ʻO ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka moekolohe ʻaʻole pono e makaʻala - Eia pehea e hana ai i kāu neʻe

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• E hoʻolei i kou manaʻo āu e ʻike ai
• Kupanaha wale nō inā hana ʻoe i ka mea ʻē
• ʻAʻohe palapala ʻaʻano-ʻano like
• Hana pilikino
• E mōakāka ma mua o ka mōakāka
• Hana iā ia i kahi lā holo alualu
• E aʻo i kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha
• ʻO kaʻae wale nō ka paʻa mau
• I nā hookup maʻamau
• Hui ka lehulehu
• App ola
• I nā pilina pili hou
• ʻO kekahi āu i hoʻopili aku ai me kekahi mau manawa
• ʻO kekahi āu e 'ʻike nei' akā ʻaʻole naʻe i moe kolohe
• ʻO kekahi mea āu e aloha nei a moekolohe pū ... akā he mea hou
• I nā pilina paʻa
• I nā pili wā lōʻihi
• Hana i kahi papa ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha
• E hele i kahi hale kūʻai wahine
• Hōʻike moekolohe
• Aule makemake ia oe
• Hoʻomaʻamaʻa ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa

Hoʻopili mākou i nā huahana a mākou e manaʻo nei he pono no kā mākou poʻe heluhelu. Inā kūʻai ʻoe ma o nā loulou i kēia ʻaoʻao, loaʻa iā mākou kahi kōmike liʻiliʻi. Eia kā mākou hana.

ʻO ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka moekolohe ka ʻO Sooo mua- # MeToo neʻe. ʻO ke kono ʻana i kekahi e loaʻa ka moekolohe ʻoi aku ka nui o ka pūhaka (heluhelu: consensual and gender-inclusive).

Ma lalo iho nei, ka mea aʻo moekolohe a me ka mea hoʻouluulu ʻo August McLaughlin, ka mea kākau o "Girl Boner" a me "Girl Boner Journal," lāua ʻo Kauka Chris Donaghue, ka loea pili i ka moekolohe a me ka pilina ma SKYN Condoms, e wehewehe i nā kumu misogynistic o ka mea ma mua, a pehea kahi kono i ka moekolohe kahi kuʻikahi a ʻoluʻolu hoʻi i ka hele ʻana.

Hoʻohui, pehea e "hoʻouna" ai i kēlā kono i kēlā me kēia pae i kahi pilina.

E hoʻolei i kou manaʻo āu e ʻike ai

ʻAe iā ia: ʻO ka huaʻōlelo "hoʻomaka i ka moekolohe" e pena i ke kiʻi o ke kāne pōloli wahine e ʻumeʻume nei i kāna hoa liʻiliʻi ʻoi aku ka libidinous - aka he archaic AF.

Ua luhi a pilikia hoʻi i ka manaʻo ʻana he kuleana nā cud dudes no ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka moekolohe, wahi a Donaghue. "He stereotype kahiko ia e moekolohe ai nā kāne āpau a i nā manawa āpau i ka naʻau."

Spoiler: ʻAʻole lākou.

"He mea nui kēlā makemake a ʻaʻole hoʻokumu ʻia i ka moekolohe a i ʻole ke kāne," wahi a McLaughlin. "Hiki i kekahi ke makemake a laila lawe i nā kaʻi e hana i ka moekolohe."

Hōʻike pū ke kono ʻana e hiki i kekahi (mau) ʻē aʻe ke ʻōlelo ʻaʻole i kahi ala e hoʻomaka maʻamau ʻole ai.

"Me kahi kono moekolohe, ke nānā nei ʻoe i loko, me ke kūʻē i maopopo leʻa ke hoʻomaka nei i kekahi mea, "wahi a McLaughlin.

Kupanaha wale nō inā hana ʻoe i ka mea ʻē

Ke hana nei kekahi mea no ka manawa mua e haha ​​iki i ke aʻalolo. E noʻonoʻo: ke kowali nei i kahi kalapu kolepa, ke kalaiwa nei ma ka ʻaoʻao hema o ke alanui, e hālāwai ana me kou makuahōnōwai kāne.

