Hoʻokiʻekiʻe ʻo Dude e like me kahi Lede: No ke aha wau i makemake ai i nā haʻuki "Kamāhine".

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ʻO nā wahine e hana nei i nā haʻawina kāne ua huhū loa i kēia mau lā, akā pehea nā kāne e hana ana i nā haʻawina "girly"? Hiki i ke kāne ke lilo i mea maikaʻi o ka hoʻolālā i ka aerobics studio ke hiki iā ia ma ka papa kaupaona? A ʻo ka mea nui, makemake ʻo ia? No ka pane ʻana i kā mākou nīnau XY āpau, ua nīnauele mākou i kahi kāleka kāne e hāpai ana i kahi kāne e aloha wale nei i nā hana maʻamau a nā wahine.

ʻO Ted C. Williams, kahi makua kāne male o kekahi, ke hele nei i ke aʻo hoʻomaʻamaʻa Turbokick, Hip Hop Hustle, BodyPump, a me Tabata ma kāna wahi YMCA no kekahi mau makahiki i kēia manawa, a ʻoiai ʻo ia kekahi o nā kāne wale nō i loko o ka lumi ( ʻo ia wale nō ke kāne hoʻokahi i ka papa hip hop), ʻaʻole ia e mālama iā ia mai ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa koʻikoʻi (a leʻaleʻa maoli). I ka nīnau ʻia ʻana inā pilikia paha ka estrogen overload iā ia, ʻōlelo ʻo ia, "Maʻu wau i ka maʻi o nā cooties!" A pehea ka makaʻu o ke kīkē ʻia ʻana o kāna puʻu e kahi kaikamahine? "ʻAʻole au i ʻike i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe ma ka papa ma ke kāne akā ʻoi aku ka nui o kā lākou hoʻoikaika a me ka haʻuki."

ʻOiai he kāne i loko o kahi lumi o nā wahine he maikaʻi kona - akā ʻaʻole lākou ka mea āu e manaʻo ai, wahi a Williams. Hoʻokahi mea, "Loaʻa iaʻu ka mahalo no ka hele ʻana ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana o ka papa." ʻAʻole naʻe ʻo ia e noi i ka mālama kūikawā. "Ma muli o kaʻu ʻike i ka hulahula i hala, makemake wau e lokomaikaʻi a hoʻokō i nā neʻe ʻana inā ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe o ka papa, me ka nānā ʻole i ka wahine. ʻAʻole hiki mai ia e like me ka maʻamau, akā ʻo kēlā pilikia e kūleʻa ai i kahi mea i loaʻa iaʻu ma mua o ka ʻoluʻolu. "

Aia kekahi mea e pili ana iā Williams i ka hana ʻana me nā kaikamahine, me ka ʻōlelo ʻana ua hopohopo ʻo ia "inā pilikia nā wahine o ka papa i koʻu hele ʻana ma laila." Ua wehewehe ʻo ia, "Ua maopopo iaʻu [no nā wahine he nui], ʻo kēia mau papa ko lākou manawa e hoʻokuʻu ai, hoʻomaha, a pakele i ka laina koho ʻino a i ʻole nā ​​hiʻohiʻona ʻoluʻolu paha e hoʻokau ʻia lākou ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ka hale haʻuki. ua lawe au i kēlā pae o ka hōʻoluʻolu mai nā wahine o ka papa. Ke hoʻāʻo nei au e hele i waho o koʻu ala ʻaʻole e lilo i kanaka stereotypical i loko o ka hale haʻuki a hui pū."

He aha kāna e ʻōlelo ai i nā poʻe e nānā haʻahaʻa i nā hana kaikamahine? "E hoʻopau aʻe iā ia." 'Ōlelo houʻo ia, "I ka wā e pili ana i nā kāne e hana i nā hana i manaʻoʻia he wahine, aia ka hopohopo o nīnauʻia kouʻano kāne. e hana i kēia mau hana: hopohopo lākou inā ʻaʻole lākou e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa iā ia, e emi ana lākou i ke kāne."

Akā, he hoʻomaʻamaʻa maikaʻi paha ia? Ua kuhikuhi ʻo Williams e like me ka nui o nā hana, "ʻo ka paʻakikī o kou kaomi ʻana iā ʻoe iho, ʻo ka nui nō ia o kāu mea e puka ai!"

He aha kou manaʻo no nā kāne e hana ana i nā haʻawina "girly"? E waiho i kahi manaʻo a kaʻana like i kou mau manaʻo!

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