Eia ke kumu e nānā nui ai mākou āpau me Meghan Markle

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ʻO ka male aliʻi, kahi e male ai ʻo Meghan Markle iā Prince Harry (inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike!), Aia ʻekolu mau lā. Akā ʻo TBH, ʻoi aku ka manaʻo o nā nuptial e like me ka male a kā kāua hoaaloha ʻoi aku ma mua o kahi hanana o ka honua-no nā mahina, ke nānā nui nei ka honua i nā kikoʻī āpau, e wānana ana i nā wānana a me nā minia ʻana i nā nīnauele i hāʻawi ʻia e ka mea hana keaka no kēlā me kēia nani a me nā ʻōlelo kōkua maikaʻi āna i hāʻawi ai. (Inā makemake ʻoe, eia ka hana a Meghan Markle ma mua o ka male aliʻi).

Akā ʻo ia ʻaʻole ʻoiai ka male a kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa ma hope o nā mea āpau-no ke aha ʻoe e pīhoihoi loa ai?

ʻAe, kapa ʻia e nā psychologists "celebrity worship syndrome" a ma muli o ka noiʻi, ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻamau. I kahi noiʻi i paʻi ʻia i loko o ka Ka Nupepa Pelekane o Psychology, hoʻolaha nā mea noiʻi i ka hoʻomana ʻana i ka poʻe kaulana ma kahi pae. Ma nā pae haʻahaʻa, pili ia i kāu ʻano maʻamau o ka heluhelu ʻana e pili ana i kahi celeb, e hele ana i loko o kā lākou hānai IG, a i ʻole ke nānā ʻana iā lākou (a i kā lākou male ʻana) ma ke kīwī. Akā ma nā pae kiʻekiʻe loa, hoʻomana ka poʻe kaulana i kahi ʻano pilikino - nānā ʻoe i nā kikoʻī o ko lākou ola a ʻike pū me ka celeb. Mahalo ʻoe i kā lākou kūleʻa a ʻeha no ka holo pono ʻole o ka celeb me he mea lā nāu nō ia. I ka hihia o Meghan Markle, me he mea lā he hihia koʻikoʻi ko ka honua holoʻokoʻa i ka maʻi hoʻomana hoʻomana kaulana.

Wahi a nā psychologists, ʻo kā mākou hui pū ʻana ma muli paha o kekahi mau mea. "He hōʻailona hōʻailona ʻo ia i kahi moemoeā a ka poʻe e pono ai e kahili ʻia e kahi Prince Charming," i wehewehe ai ʻo Brandy Engler, ʻo Psy.D., kahi mea hoʻoponopono maʻi ma LA. Hoʻolālā pinepine nā mea lapaʻau i ka manawa nui e kōkua iā ʻoe e haʻalele i kēia mau moemoeā kūpono ʻole i hiki ai iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kāu hoapili he kanaka maoli-ʻaʻole ʻo ia ka hopena hoʻokalakupua i kāu hopohopo a me kou hopohopo ʻole, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "I kēia hihia, ua hoʻokō ʻo Megan Markle i ka hoʻokō ʻana i ka makemake [o ka manaʻo ʻo Prince Charming] a hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ia mea a ola ʻole," wahi a Engler.

ʻO ka ʻo Meghan Markle me he mea lā he hoa aloha kāu me ka hoʻohui ʻana paha i kēia hanana. "ʻAʻole i hānau ʻia ʻo Meghan i ka waiwai a kuleana paha," i wehewehe ai ʻo Rebecca Hendrix, kahi psychotherapist holistic ma New York. "ʻO ia ka epitome o ka moeʻuhane ʻAmelika i kāna hana kūʻē ʻana i nā pilikia o ka lāhui, ke kāne, a me ka papa waiwai e hoʻokō ai i ka kūleʻa." He kūlana kūleʻa ʻo ia, kahi moʻolelo o ke kākoʻo ʻana no ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka wahine a me nā pilikia olakino wahine a puni ka honua. A komo ʻo ia i nā kāmaʻa weliweli, hoʻolimalima. (E nānā: Ma hea e kūʻai ai i nā Sneakers Keʻokeʻo punahele a Meghan Markle) "ʻO wai ka mea ʻaʻole e aʻa iā ia?" Nīnau ʻo Hendrix. I kou manaʻo, ke kumu ʻana no kekahi me kēia mau ʻano e ʻano like paha me ke aʻa ʻana iā ʻoe iho, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

ʻO ka mea hope loa, aia ka manaʻo ʻo ka Duchess e hiki mai ana he hōʻailona o ka manaʻolana a me ka hoʻololi ʻana - kahi mea āu i manaʻo ai e hoʻowalewale ʻia. "No ka mea ua manaʻo ʻia paha e male ʻo Harry i kekahi e pili kokoke ana i ka home ma nā pae he nui, nā aʻa o ka lehulehu no kēia fairytale o kēia au hou a me kahi pāʻina lāhui ʻelua ma mua o ka hāʻawi ʻana iā mākou i ka manaʻolana no ka loli," wahi a Hendrix. ʻOi aku ka mana o kēia ʻano underdog manaolana ma mua o kāu e ʻike ai. "He mea nui kēia i ka psyche ʻAmelika - pono mākou i kēia," wahi a Engler. "Hoʻoikaika ia iā mākou a kōkua ia iā mākou e ʻiʻini e lilo i ko mākou mea maikaʻi loa-ʻoiai inā he kuhihewa wale nō ia."

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