Pēlā nō ia no ke kono ʻana i kekahi e moekolohe no ka manawa mua - inā me kahi boo lōʻihi a i ʻole ke kūlike ʻo Tinder.

ʻO ke kūlana kūlana maikaʻi loa - ʻoluʻolu paha, kino ʻōlohelohe, cuddles, a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe - he waiwai nui ke kāpae ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo no.

Ma muli o ke kono ʻana i kekahi e moekolohe ʻo ia hoʻi ke kono ʻana i ka hiki ke makemake ʻole lākou e moekolohe, paipai ʻo McLaughlin e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka hana no ka hōʻole ʻia i ke aniani.

"Inā ʻōlelo a hōʻole kekahi iā ʻoe, mahalo iā lākou no ka kaʻana like ʻana a me ka mahalo ʻana i kā lākou palena ponoʻī, a laila neʻe."

Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Donaghue he mea kōkua ke hoʻomanaʻo ʻana i ka hōʻole ʻana o kekahi i ka wahine maʻa mau ʻaʻole pili iā ʻoe.

"ʻO ka mea pinepine e pili ana i ko lākou ʻano, ka manaʻo nui o ke kino, ka nele o ke kemika ma waena o ʻolua, a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe e hana nei i ko lākou honua.

ʻAʻohe palapala ʻaʻano-ʻano like

ʻO ka hele wāwae ʻana i ke keʻena i kāu négligée e kōkua paha iā ʻoe e hoʻomoe i ka wā o kou noho lōʻihi ʻana i home. ʻIke ia ʻaʻole kokoke e like ka maikaʻi inā ʻo ka mea āu e makemake ai e iwi, he pāʻani Tinder ia e noho nei 300 mile ka mamao.

ʻO wai kāu e hoʻomaka nei i ka moekolohe me ka hana i kahi ʻokoʻa. Pēlā nō ia no kahi āu i ka wā i hoʻomaka ʻia.

Eia nō naʻe, aia kekahi mau hana maʻamau e hoʻomau i ka noʻonoʻo.

Hana pilikino

Ma ke ʻano he rula laulā, ʻoi aku ka pilikino o ka hiki ʻana mai, ʻo ka ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi.

Kuhi: ʻAʻole wau laulā he kinipōpō hīnaʻi. He ʻiʻo mīkana wau no ke ʻano o kāu mau bipi keiki e nānā ai i kēlā mau kuʻekuʻe wāwae a i ʻole ke ala e hoʻopiha ai kāu mau biceps i kēlā tee.

Makemake nā poʻe e like me ka makemake.

E mōakāka ma mua o ka mōakāka

ʻOiai inā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo he aniani ʻoe, maopopo leʻa paha ʻoe. ʻOi loa inā he hoʻolohe maikaʻi kāu boo.

Inā ʻo ka mea āu e makemake ai e iho ma luna o lākou, e ʻōlelo pēlā. Inā he mea wikiwiki kāu mea e makemake ai i loko o ka lua, e ʻōlelo pēlā.

Ke kū ʻole ʻoe i ke ʻano no ka moekolohe a i ʻole ke noʻonoʻo ʻana e pili ana i ka moekolohe ʻana, hiki ke manaʻo ʻia he mamao loa ka hele ʻana mai laila a hiki i ka moekolohe.

Hāʻawi i kahi kanaka i kahi moekolohe kikoʻī e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka mea hou aku e hele. Inā kū ka hopena, hāʻawi nō ia iā ʻoe i ka mea āu e makemake ai.

Hana iā ia i kahi lā holo alualu

Loaʻa i kahi moemoeā lepo e pili ana i kāu FWB? E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ka pāʻani āu i kamaʻilio ai i ka ʻauʻau? Hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o ka ʻono o kāu hoa i ke ala e hana ai?

E haʻi iā lākou. ʻO Sexting ka foreplay hope loa.

E hoʻomaka me kahi mea flirty, a inā lākou e pane i ka ʻano, e kūkulu ka convo ma luna o ka holo o ka lā.

Inā naʻe, pani lākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, mai hoʻomaʻū - hoʻomau i kou lā.

