Ua hāʻawi aku ʻo James Van Der Beek i ke kumu e pono ai i kahi manawa hou aʻe no ka "Miscarriage" i kahi pou mana

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Ma mua o kēia kauwela, ua hoʻokipa ʻo James Van Der Beek a me kāna wahine ʻo Kimberly i kā lāua keiki ʻelima i ka honua. Ua lawe lāua i ka pāpili kaiaulu i nā manawa he nui mai ka kaʻana like i ko lākou hauʻoli. I kēia mau lā naʻe, ua kaʻanalike ʻo Van Der Beek i kahi ʻaoʻao o kā lākou moʻolelo i lohe ʻole ʻia e kekahi ma mua-kekahi o ke kaumaha nui a me ke kaumaha.

I loko o kahi pou kaumaha, ua hōʻike ka makuakāne hou ma mua o ka hoʻokipa ʻana i kā lāua kaikamahine ʻo Gwendolyn, ua hakakā lāua me ka ʻeha o ka hāpai hāpai ʻana-ʻaʻole hoʻokahi, akā i nā manawa he nui. Ua makemake ʻo ia e lawe i kahi manawa e kaʻana like i kahi leka me ka poʻe i ʻike i ka ʻeha like, e hōʻike ana ʻaʻole lākou wale.

"Makemake e ʻōlelo i kahi mea a i ʻole ʻelua paha e pili ana i ka hāʻule ʻana o ka male ... nona kēia mau makahiki he ʻekolu i loko o nā makahiki (e like me ka pono ma mua o kēia nani liʻiliʻi)," kākau ka mea hana keaka me kahi kiʻi o ia a me kāna wahine me kā lāua keiki hānau hou. (Related: Eia ka mea i hanaʻia i ka wā i loaʻa ai iaʻu kahi hāʻule ʻole)

"ʻO ka mua-pono mākou i kahi huaʻōlelo hou nona," hoʻomau ʻo ia. "ʻO ke kaʻa ʻokoʻa, 'i loko o kahi ʻano hoʻopunipuni, e hōʻike nei i ka hewa no ka makuahine-me he mea lā ua haʻalele ʻo ia i kekahi mea, a ua holo ʻole paha e lawe." Mai nā mea aʻu i aʻo ai, i nā mea āpau akā maopopo ʻole, hihia nui, ʻaʻohe mea i pili i kekahi mea a ka makuahine i hana ai a i hana ʻole ai. (Related: Pehea wau i aʻo ai e hilinaʻi hou i koʻu kino ma hope o ka hāʻule ʻana)

ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻaʻole i loaʻa kēia ʻike puʻuwai puʻuwai: "Ma kahi o 20-25 ka nui o nā hāpai ʻana i ʻike ʻia i ka maʻi i ka hopena i ka nalowale," ʻo Zev Williams MD, ke poʻo o ka mahele o ka endocrinology reproductive a me ka infertility a me ke kaukaʻi o ka obstetrics a me ka gynecology ma Columbia University Medical Center haʻi Kinohi. "ʻO ka hapa nui o nā hihia o ka hāʻule ʻana ma muli o kahi pilikia chromosomal i loko o ka ʻōpū, ʻo ka hopena i ka nui a i ʻole ka liʻiliʻi o nā chromosomes. i ka poho."

ʻAʻole ʻo ia wale nō, akā ʻike pinepine nā wahine i ke kaumaha nui ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana o ka nalowale o ka hāpai ʻana, me kahi manawa kanikau e mau ana i hoʻokahi makahiki. Nā Mākua. "ʻO ka hapa nui o nā wahine a me nā kāne a he nui ka hewa a me ka ʻāhewa ponoʻī ma hope o ka lilo ʻana o ka hāpai ʻana," wahi a Dr. Williams. "ʻAʻole kōkua ka hoʻohana ʻana i ka huaʻōlelo" hāʻule ʻole ", a hiki paha ke kōkua i kēia manaʻo ma ka hōʻike ʻana ua hāʻule ʻole ka hāpai ʻana. ʻOi aku koʻu makemake i ka huaʻōlelo "pōʻino hāpai" no ka mea he pohō maoli ia a ʻaʻohe hoʻohewa ʻia."

E like me kā Van Der Beek i ʻōlelo ai ma kāna pou, he ʻeha ia "e haehae iā ʻoe e like me ka mea ʻole."

"He ʻeha a ʻehaʻeha hoʻi ka naʻau i nā pae hohonu ma mua o ka mea āu i ʻike ai," i wehewehe ai ʻo ia.

ʻO ia ke kumu, ma kāna kamaʻilio ʻana e pili ana i ka pilikia, manaʻolana ʻo ia e hoʻonui i ka ʻike e pili ana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻohe hewa o ka hāpai ʻana, a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā mea me ka manawa. "No laila, mai hoʻokolokolo i kou kaumaha, a i ʻole e hoʻāʻo e noʻonoʻo i kou ala a puni," i kākau ai ʻo ia. "E hoʻoheheʻe ʻia i loko o nā nalu e hiki mai ana, a e ʻae iā ia i kona wahi kūpono. A laila, i ka manawa e hiki ai iā ʻoe, e hoʻāʻo e ʻike i ka nani o kou hoʻohui ʻana iā ʻoe iho i kahi ʻokoʻa ma mua o kou wā ma mua." (Pili: Ua wehe ʻo Shawn Johnson e pili ana i kāna hāʻule i loko o kahi wikiō Emotional)

ʻO ia paha ka lawe nui loa ʻana mai ka leka a Van Der Beek: Hiki ke ʻike ʻia ka nani a me ka hauʻoli i ka hana hoʻōla.

"ʻO kekahi mau hoʻololi a mākou e hana ai me ka ikaika, ʻo kekahi mākou e hana ai no ka mea ua haki ke ao iā mākou, akā i kēlā me kēia ʻano, hiki i kēlā mau hoʻololi ke lilo i mau makana," kākau ʻo ia. "He nui nā kāne e pili kokoke ana ma mua o ka wā ma mua. Nui nā mākua i ʻike i kahi makemake hohonu no ke keiki ma mua o ka wā ma mua. A he nui, nui, nui nā kāne e hele i ka hauʻoli, olakino, nā pēpē maikaʻi ma hope (a pinepine wikiwiki loa ma hope-ʻoe. ua ao ʻia). "

ʻOiai he paʻakikī ke hoʻokō ʻana i ke kaumaha, ʻōlelo ʻo Van Der Beek, ʻo ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻana i nā pēpē, "e hāʻawi manawaleʻa no kēia huakaʻi pōkole no ka pono o nā mākua," e hāʻawi iā ia i ka maluhia. Ua hoʻopau ʻo ia i kāna pou ma ka paipai ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e ʻimi a kaʻana like i kahi mea maikaʻi a lākou i paʻa ai i ka wā e hele ana i kahi ʻike like.

Inā ʻo ʻoe a ʻo kekahi paha o ʻoukou e hakakā nei me ka nalo ʻana o ka hāpai keiki, eia ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a Kauka Williams: "He kūlohelohe loa ka manaʻo hoʻokahi ʻana ma hope o ka nalo ʻana. E like me nā mea he nui i ka lāʻau, hiki ke lilo i mea kōkua he kōkua nui. "ke ʻike nei i ke ʻano maʻamau o ka nalo ʻana o ka hāpai keiki, a he nui paha nā ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha i hele i loko o ia mea, hiki ke kōkua maikaʻi. ʻO nā hui kākoʻo a me ke kaʻana like ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki ke maikaʻi pū kekahi."

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