i ke kiko

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• Ke nānā nei ʻoe i ka hanana he 49 mau minuke, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua akā mahalo i ko Wesley ʻano lililile.
• Hiki ke paʻakikī ke noʻonoʻo, no laila, no ke aha i hoʻokumu ai kēia hopena i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa nui ma waena o nā lālā ʻeleʻele o ke kaiāulu kīnā.
• 1. ʻO ka wikiwiki (a me ka hoihoi) i kāhea ʻia ai ʻo ia - a ʻo wai kēlā mau loiloi - e haʻi nei
• 2. Ua hana ʻia nā hopena ma mua o ka hiki iā Wesley ke haʻi i kāna ʻike ponoʻī
• 3. ʻAʻohe wahi i mālama ʻia no kā Wesley huakaʻi o ka ʻae ʻia
• 4. Ua holoi ke kīnaʻi i nā ala ʻokoʻa i hōʻike ʻia ai nā kāne ʻeleʻele i kēia māhele
• 5. ʻO ke koʻikoʻi o ke kākoʻo o kona makuahine ua hoʻokaʻawale hewa ʻia mai nā ʻike o nā mea mālama wahine ʻEleʻele
• 6. He mea nui kēia hanana no nā mākua ʻEleʻele, ʻo ia hoʻi nā makuakāne ʻeleʻele
• 7. ʻAʻole i noʻonoʻo ʻia ka hopena o kēia Episode (a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana) i ka poʻe kīnā ʻeleʻele
• I kaʻu kamaʻilio pū ʻana me Wesley, ua nīnau au iā ia i kāna mau ʻōlelo no nā kāne kīnā ʻole. ʻO kāna pane? "E ʻike iā ʻoe iho i kou ʻano."

ʻO ke kau hou o ko Netflix series series "Queer Eye" i loaʻa i ka nui o ka nānā hou mai ke kaiāulu kīnā, ʻoiai ke hiʻohiʻona nei i kahi kanaka kīnā ʻeleʻele i kapa ʻia ʻo Wesley Hamilton mai Kansas City, Missouri.

Ua ola ʻo Wesley i kahi ola "keiki maikaʻi" i hōʻike ʻia nona a hiki i kona kī ʻia ʻana i ka ʻōpū ma 24 mau makahiki. Ma loko o ka hanana, kaʻana like ʻo Wesley i ka loli o kona ola a me kāna kuana, me ke ʻano o kona ʻike ʻana i kona kino kīnā hou.

I loko o 7 mau makahiki, ua hele ʻo Wesley mai ka "kuʻi ʻana i kona mau wāwae no ka mea waiwai ʻole" i ka hoʻokumu ʻana i ka poʻe kīnā ʻole nonprofit Akā ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo, kahi hui e hāʻawi nei i nā papaʻai pono a me nā papa hoʻoikaika kino e hoʻoikaika ana i ka poʻe kīnā.

Ke nānā nei ʻoe i ka hanana he 49 mau minuke, ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua akā mahalo i ko Wesley ʻano lililile.

Mai kāna ʻakaʻaka a ʻakaʻaka i kona makemake e hoʻāʻo i nā mea hou, nā pilina āna i hana ai me Fab Five ke hoʻololi lākou i kāna kaila a me ka home e hōʻoluʻolu e nānā.

ʻIke mākou iā ia e hoʻokolohua nei me nā lole āna i manaʻo ai ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke komo no kāna noho huila; nānā mākou iā ia e kaʻana like i nā manawa maʻalahi me Tan a me Karamo, e ʻaʻa ana i nā manaʻo maʻamau o kahi ʻano kāne, ʻano kāne ʻole.

ʻIke pū mākou i ka ʻōnaehana kākoʻo aloha e hoʻopuni iā ​​Wesley, mai kāna makuahine aloha a haʻaheo mau loa i kāna kaikamahine i ʻike iā ia ʻo Superman.

No kēia mau kumu āpau a me nā mea hou aku he nui, neʻe maoli nō ka ʻāpana a hōʻaʻano nui i nā ʻano stereotypes a Wesley - ma ke ʻano he ʻeleʻele, kanaka kīnā ʻole - ke alo nei i kēlā me kēia lā.

Hiki ke paʻakikī ke noʻonoʻo, no laila, no ke aha i hoʻokumu ai kēia hopena i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa nui ma waena o nā lālā ʻeleʻele o ke kaiāulu kīnā.