E aʻo i kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha

ʻOi aku paha ka paʻakikī o kēia ke hoʻokō inā he hoa moe kolohe, akā e hoʻāʻo e hoʻopili i kāu kono i ke ala e aloha ai kāu hoa.

Inā loaʻa kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha i nā makana, hiki paha iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā panty moekolohe, kahi pahu condom hou, a i ʻole ia pāʻani liʻiliʻi āu e kamaʻilio nei.

Inā he huaʻōlelo hōʻoia kā lākou ʻōlelo aloha, e hele a hoʻomaopopo iā lākou i ke ʻano o ko lākou kani ke honi ʻoe i ko lākou ʻāʻī, a pehea kāu huli ʻana iā ʻoe e nānā ana iā lākou e hulahula ana.

ʻO kaʻae wale nō ka paʻa mau

ʻAʻole inā, a, a i ʻole nā ​​ʻū. A i ʻole nā ​​puʻupuʻu.

Hoʻokahi mea e honi i kāu hoa - ke honi kahi maʻa mau o ka pehea āu e launa pū ai - i mea e kōkua ai iā lākou e hele i ke ʻano.

He mea ʻē aʻe ia e hoʻomaka wale i ka honi ʻana i kā lākou mau ʻāpana a me nā bobs me ka ʻole o ka ʻae mua.

"Makemake ʻoe e hoʻokumu ʻia kāu moekolohe ma ka leʻaleʻa a me ka hōʻoluʻolu no kēlā me kēia, ʻeā? ʻO ia kahi kahi e komo ai ka ʻae hoihoi, "wahi a Donaghue.

Me ka ʻole o ka ʻae hoihoi, ʻaʻole ia ka moekolohe, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. He hōʻeha kolohe.

I nā hookup maʻamau

ʻO ka hapa nui o nā hookup maʻamau i hāʻule i loko o kekahi o nā hoʻomoana: nā poʻe āu e hui ai me IRL a me nā poʻe āu e launa ai ma ka pūnaewele. ʻOkoʻa iki kāu ala i kēlā me kēia.

Hui ka lehulehu

E launa me kekahi ma ke alaloa bowling, pā, a i ʻole speakeasy āu e makemake ai e hoʻi i ka home?

"E hoʻomaka me kahi kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi maoli ma mua o ka hele pololei i ka manawa moekolohe," wahi a McLaughlin. E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e ʻike maoli makemake ʻoe e moekolohe me lākou (mea nui!).

Inā hoihoi ʻoe ma hope o kahi kamaʻilio liʻiliʻi, paipai ʻo ia e hele no ka ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka mahalo.

ʻO kahi laʻana, "ʻike wau ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou kekahi, akā hiki iaʻu ke nīnau iā ʻoe i kahi nīnau pilikino?"

Inā ʻae ka pane, e ʻike inā pili lākou a, inā pēlā, inā he ʻaelike pili ko lākou, e like me ka monogamy.

ʻO kahi koho ʻē aʻe: "Manaʻo wau ʻo ʻoe maoli [e hoʻokomo i ka adjective ʻoiaʻiʻo a kikoʻī ma aneʻi] a, inā hoihoi ʻoe, makemake wau e honi iā ​​ʻoe a ʻike paha i kahi e hele ai. Inā ʻaʻole maikaʻi. ”

App ola

Swipe swipe no ka nui o nā kumu. Inā ʻo kāu no ka makemake e moekolohe, pono ʻoe e akāka.

ʻO kekahi mau lālani e hoʻāʻo me kahi hoa punaewele:

• "Makemake wau e hoʻolei i nā hoʻokamani āpau a maopopo: ma waho o ka [lā hana ma aneʻi], makemake wau e [hana kolohe ma aneʻi] i ka Pōʻahā. Mālama paha ʻoe i kēlā? ”
• "He aha ke ʻano o kāu papa kuhikuhi ma kēia pule aʻe? Makemake au i ka hopena [hoʻokomo i ka moekolohe ma aneʻi]. ”
• "Ma mua o ko mākou hui ʻana i ke kanaka makemake wau i mua: Ke ʻimi nei wau i nā hoa moe kolohe a ke lana nei koʻu manaʻo ʻo ia ka mea e loaʻa ai iā mākou kekahi i kekahi. Inā ʻaʻole kēlā ka mea āu e ʻimi nei, maopopo iaʻu. Akā manaʻo wau ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi inā kāpae mākou i kā mākou lā inā ʻaʻole mākou ma ka ʻaoʻao like. ”

I nā pilina pili hou

Aia nā ʻano like ʻole o nā pilina hou. Eia pehea e hoʻokele ai i kekahi o lākou.

