No ke aha mākou e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ke kaumaha i ka wā o ka hāpai ʻana

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• I ka manawa o Sepideh Saremi, 32, i hoʻomaka ai e uē pinepine a me ka huhū a me ka luhi i ka manawa o ka lua o ka trimester o ka hāpai ʻana, ua chalked ʻo ia iā ia i nā neoneo.
• ʻO ke kaumaha i ka wā hāpai ʻaʻole ia he mea hiki iā ʻoe ke 'hoʻoluliluli'
• Ua pale ka hilahila iaʻu mai ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kōkua
• "Me he kukui lā i pio i loko o koʻu lolo"
• ʻO ka manawa kēia e loaʻa ai ke kōkua
• Laina lalo

I ka manawa o Sepideh Saremi, 32, i hoʻomaka ai e uē pinepine a me ka huhū a me ka luhi i ka manawa o ka lua o ka trimester o ka hāpai ʻana, ua chalked ʻo ia iā ia i nā neoneo.

A, ma ke ʻano he makuahine mua, kona kamaʻāina ʻole me ka hāpai keiki. Akā i ka hala ʻana o nā hebedoma, ua ʻike ʻo Saremi, kahi psychotherapist ma Los Angeles, i ka piʻo o kona hopohopo, ke ʻano o ke ʻano, a me ka manaʻo holoʻokoʻa i mea ʻole. Eia nō naʻe, me kāna hoʻomaʻamaʻa lapaʻau ʻana, palaki ʻo ia iā ia e like me ke koʻikoʻi o kēlā me kēia lā a me kahi ʻāpana o ka hāpai keiki.

Ma ke kolu o ka trimester, ua lilo ʻo Saremi i hypersensitive i nā mea āpau a puni iā ​​ia a ʻaʻole hiki ke nānā hou ʻole i nā hae ʻulaʻula. Inā ua nīnau kāna kauka i nā nīnau maʻamau, manaʻo ʻo ia e ʻohiʻohi ana ʻo ia iā ia. Hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hakakā me nā hana kaiaulu āpau i pili ʻole i ka hana. Ua uē ʻo ia i nā manawa āpau - "ʻaʻole ma kēlā ʻano clichéd, hormonal-hāpai-wahine," wahi a Saremi.

ʻO ke kaumaha i ka wā hāpai ʻaʻole ia he mea hiki iā ʻoe ke 'hoʻoluliluli'

Wahi a The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) a me The American Psychiatric Association (APA), ma waena o 14 a 23 mau pākēneka o nā wahine e ʻike i kekahi mau ʻōuli o ke kaumaha i ka wā hāpai. Akā ʻo nā manaʻo kuhihewa e pili ana i ke kaumaha o ka perinatal - ke kaumaha i ka wā hāpai a ma hope o ka hānau ʻana - hiki ke paʻakikī i nā wahine e loaʻa nā pane a lākou e pono ai, wahi a Dr. Gabby Farkas, kahi mea hoʻoponopono ma Nu Ioka i loea i nā pilikia olakino noʻonoʻo.

"Hōʻike ka poʻe maʻi iā mākou i nā manawa āpau a nā lālā o ko lākou ʻohana e haʻi iā lākou e 'lulu' a hui pū," wahi a Farkas. "Manaʻo ka lehulehu ma ka nui ʻo ka hāpai ʻana a me ka hānau ʻana o ka pēpē ka manawa hauʻoli loa o ke ola ʻana o kahi wahine a ʻo ia wale nō ke ala e ʻike ai i kēia. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻike nā wahine i kahi ʻano o nā manaʻo i kēia manawa. "

Ua pale ka hilahila iaʻu mai ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kōkua

No Saremi, lōʻihi ke ala i ka loaʻa ʻana o ka mālama kūpono. I loko o kāna mau huakaʻi ʻekolu trimester, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua kūkākūkā ʻo ia i kona mau manaʻo me kāna OB-GYN a haʻi ʻia iā ia kekahi o nā mākia maikaʻi loa ma ka Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS) āna i ʻike ai.

Akā ma laila is kōkua no ke kaumaha i ka wā o ka hāpai ʻana, wahi a Catherine Monk, PhD a me ka polopeka pili o ka Psychology Haumāna (Psychiatry and Obstetrics and Gynecology) ma ke Kulanui ʻo Columbia. Ma waho aʻe o ka hoʻōla, ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia, palekana ka lawe ʻana i kekahi mau antidepressants, e like me ke koho ʻana i nā mea hōʻoki hou i nā serotonin (SSRIs).

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Saremi ua kūkākūkā ʻo ia i nā hopena o ka hoʻāʻo me kāna lāʻau lapaʻau, āna i ʻike ai ma mua o kona hāpai ʻana. Akā, hoʻohui ʻo ia, ua kākau nā ʻano kauka ona ʻelua.