Aia kekahi mau ʻōhumu i nīnau i ka inoa o kā Wesley hui, no ka laʻana, me ka hopohopo e pili ana i kēia ʻāpana ke hōʻeha i ka manaʻo holoʻokoʻa o ke kīnā ʻole i ka poʻe i hiki ʻole ke hoʻohana ʻia.

Ua puka mai kēia mau loiloi ma mua o ka lele ʻana o kēia hanana. Akā ua loaʻa iā lākou ka ikaika ma ka pāpili kaiaulu ʻoiai kēlā.

Eia nō naʻe, i ka hoʻomaka ʻana o nā lālā kīnā o ke kaiāulu e nānā i kēia hanana, nui ka poʻe i ʻike i ka "lawe wela ʻana" e puka aʻe nei ma ka pāpili kaila ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo i ka paʻakikī o ka ʻelua ʻeleʻele a me ke kīnā ʻole.

No laila he aha, kikoʻī, i nalo ʻia? Ua kamaʻilio wau me nā leo koʻikoʻi ʻehā i ke kaiāulu kīnā, nāna i hoʻoneʻe i nā kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka "Queer Eye" mai ka huhū kuhi hewa i ke kikowaena ʻana i nā ʻike o ka poʻe kīnā ʻeleʻele.

Hoʻomaopopo kā lākou mau nānā ʻana iā mākou i nā ala he nui, ʻoiai ma nā wahi "holomua", kahi e hoʻokuʻi ʻia ai ka poʻe kīnā ʻeleʻele i nā palena palena.

1. ʻO ka wikiwiki (a me ka hoihoi) i kāhea ʻia ai ʻo ia - a ʻo wai kēlā mau loiloi - e haʻi nei

E like me kā Keah Brown, ka mea kākau a me ka mea kākau moʻolelo e wehewehe ai, "He mea hoihoi i ka wikiwiki o ke kaiāulu e lele i lalo i nā ʻāʻī o nā poʻe kīnā ʻole o Black ma mua o ka noʻonoʻo e pili ana ... pehea e hana ai i loko o kāu kānalua ponoʻī a me ka inaina."

Ka hopena? ʻO nā poʻe ma waho o ke kaiāulu ponoʻī ʻo Wesley (a ma o ka hoʻolōʻihi ʻia ʻana, ua ʻike ʻia ka noho ʻana) ua hoʻoholo lākou e pili ana i kāna hana a me kāna mau makana, e holoi ana i nā paʻakikī i hele mai me kona ʻano lāhui.

"He poʻe kaulana ʻole ka poʻe ʻeleʻele o ke kala a me nā lālā kaiāulu keʻokeʻo i pīhoihoi i ka manawa kūpono e wāwahi iā ia i nā pae ma Twitter a me Facebook," wahi a Keah. "Ua nīnau ʻia iaʻu pehea lākou e ʻike ai i ke koena o mākou, ʻike ʻoe?"

2. Ua hana ʻia nā hopena ma mua o ka hiki iā Wesley ke haʻi i kāna ʻike ponoʻī

"Ua lele maoli ka poʻe i ka pū. Ua wikiwiki lākou i ka villainize i kēia kāne ma mua o ko lākou ʻike ʻana i ka hanana, "wahi a Keah.

ʻO ka hapa nui o kēlā reactivity i hele mai nā loiloi i hana i nā manaʻo e pili ana i ka inoa o ko Wesley nonprofit, Ka poʻe kīnā ʻole akā ʻaʻole maoli.

"Maopopo iaʻu ʻaʻole kūpono ka inoa o kāna ʻoihana, akā ma ka ʻili, ke noi nei ʻo ia i ka mea like a mākou e noi nei: ke kūʻokoʻa a me ka mahalo. Hoʻomaopopo maoli ia iaʻu he nui ka lāhui i ke kaiāulu e hana ai, "wahi a Keah.

Ua loaʻa iaʻu ka manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio pū me Wesley e pili ana i ka backlash e pili ana i kāna hana a me ka hopena. ʻO kaʻu mea i aʻo ai, ua ʻike nui ʻo Wesley i ka haunaele, akā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻopilikia ʻia e ia.

"Hoʻākāka wau i ka mea kīnā ʻole akā ʻaʻole maoli. Ke hāʻawi nei au i ka mana i ka poʻe ma o ke olakino a me ka meaʻai no ka mea ua hoʻoikaika ia iaʻu, "wahi a ia.

