Pehea e ʻike ai i kahi mea hoʻoponopono e hana me kāu pilikia

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Ke hele mai ʻoe me ka ʻeha ʻeha, ka ʻeha niho, a i ʻole ka pilikia o ka ʻōpū, ʻike pono ʻoe i ke ʻano o ka mea lapaʻau e pono ai ʻoe e ʻike. Akā, pehea ʻoe inā hopohopo a kaumaha paha ʻoe? Ua lawa anei ia e hoʻokuʻu aku ai i kāu hoaaloha a i ʻole e kamaʻilio pū ana ʻoe me kahi loea? A pehea ʻoe loaʻa he mea hoʻoponopono?

E alo iā ia: ua luhi ʻoe a i lalo i nā ʻōpala. ʻO ka manaʻo o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ke ʻano o ka ʻoihana olakino noʻonoʻo kūpono iā ʻoe e manaʻo paha he ʻoi aku ma mua o kāu hiki (a makemake paha) e lawelawe. Loaʻa iā mākou-ʻo ia ke kumu i hana ai mākou i ka hana no ʻoe. Heluhelu no kāu alakaʻi i kēlā me kēia manawa no ka loaʻa ʻana o ke kōkua e pono ai. (P.S. Hiki i kāu kelepona ke koho i ke kaumaha.)

KaʻAnuʻu Hana 1: E haʻi i kekahi-kekahi.

ʻO ka ʻike i ka wā e ʻimi ai i ke kōkua he kī pū kekahi. ʻElua mau hōʻailona koʻikoʻi ʻo ia ka manawa e loaʻa ai ke kōkua mai kahi ʻoihana olakino noʻonoʻo, wahi a Dan Reidenberg, Psy.D., luna hoʻokele o Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE). "ʻO ka mea mua inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e like me kāu ma mua a ʻaʻohe mea āu e hoʻāʻo nei e kōkua," wahi āna. ʻO ka lua ke ʻike ka poʻe ʻē aʻe ʻaʻole pololei kekahi mea. "Inā hana kekahi e haʻi i kekahi mea iā ʻoe a laila ua hele a lōʻihi aku ia - a ʻoi aku paha ke koʻikoʻi - ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana," wahi āna.

Inā he mea koʻikoʻi, he hoaaloha, he ʻohana, a he hoa hana paha, ʻo ka ʻimi ʻana i ke kōkua ka mea nui loa. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, nā maʻi noʻonoʻo-ʻoi aku ka haʻahaʻa a me ka hopohopo - hiki iā ia ke paʻakikī iā ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ka nui o ia mea, i ʻōlelo ʻo Reidenberg. "ʻO ka hōʻike ʻana i kekahi e hakakā nei ʻoe e hiki ke hoʻololi nui."

KaʻAnuʻu 2: E kipa i kāu kauka.

ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi ʻimi no kahi shrink. Hiki i kāu kipa mua ke lilo i kau kauka mālama mua a i ʻole ob-gyn. "Aia paha he meaola, lāʻau olakino, a i ʻole nā ​​hanana hormonal e hana nei i hiki ke ʻike ʻia i kahi hoʻokolohua lab," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia. No ka laʻana, pili nā pilikia thyroid me nā hōʻailona o ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo a me ka mālama ʻana i ka pilikia kumu hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi. "E manaʻo paha kāu kauka iā ʻoe e kamaʻilio me kekahi i ka wā e hoʻomaka ai nā lāʻau lapaʻau e hana a inā ʻaʻole lākou e hana," wahi a Reidenberg. Inā hoʻoholo kāu kauka i kahi maʻi olakino, e kuhikuhi paha ʻo ia iā ʻoe i kahi psychologist. (E ʻike: Aia paha ka pīhoihoi i kāu Genes?)

Ka Papa Hana 3: E ʻike i ka psychologist.

"ʻO ka psychologist ke kanaka ʻoi loa e hele aku inā e hakakā ana ʻoe me nā loli i kou mau manaʻo a i ʻole ʻano, ʻaʻole ʻoe hoihoi i nā mea āu i noho ai ma mua, ʻaʻohe mea e hauʻoli hou ai, a i ʻole e piʻi ana kou naʻau a lalo a i ʻole kūmau mau i lalo, "i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "Hiki i ka psychologist ke kōkua iā ʻoe e aʻo pehea e hana ai me kou mau manaʻo a me kou ʻano e hoʻoponopono ai iā lākou i kahi ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi."

ʻAʻole kuhikuhi ka poʻe psychologists i ka lāʻau lapaʻau (nā psychiatrist, nā kauka lapaʻau, hana). "Hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻia kahi psychologist i nā ʻano like ʻole," wahi a Reidenberg. "I ka noho wale ʻana o nā kānaka a kamaʻilio ma kahi ʻano palekana, ʻaʻohe hoʻokolokolo, hiki ke kōkua nui i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo.

Pani 4: E kuhikuhi paha kāu psychologist iā ʻoe i ka psychiatrist.

Ma kahi kokoke i nā hihia a pau, ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻike i kahi psychiatrist ke ʻole ka manaʻo o kāu pscyhologist he mea pono ia, inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi a loaʻa paha ka ʻeha nui e mālama iā ʻoe iho. ʻO ka pōmaikaʻi nui loa paha mai ka hana pū ʻana me lāua ʻelua, hoʻohui ʻo Reidenberg. "E makemake ana kēlā me kēia kauka e ʻike inā ʻike ʻoe i nā hopena ʻaoʻao, akā no nā kumu like ʻole." Makemake ka psychiatrist e hoʻopili ʻia e ʻike inā he hewa ke ʻano a i ʻole ka lāʻau lapaʻau, akā hiki i kahi psychologist ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻoponopono i nā hopena ʻaoʻao ma ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kou ola a me kou ʻano, wahi a Reidenberg. "Ma ka hana pū ʻana, e kaʻana like lākou i ka ʻike e pili ana i kāu holomua i hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻi i ke ala me ka wikiwiki." (Akā e akahele ʻia

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