Pehea e hōʻike ai ʻo 'Anticipatory kaumaha' i ka wā o ka maʻi COVID-19

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• 1. Aia ʻoe i kaʻe - a ʻaʻole maopopo mau ke kumu o ke kumu
• 2. huhū ʻoe i nā mea hiki ʻole ke kāohi
• 3. Ua haʻalele ʻia ʻoe i ke kūlana hihia maikaʻi loa
• 4. ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e haʻalele ana a e haʻalele ana paha iā haʻi
• 5. Luhi loa ʻoe
• Inā manaʻo ʻoe i ke kanikau anticipatory, he aha kāu e hana ai e kūleʻa?
• E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō i ka mea āu e manaʻo nei i kēia manawa

ʻO ka hapa nui, inā ʻaʻole āpau iā mākou, he manaʻo luhi ka nui o nā nalowale e hiki mai ana.

ʻOiai ʻo ka hapanui o mākou e noʻonoʻo paha i ka "kaumaha" ma ke ʻano he pane i ka nalo ʻana i kahi mea a mākou e aloha ai, ʻo ke kaumaha ka mea ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī.

Hiki i ka Grappling me kekahi ʻano nalo ke komo i kahi kaʻina kanikau, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole kū pololei kēlā nalowale.

Nui nā mea e ʻehaʻeha nei i kēia manawa me ka lele koke ʻana o COVID-19.

Loaʻa ka nalowale like o ka maʻamau, a no ka hapanui o mākou, ua nalowale mākou i ka pilina, ka hana maʻamau, a me ka maopopo e pili ana i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Ua hala kekahi o mākou i nā hana a me nā mea aloha.

A ʻo ka hapa nui, inā ʻaʻole kākou āpau, loaʻa kahi manaʻo luhi e hiki hou mai ana ka pohō. Kāhea ʻia kēlā ʻano kakali makaʻu makaʻu loa me ke ʻano he "anticipatory kaumaha," a hiki ke lilo i doozy.

Hiki ke hana i kahi kaʻina kanikau ʻoiai ke manaʻo nei mākou e hiki ana kahi pohō, akā ʻaʻole maopopo iā mākou he aha ia. ʻIke mākou ʻaʻole like ka honua a puni mākou - akā ʻo ka mea pololei a mākou i nalo a nalowale nō naʻe ʻike ʻole ʻia e mākou.

Hiki i kēia ke paʻakikī ke hele mai i ka ʻōlelo.

Inā ʻoe e haʻohaʻo inā paha ʻoe ke ʻike nei i kēia ʻano kaumaha, eia kekahi mau hōʻailona e nānā ai, a me kekahi mākau hana hiki iā ʻoe ke paʻi i kēia manawa:

1. Aia ʻoe i kaʻe - a ʻaʻole maopopo mau ke kumu o ke kumu

Maliʻa paha ke ʻano makaʻu ʻoe, me he mea lā aia kokoke kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole, akā maopopo ʻole paha ia. ('Lelo pinepine ʻia kēia ma ke ʻano "ke kali nei no ka hāʻule ʻana o nā kāmaʻa ʻē aʻe.")

ʻO Hypervigilance kahi ala maʻamau maoli kēia e hōʻike ai. Ke ʻimi nei paha ʻoe i nā "hoʻoweliweli" hiki - no ka laʻana, ke pane ikaika ʻana i kēlā me kēia manawa a kahi mea e kūmū ai a ʻūlū ai paha ma kahi kokoke, e hoʻonāukiuki ʻia me kahi malihini i kūleʻa ʻole i ka pilikanaka, a i ʻole panicking ke kani ke kelepona.

Hiki i kēia ke hōʻike i ke ʻano hopohopo mau a me ka luhi, e like me ka "aniani" ke kū ʻana i ka hoʻoholo ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻolālā ʻana, a hoʻolohi pinepine paha i mea e hōʻalo ai i nā hana paʻakikī.

Inā ke kakali nei ʻoe i ka weliweli a i ʻole ka hopena, he mea kūpono ia e noho kaohi ʻana i ka naʻau e lilo i mea ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī i kēia manawa.

2. huhū ʻoe i nā mea hiki ʻole ke kāohi

ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana iā ʻoe iho me ka maʻalahi a me ka hoʻomau ʻole o ka huhū kahi hōʻike maʻamau o ke kaumaha.

ʻO kahi laʻana, loaʻa ka hana mai ka home ma mua ua manaʻo ʻia e like me kahi mea maikaʻi, akā paha i kēia manawa ua like ia me he hoʻopaʻi lā. ʻAʻole paha e like me ka mea nui ma mua o ka loaʻa ʻole ʻana o kāu makana makemake o boxed macaroni a me ka tī, akā huhū ʻoe i kou hale kūʻai no ka loaʻa ʻole o ka waihona.