I ka wā kīnā o Wesley, ua ʻike ʻo ia e kaupalena ana ʻo ia iā ia iho i ka mea āna i manaʻo ai he kanaka kīnā ʻole - hoʻomaopopo ʻole ʻia e ka ʻike ʻole ʻia o ka poʻe e like me ia. ʻO ke olakino a me ke olakino ka mea i loaʻa ai iā ia ka hilinaʻi a me ka wiwo ʻole i loaʻa iā ia i kēia manawa he 7 mau makahiki ma hope o kēlā lā nui.

ʻO kāna misiona ka hana ʻana i wahi no nā poʻe kīnā ʻole ʻē aʻe e ʻike i ke kaiāulu ma o ia mau ala i loaʻa iā ia ka manawa e ʻoi aku ka ʻoluʻolu i kona ʻili - kahi manaʻo i nalowale i ka wā i hana maikaʻi ʻia ai nā loiloi ma mua o ka hiki iā ia ke haʻi i kāna ʻike iā ia iho.

3. ʻAʻohe wahi i mālama ʻia no kā Wesley huakaʻi o ka ʻae ʻia

ʻO ko Wesley hoʻolālā ʻana no ke kīnā i hoʻohālikelike ʻia e ka pehea i aʻo ai ʻo ia e aloha i kona kino kīnā ʻeleʻele. ʻOiai kekahi i loaʻa i kāna kīnā kīnā ma hope o ke ola, ke ulu nei hoʻi ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana o Wesley, ʻoiai mākou i ʻike ai mai kāna haʻi ponoʻī ʻana i kēia hanana.

ʻO Maelee Johnson, ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ChronicLoaf a me ka mea kōkua kuleana kīnā, ʻōlelo e pili ana i ka huakaʻi a Wesley i hele ai: "Ke ʻike ʻoe i kekahi e like me Wesley i lilo i mea kīnā ma hope o ke ola, pono maoli ʻoe e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i nā hopena o kēlā. ʻO kahi laʻana, ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia i kāna ʻoihana ʻoiai e hele ana i loko o ka hiki i loko a me ke kaʻina o ka ʻae ʻana i kāna ʻike kīnā hou. ”

"ʻO ke ʻano o kāna inoa ʻoihana hiki ke ulu a ulu pū me ia, a maikaʻi a maʻalahi hoʻi ia e hoʻomaopopo ai," hoʻomau ʻo Maelee. "ʻO mākou i ke kaiāulu kīnā e hoʻomaopopo i kēlā."

ʻO Heather Watkins, he loio no nā kuleana kīnā, e like me nā ʻōlelo like. "ʻO Wesley kekahi ʻāpana o nā pōʻai aʻoaʻo e kū nei e hoʻopili / hui me nā lāhui i hoʻopilikia ʻia, e hāʻawi ana iaʻu i ka manaʻo e hoʻomau ʻo ia e hoʻonui i ka ʻike iā ia iho," i kākau ai ʻo ia. "ʻAʻole kekahi o kāna ʻōlelo a me ke ʻano kānalua iā ia iho i hāʻawi mai iaʻu i kekahi manawa kūpono no ka mea aia ʻo ia i ka huakaʻi."

4. Ua holoi ke kīnaʻi i nā ala ʻokoʻa i hōʻike ʻia ai nā kāne ʻeleʻele i kēia māhele

ʻO nā hiʻohiʻona i kū i waho i ka hapanui o mākou nā mea i ka wā o nā kāne ʻeleʻele i hōʻike ai i kā lākou ʻoiaʻiʻo me kekahi.

ʻO nā pilina ma waena o Karamo a me Wesley i hāʻawi kikoʻī i kahi ʻike ikaika i ka kāne kāne a me ka palupalu. Ua hana ʻo Karamo i wahi palekana no Wesley e kaʻana like ai e pili ana i kona ʻeha, hoʻōla, a lilo i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi iā ia, a hāʻawi iā ia i ka hiki ke kūʻē i ke kanaka nāna ia i kī.

ʻO ka palupalu i hōʻike ʻia he mea maʻamau ʻole ia ma ke kīwī ma waena o ʻelua mau kāne ʻeleʻele, kahi hanana a mākou e pono ai e ʻike hou aʻe ma ka paku liʻiliʻi.

