Kamaʻilio Crazy: Ua ʻUhane au i kaʻu mea lapaʻau - akā i kēia manawa pono wau e hoʻi

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• No laila, ʻaʻole ka ʻuhane ma kaʻu papa inoa o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina therapeutic.
• Inā kūpono kāu mea hoʻoponopono i kā lākou paʻakai, ʻoliʻoli lākou i ka manawa kūpono e hana hou me ʻoe.
• Akā ke wehe mākou iā mākou iho i ke ʻano o ka pilina e makaʻu nui iā mākou? Hiki ke kū ka ulu kupaianaha.

"Pono nō wau i ka lāʻau. He aha kaʻu e hana ai?

ʻO Kūkākūkā Crazy kēia: He kolamu aʻoaʻo no ka pono, kamaʻilio ʻole unapologetic e pili ana i ke olakino noʻonoʻo me ka mea kākoʻo Sam Samlanlan Finch. ʻOiai ʻaʻole ia he mea lapaʻau hōʻoia, loaʻa iā ia kahi ʻike o ka noho ʻana me ka maʻi obsessive-compulsive (OCD). Nā Nīnau? E kiʻi i waho ma o Instagram a e hiʻohiʻona ʻia paha ʻoe.

Ma kahi o 6 mau mahina i hala aku nei, ua hauʻoli au i kaʻu mea hoʻoponopono. Ua manaʻo wau ʻaʻole wau e pono hou i ke olakino, no laila ʻano like wau ... bailed. Ua maʻalahi ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi i ka manawa e nalo ma mua o ke kamaʻilio kūkā kamaʻilio pū ʻole ʻana me ia. ʻO ka wikiwiki i kēia manawa, akā, a manaʻo maoli wau ua hana hewa wau. Pono nō wau e mālama i ka lāʻau, keu hoʻi i kēia manawa me ka maʻi ahulau. He aha kaʻu e hana ai?

ʻO ka mea, he hōʻole, ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana e hāʻawi i ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo willy-nilly: No ka mea ʻaʻole wau i ʻike e pili ana i ka pili kikoʻī āu i pili ai me kāu mea lapaʻau, ʻo ka mea aʻu e kaʻana nei ma aneʻi e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i kāu mau manaʻo a me nā kaʻina aʻe. he ala nui aʻe.

Eia nō naʻe, inā i hana kāu mea hoʻoponopono i nā ʻano hana i manaʻo ʻia he kūpono ʻole, kūpono ʻole ʻole, a i ʻole kū kānāwai ʻole, e ʻimi i ke kākoʻo ma waho o kēlā pilina.

ʻOiai, ua haʻalele ʻoe i kēia pilina no ka mea ua ʻike ʻoe iā Fixed ™, e ʻae ʻoe iaʻu e ʻōlelo i ka mea āu e wehewehe nei loa pili iaʻu.

Nui nā manawa ke manaʻo wau ʻaʻole wau e pono hou i kahi mea lapaʻau ( * cue up Stronger e Britney Spears *), e ʻike wale ai i kahi manawa pōkole ma hope e wikiwiki paha wau i koʻu haʻalele ʻana.

ʻO Whoopsies.

No laila, ʻaʻole ka ʻuhane ma kaʻu papa inoa o nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ka hoʻopau ʻana i kahi pilina therapeutic.

Manaʻo wau e makemake ka hapanui o nā therapist i kahi kamaʻilio, inā no ka maluhia o kou manaʻo ke ola nei ʻoe a maikaʻi.

ʻO nā mea hoʻoponopono hana mālama e pili ana i kā lākou mea kūʻai aku - {textend} ʻo nā mea alo alo loa o ka pōhaku.

Akā ʻo ia nō nō ke kumu e manaʻo ai wau e hauʻoli paha kāu kauka.

ʻAʻole wale e hōʻoia ua maikaʻi ʻoe (maikaʻi, ʻōlelo ʻiʻo), akā i loaʻa ka manawa kūpono e ʻimi ai i ke kumu i hoʻopau loa ai ka pilina, a pehea e kākoʻo maikaʻi ai iā ʻoe.

