No ke aha e hele hewa ai nā kamaʻilio a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai iā lākou

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Ke noi nei i kahi luna no kahi hoʻolauna, e kamaʻilio ʻana ma o ka pilikia pili nui, a i ʻole e haʻi ana i kāu hoa pilikino pilikino iā ʻoe ke hoʻowahāwahā ʻia ʻoe. Manaʻo i kahi haʻalulu liʻiliʻi o ka makaʻu me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i kēia mau pilina? He mea maʻamau ia, wahi a Rob Kendall, ka mea kākau o ka puke hou Blamestorming: No ke aha e hele hewa ai nā kamaʻilio a pehea e hoʻoponopono ai iā lākou. ʻOiai ʻo nā pā ʻoi loa o ka maʻalahi hiki ke hana me ka hana keaka liʻiliʻi-a ʻo kekahi mau tweaks maʻalahi hiki ke alakaʻi i nā hopena nui. Eia, ʻehā mau maʻalea maʻalahi e hoʻohana ai i kekahi kamaʻilio.

Hana alo i ke alo

ʻAe, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka leka uila ma mua o ka hui maoli ʻana, akā ʻo ia ke ala maʻalahi loa e hoʻokumu i kahi kuhi hewa nui, ʻōlelo aʻe ʻo Kendall. Inā maopopo iā ʻoe e hoʻopaʻapaʻa ana ke kumuhana-a i ʻole paʻakikī wale nō-pili i nā kamaʻilio pilikino, kahi e hiki ai i ka leo, ka ʻōlelo kino, a me nā hiʻohiʻona helehelena ke kōkua i ka haʻi pololei ʻana i kāu manaʻo.

E noʻonoʻo i ka manawa a me kahi

No nā convos paʻakikī, hiki i kahi hana wāwae liʻiliʻi ke hele lōʻihi i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻana i nā hopena āu e makemake ai. E kamaʻilio me kāu luna e pili ana i kahi hoʻolaha? E lawe i mau pule e haʻalele i kāna papa kuhikuhi. Hele paha ʻo ia i ke keʻena i ke kakahiaka a makemake paha e noho a haʻalele ka poʻe ʻē aʻe? Aia ʻo ia i kahi ʻano maikaʻi ma mua a ma hope paha o ka ʻaina awakea? Āhea ʻo ia ma kona manamana wāwae no ka mea pono kāna kahu e kamaʻilio? Ma ka ʻike ʻana i kāna mau mele, hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i kahi hālāwai no kekahi o nā poloka manawa i ka wā e ʻoluʻolu ai ʻo ia i kāu nīnau, wahi a Kendall. A pēlā nō i kāu kāne, kou mau hoaaloha, a i ʻole kou makuahine. Inā ʻike ʻoe ʻaʻole he pueo pō kekahi, mai kāhea i kēlā kanaka ma hope o ka ʻeiwa inā he mea nui kāu e kūkākūkā ai.

Kāhea i ka manawa i kēlā me kēia manawa

"ʻOiai ʻoe e hoʻomaka i kahi kamaʻilio me nā manaʻo maikaʻi loa, hiki i nā mea ke hele hewa," i ʻōlelo aʻo aku ai iā Kendall. Akā ma kahi o ka nānā ʻana i ke kūkā kamaʻilio me ke ʻano he holomua piha, kākoʻo ʻo Kendall i ke kāhea ʻana i kahi manawa ke ʻike ʻoe e ala aʻe ana nā-naʻau o kou hoa kamaʻilio. "Lawe ka hoʻomaha ʻelima mau minuke iā ʻoe ʻelua mai ka wela o ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a hiki ke hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ai i kahi e hele mai ai kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe," wahi a Kendall.

E hoʻomaka i ke ala pololei

ʻAno huhū ʻoe i kāu hoa flaky no ka hoʻopau mau ʻana i ka minuke hope, akā e hoʻomaka i ke kamaʻilio ʻana me ka haʻi ʻana iā ia i kou leʻaleʻa ke hui pū ʻoe, a lawe mai paha i kahi hiʻohiʻona o kahi manawa ʻaʻole ʻo ia i flake. A laila, e wehewehe i kou manaʻo ke hele ʻo ia i flake, a nīnau inā aia kekahi mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana inā ʻaʻole ia e hoʻokō. "Ke hoʻomaka ʻoe me ka maikaʻi ʻole, e hele koke ka mea ʻē aʻe i ka pale pale, a ʻaʻole paha e lohe maoli i kāu mau hopohopo," wehewehe ʻo Kendall.

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