ʻ Saylelo ka poʻe he nui nā mea weliweli i nā mākua hou. Eia pehea e hōʻalo ai

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• Lana ka manaʻo e lohe i kekahi mea
• Koho i kāu mau kaua
• E ʻike i kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo ponoʻī
• E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻike ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi i kāu pēpē

Mai ka ʻōlelo hoʻokolokolo hoʻokalakupua a kahi malihini i ka manaʻo hoʻopuka offoff a kahi hoaaloha, hiki i nā mea āpau ke ʻeha.

Ke kū nei wau i kahi laina kūkae i kahi Target kokoke i ka hakahaka me kaʻu pēpē he 2 mau pule ka wā a ka wahine ma hope oʻu i ʻike iā ia. Ua minoʻaka ʻo ia iā ia, a laila nānā i luna iaʻu, ua paʻakikī kona ʻano: "He mea hou ʻo ia. ʻAʻole anei ʻo ia he ʻōpio liʻiliʻi e kū i ka lehulehu? "

Flustered, ua hume wau a hoʻi i ka wehe ʻana i kaʻu kaʻa i piha i nā diaper, nā holoi, a me nā pono pēpē ʻē aʻe aʻu e hele mai ai e kūʻai. Ua akahele loa wau e hōʻole hou i ka ʻike maka ʻana me ia.

Ma hope wale nō ia, i koʻu haʻi hou ʻana i ka moʻolelo i kaʻu kāne, ua noʻonoʻo wau i kahi pūpū o nā pane aʻu e makemake ai e hāʻawi iā ia. Ua hopohopo wau ma ka huli ʻana mai iā ia, e ʻae wau iā ia e lanakila.

Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole maʻa wau i ka wā makuahine. Ua ʻoluʻolu ʻole wau i kēia ʻike hou iaʻu. Ua hopohopo wau i kēlā me kēia lā inā e hoʻoholo pono ana wau no kaʻu pēpē.

Ua hoʻopiha ʻia nā hana holo me ka hopohopo no ka mea he manawa kūpono wau ma waena o kaʻu papa hanai hānai hola-2-hola. No laila i ka wā i hoʻokolokolo ai kēia malihini iaʻu, ʻo nā mea āpau i hiki iaʻu ke hana i kēlā manawa ke hoʻi i hope.

A mamao loa ʻo ia mai ka mea wale nō e nīnau a hoʻokolokolo paha iaʻu ma ke ʻano he makua hou. ʻOiai ʻo kaʻu OB-GYN, i kaʻu nānā ʻana he 6 pule ma hope o ka manawa, ua ʻoluʻolu loa wau e haʻi iaʻu ʻaʻole pono wau e haʻalele i ka hale me nā lole ʻeke a me ka ʻole o ka makeup no ka mea ua hoʻohālikelike ʻia wau me he "makuahine luhi" a "ʻaʻohe mea makemake e kokoke makuahine luhi. "

"Malia paha e ʻōlelo wau he pono hou aʻe kā mākou e laʻa ai i hiki ai iaʻu ke hoʻokūpaʻa iā ʻoe i ka lole ma ke kau e hiki mai ana," i hoʻomākeʻaka ʻo ia.

Maliʻa paha ua manaʻo ʻo ia i kēia ʻōlelo ma ke ʻano he ala pāʻani e ʻae iaʻu e lawe i kekahi manawa "me aʻu," akā ua hōʻoia wale ia i kaʻu mau insecurities ponoʻī e pili ana i koʻu helehelena pēpē.

ʻOiaʻiʻo, mamao loa wau mai ka makua wale nō e loaʻa i nā ʻōlelo i noi ʻole ʻia a me nā loiloi.

I kaʻu kamaʻilio ʻana me nā mākua ʻē aʻe, maopopo ia, no nā kumu āpau, ʻoluʻolu loa ka poʻe i ka haʻi ʻana i nā ʻano mea āpau i nā mākua ʻaʻole lākou e ʻōlelo maʻamau.

I ka wā e hele ana kekahi makuahine, ʻo Alison, mai kāna kaʻa me kāna mau keiki ʻehā - he ʻelua wale nō o nā pēpē he 17 mau mahina wale nō - ua ʻoluʻolu kahi wahine e nīnau iā ia, "Ua hoʻolālā ʻia kēlā mau mea āpau?"

Ua haʻi aku ʻo Blogger Karissa Whitman pehea, i kāna huakaʻi mua ma waho o ka hale me kāna keiki he 3 mau pule e lālau i nā hua ma ka hale kūʻai, ua manaʻo kahi malihini he maikaʻi no ka haʻi manaʻo ʻana i kona helehelena ma ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Huh, he lā ʻoʻoleʻa kēia, eh ? ”

ʻO kekahi makuahine, ʻo Vered DeLeeuw, i haʻi mai iaʻu, no ka mea he hemangioma kāna pēpē mua loa (kahi ulu maikaʻi o nā kīʻaha koko e maʻa mau iā ia iho), ua hoʻomaka ʻo ia e waiho i kāna kaikamahine i nā pāpale e uhi iā ia i mea e pale aku ai i nā malihini he nui e hana. ʻōlelo kolohe e pili ana i ia mea a i ʻole ʻōlelo iā ia e "nānā ʻia."