A ʻae, aia paha kekahi mau kamaʻilio kūpilikiʻi a puni kēia. Akā ʻo ka hōʻoluʻolu ʻole i ka lāʻau lapaʻau ʻaʻole ia he mea maikaʻi ʻole. ʻO kekahi manawa ke manaʻo nei mākou ke kamaʻilio hohonu nei mākou e hana ai.

ʻO ka manawa kūpono, ʻaʻole ʻo ʻoe wale nō ka mea kūʻai aku i hou iho i waho, e kū hou me ke ʻano kānalua me kahi leka uila SOS.

Inā kūpono kāu mea hoʻoponopono i kā lākou paʻakai, ʻoliʻoli lākou i ka manawa kūpono e hana hou me ʻoe.

Hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaikaʻi i kou pilina i ka lua o ka manawa. Ma muli o ka ʻuhane, akā mālie paha i manaʻo ʻia nou, he paʻa maoli nō i ka ʻike iā ʻoe a me kāu mea hoʻoponopono e kānana.

ʻO kēia hana "bailing" maʻamau no nā pili pili i kou ola? Aia paha kahi mea hoʻonāukiuki e hoʻonāukiuki iā ʻoe e hoʻopau i ka pilina, a i ʻole kahi kumuhana āu i hoʻomaka ai e hoʻopā aku ʻaʻole ʻoe mākaukau e ʻeli i loko? He aha ka hōʻoluʻolu āu e ʻimi nei e hōʻalo i ka haʻalele ʻana i kēlā kamaʻilio?

ʻAʻole e psychoanalyze ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi mea (ʻaʻole kaʻu hana!), Akā ʻo kēia nā mea momona e hiki ke hoihoi e ʻimi.

ʻO kekahi o mākou (ʻaʻole wau, ʻaʻole!) hiki me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole i ka sabotage i kā mākou mau pilina - {textend} ʻae, ʻoiai me kā mākou poʻe hoʻoponopono - {textend} ka manawa e lilo ai nā mea i mea ikaika iki.

Ma mua o ka wehe ʻana iā mākou iho i kēlā palupalu, lele mākou i ka moku. Wikiwiki

Akā ke wehe mākou iā mākou iho i ke ʻano o ka pilina e makaʻu nui iā mākou? Hiki ke kū ka ulu kupaianaha.

Inā paha he hihia o ka hilinaʻi nui a i ʻole ka makaʻu o ka pilina (a i ʻole he ʻuʻuku o nā mea ʻelua!), He mea hōʻoluʻolu maoli iaʻu ke ʻae ʻoe e hoʻi. Loaʻa i kēlā ʻano palupalu me kāu mea hoʻoponopono hiki ke alakaʻi i kahi hana transformative maoli.

No laila ʻōlelo wau e hele no ia.

E kī iā ia i kahi leka uila a i ʻole kāhea i ke keʻena e hana i kahi manawa. Hiki iā ʻoe ke mālama pōkole pū kekahi - {textend} e noi wale e hoʻonohonoho me ia a mai hopohopo no ka wehewehe ʻana i ka mea i hana ʻia. He manawa kūpono kāu e hoʻokaʻawale ai i kāu "hana nalowale" i kou wā i koho ʻia ai.

E hoʻomanaʻo hoʻi, ʻaʻohe ona loaʻa like (a i ʻole kekahi!) E like me ma mua. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo ua huhū ʻo ia me ʻoe a i ʻole lawe ʻoe iā ia iho.

E maʻalahi, a hoʻomanaʻo e nui nā iʻa i ke kai inā, no kekahi kumu, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hoʻokipa iā ʻoe i kēia manawa.

Laki maikaʻi!

He luna hoʻoponopono ʻo Sam Dylan Finch, mea kākau, a me ka mea hoʻomalu papahana ma ka moku ʻo Kapalakiko. ʻO ia ka luna hoʻoponopono o ke olakino noʻonoʻo a me nā kūlana mau ma Healthline. Hiki iā ʻoe ke aloha aku Instagram, ʻO Twitter, Facebook, a aʻo hou paha ma SamDylanFinch.com.