Inā manaʻo ʻole ka liʻiliʻi i nā pale, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale. Lawe pinepine kēia mau mea pale i nā hoʻomanaʻo hoʻomanaʻo ʻole ʻole nā ​​mea like ʻole - ke hoʻoulu nei i ke kaumaha a me ke ʻano o ka nalo, ʻoiai ʻaʻole mākou e ʻike.

Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e palu pinepine ana, e akahai me ʻoe. He hopena maʻamau loa kēia i ka manawa o ka trauma pū.

3. Ua haʻalele ʻia ʻoe i ke kūlana hihia maikaʻi loa

ʻO kekahi o nā ala e kū pinepine ai ka poʻe me ke kaumaha anticipatory e hoʻāʻo e "hoʻomākaukau" i ka noʻonoʻo a me ka naʻau no ka hanana hihia maikaʻi loa.

Inā kuhi mākou he mea hiki ʻole ke pale ʻia, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻopunipuni iā ​​mākou iho i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ʻaʻole ia e weliweli a ʻeha hoʻi ke hiki mai i kēlā.

Eia naʻe, he wahi hei kēia. ʻO ka hoʻoweliweli ʻana e pili ana i nā hanana morbid, hopohopo ʻole e like me nā mea i hōʻike ʻia, a i ʻole me ka pīhoihoi e wili nei e pili ana i nā mea āpau e hewa. ʻoiaʻiʻo mālama iā ʻoe i kahi palekana - ma kahi, e mālama wale ia iā ʻoe i ka naʻau.

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hiki i ke koʻikoʻi koʻikoʻi ke hoʻopili i kāu ʻōnaehana pale maʻi i nā ala maikaʻi ʻole, ʻo ia ke kumu nui loa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa iā ʻoe iho i kēia manawa.

He mea nui ka mākaukau, akā inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i ka hoʻopaʻa ʻia ma nā manawa apocalyptic a me nā manawa pōʻino loa, e hana paha ʻoe i nā mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o ka maikaʻi. ʻO ke kaulike ke kī.

4. ʻIke paha ʻoe iā ʻoe iho e haʻalele ana a e haʻalele ana paha iā haʻi

Ke huhū mākou, makaʻu, a hoʻomaka ʻia, he mea nui ia e hemo paha mākou mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. Inā hiki ʻole iā mākou ke mālama pono iā mākou iho, ka pale ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe hiki ke manaʻo ʻia ke pale nei mākou iā mākou iho kā lākou stress a me ka hopohopo.

Hiki i kēia ke backfire, akā. Hiki i ka hoʻokaʻawale ke hoʻonui maoli i nā manaʻo o ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo.

Ma kahi o, pono mākou e pili pili i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe - a hiki iā mākou ke hana i kēlā me ka mālama ʻana i nā palena paʻa e pili ana i nā ʻano kākoʻo a mākou e hāʻawi aku ai.

ʻO kekahi mau laʻana o nā palena hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻonohonoho i kēia manawa:

• Ua loaʻa iaʻu kahi manawa paʻakikī me kēia mea COVID-19. Hiki iā mākou ke mālama i ke kamaʻilio māmā i kēia lā?
• Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia manawa. Aia kekahi mea hiki iā mākou ke hana e hoʻohuli iā mākou iho i kēia manawa?
• Ke paʻakikī nei wau i kēia manawa a ʻaʻole hiki ke kākoʻo iā ʻoe i kēlā ala i kēia manawa. Hauʻoli wau e (pāʻani i kahi pāʻani / hoʻouna i kahi pūʻulu mālama / nānā ma ka leka ma hope aku) ma kahi inā he mea kōkua kēlā.
• ʻAʻohe oʻu mana e kākoʻo iā ʻoe i kēia manawa, akā e leka uila wau iā ʻoe i kekahi mau loulou ma hope ma kēlā manaʻo wau he mea maikaʻi inā makemake ʻoe i kēlā.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻohe mea hewa i ka hoʻonohonoho ʻana i nā palena āpau āu e pono ai e mālama iā ʻoe iho.

5. Luhi loa ʻoe

ʻO ka nui o nā mea a mākou e kamaʻilio nei me ke kanikau anticipatory ʻo ia wale nō ka pane o ka trauma o ko mākou kino: ʻo ia hoʻi, aia i ke ʻano "hakakā, lele, a i ʻole freeze".

Ke hopohopo mākou, hana mākou i ko mākou kino e ke kahe ʻana iā mākou me nā hormones koʻikoʻi a hoʻonui iā mākou, inā pono mākou e pane wikiwiki i kahi hoʻoweliweli.

ʻO kekahi o nā hopena ʻē aʻe o kēia, ʻo ia ka hopena o ka luhi. Hoʻohana ʻia i kēlā me kēia lā hiki ke luhi iā mākou, e hoʻoluhi ana i ka luhi i kahi ʻike kaumaha honua āpau.