ʻO kekahi āu i hoʻopili aku ai me kekahi mau manawa

"U i luna?" ua, hooiaio, lilo ubiquitous me "Aia ma hope o ke aumoe. Makemake e hele mai a hoʻokahakaha - maʻamau, akaka. "

Aia kekahi ala iʻoi aku ka noʻonoʻo a me nā ala sexy e hoʻomaka ai i kahi hookup me kāu ipo wahine. O kahi laʻana:

• “Ua hauʻoli loa wau i ka iho ʻana i lalo iā ʻoe i ka hopena pule i hala. Inā ʻoe ma kahi o hope makemake wau i ka hana hou. "
• "E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ke ʻano o kou nānā ʻana i loko o kaʻu mau pepa a makemake ʻoe e kūʻē iā ʻoe ma hope i kēia pō inā hoihoi ʻoe."
• "He aha ʻoe i kēia pō? E ʻae paha wau e hui a pāʻani pū me kaʻu mea haʻalulu hou. ”

ʻO kekahi āu e 'ʻike nei' akā ʻaʻole naʻe i moe kolohe

No laila ua hala ʻoe i nā lā. Malia paha ua hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻoe. Akā ʻaʻole ʻoe i loaʻa iā S-E-X.

ʻO kāu neʻe: Mai hana i hoʻokahi! Ma ka liʻiliʻi ma mua o ke kamaʻilio ʻana inā makemake ʻolua i ka moekolohe.

"ʻAʻole ʻoe makemake e noʻonoʻo aunoa e makemake lākou e moekolohe ma muli wale nō o kou hele ʻana i nā lā a me ka honi ʻana," wahi a McLaughlin. Kaulike!

Nā ala e hāpai ai:

• "Ua hauʻoli wau i ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe a me ka honi ʻana iā ʻoe. Makemake wau e hana i kahi nānā wela a ʻike inā ʻoe hoihoi i ka hana ʻana ma mua o ka honi ʻana. ”
• "ʻOluʻolu loa wau i ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe a, inā like kou manaʻo, makemake wau e lawe i nā mea i mua. Pehea kou manaʻo e pili ana i ka hana ʻana i kahi kapa ʻole a ʻike i kahi e hele ai nā mea? "

E hoʻohana paha ʻoe i kēia ma ke ʻano he manawa kūpono e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i ke kūlana STI o kēia manawa. O kahi laʻana:

• "Ua hauʻoli wau i ka noho kino ʻana me ʻoe a makemake wau e moekolohe. Inā he mea kēlā āu e makemake pū ai, makemake wau iā mākou ʻelua e nānā ʻia no STI. "

ʻO kekahi mea āu e aloha nei a moekolohe pū ... akā he mea hou

Kofe ʻeleʻele a i ʻole me ka waiima waiima. Moekolohe kakahiaka a pō paha. Hoʻopiha ka hoʻomaka o nā pilina me nā ʻano aʻo aʻo like ʻole.

Pehea lākou e kono ʻia ai e moekolohe kekahi o ia mau mea.

I kēia manawa, aia ʻoe ma kahi kiko maikaʻi o kāu pili e nīnau i kāu hoa i nā nīnau aʻe:

• Makemake ʻoe e hoʻomaka wau i ka moekolohe ma ka waha ("makemake ʻoe e bang?") A i ʻole ma o nā paʻi erotic, e like me ka honi ʻana a i ʻole ka ʻapo ʻana.
• E nīnau pololei paha ʻoe iā ʻoe ("Aia ʻoe i ke ʻano no kahi wikiwiki?") A i ʻole ma o nā ʻano maʻalea (ma o ka hoʻowalewale ʻana a me ke aloha ʻana)?