No André Daughtry, kahi kahawai ʻo Twitch, ʻo nā kūkākūkā ma waena o nā kāne ʻEleʻele ma ka hōʻike he hiʻohiʻona i ka hoʻōla. "ʻO ka pilina ma waena o Wesley a me Karamo kahi hōʻike," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. “He mea maikaʻi a hoʻopā i ka ʻike ʻana. ʻO ko lākou ikaika a me kā lākou hoʻopaʻa paʻa ʻana ka blueprint no nā kāne ʻeleʻele āpau e ukali ai. ”

Hōʻike ʻo Heather i kēia manaʻo, a me kona mana hoʻololi. "ʻO ke kamaʻilio a Karamo i kōkua ai i hiki ke hōʻike holoʻokoʻa iā ia iho. He convo koʻikoʻi kēlā, [a] piliwili loa ia - a ua FORGAVE ʻo ia iā ia, "wahi a Heather. "Ua hōʻike ʻo ia i ka ʻike e pili ana i ka kuleana piha no kona ola iho a me nā kūlana. Nui loa kēia; ʻo kēia ka hoʻoponopono hoʻihoʻi. He hoʻōla kēia. ”

5. ʻO ke koʻikoʻi o ke kākoʻo o kona makuahine ua hoʻokaʻawale hewa ʻia mai nā ʻike o nā mea mālama wahine ʻEleʻele

He mea nui ka makuahine o Wesley i kona hoʻōla hou ʻana a makemake ʻo ia e ʻike pono i ko Wesley mau pono hana e pono ai e noho kaʻawale.

Ma ka hopena o ka hanana, mahalo ʻo Wesley i kona makuahine. ʻOiai ua manaʻo kekahi poʻe e pili ana kona kūʻokoʻa i ke kūʻokoʻa i hōʻike ʻia he kaumaha ka mālama ʻana - a ua hoʻokūpaʻa ʻo Wesley iā ia me ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana iā ia - ua hala pono kēia mau poʻe no ke aha he mea nui kēlā mau hiʻohiʻona no nā ʻohana ʻeleʻele.

Wehewehe ʻo Heather i nā hakahaka: “Mai kuʻu kuanaʻike ma ke ʻano he makuahine a kahu no kahi makua makua, a me ka ʻike ʻana i ka hele pinepine ʻole ʻana o nā wahine ʻeleʻele a kapa ʻia hoʻi he 'ikaika,' me he mea lā ʻaʻohe o mākou haʻihaʻi a ʻeha hoʻi ka ʻeha, ua like kēia me ka mahalo nui . ”

"I kekahi manawa mahalo maʻalahi piha me kahi 'ʻike wau ua loaʻa iaʻu koʻu kua a hāʻawi i ka hapa nui iā ʻoe iho, ka manawa, a me ka nānā ʻana ma koʻu ʻaoʻao' hiki i ka maluhia a me kahi uluna e hoʻomaha ai," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

6. He mea nui kēia hanana no nā mākua ʻEleʻele, ʻo ia hoʻi nā makuakāne ʻeleʻele

He mea laha ʻole ke ʻike maka ʻia ke kīnā a me ka makuakāne, i kēlā mau manawa e pili ana i nā kāne kīnā ʻole.

Ua wehe ʻo André e pili ana i ka nānā ʻana iā Wesley i makuakāne e hāʻawi ai iā ia ka manaʻolana: "Ke ʻike nei iā Wesley me kāna kaikamahine, ʻo Nevaeh, ʻaʻole wau i ʻike maka i kekahi mea akā hiki wale nō iaʻu ke laki i kekahi lā i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā keiki.

"ʻIke wau hiki ke kiʻi ʻia a kiʻi ʻole ʻia. Kūpono e hoʻonui ʻia a kiʻekiʻe ʻia nā mākua kīnā. ”

Ua kaʻanalike ʻo Heather i ke kumu o ka hōʻike ʻana o ka makuakāne a ke kaikamahine i ka mana ma kāna kuleana ponoʻī. "ʻO ka makuakāne ʻEleʻele kīnā o kāna kaikamahine i ʻike iā ia ma ke ʻano he koa" pūʻiwa loa, ʻaʻole like me ka nui o nā makuakāne-kaikamahine e hōʻike nei i nā kiʻi. "

I kēia manaʻo, hōʻike ka ʻāpana i nā makuakāne ʻeleʻele e like me Wesley ʻaʻole like me nā mea ʻē aʻe, akā like nō me lākou: he makua kupaianaha a aloha hoʻi.