He paʻakikī loa kēia i ka manawa ke kamaʻilio nei nā poʻe he nui e pili ana i ka hopena o ka hana a lākou e hoʻokaʻawale ai iā lākou iho. Hiki iā ia ke manaʻo leʻaleʻa i ka hoʻolohe ʻana e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe e hoʻomaka ana i nā leʻaleʻa hou a i ʻole nā ​​papahana ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hele i waho o kahi moe.

Eia nō naʻe, mamao ʻē ʻoe wale nō i kāu luhi-hoʻokomo ʻia ka luhi. A inā ʻo nā mea āpau āu e hana ai i kēia manawa ka palekana iā ʻoe iho? ʻOi aku kēlā ma mua o ka maikaʻi.

Inā manaʻo ʻoe i ke kanikau anticipatory, he aha kāu e hana ai e kūleʻa?

Inā ʻaʻole maopopo iā ʻoe pehea e hoʻokele ai i kēia ʻano o ke kanikau, aia kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana:

Hōʻoia a hōʻoia i kou mau manaʻo. ʻAʻohe kumu e hoʻohilahila ai hōʻino paha i nā manaʻo āu e loaʻa nei. E ʻike ʻē aʻe kēlā me kēia i ke kanikau ma ke ʻano ʻokoʻa, a ʻaʻohe o kekahi mau manaʻo āu e loaʻa nei i kūpono ʻole i loko o kēlā manawa paʻakikī. E lokomaikaʻi iā ʻoe iho.

E hoʻihoʻi iā ia i ke kumu. He mea nui loa ka noho hānai ʻana, ka hoʻoulu ʻana, a me ka hoʻomaha ʻana i kēia manawa. Inā ʻoe e hakakā nei me kēia, helu wau i kekahi mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e pili ana i ka mālama pono ʻana iā ʻoe iho ma kēia ʻatikala a me kekahi mau polokalamu pono e hoʻoiho ma aneʻi.

E launa me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻoiai ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake. Hiki iā ia ke hoʻowalewale e pani i nā mea āpau ke luhi a hoʻoulu ʻia ʻoe. E ʻoluʻolu e pale aku i ka ʻumeʻume! ʻO ka pilina kanaka kahi ʻāpana koʻikoʻi o kā mākou pono, keu hoʻi i kēia manawa. A inā e hoʻokau ana kāu poʻe ipo iā ʻoe i ka paia? Aia kekahi polokalamu e hoʻohui me nā poʻe i kēia manawa.

Prioritize ka hoʻomaha a me ka hoʻomaha. ʻAe, kani ʻole ka haʻi ʻana i ka poʻe e hoʻomaha i ka wā o ke ahulau. Eia nō naʻe, ke hoʻoulu ʻia ko mākou hopohopo, he mea nui ia e hoʻāʻo e hoʻoneʻe i ko mākou kino a me ka lolo. Loaʻa i kēia ʻatikala kahi papa inoa piha o nā kumuwaiwai inā hoʻonui ʻia kou hopohopo i kēia manawa.

Ka hoike ia oe iho. He mea kōkua nui nā mākeke no kēia manawa. E hoʻāʻo i ka paʻi puke, ka hulahula ʻana, ka hoʻouluulu ʻana - nā mea e kōkua iā ʻoe e hana i nā mea e hana nei iā ʻoe me ka naʻau. Ua loaʻa pū kekahi iaʻu nā nūpepa puke pai a me nā hana mālama pono pilikino i kēia zine kaumaha inā hoihoi ʻoe.

E kamaʻilio me kahi loea. ʻO ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa pūnaewele kahi hoʻomaikaʻi i kēia manawa. Inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kiʻi aku iā ia, he waiwai nui nā mea hoʻoponopono no ka neʻe ʻana i waena o ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo i kēia manawa. Ua hoʻokomo pū wau i kekahi mau kumuwaiwai hoʻoponopono ma aneʻi, a ua hāʻawi pū kekahi wau i kahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo telecommunapy maikaʻi loa i kēia ʻatikala.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō i ka mea āu e manaʻo nei i kēia manawa

ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, mamao loa ʻoe mai ia mea. He nui ka poʻe o mākou e ʻike nei i kahi kaʻina kaumaha ma kēia manawa o ka loli wikiwiki a me ka makaʻu like.

Kūpono ʻoe i ke kākoʻo, a me nā hakakā āu e loaʻa nei e maopopo loa, hāʻawi ʻia hoʻi i nā mea āpau e hoʻololi nei iā mākou.

E akahai me ʻoe - a inā makemake ʻoe i kākoʻo hou aku, mai hoʻokaʻulua e kiʻi i kou lima. Hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokaʻawale iā mākou iho a me ka mehameha i nā pule e hiki mai ana, akā ʻaʻohe o mākou e kaʻawale i kēia manawa.

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