I nā pilina paʻa

No laila, ua hala ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana iā ʻoe i ka pae a ʻike piha hoʻi i ka makemake o kāu hoa e hoʻomaka i ka manawa moekolohe. Loaʻa iā ia!

"A inā ʻaʻole ʻoe maopopo lea, e nīnau - ʻaʻole i lohi loa," wahi a McLaughlin.

I nā pili wā lōʻihi

Malia paha ua male ʻoe no 20 mau makahiki, nā hoa hana mua no 15, a i ʻole 3 mau makahiki i ka noho pū ʻana.

ʻO ke kumu, inā makemake ʻoe e like me ka manawa moekolohe e hoʻomaka pū i ke ala like ( * yawn *), hāʻawi ʻo McLaughlin i nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo aʻe e hoʻomaka i ka moekolohe ma nā ʻano hou.

Hana i kahi papa ʻAe, ʻAʻole, Malia paha

Hoʻopiha i kahi papa ʻae / ʻaʻole / maliʻa (e like me kēia a i ʻole kēia) i kekahi ʻauinalā. A laila, i ka manawa aʻe i loko o ke ʻano hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, "Pehea kou manaʻo e nānā hou i kēlā papa inoa?"

E hele i kahi hale kūʻai wahine

Helu pū kekahi nā pūnaewele!

Huli i ka hoʻohui ʻana i nā huahana leʻaleʻa i ke kaʻa. E haʻi kēia iā ʻoe e pili ana i ka moekolohe i kahi ala hou, wahi a McLaughlin - ʻo ia ka ʻanuʻu # 1 i ka moekolohe ʻana (a me ka moekolohe ʻana i nā ʻano hou).

Hilinaʻi, ke hoʻi ʻoe i ka home a i ʻole hōʻea kēlā pūʻolo, hiki ʻole ʻoe e hana i ka hoʻomaka mua. E ʻoliʻoli ʻolua e hoʻāʻo i kāu mau mea maikaʻi hou.

Hōʻike moekolohe

Ka manawa e lōkahi ai i kēlā mau kalena Google a loaʻa i kahi pō (a i ʻole kakahiaka!) Ke loaʻa ka manawa no ke kū ʻana (a i ʻole ka wahaheʻe ʻana, ʻākala) lā moekolohe.

E hoʻohana i ka manawa e hāʻawi ai kekahi i kekahi i nā lomilomi, e nānā pū i ka porn, hana i waho, e ʻauʻau, a i ʻole ka masturbate ʻaoʻao.

Inā kū ʻole kahi moekolohe, ʻaʻohe biggie. ʻO ka pahuhopu ka hoʻomaka ʻana i ka moekolohe, ʻaʻole pono ka moekolohe.

Aule makemake ia oe

E ʻōlelo mākou he lā pule kāu i kēlā me kēia pule. E hoʻāʻo e hāliʻi i waena o ka poʻe e moe i ka moekolohe - ma kēlā ʻano ʻaʻohe mea e manaʻo i kā lākou hana ia, wahi a McLaughlin.

Hoʻomaʻamaʻa ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa

He cliché ia, akā he ʻoiaʻiʻo!

ʻO ka nui o kou waiho ʻana iā ʻoe iho i laila, ʻo ka maʻalahi ka noi ʻana i nā mea āu e makemake ai (momona, aloha aloha) - a ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka lawe ʻole ʻana iā ia iho inā ʻaʻole hoihoi ka poʻe.

ʻO Gabrielle Kassel kahi mea kākau wahine a me ke olakino ma New York – a ʻo CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. Ua lilo ʻo ia i kanaka kakahiaka, ua hoʻāʻo ma luna o 200 mau haʻalulu, a ʻai ʻia, ʻona, a palaki ʻia me ka lanahu - nā mea āpau ma ka inoa o ka puke pai. I kona manawa kaʻawale, hiki ke loaʻa ʻo ia i ka heluhelu ʻana i nā puke kōkua nona iho a me nā puke aloha, kaomi ʻana i ke keʻena, a me ka hulahula lāʻau paha. E hāhai iā ia ma Instagram.