7. ʻAʻole i noʻonoʻo ʻia ka hopena o kēia Episode (a me ke kamaʻilio ʻana) i ka poʻe kīnā ʻeleʻele

Ma ke ʻano he wahine kīnā ʻole ka ʻeleʻele, ua ʻike au i ka nui o nā kāne kīnā o ka ʻEleʻele aʻu i ulu ai me Wesley. ʻO nā kāne e hoʻāʻo nei e noʻonoʻo iā lākou iho i kahi honua kahi e manaʻoʻiʻo ai lākou ua hōʻino ʻia kā lākou mana o ka kāne kāne ʻeleʻele no ka mea he kīnā lākou.

Ua nele kēlā mau kāne i ka ʻike maka o ke kāne kāne kīnā ʻeleʻele i hiki ke hāpai i ka haʻaheo e pono ai lākou e hilinaʻi i nā kino a me nā manaʻo i loaʻa iā lākou.

Ua wehewehe ʻo André i ke kumu o ka ʻike nui ʻana iā Wesley ma "Queer Eye" iā ia i kēia wā o ke ola: "Ua pili wau i ka hakakā a Wesley e ʻike iā ia iho i loko o ke kai o ka ʻIleʻele a me ke kāne kāne ʻona. Ua pili wau i kāna mau kiʻekiʻe a me kāna mau haʻahaʻa a me kona ʻano o ka hoʻokō ʻana i ka wā i hoʻomaka ai ʻo ia e ʻike i kona leo. "

I ka nīnau ʻana aku i kāna mea e ʻōlelo aku ai iā Wesley e pili ana i ka hopena hope, paipai ʻo André iā ia e "nānā ʻole i ka poʻe i maopopo ʻole i kāna hele o ke ola. Ke hana maikaʻi nei ʻo ia i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kona pili i ke kīnā a me ke kaiāulu, a me kona ʻEleʻele a me kona makuakāne. ʻAʻole maʻalahi kekahi o ia mea a hele mai paha me kahi alakaʻi kūloko i ka mea e hana ai. ”

I kaʻu kamaʻilio pū ʻana me Wesley, ua nīnau au iā ia i kāna mau ʻōlelo no nā kāne kīnā ʻole. ʻO kāna pane? "E ʻike iā ʻoe iho i kou ʻano."

E like me ka mea i hōʻike ʻia e kāna helehelena ma "Queer Eye," ʻike ʻo Wesley i ka poʻe kīnā ʻeleʻele me he mea lā nona ka ikaika nui. Mai kāna hana, ke kiʻi nei ʻo ia i kahi kaiāulu o ka poʻe kīnā ka nui o nā hakahaka e nānā a hiki ʻole paha ke kiʻi.

"Ua ola wau i kēlā pō no ke kumu," wahi a Wesley. Ua hoʻohuli nui kēlā kuana i kona ʻano i kona ola, i kona kino kīnā ʻeleʻele, a me ka hopena āna e makemake ai e loaʻa i kahi kaiāulu e nānā ʻole ʻia a hōʻike ʻole ʻia.

Ua wehe kēia puka "Queer Eye" i ka puka no kahi kamaʻilio e makemake nui ʻia e pili ana i ka anti-Blackness, intersectionality, a me ke kau ʻana i nā manaʻo kīnā ʻeleʻele.

E lana ka manaʻo e naʻaupō kākou a ʻaʻole e hoʻomau i ka overtalk a holoi paha i nā ʻāpana o kā mākou kaiāulu ke lilo ia i ko lākou mau leo ​​- ʻae, nā leo e like me Wesley's - ma mua.

ʻO Vilissa Thompson, LMSW, he mea hana kaiaulu manaʻo ʻo South Carolina. Holo i kou Leo! ʻo ia kāna hui kahi e kūkākūkā ai i nā pilikia e pili ana iā ia ma ke ʻano he wahine ʻeleʻele, e like me ka intersectionality, ka racism, ka politika, a no ke aha ʻo ia e unapologetically hana maikaʻi ai i nā pilikia. E ʻike iā ia ma Twitter @VilissaThompson, @RampYourVoice, a me @WheelDealPod.