"Ua noʻonoʻo wau i ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e moe i nā kānana kānana, no laila kiʻekiʻe loa paha kaʻu helu no ka mea ʻo wau wale nō ka mea hoʻopono - he mea hoʻomakeʻaka ke noʻonoʻo wau e pili ana i kēia manawa. A manaʻo ʻo ia ʻaʻole wau i kaumaha i kēlā [no ka mea] ʻaʻole wau mai ka mea o waho. "

"Me he kukui lā i pio i loko o koʻu lolo"

ʻAʻole paha he wahine e ʻike i ke kaumaha i ka wā o kona hāpai ʻana e ʻano ʻē ke ʻano kupua ke hānau ʻia kāna pēpē. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i nā manaʻo ke hoʻomau i ka hoʻohui. I ka hānau ʻana o kāna keikikāne, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Saremi ua maopopo koke iā ia aia ia i kahi kūlana kūpono ʻole ke hiki mai i kona olakino noʻonoʻo.

"ʻAneʻane ma hope koke iho o kona hānau ʻana - ʻoiai wau i loko o ka lumi hāʻawi - ua like ke pio o nā kukui āpau i koʻu lolo. Ua like wau me ka uhi piha ʻia i kahi ao ʻeleʻele a ʻike wau i waho o ia, akā ʻaʻohe mea aʻu i ʻike ai i kūpono. ʻAʻole wau i pili iaʻu iho, ʻoi aku ka nui o kaʻu pēpē. "

Ua pono ʻo Saremi e kāpae i nā kiʻi hānau hou no ka mea ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hooki i ka uē ʻana, a iā ia i hoʻi ai i ka home, ua kaumaha loa ʻo ia e nā "makaʻu, nā manaʻo hoʻopilikia."

Makaʻu ʻo ia e noho me kāna keiki a haʻalele paha i ka hale me ia wale nō, haʻi ʻo Saremi ua manaʻo ʻole ʻo ia me ka hopohopo ʻole. Wahi a Farkas, maʻa mau kēia mau manaʻo i waena o nā wahine me ke kaumaha o perinatal a he mea nui e normalize iā lākou e ka paipai ʻana i nā wahine e ʻimi i ke kōkua. "Manaʻo ka hapa nui o lākou i ka lawehala no ka hauʻoli ʻole i ka 100 pākēneka i kēia manawa," wahi a Farkas.

"Nui ka hakakā me ka loli weliweli o ke ʻano o kahi pēpē (e laʻa me. ʻAʻole pili koʻu ola iaʻu) a me ke kuleana o ka manaʻo o ka mālama ʻana i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e hilinaʻi nui nei iā lākou, ”hoʻohui ʻo ia.

ʻO ka manawa kēia e loaʻa ai ke kōkua

I ka manawa i kū ai ʻo Saremi i hoʻokahi mahina ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, ua luhi a luhi hoʻi ʻo ia i kāna ʻōlelo ʻana, "ʻAʻole au makemake e ola."

Ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e noiʻi i nā ala e pau ai kona ola. Ua kuikui nā manaʻo suicidal a ʻaʻole lōʻihi. Akā ʻoiai ma hope o ko lākou hala ʻana, ua mau ke kaumaha. Ma kahi o ʻelima mau mahina ma hope o ka hānau ʻana, ua hōʻeha ʻo Saremi i ka weliweli mua loa ma kahi huakaʻi kūʻai Costco me kāna pēpē. "Ua hoʻoholo wau ua mākaukau wau e kiʻi i kahi kōkua," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia.

Ua kamaʻilio ʻo Saremi i kāna kauka mālama mua e pili ana i kona kaumaha, a hauʻoli ʻo ia i ka ʻike he ʻano loea ʻo ia a me ka hoʻopaʻi ʻole. Ua kuhikuhi ʻo ia iā ia i kahi kahu lapaʻau a ʻōlelo i kahi lāʻau no kahi antidepressant. Ua koho ʻo ia e hoʻāʻo mua i ka therapy a hele nō i hoʻokahi manawa i ka pule.

Laina lalo

I kēia lā, ua ʻōlelo ʻo Saremi ua ʻoi aku kona maikaʻi. Ma waho aʻe o nā kipa ʻana me kāna lāʻau lapaʻau, ʻike ʻo ia i ka hiamoe kūpono, ʻai pono, a hoʻolōʻihi i ka manawa e hoʻoikaika kino a ʻike i kāna mau hoaaloha.

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Manaʻo ʻoe e hana nei paha ʻoe me ke kaumaha kaumaha? E aʻo pehea e ʻike ai i nā hōʻailona a loaʻa ke kōkua āu e makemake ai.

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