I kekahi lā, ʻoiaiʻo ia e kūʻai hele ana, hele mai kahi wahine i kāna pēpē, haʻi aku ua wela loa no ka pēpē e komo i ka pāpale i loko o ka hale, a hoʻomaka e huki i ka pāpale mai ke poʻo o ka pēpē nona - a hana i kahi hana weliweli. ke uhi nei i kāna mea weliweli ke ʻike ʻo ia i ka hemangioma.

Minamina, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻololi i ka kamaʻilio ʻana o nā malihini me mākou, akā aia kekahi mau mea hiki iā mākou ke hana e hoʻomākaukau a pale iā mākou iho i nā mea ʻeha a mākou e lohe nei.

Lana ka manaʻo e lohe i kekahi mea

ʻO kahi mahele o ke kumu i kū nui ai kēlā wahine i Target iaʻu, ʻoiai i kēia mau mahina ma hope, no ka mea ʻo ia ka malihini mua i hāʻawi i kāna manaʻo noi ʻole i kaʻu makua. I ka hala ʻana o ka manawa, ua manaʻo wau i nā manaʻo hoʻopuka a no laila, ʻaʻole ia e pili iaʻu.

Koho i kāu mau kaua

E like me kaʻu i makemake ai i pane aku ai wau i kēlā wahine ma Target, ʻaʻole pono ia. ʻAʻole wau e loaʻa i kekahi mea ma ka haʻi ʻana i kahi mea i hope, ʻaʻole hoʻi wau e loli i kona manaʻo. Hoʻohui, ke hana nei i kahi hanana e hoʻonāukiuki wale paha wau iaʻu.

ʻAʻole ia e ʻōlelo ʻaʻohe manawa ke kūpono ka pane. Inā hōʻeha ke kanaka e hoʻonāukiuki ana iā ʻoe iho e pili ana iā ʻoe iho a i ʻole ʻo kāu makua ʻē aʻe kahi āu e ʻike ai i kēlā me kēia lā - e like me ka hūnōna kāne a ʻohana paha - a laila ʻo ia paha ka manawa e pane ai a e waiho ai i kekahi mau palena. Akā kēlā malihini i ka hale kūʻai? ʻO nā manawa kūpono, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike hou iā lākou.

E ʻike i kāu ʻōnaehana kākoʻo ponoʻī

ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hele ma waena o kēia wale nō. Ua ʻike kekahi mau mākua he mea kōkua ke hoʻohui i nā hui makua kahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke kaʻana like i kā lākou mau moʻolelo me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e ʻike nei i ka mea a lākou e hele nei. Kāhea wale nā ​​poʻe ʻē aʻe i kā lākou mau hoaaloha i kēlā me kēia manawa ke kaumaha a ʻeha paha lākou i ka hōʻino a kekahi.

Noʻu, he aha ka mea i kōkua e ʻike ana i ka manaʻo o wai lā wau e mālama nei a me ka mea aʻu i nānā ʻole ai. A laila, inā i ʻōlelo kekahi i kekahi mea e kānalua ai iaʻu iho, e nānā wau me ka poʻe aʻu i ʻike ai hiki iaʻu ke hilinaʻi.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻike ʻoi aku kou maikaʻi i kāu pēpē

ʻAe, he mea hou paha ʻoe i kēia mea makua āpau. Akā paha ua heluhelu paha ʻoe i kekahi mau ʻatikala a puke paha e pili ana i ka makua, a ua nui nā kamaʻilio ʻana me kāu kauka, ka pediatrician o kāu keiki, a me nā hoaaloha hilinaʻi a me ka ʻohana e pili ana i ka hānai ʻana i kahi pēpē. ʻIke ʻoe ma mua o kou manaʻo āu e hana ai - no laila hilinaʻi i ka ʻike.

ʻO kahi laʻana, haʻi mai kekahi mau mākua iaʻu i nā moʻolelo o ka poʻe e hoʻokokoke ana iā lākou e hōʻino ai i ka hapa a i ʻole nā ​​papa o kā lākou pēpē e ʻaahu ana i waho a i ʻole kākāʻōlelo aʻoaʻo ka nele o kahi pēpē i nā kāmaʻa a i ʻole nā ​​kākini me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i ke kumu e ʻaʻa ai ke keiki pēlā.

Malia paha ua hemo ka lole o kāu pēpē no ka manawa ke lawe aku ʻoe iā lākou mai ke kaʻa no ka mea palekana ʻole no ka holo ʻana o kahi pēpē i kahi kaʻa kaʻa ʻoiai ke komo ʻana i kahi kapa puffy. A i ʻole nalowale wale kāu pēpē i kā lākou kīleka. Maopopo iaʻu kaʻu keiki aloha e huki ana i kāna mau kākini a me nā kāmaʻa i kēlā me kēia manawa ke loaʻa iā ia, a ua lilo kā mākou pūʻulu ke hele mākou i waho.

ʻO nā kumu āpau, e hoʻomanaʻo wale nō - ʻike ʻoe i kāu keiki a ʻike ʻoe i kāu mea e hana nei. Mai hoʻokuʻu i nā mea ʻē aʻe e hōʻino iā ʻoe no ka mea hoʻoholo koke lākou e pili ana iā ʻoe a me kou hiki ke hānai i kāu pēpē.

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